Your Story

Tell us your story about dating Korean man, loving Korean man, marrying a Korean man, or even just having a secret crush. Whether he is a K-pop celebrity, a guy at your school or someone you met online, we want to hear it.

How did you two meet? Why do you like him? Does he know you like him?

This is a place to share your story, be it happy or sad, but not to ask questions about your relationship. In case you are puzzled about some aspect of Korean dating culture, please read dozens of answers about dating and marrying Korean men we have already given. You can also read thousands of comments we answered with all kinds of lovesick troubles: Ask Us archives part 1 and Ask Us archives part 2.


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109 thoughts on “Your Story

  1. Hi. Ive been reading your blog for some times. I just need your opinions and help . So here , I has been texting a korean guy from the day we started texted . Suddenly he start texting me late . I ask him , he said is because of his work. So i understand eventually. But 1 day he deleted me from kakaotalk . Do you think he find me annoyed or mad with me? I am sorry if this sound childish. I am sorry.

    • Awww sweet that is terrible…a had a friend delete me from kakaotalk only because his phone was destroyed due to an accident since you can only sign in with the phone number to that phone and got a new number…or worst case he may have started seeing someone and doesn’t want them to see he is talking to someone. I could be wrong but thats what i’ve gone through myself in past boyfriends. You are not childish, you are looking for an answer.

  2. Hi. I’m almost eighteen, and I never had a boyfriend. I have liked Korean guys because they have fun personalities and I want to know how to get a boy’s attention without appearing desperate.

  3. Here’s my story: I met my first boyfriend about a few months ago. We met at a car accident, I was the victim and he had scratched my car. I wasn’t really pissed off, just agitated because it was my first day of class, and there I was losing track of time. He stand before me asking if I was alright and asked if he could pay for damages. His english was a bit off, I thought he was a foreginer. I simply replied with a pumped up attitude, and told him I was fine and no need to pay for anything. He looked stunned underneath his sunglasses, I immediately joked that I don’t need money but a humble smile. I literally said that. He smiled and chuckled at mumbled underneath his breath something I couldn’t understand. It sounded Asian. The next thing I knew I remember I was going to be late. I turned on the engine and went straight to the campus. I ran inside the building I was assigned to. My luck soar, that day my professor wasn’t there today. I quickly walked over to an empty row and felt exhausted. I suddenly felt this presence and I slowly looked up and this guy was staring at me, I was taken back by his good looks. He smiled at me and asked if he could sit next to me, I nodded. He said, “Thank-you”, he was a foreigner as well. We sat there together during the lecture, I couldn’t relax. I felt him sneaking glances at me. I asked myself if I was weird looking. I was comfortable with my appearance, I didn’t looked too average. I was reminded by my old friends I was pretty, but I didn’t felt like it. After the lecture he followed me to the library. I thought that he must be intrested in books, I had stupid thoughts that he felt a thing for me. So I tried to loose him by hiding near a bookshelf. I noticed him looking for something- possibly a book perhaps. I felt at ease and suck up the courage to walk past him. As I ignored him, he grabs my wrist. I looked at him with my confused expression. He said, “That accident was a pretty lucky day for both of us.” I remembered what happened and immediately said, I was really okay. He intrupted me and asked for my name. I didn’t want to answer because I never liked my name, but I gave it to him. He repeated my name then he gave me his name. His name was hard to pronounce, he told me to call him Jacob. He asked if I could become his first American friend. I laughed and told him I will be his first Mexican-American friend. He seemed excited he wasn’t the only one who was from a different country. I don’t really considered myself as a Mexican because my skin color is pale and tan. We hit it off hanging out on campus, then making more friends with all types of people. He once asked if we could just hang out together, but I didn’t know it was a date. We headed outside the campus, to the movie theaters cause I love movies. He looked nervousness the whole time, after the amazing time I had. He surprised me with a hug, I laughed and hugged him back. We slowly parted from each other, slowly his lips pressed onto mine. I was surprised by him and his sudden affection. I should have realized it was a date. I flushed from embarrassment and awkwardly told him it was my first kiss. I know it sounds like a joke, but I wanted to save it before marriage. Funny huh. He told me he was very happy he was my first. On that day forward we continued our mutal relationship. My like for him is awkward and comfortable, because he made me feel important. Even now.

  4. Hi. I’m a bisexual with a long term gf now. And then i fell in love with a korean guy. Here are the info:

    1. He said he only likes korean girls. But when i told him i like him he said “whether you’re korean or not, you already have a gf”
    2. He once suggested that if i like someone else, i should break up with my gf whether my crush (himself) likes me or not.
    3. I said “please take my heart ❤️” he didnt say “no”.
    4. We talk a lot maybe more than normal friends.
    5. He always, always replies to my text messages.
    6. He is concerned with my well being. He doesnt like me to skip meals, etc.
    7. He gave a cute stufftoy as a souvenir when he went on an out of country trip.

    Idk if i should stop liking him. Idk if he likes me or if he only likes the attention. Idk if he doesnt like me because i have a gf. I am falling in love. Deeper. Everyday.

