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My Korean boyfriend was born and raised in South Korea and I was born and raised in Europe. As I tried to prepare for the difficult journey ahead – with almost 6,000 miles (around 10 000 km) of distance between our countries and expecting culture clashes, misunderstandings and language barriers – I turned to guidance online by people who had already gone through what still lay ahead for me. To my great surprise, information was either scarce or worryingly negative. Still, we didn’t even consider giving up and meeting each other in person became the most important thing in our lives.And then…

I met my Korean boyfriend

dating Korean guys love South Korean manThat night everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. My carefully perfected plan was ruined. After taking 6 hours to get there it turned out the place where I wanted to get the food had been closed for a year, the bus didn’t show up, I spent all the money on a cab fare and, on the day when it was crucial I look my best, I looked exhausted and defeated.

This late at night the airport was in semi-darkness and looked deserted. The time seemed to have both slowed down and sped up. I wanted it to pass, and yet, I wasn’t ready. Slowly, a few people gathered. Among them I saw a few black-haired heads. Asians! That was a good sign.

Finally, the gates opened and people started pouring out. And then… I saw him! I had no trouble recognizing him. After all, I haven’t done much else than stare at his photos for the last few months. He was weaving among people, and every few seconds, I would lose sight of him. He grabbed his suitcase and headed… straight towards me!

Yesterday we were thousands of kilometers apart. Now we were so close we could have touched each other. Could have, had it not been for a huge glass pane dividing the arrivals from people ready to greet them. I motioned towards the doors. Before I knew what had happened I was awkwardly hugging him. I had played this hug in my head hundreds of times. Somehow in my mind I always did it much more gracefully. But then again in my mind he didn’t have that huge backpack on.

Dazed, we both made it out, murmuring, trying to make a conversation, our hearts pounding. In the meantime the missing bus magically appeared and we settled in the seats next to each other.

For the first time I looked at him. Really looked at him. It was my boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend who I was seeing in person for the first time in my life. My eyes slid from his face along his arms. Muscular arms. Down to his hands resting in his lap. There was that watch, the silver watch I would recognize in an instant because it was on every photo of him I have seen. And his hands were just as manly and beautiful as in the photos.

“Is this what you want?”

I looked up to see him smiling at me. My eyes went down again to his hand but this time it wasn’t resting in his lap. It was outstreched, palm-upward, ready for me to hold it. Big smile settled in on my face as our hands wrapped around each other.

Actually, nothing had gone wrong that night.

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We’ve been through a lot, both together and now apart, but not for a moment did either of us regret it.

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    • You should try it.. I think there good guys they respect you alot I’ve seen some they respect and kind so much from them

  1. I’ve met a Korean guy last year when we have our trip in Korea. We’ve met in a very unusual way. Me and my friend finding our way down from the mountain when suddenly he showed up and also trying to find his way. We’ve talked and asked each others name, I asked him what brings him up to the mountain he said his trying to rest because he’s waiting a diagnosis from the doctor. So, I asked him for his email because obviously I’m interested on him and what would happen to him. On our stay in Korea, we’ve decided to see each other again but due to network connections and late replies we’re not able to meet up. After that he said that if I get the chance to go back in Korea or if he go to the Philippines we should meet up so that we can get to know more about each other.When I get back here in the Philippines, I chat him often and ask him what happen with the diagnosis from the doctor. He was diagnosed with cancer and from there I have a reason to always ask him how he was doing ( 3x a month). He is 25 years old I think, so our conversation is most likely mature, like about goals, life, plans and career. I mentioned him once that if he come here in the Philippines, Palawan would be nice because I’ve been there. I send him photos and stuff and he’s really into it. I did not taught that he will be really interested to the extent that he asked for my schedule so that he can pay visit and ask me to accompany him to go there. He said that he would pay all the stuff and so. Right now, I know that we’re just good friends but my parents are very strict. They say that if the Korean guy really wanted to go to Palawan why should I accompany him, since he already go to Cebu last month with his family. K (korean guy) is open to the idea that anybody can join the trip, so my family decided to join us. (he’s well now and done with the chemo therapies :) )

    I’m sharing my story so that I can have idea on what would be the good thing to do or say with this kind of situation. Any advice are welcome :)

  2. This is really interesting topic!! May I join? haha..

    Me and him is in a same age, but we live in different country, he lives and born in Korea and me live and grow up in Indonesia. So, I met this korean guy at 7 july 2015 via meow application (which mean we’ve known each other for 17 days. I learned from my experiences before, that chatting with korean guys wasn’t easy, they sometimes being too ignorance and just give us a short reply like “yes” “no” “maybe” kkk and I grew tired of their behaviour but yea this one korean guy I met is different, he is the one who fave me first, chat me first, start the topic when we run out of topic, and he always calling out my name like a kid.

