A woman wants to know if she can find a man of Islam in Korea.
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lonely101 asked:
I am a Muslim girl who thinks Korean men are good looking (as in people from my culture are not). As a Muslim, I can only marry a respectable Muslim guy but it seems impossible for me to find a Muslim Korean. My ultimate question: do they even exist? Can you just either raise my hopes or crush them so that I can move on from this? Thanks.
In South Korea, the number of people of Muslim faith has been steadily increasing since the Korean War. The data I found says there are fewer than 30 000 Korean Muslims, most of them living in Seoul. If you include the immigrants from South Asia and Middle East the number rises to around 35 000. However, I have not been able to find official statistics that even mention Islam. According to 2005. data from KOSTAT on Korean population divided by religion, Atheism, Buddism, Protestantism make up most of the 47 million citizens, while 163 000 are categorized as “The other”. I believe Islam is one of the religions that make up this category. As you can see, that is a very small percentage of total population. But to answer your question, yes, they do exist.
I asked Kimchi Man and he said he has never met a Muslim person even though he met many people in schools he attended, and army barracs during his military service, but he has seen them on TV in Korea.
However, may I suggest another point of view? You say you don’t consider people from your culture good looking, as I see it, you are not attracted to them. While it is possible that it is all about physical attraction, have you ever considered the possibility that you are attracted to what Korean men represent for you? I assume you don’t know many Koreans in person and your knowledge about Korea comes from some sort of media. (I know I may be assuming too much). So, when you say a Korean guy, you actually mean an idea of a perfect guy you have. For example, a guy that will give you stuffed toys and carry you on his back when you get tired. So maybe all you need to do is find a guy with that personality in your culture and you will suddenly see he is really good looking.
- Oegukeen
Edit: One of the commenters, Ms. KIM Touria, left a link for Facebook group and a story about Korean man who turned to Islam.
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You can try to search for Muslim community in South Korea at Facebook, there are few groups that related to these there. However I agreed with Oegukeen, physical attraction is not a good intention when we looking for a partner, the most important is their heart, behavior and willingness to care for each other no matter what. One more thing, do not expect all of Korean men were similar as in their drama because that’s not a reality,Yes I agree some of them romantics but some were not, this is from my own experience.
That is really good idea about Facebook group. Thank you for your suggestion.
Physical attraction may be enough for some people. I guess it all depends on what we expect out of a relationship. I didn’t mean to judge anyone, it’s their personal preference.
^^, there are a lots of Muslim groups in Facebook perhaps most of countries have it.. and yes everybody have their own preference :)
i must disagree somewhat with this statement above. the most important thing is our dean and that person follows islam.
and looks are very important. you have to be not only emotionally attracted, but also physically attracted to the person you plan on spending the rest of your life with. everyone here looks first, even if we want to lie to others that we do not. you cannot see a persons personality when you first look at them. you look at a person, if you are attracted to them, then you speak to them and get to know whether you like their character or not.
so i say, find that person that you are attracted to, but make sure that this person follows his/her Dean, then make sure that they heart is also good.
he can be korean muslim.. muslims exist in all parts of the world :)
Actually I believe there are countries without any Muslim population, like Vatican and probably North Korea. Then there are those countries where there are only a few hundreds like Uruguay and Greenland.
Honestly, it’s the Korean language and culture that make me like Koreans and I understand that the people dramas are not real.
BUT you have no idea how much you helped me with your response! I’ve wanted to ask this question for a long time but I was afraid of the answer and that no one was going to help me or support my idea. But all you other anonymous people made me feel even better. :’)
I will try to think about the personality traits I like in Koreans and look for those in everyone but at the same time physical appearance is the first thing that we see in each other and that’s what I notice upon first impression. And I just really enjoy listening to Korean (language).
Thanks again! :”’)
We are so glad you wrote a comment. We always wonder what people who asked us a question think about our answer. :)
You are of course right that physical appearance is the first thing we notice. It is also the first thing I noticed about Kimchi Man. ^^
We truly hope you find what you are looking for.