  5. Hello >< and hope we can make it together , cuz he is the most amazing and lovely oppa in this world ♡ i love him so much kk

  6. Hi. Recently I’m currently in a relationship. So far so good….. But he suddenly asked me to meet his parents. I intentionally tried to avoid his question, but I couldn’t say no. His parents were currently visiting Los Angeles to celebrate their eldest son’s birthday. I had a major meltdown. I thought his parents would disapprove our relationship. What would they think? Or will they freak!! The days were outnumbered and I to accompany Jacob. I made sure to wear something comfortable. I remembered my Korean language perfectly. On that day, they were surprised to meet me. They were awfully kind and were very considerate, and glad I knew their language. I also met Jacob’s younger brother David. He was a few years younger than I am, probably seventeen. He was very cautious around me. I could understand their parents are loaded, I would feel cautious as well. I had the time of my life, until Jacob’s mother asked about my hand in marriage! Jacob was so adorable when he blushed. I chuckled and told her, he had never asked. She looked disappointed, she told me she wanted me as her daughter-in law. I felt honored. Maybe I might get married to Jacob. If he’s ever ready.

  7. I started texting with this korean through an app called SKOUT. I joined it because my roommate made me get one and he joined it because of a bad break up with his girlfriend. Just when i was about to give up on the app he messaged me and i replied and we hit it off very well we would talk about EVERYTHING and it turns out he was an international student here in the US but i met him after he went back to his country to serve for the military (he still had not started his duty but was in the process) we began texting as friends, then talking on the phone, then eventually skype. After 1 month or so of talking as friends i got drunk and told him i liked him (i know so embarassing) and at first he hesitated because he knew he’d eventually leave to the military). Eventually, we became a couple…at first he was cold because he was still into his ex but after 2 months he was so sweet and nice and caring, it was just perfect. He told me he loved me and i feel the same and we were more serious about everything but after 3 months he had to go to the military (on july 6) and he told me he didnt want me to put my life on hold for him but after 2 years are up he hopes neither of us change so we can pick up where we left off…and he will contact me in 5 weeks after his basic training i believe but im so heartbroken….if he contacts me im afraid things wont be the same, im afraid he’ll change…what should i tell him??? :(

  8. i am an Indian and i like Korean literature, culture and Korean drama. i found this site very interesting. but i have a doubt, i found in internet that Korean men spend more money on beautification, is it true?

    • “South Korean men are increasingly turning to BB cream foundation and anti-aging products to achieve K-Pop perfection, spending $900 million a year on cosmetics, according to research firm Euromonitor.

      South Korea is by far the largest in a growing global market for men’s cosmetics, accounting for nearly a quarter of sales in the skin care market.” according to abcnews

  9. Hi; everyone im frome Morrcco for me i never had boyfriend but i really like Korean boyz cuz they respect woman and give her all the love that she want and make her feel like princes

  10. Hi!
    I’ve been contemplating for several weeks now if I have to write here or not. But just to ease my mind, here it goes. ^^
    It’s been over 2 months since me and this korean guy started chatting over kakao and a language exchange app. Well, basically, we chat to do language exchange, I teach him english, he teaches me korean. Now, me, being a first timer in such things, I tend to chat with him like what normal people do (ask for name, what are his hobbies, interests, etc). He does the same as well. We chat almost everyday, telling each other what we’re doing at the moment, what are our plans for the day… when we were talking about travel, he mentioned that he’ll be going here in our country to study english for 2 months and after that he will go to Australia and live there for 2 yrs. To make the story short, I am very fond of him to the point that I’m always looking out for his messages everyday (maybe because I’m used to?).. and I’m starting to have this feeling that I think I like him. I’m kinda checking him out too, if he’s interested on me or what. I remember, he said to me before that he’s like to meet me once he gets here. When he said that 1st time, I just blatanly said that yeah ‘let’s hang out once you’re here’. And then he said it again 2nd time but my reply now was a bit sincere and said I want to meet him too. In order for us to meet one needs to ride a plane. The reason is, the school he enrolled us is too far from my either he goes to me or I go to him. Then he said that I should go to him and he’ll pay for the plane ticket. Since I’m not that type of person who takes advatage of such acts (coz of being shy too), I said that I can manage the plane ticket and we’ll discuss it one he gets here. Now, he’s here already and still the communication is strong. He asks me for motivation coz he’s feeling nervous and all. And me, I feel so excited for him so I just give him motivating words everyday to boost his courage. We haven’t talked about if we’ll be able to hang out. I’m waiting for him to start it up but I’m thinking if he’s also waiting for me to open up the idea again. You see, we’ve shared our interests and we have same interests in movies, foods, etc. We even mentioned to each other our relationship status which both are single.. and teased each other in a most subtle way (I can’t explain it but it seems both me and him are being too careful). I just don’t want to push myself too much coz it’s not very usual of me. But, I kept on thinking that, if I like this guy, maybe I should start opening up myself a bit more of what I used to and be a little aggressive. But then, I just remind myself to just be myself which I’m doing. And also, I really can’t guess what he’s thinking of me. Is he interested or what. We actually even exchange photos so we both know what we look like..even family photos, friends… I’m totally fine with being friends and’s just that there will always be that feeling of wanting to know how someone thinks of you, right. There was even a time when I wanted to say I miss him in a casual way because he was travelling and didn’t get to send messages that much. But I restrained myself.. anyway, not sure if I’m still making sense coz it’s 3am already.. but hopefully you get the jist of it. TIA ^^