    But from the 3rd day we chat, he already said “he likes me” and then I belike “oh wow? Really? What do you mean with likes here?” Oh sure!! I think korean guys really innocent? Or too easy to say something like that? and then he answered me, “ah.. yea I mean like? Being close with you? Like as friend!!! Ah I don’t know what I’m saying” and then I bitterly chuckle. How he’s like this? Cute but somehow a bit dangerous for my heart? and then I’m being a little bit bold like “oh yes like! It doesn’t mean love hahaa.. we just can say that we love someone when we are adult and really serious about it. And he was agree. However one day I promised him I’ll go to korea for sure and he promise too to be guide for me later kkkk, I’m waiting for the day to come.. But in the same time I’m afraid he’ll not be satisfied after meet me and will leave me? , “I’m not that pretty, and I don’t have white and fairskin like koreans, futhermore I’m short!!”

    From that days he keep texting me, greet me good morning and night everyday. Sometimes I warned him like “hey you shouldn’t text me everytime. Your school is already so busy, why you keep  texting me all the time? I don’t want to disturb your school life.” And he’ll reply me “it’s okay you don’t disturb me at all.” But I kept mad and “no it just.. Isn’t it weird that you too often text me?” (Which because I’m afraid if he text me too often, we’ll run out of topic that we would have known things all about each other and he might get bored and leave me haha what a childish me) and he then comforted me “nooo!! I’ll not leave you! Never!!” “I like you!” “You’re my bestfriend” << this words again.. haha I'm a bit sad that he mentioned the 'bestfriend' part. Like seriously you said we are being bestfriend but why you so clingy to me everyday everytime ever seconds?? ㅠㅠ he tortured my heart. But then again I just can reply "oh really? Hahah i like you too. Let's be friend forever!"

    Everyday he'll text me to let me know what he did at school, how his school look alike, how his friends are, etc. And one day when we were talking about wanting time to go fast so we can meet each other, I sent him a voice note of IU You and I song kkk but it's really a failed because I was nervous record. But then he said "hahaha!! It's really funny! Your voice is really cute!! It's like you are whispering to me. You must take responsibility because I'm laughing like crazy now" yea!! I was so happy see his response hahah and till now we've sent each other 2 voice note of his voice? He sang to Teen Top – The Back of My hand Brushes Against and a lullaby song, and me sent him IU song and that Teen Top song too. Today I'll sing him a lullaby (if he remember to ask it) huff!! i'll not send it if he doesn't remember. Hm!!

    His english is not better than me, and I know my english not good either? Hahah so we often misunderstand each other and I often get tired that he didn't get what I just said to him. Till now I really confused with "what are we actually? Why are you so clingy toward me?" And yea.. what should I do? Recently it's getting bored, because I'm now in really long holiday before entering college life and I don't have much topic because I've been in my home all day?? when he has so much topic because he hasn't graduate in his highschool and still going to school these days (korean school system is different from mine). I'm just being sad and doubting "are you being bored with me?" Toward him. But i really like him!! Okay I'm being lack of confident I think? Hahaha

    Okay that's all my story.. ^^ thank you so much!!

