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My Korean boyfriend was born and raised in South Korea and I was born and raised in Europe. As I tried to prepare for the difficult journey ahead – with almost 6,000 miles (around 10 000 km) of distance between our countries and expecting culture clashes, misunderstandings and language barriers – I turned to guidance online by people who had already gone through what still lay ahead for me. To my great surprise, information was either scarce or worryingly negative. Still, we didn’t even consider giving up and meeting each other in person became the most important thing in our lives.And then…

I met my Korean boyfriend

dating Korean guys love South Korean manThat night everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. My carefully perfected plan was ruined. After taking 6 hours to get there it turned out the place where I wanted to get the food had been closed for a year, the bus didn’t show up, I spent all the money on a cab fare and, on the day when it was crucial I look my best, I looked exhausted and defeated.

This late at night the airport was in semi-darkness and looked deserted. The time seemed to have both slowed down and sped up. I wanted it to pass, and yet, I wasn’t ready. Slowly, a few people gathered. Among them I saw a few black-haired heads. Asians! That was a good sign.

Finally, the gates opened and people started pouring out. And then… I saw him! I had no trouble recognizing him. After all, I haven’t done much else than stare at his photos for the last few months. He was weaving among people, and every few seconds, I would lose sight of him. He grabbed his suitcase and headed… straight towards me!

Yesterday we were thousands of kilometers apart. Now we were so close we could have touched each other. Could have, had it not been for a huge glass pane dividing the arrivals from people ready to greet them. I motioned towards the doors. Before I knew what had happened I was awkwardly hugging him. I had played this hug in my head hundreds of times. Somehow in my mind I always did it much more gracefully. But then again in my mind he didn’t have that huge backpack on.

Dazed, we both made it out, murmuring, trying to make a conversation, our hearts pounding. In the meantime the missing bus magically appeared and we settled in the seats next to each other.

For the first time I looked at him. Really looked at him. It was my boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend who I was seeing in person for the first time in my life. My eyes slid from his face along his arms. Muscular arms. Down to his hands resting in his lap. There was that watch, the silver watch I would recognize in an instant because it was on every photo of him I have seen. And his hands were just as manly and beautiful as in the photos.

“Is this what you want?”

I looked up to see him smiling at me. My eyes went down again to his hand but this time it wasn’t resting in his lap. It was outstreched, palm-upward, ready for me to hold it. Big smile settled in on my face as our hands wrapped around each other.

Actually, nothing had gone wrong that night.

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We’ve been through a lot, both together and now apart, but not for a moment did either of us regret it.

If you have a Korean guy you like, or if you are already in a relationship with one, we are happy to have been able to share our experiences and tell you what we have learned, but we would also love to hear any tips that you might have .

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347 thoughts on “About Loving Korean

  1. I have been surfing internet for years to meet a korean guy but haven’t found one. Could you please direct me to sites where nigerians meet korean guys. Having watched korean movies, I love their language, culture and tradition, and I will love to meet and marry a korean man.

  2. Do my korean bf thinks hrd doing business deal or what?ive know him 4yrs.feels like 100 however.look this realtiomship is like no other ive ever seen ever.must going to have a huge elegant wedding,biggest home ever all this time have to count for something right?also american blk girl n s.korean handsome long leg boy,not euopean please n not nigerian please please sir.lol;-)

  3. what do you mean by nigeria of all places? That’s very bad and saucy of you. You shouldn’t look down on anyone or any country. what makes You think Your country is better than mine. I don’t think You can be with any man for long with this arrogance in You. I am a nigeria lady and I am proud to be. I will get married to someone who loves my origin and everything about me. Stop rubbishing my country ,keep praying for yours coz no one knows tomorrow .

    • Maybe that commenter was just surprised that someone from such a faraway country is interested in Korea. But I agree with you, no one should think they’re superior because of the country they were born in.

    • Thats beautiful girl i support you infact african we are so hot if they did know hshahsha i have one korean guy that am driving jim craz anf soon take him home kenya africa so let them stop the nonsense they think we are its only colour upstrais ee smart.

  4. Am also a nigerian and i find it offensive that someone would think less about us just because of our nationality. i will never rubbish another person just because of where they are from, its unacceptable. my entire family love the korean culture (although what we know and understand about korea is from the media) and we respect what we believe to be other people’s culture. i would love to make friends with koreans and will not mind to be directed to a website or even where to mingle with them here in the uk.