When we come into intercultural relationship, yes we must learn their language and culture so that we understand each other well but that doesn’t mean we have to be exactly like them, we still need to preserve our own cultural though :). I am glad that my respond helped you a lot ^^~. Honestly to understand Korean men is not an easy job but this blog help me a lot! Thanks to Oegukeen and KImchi Man, and whoever sharing their experience here :D, Keep it up!Him Nae!
Thank you for your comments. They are just as valuable as our posts to people who ask questions. Him Nae, everyone :)
Of course I would reply! I am forever indebted that you cared enough to look for an answer. ^^ I hope you and Kimchi Man find happiness, health and love in your lives. :D
I will be back to read about your stories and other Q/As– they really are fascinating.
Also, I didn’t know there are some countries with a small number of Muslims…where I live there seem to be so many!
Thank you so much for your kind wishes. We hope the same for you.
We would be really glad if you keep visiting our blog. And let us know if you need help with anything else. :)
Hello,
This might be a few months after this question was opened but I was curious on this subject. I have always been fascinated by Asian culture and was wondering what Muslim Koreans were like, I mean not having a lot of people around them with the same faith or life style.
In my Muslim culture I feel like that marrying another female will just be something that just happens too often and simply very usual. I was wondering if (for example) that Korean females don’t find as many men to marry them as they would in, for example, the Middle East. (It’s kind of a touchy subject, I hope it means no offense to anybody, because I don’t take it as offensive, just my view) to come to a conclusion I feel like marrying a Muslim Korean female would be so special for me, because I find them very fascinating, not just their physical appearance, I never judged people by their looks much, but rather more of their personalities and how they developed in their culture.
I don’t know, possibly I’m crazy, but I find this as an amazing life goal.
As for females from my country/culture, well I think they’re beautiful, because I have seen so many Arabic females, but like I said I just think it’s too ordinary to marry them. But finding a special one in the masses of people, I think that’s wonderful.
I hope I didn’t confuse you as much as I confused myself, but I just wanted to share this. >.<
Hello phoenixdeux,
Could you please explain what you meant by “I was wondering if (for example) that Korean females don’t find as many men to marry them as they would in, for example, the Middle East.”
I understand what you mean by people around you seeming ordinary. :) However, with time everything becomes ordinary.
Hello, I appreciate your reply.
Sorry for the confusion. I would like to clarify this is merely an opinion which means I might be completely wrong.
I meant from my knowledge of Korea or Japan, Islam isn’t well known, and only a few percentages of people in Korea are Muslim, therefore the amount of Muslims is very small in Korea, unlike in, for example Malaysia.
And my point was, it would be a lot harder and more rewarding to find a female Muslim Korean.
I hope I did not sound narcissistic, because it’s absolutely not my intentions.
You are right about time making things more ordinary, but until that time comes, it would be something wonderful to fulfill.
:)
:D :D :D :D :D :D :D
I have to say…. it is 99.9% impossible. if you mean a Korean who is born and raised in Korea, not a immigrant.
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good answer in the last para *^▁^*
Thank you!
Hi I am Shahid, a boy from Pakistan doing PhD in a university at Seoul. I would like to get married to any S.Korean girl/female. Please help me is there any Muslim female/girl?
Hello,
I was searching about muslim korean community on the web and i choosed this page.
I highly respect korean citizens cause of their great open mind and respect of the others.
I Don’t why or for what Korean women attract me for the following reasons
Their beauty
Their respect.
The only thing is that i’m muslim… not extremist i’m an open minded muslim.
And i must find a muslim wife*
i’m just 23 but i think about it.
So i wish you good luck from Algeria and by Mehdi.
Thank you. And good luck to you too.
We Korean Muslims are less than 5,000.
Anyway I really dont like your idea of getting married with ‘good looking’ Korean Muslim.
What matters to us is Iman not appearance.
If you want a happy marriage life then try to find ‘religious’ and practicing Muslim. That is also an advice of our prophet Muhammad sallaAllahu alaihi wasallam.
May Allah guide us all and give us sucess.