  11. There is this one guy that I fell in love. I have known him since two years ago. But I never really felt this way. I only know him as a friend and not even that close. But everything changed after I found out that I love him. I didn’t really know at first but these days, when I see him, my heart fluttered so fast. My face turned really red. I am trying my hardest to hide it. ~~ Also, he’s a player. Before, I never really cared whether he hugs me, put his hand around me or hold my hands. And he does that to almost every other girls. But now, I get really jealous and mad. “Why would he do that to others? When he has me?” then I laugh at myself. I mean he don’t even like me, at the very least, he don’t even know that I like him.I gave him hints. But he never gets them. I don’t want to tell him my feelings either. I don’t want to be called cheap. I don’t want to become the laugh stock among him and his friends. And he might have someone that he likes, too. After having this one-sided crush for too long, I really want to forget him. I mean there are some guys who’s willing date me. But why this guy?! I tried to forget him but every time I see his smile, I fell in love again. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  12. Hi community, can someone of you educate me on Korean culture of sex. Do they do one night stands, shall I sleep with them on the first date, is it normal that they post picture of a bar interior and the opposite sex comments things I cant comprehend or translate w Google Translator? How can I grasp that they have serious intentions?

  13. hi. there is a korean exchange student on our university.. actually i’am fan of korea..from it’s culture language..and just anything in korea..i really want to go in korea someday..

    so…their english tutor was in the same department as mine..(but we are not friend) i stalk to her account so that i can know what the names of the different exchange student..i sent them all friend request..but only one respond.

    then the story begin.. i first say hi..and he chatted back..i ask him if he is enjoying his stay in our country..then we continuously to chat.. everyday..almost every first i was the one who open topic on conversation..but about one week pass..he is the one who opened is more like getting to know each other because he ask about my personal information..but as for me..i’am afraid to tell what my background is because i know this will be just a short period friendship..i know when he will be back in korea we will never be in touch again..that is what i assume..

    so i gave him false information about myself..

    he will just stay in our country about two months..then we still continue chatting..we almost spent time holding almost stop chatting around 2 am even i have class at 7 am.. that become our daily routine for almost 1 and a half month..

    in that time he confess already to me even we didn’t meet in person already..the time for him to go back to korea is getting near..

    one time he ask us to meet..but still.. i’am afraid..i am afraid because i know i’am a liar.. i know all about him..but he know false information about me..i’am guity..really guilt..

    i can’t meet him..i can’t face him..

    .there is a time that heavy rain comes..i don’t have umbrella that time..i left it..he insisted to give me an umbrella..but i don’t agree because i don’t want to face him..i can’t even i want i just go without umbrella..that makes him angry..

    that night.. i received a text from him..he really frustrate about my action..he believe it is look like i’am avoiding him too much..

    you first i didn’t take it seriously..but as the time goes by.. i know i have this something i felt for him..but i shouldn’t because i know he will leave me..soon

    but our heart speak louder than our mouth..i can’t control my feeling anymore..i know i like i decide to meet him 2 days before he leave..but still he doesn’t know the truth on me..

    the time with him personally is. different from the time we chat.. i really feel special around him..that makes me fall to him more. we enjoy company of each other.

    it hurt that i know he will leave me soon.. but i should take the risk..i like him..we like each we decided to make it to the next special friend only..but how we care to each other is like a couple..

    the day of him going back to korea..i said all things to him..all the lie..all secret..i know he deserve to know.. so i tell..

    now he back in korea..

    but i don’t like long distance i don’t know if we really felt the same as before..we always talk too.. but not like before..

    he don’t any opportunity to back here i think that is the reason why he change little bit to little bit..

    that is why i hate LDR..i know something will change..and that is what i’am afraid of.

  14. Hi, I’m really feeling confused slash happy at the same time right now and I’d like to share it!
    So I met this Korean guy last week, he’s just 1 year older than me which is 23.
    He’s actually kinda cute I think, I enjoy being with him. We met at an event, the event was held for 5 days in a row.
    This guy, I can feel that he is interested in me because he often look at me and he acts funnily when he is around me. Since I was kinda interested as well, I jokingly ask if he is popular in school because he is handsome. And he replied saying I’m pretty.
    And I was really surprised because during our last day he even asked me out for dinner. Which I wasn’t able to.
    Anyways, that night he immediately text me “I’ll miss you.” which makes my heart flutter.
    And the next day he told me I’m cute.
    Now, my question is, how does Korean guys flirt? Is this part of their culture to be so fast and saying things directly without hesitation? When they flirt, they always act so sweet, is that it?
    I’m just curious. Oh and how are we supposed to respond as girls?
    Do they like girls who jokes back or shy or…? I don’t want to scare him off or anything.
    I would be really happy if you answer my question :) thanks a lot!

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