  5. Comment made peoplw have thought i from all kind of countries.so i said not nigriean coz of it.so sometimes we dont understand why a person makes a coment right?

  6. Hello! I am a 19 year old Indonesian girl. 3 months ago I met a korean guy on some app on smartphone.we talked a lot..a lot and then this november he decided to come to my country and we spent 5 days together. in the first day, it was still awkward and then second day, when we were waiting for a bus at bus stop, we met an old Holland man. he asked me ” is he your husband? boyfriend?” “noo” then he asked him ” do you love her (me)?” and then said to me ” he said he loves you” since then when we were at a temple (we’re going to see a temple) he tried to hold my hands and yes I did,too. I wasn’t surprised because I think its because he just helped me. when we’re back in bus,he also held my hands and asked me ” can i use your shoulder?”. we kept holding hands in some mall. I felt something different. when we’re back to his hotel , in taxi he asked me again ” can I use your shoulder?” and again we held hands. he asked ” is it still far?” ” umm not really” ” good” ” why good?” ” i dont wanna stop” ” why dont wanna stop?” ” i felt comfortable ” i felt like oh i was surprised. when we walked around he always put his hands on my shoulder, too. the next day again in public bus, we lean each other, hugged and held hands like he really cared me and also at theater i tried to hug him because i felt so comfortable with him and again he hugged me back and we held hands along the movie. in the middle of the movie , there was a scene in which the actor said ” you are beautiful” and suddenly he said to me ” you are beautiful and cute , too” i just replied ” haha thank you”. he always looked at me and took pics of me without my knowing. he always said i am cute,too. the last day in station before leaving my city, I hugged him for very very short time because taxi was waiting for me and he said ” you go too fast T.T”

    my question is do generally korean men do that? hold hands lean on shoulder say cute beautiful and so on? i mean do i have to worry whether he likes me or not? or is it just their culture so that i dont have to worry? because i heard its just their culture when they feel comfortable to people they would do that. because men here wouldnt do that if they dont love the girl. thank you!

  7. i was googling and i found this site !
    wow so impressed i’m korean now living in California
    if there is someone wants to learn korean i wanna share information!

  8. I also have a Korean boyfriend and we’re about to meet in a couple weeks time. He’s coming over to my country just to see me. We have been together since March and we call each other everyday and like you I have read a lot of negativities about having Korean bfs but I still took the risk because I really felt something real with him. I hope all the other girls here who has a korean bf now will not give up on their bfs just because they are scared of how they will end up.

    My one cent is that Korean guys are not the only ones who can hurt girls all men is entitled to do that so don’t stereotype. If you feel that he is the right person for you just go for it. However, if you have this fantasy of meeting a Korean guy who are just like those dramas you watch then beware. No one is perfect don’t let your fantasy take over your reality that’s the key to your happiness.

    We are already planning on getting married. He’s asked me almost everyday to marry him but I said I’m not ready and he does say he knows it but he just want to try ask as much as he can anyway =P

  9. It’s nice to meet you, I’m NyNy! Just wanted to stop by and say I like your posts. It’s sweet how you met your boyfriend. I would like to date someone soon but Interpals isn’t working for me much but I might have to press on there more and that other site the anon above mentioned.

    I hope when you have the time, you can check out some of mine and comment plus I’m still writing my travel entries when I went to Korea last year. I’d appreciate if you took a look. If you like posts on Asian pop culture and video games, there’s more on those too! :)

  10. Hello, Madame Oegukeen & Monsieur Kimchi Man.
    I’m a Korean bloke. I’ve stumbled on to this very interesting site. Honestly, I’ve enjoyed this site: I thought that I would detest a narrative from women’s view-point. Thanks for sharing various stories about my country & heritage. I would love to help people if people would like to learn Korean.