I got an impression that you are searching each other Korean-Korean, open mind in coran you’ll find some ayat which advise to muslims to marry another foreigner muslim in order to know the civilisation of the others .
salam alaykum :)
Assalamualaikum :) I agree with you and also to the person you reply to. It’s not a sin to choose your partner based on looking and it’s not a must neither. Personal preference is also important as long as we keep ourselves on the true path and follow syari’ah. Plus, marrying a Korean Muslim is my dream too. It’s not because of their good-looking but their culture which teach them to be well-behave. And somehow, I don’t know how to deny the feeling of wanted to be married to a Korean Muslim in the name Allah. :)
I appreciate all your comments and I like to think of them all as friendly reminders. :) Of course I will choose my husband based on his Iman and fear of Allah swt first and foremost. All I meant by my question was that I wanted to know of the number of Korean Muslims in Korea. They seem to be attracting to me and (besides his faith in Islam) I wish to also be attracted to the one I marry, naturally.
Since I first posted the question I reflected on many suggestions that were given and I realized that I liked the culture of Koreans and their language which made me attracted–not just their looks.
I meant no offense to anyone of any culture, race or religion. :) JAK
Hi I am Shahid, a boy from Pakistan doing PhD in a university at Seoul. I would like to get married to any S.Korean girl/female. Please help me is there any Muslim female/girl?
My name is Ali I love islam
i am also looking for a Muslim Korean not because of his looks but because i like their language and i also want a man who has a strong iman and can guide me inshallah.
Hi I am Shahid, a boy from Pakistan doing PhD in a university at Seoul. I would like to get married to any S.Korean girl/female. Please help me is there any Muslim female/girl?
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There are Muslim Korean women the same way there are men.
I’m sorry, but we can’t help you find someone.
Thank you for writing this article.
I’m facing a similar situation, although I’m sure you’ve heard it so many times before :)
I’m interested in Asian men – specifically Korean – aesthetically, culturally, and personality-wise. I love their looks… and not just the K-pop/actor/idol ones. In fact, I’ve always thought Asians were beautiful, even as a child. Culturally, there are so many things I respect – for example, the respect for parents. I find it hard to talk to my family about it, because they kind of laugh it off as a joke (or “phase”) when I mention it.
I’m at a point in my life now that I’m really trying to figure what direction to go in. On one hand, I know how important it is to me to find a Korean Muslim guy. On the other, I’m trying to look at it objectively and figure out: what is the probability of this happening and what is my fallback if it doesn’t?
I live in the USA, and as some know, California is the “Asian” hub. New York and Texas also have a large Asian population. I’m about to transfer to a university, and I really want to go to California – probably hoping I’ll find someone if I go there (there has to be at least ONE single, Korean, Muslim guy in CA, right?). Right now, I have a scholarship to a small university in a small town in Ohio (I said “small” twice) – Population: 3,000; Asians: 1.5%. Chances: 0%? But I’m hesitating to go to Ohio because of how badly I want this.
I do believe that if it’s supposed to happen, it will, regardless of where I am, but it’s easier said than done to actually follow through with it.
I appreciate this article – it’s nice to see realistic, caring responses in the vast pool of uninformed, bigoted, or “Of COURSE you’ll find someone!!~” answers floating around.
Thank you again.
Come to CA, I’m not sure if you’ll find someone here but it’s a beautiful state. :)
I don’t think you can plan out your future. Of course we can try to steer it in a certain direction, but it never really goes as we planned.
I never thought I’m going to have a Korean boyfriend. My city has 0% Korean population, and I’ve never even spoken to an Asian person before I met my boyfriend. So what you want, what you try to achieve and what actually happens will probably be 3 different things. So don’t put too much pressure on yourself.
Hi..
I am muslim girl too and I have Korean boyfriend. he has no religion.
I am not too religious kind of person, but I am very spiritual.
To be honest, It is hard to have atheist boyfriend. first, he did not believe in God, and because of me he believes in God ( I dont know if its truly from his heart)
I think, we suppose not to pick which man we have to date/ marry. as for me, I do not in relationship with him because he is Korean, but because we have same feeling and love each other.