  11. Hello~ I’m a korean fan~ That’s FATE brought you both together and I support your relationship~❤️ Ship you both~ Hope you both always in a good condition~ I didn’t have a boyfriend in Korea but I have some BOY friends that we chatted online~ Plus, I have a crush on a cute looking, full of perfection Korean guy, who owned a surname, BYUN… I can’t say his full name and I’m really crazy over him~❤️

  12. Hello there. I’m not KOREAN :) I’m A Teenage Filipina :) . I really love the fashion of many of they koreans . And I also like cute guys like korean . Haha :)

  13. A meet a korean guy, we meet 2x, with his mom, knowing to each other, and now he is in korea, i dont know if he wants to court me or to pursue me,how will i know?

  14. 2 weeks ago i found one korean guy online and we have been chatting everyday but most of the time im the one who initiaed our chat, how will i know if he likes me? Need help!

  15. ouh..u was my only way ….. i want to meet him so badlly after i read ur storyy really .. everyday i was lookinn to his pictures just to cheer up but day after day i miss him more and more and that make me everyday want to meet him …i reaaly need ur help :(

    • Sorry, I don’t have money to buy you a ticket either. Besides, if you are in high school that means you are underage and traveling around the world to meet guys is too dangerous anyway. I was 23 when I met my boyfriend.

      So it would be best to arm yourself with patience.

  16. Hello, there oegukeen.
    i was just surfing around and found your site, very cute stories almost like “k-drama”. Anyhow just want to let you know, if there’s any help with AMWF relationships/ korean culture or anything else etc…
    I can help

    P. S. Happy New Year!

  17. Hi friends
    I’m from Turkey. My name is Yaren. I have got a Korean boyfriend too Maybe you want to hear how ı can get a korean boyfriend. Actually I didnt want a boyfriend because I love to be free. But I was really interesting Korea and korean people. (song , drama etc..) And of course I was learning Korean. so I joined a fb group in korea. Everybody was Korean there. And they are really iteresting me. That was friendly course. Because I want to practice for Korean with them. And really I have got sooo much friend from that group. One day I uploaded a video to group. And everybody loved that. I was smiling talking.. And I had so much message for video. There was so much message like ‘Hi!! How are u? do you live in korea? oh I wanna be your friends’. And I was trying to reply all messages but It was really so hard. Whatever, a message was attract attention of me. It was so long. I kiped on bed and I started read. while I was reading message I cried at the same time. And I wanted to give a chance to him. We was so far to each other but we’re heart was so close to each other. And we are really loving each other now. We aren’t meet yet but I know we will do it.

  18. Hello. I know that some people won’t see this but i just want to share my story here. Im chinese Indonesian and ive been dating my korean boyfriend for 2 years + now. I met my boyfriend in Indonesia. We both went to an international school. He speaks fluent english and knows about 70-80% of indonesian language. We both hit it off well. But now we are struggling through long distance relationship. I go to school in the US while he is attending school in Korea. It was a rough relationship at first but we are beginning to get a hang of it. But, recently our families aren’t too sure about our relationship because of language barrier and other things, well his parents are concerned about not being able to talk to me so i am learning korean slowly while my parents don’t want me to be taken away to Korea. Yes, we would meet up during breaks and im not too concerned about the long distance but quite concerned about the long-run issue. We both had a talk. Because to be honest, realistically, i dont know what’s going to happen but it looks like it wont work out. Not because we dont love each other anymore but because its hard. I dont think I can come with him to Seoul and live there with him but he will need to find a living back at Korea. In 4 years time, his whole family will be leaving Indonesia and just might not return back ever again. Our meetings happened in Indonesia and it has always been that way. I have no problem visiting Seoul, but staying there and living there? Hm. Therefore, sometimes i feel that i am already losing him and im trying to prepare myself for that but it has never worked out. I will never be ready for it to be honest. I love him a lot and i know he does too. I feel like he is the one for me and its just sad.

    He wants to continue until circumstances says we can’t be together.. I wish the world wasn’t this unfair.

    My korean boyfriend is a serious man. He isnt romantic but he does little things that warms my heart. He would give me a look that i can tell says “i love you”. He wont let me get wet in the rain. He takes food for me. He gives me warm hugs and forehead kisses. He holds my hand as he drives. He is driven and smart. He is my best friend and gives great advices. He is an inspiration to me and I’m lucky enough to be his.

    Well this is my story ;)

  19. Hello. I wanna share my story and I also want to ask you something.
    I have a Korean Crush, I secretly like him since he moved here in the Phil three years ago and last Dec we finally met personally, I gave him a present and we communicate for days after we met but now I decided to stopped cause I think I annoy him so much, I am thinking that he doesn’t like me to be his friend, I don’t know. Anyway, After we met he even gave me his new no. Is it mean that he likes me to be his friend or what? HAHAHAHA. What should I do? I wanted to be close with him because the last time he told me he will going back to Korea in Summer. Thank you! ^^

    • Hi people..I really need an advice..am dating a girl and we both in love,dating for 4year but she is totally obssesed with korean guys and culture,she even go out of school for koreans classes.,I feel she might get really attactched to a korean guy and yank me off her life someday..
      Please advice,what sshould I do

      • There is nothing wrong with having a fantasy world you enjoy. It’s healthy actually. So don’t worry that she daydreams about another country or even other men.

        However, what you should concentrate on is how she is when she’s with you. If she seems frustrated and unhappy, then indeed something is missing for her in your relationship. But if she’s happy and seems in love then let her have her escape from everyday life and don’t try to ruin it for her.

  20. its amazing. because i met my Korean boyfriend on Interpals as well!
    And he came to my country in order to meet me, but i had to travel over 500 km to my capital city to meet him.
    I also looked so exhausted at that night when i was waiting for him at the airport, my phone went out of the battery. his flight was delayed. i was alone, far away from my home, but i wanted to meet him. it was the most thrilling but also exciting day of my life
    When i was reading your story, i saw so many similarities with mine. thats awesome. :)
    Now i happily dating him :D And we love each other.

  21. hi Ive a korean boyfriend too. He is 31 and I 23 years old. 2 years ago We met in my campus, He was study my country language and I study chinese untill now. We like each other. but at that time he had a girlfriend, Because i dont want to break their relationship, I stay away him. Unexpectedly, I had a chance to study in beijing. well, after a couple of months he came up texted me that he really missed me. at that time i reject him, He taught Ive a boyfriend in beijing, As soon my korean eonnie (Senior sister) Knew he texted me she said dont believe him, And than took my phone just to wrote hangul to texted him back that i already hve a boYfriend, but the reality i have none. After One year, He texted me again asked my apology (At that time he was worked in other province). In a word, that time so though. In the end, He decided to find a new job near my place. and now finally he asked me to be his girlfriend. One day he ever asked me to have a sex, i said wait im not ready he said ok but the other day he would ask me again about it. the question is he really want to back with me just because want to have a sex??

    • Honestly.. i also dated korea boy not long time ago.. and his main point of dating me was having sex and physical contact..
      I met him on internet penpal site and chatted with him for 6 months before we officially met. He is 21 and im 20. He was so nice to me, he texted me a lot, tell what he feels about me etc. he paid a lot of effort and came to me.. he seemed so nice, he bought for us couple things, told a lot of sweet words and was so lovely. he even cooked and took good care of me, but since the first day we met in real he already started touching me, at first, it wasnt very intense, just rubbing my arm, the same day he was also toughing my tights while we were watching a movie.. it all was too fast for me, even thought we talked a lot on kakao, we were physically stranges. the next day he already felt enough comfortable that he touched my breast and put his hands under my shirt.. and tried to dress me up. of course he wasn’t forcing me, but he was trying all the time and every time i stopped him he was like “im not doing everything” … He wisphered into my ear ‘lets take a bath together’ a few times.
      And later i found out he dated a few girls at the same time. He lives in Europe, and he made girlfriends in every different country in Europe.. He took other girls to the hotel, bought couple stuff, and also was so nice and sweet..
      Back than when we met, it was uncomfortable for me how he acted, but at the other hand all different things he did were so nice, we spent a great time.. i was blinded by love. now when i look back, i can clearly see that he just wanted have sex with me. Oh and i forgot to add that he was my first boyfriend, and i truly loved him, but he just wanted play with me. so heartless.. And at the end he told me that he never treat me serious, and he never truly loved me (‘these words just somehow came out of his mouth’). But he even told me that he wanna try exchange program and study in my city, he wanted meet my parents, wanted me to visit him at his place, told me im the special one to him.. I helped him a lot.. was always for him. but he didnt care and treat me like a trash at the end.
      So Really be careful. i know its hard. just keep watching him. And tell what you feel.

      Ohh haha its so funny, because i see above my comment from February.. before i found out his real face ;//

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