But I realize it is hard because we have different view toward God.
Man will be the leader in the family someday, he must lead you in this world and also the next world.
Because of that, my relationship with him is almost over. no hope, except bless from God that he could open his heart to believe and pray to God.
I just want to say, if he really meants to be with you, he would be with you.
=)
I just want to add something,
If he really loves you , he will try to understand you.
Just ask him, what is the purpose of his life.
Just argue :) and see
I have asked, I think most Korean more focus with material instead of life after death, they do not even believe life after death..
Mmh i see, You have to know about islam.
Everyone is born Muslim and after that this is the parental oriental which will give for the child an identity.
Use some stuff like comparing God ( Allah ) with the brain, We can’t touch it , we can’t see it , we dont listen to it.
But we know that we got a brain and it works.
it just an example.
Feel free to try other things.
If he is a pragmatical person with high scientific logic ( a pure atheist ) use some sourat from Coran just to show him that some information was not discovered 1400 years before :)
i wish you’ll succeed, if you need any help you ‘re welcome.
Mehdi.
Hey Mehdi,
Thank you for your input. yes, I have talked several times about God. but seem he could not accept every obstacle in this life.
do you live in korea yourself?
Salam again,
You must know that if an atheist refuses any ideas about god it is simply because he is afraid and by the way he believe in a “High power”.
So what i advise is not to talk about “god” but try to talk about what surrounds us.
All the signs of creation are around us.
“We will show them Our signs in the universe and in themselves until it becomes clear that their this is the truth. “Surat Fussilat, verse 53
Regards, Mehdi.
Yeah tried to discuss about that too.
but what I believe, if he meant to be with me than he would open his heart to Islam, and also with the permission from God.
I believe two people of different religions, or a religious person and an atheist can be in a happy relationship, BUT they both have to accept the other person for what they are.
It seems like you can not respect that he is an atheist. If you wish to be with a Muslim man then it might be better to find one, instead of trying to change this man’s opinion. Believing or not believing in God very strongly defines who we are so it is very difficult to change.
What can i say my dear,
i didnt want to broke your love for him but what you are saying is true.
You asked about my origin i’m not from Korea :).
Send me an email and we’ll discuss more instead of reply by comments.
my email
terrak.mehdi@gmail.com
Mehdi.
I agree they work really hard and focus with material. I hope he could find peace by having religion.
but I am Muslim boy not a Muslim girl. pl. talk to me at my gmail address. should I give you my facebook id or gmail id?
Hello i am arab married to Korean man, it ‘s not impossible
In Korea the muslim population is not from korea
did you lead him to be muslim or he just learn by himself?
he just learn by himself
if you want i have a group on Facebook about arab and asian Couple http://www.facebook.com/pages/Union-arabo-asiatique/325354350909811
안녕하세요! ^^
I personally I think it’s great you find intrest in a Korean guy… But in korean culture I think it’s really hard to find a Korean Muslim man because of culture. Like pork, like alcohol and etc. but they do exist. ㅋㅋㅋ
화이팅!
hhhhh oh my god i just wrote ” i want to marry a korean muslim man ” and i found all this answer nice to see people share the same dream passion nd thoughts like mine so even if the korean muslim men they don’t exist so much :””””( i’m just glad to read ur coments guys :p ;)
I find muslim girls as well and I like it that to
Get married with muslim Korean girl
Assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters in Islam. I am happy to say that islam is being spread by the good work of dawah around the world. I know three other Koreans who accepted islam here in Vancouver, Canada, and alhamdulillah we all agree that this is the best way of life and we are practicing the deen to the best of our ability.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty or her religious commitment. Choose the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper]!” (Narrated by Bukhari, 4802; Muslim, 1466)
hello, i myanmar Muslim i would like to marry a Korean girl, i wanna say that i want to marry in different culture Korea or any part or this world……
whatever you want ; Ask Allah , ask and nag him and you ‘ll get what you want
from my own experience things coming from god are better than the ones we plan for :)