    • I would like to share my story. I met someone online. He lives and was raised in SK. I contacted him first not because I was interested in him, but because I saw something in his profile that grabbed my attention. We talked for a couple of days in the interpals chat. He was nice, polite and at no point seemed to be Flirting. He said from day 1 that he was interested in my country and that actually wanted to come to live here, so he asked many questions and I answered.
      I thought it his interest in my country was weird, why would someone wanted to move to a country literally in the other side if the world? Anyway I kept talking to him, and to be honest I thought he has being a little bit annoying… The thing is that after a couple of days he asked If I used skype, which I don´t, and facebook or any other messenger. I didn´t told him I use fb because I use it in a really personal way, and I thought I would be too expose if I added him at that time. I did have kakao in my cel, but never used it, and actively use whatsapp, so when he asked for a messenger I added him, but had a hard time deciding wheter I should do it or not. Its not that I have a problem with him, I am a little bit obsessed with my privacy online. Since I added him, we have been sending messages to each other every day, texts, voice messages and even photos of us. At some point something changed, can´t say exactly when, but at least for me things are different.
      I don´t really know what to think, he insists that he´s going to move here, that was something that he was planning to do before he met me and I had nothing to do with. Our conversations go through many topics, culture, politics, sports, languages etc.
      I have read many girls saying that they met a korean guy online and that he says things like I care about you and I like you from day beggining, and thats not how he is like. But after showing one on my friends a part of our conversations she say that we were actually flirting. At some point he said in an audio that he wanted to be kissed by me, and laughed as if it were a joke. I was shoked, all I could say was Kiss?? he felt embarrased end didn´t talk for a while, and only came back because I asked him to many times. We are not kids, 27 and 28. I am confused, but especially scared. I don´t want to get involved in something that might be just in my head. I been hurt before and I know that my fear is not because of him but because of what happened to me. I just wanted to have friends from other countries, didn´t mean this to happen…
      I would like to hear what you think about my story. And thank you so much for reading!!

  3. my name is star im iranian im looking for a korean boy freind but i dont know how can find this guy can any one help me in this case

    • You can try using Meow chat android app just like me.. search korean people through explore menu, fave and start chating. Hope this can be a help ^^

      • thanks olot dear but in my country we dont have any app like this if you can show me a website that i can download for free that be fine i am thinking if every one know a korean guy that is lookig for a girl and tell him about me perhaps i can find him

  4. thanks but i dont have it do you try it and find your favorite korean guy i think if some one help me to finding a korean boy freind its very good i mean if every one know some one who is looking for a girl freind just tell him about me i really dont know

  5. Well I met a Korean guy that I like but guess what I am a Nigerian and I think that it won’t work out although I have not said anything to him I feel like I have been rejected please can I get some advice.

  6. hi everyone …I m from India .I have a question how can I date a Korean guy online..is there any dating if it so can u suggest me

  7. I found this korean guy January 2015 in clash of clans then exchanging kakao and after that little chichat and feels nothing just like normal then stop. But after a few months he message me and say “HI” but I didnt recognize him because our convo was deleted and his profile was different and we continue to chatting then voice message to video call. And know I know that I like him and he says that he like me too and I didnt know if he is serious or just playing around with me because this is just my first time and he is too. Then he said to me this past few days that he’s going to deactivate all of his account to study for 3 years in civil exam and he wants me to wait , any suggestion ? Should I continue this because Im really confuse right now

  8. hi……is liking or loving korean people is very complicated situation??just wanna know…..because im just curios:)please someone pay attention……kamsahamnida!

    (waiting)

    • Kindda complicated because both of you had a different culture and language but its up to you if you really love him/her you should accept everything about him/her.

    • Hi ! Konichiwa !. Hello ! iam a filipina i just want to say ,On my own opinion loving someone that is really far from you is complicated , specially a man that is different with you like his nationality . It really seems to be complicated but as long as you and him having a good friendship or relationship it is nice .
      But have your limitations!.💗😐😅 I hope I help even just a little!.👍 Salamat !. Arigatou

    • You have to be patient especially when there is a language barrier. They use their words differently. For example my boyfriend sponsored me to go to Korea. One question on the form was how are you related. He answered my lover. I changed it of course and he protested. Why you do not love me? Because of misunderstanding you may become too quick to judge. Good luck though.

  9. I think Korean men are really complicated :(. Here’s my story
    I met him on a pen pals site. He was going to visit my city so he sent me a message to ask me about my city. So, I recommended him a few interesting places in my city. We talked for about 2 or 3 days. He asked me if it was ok to meet me but I was kinda scared so I refused to meet him. When he came back to Korea, he sent me a message to tell me about his trip. And everything went on it’s way.We talked about everything: interests, hobbies, daily life… We talked for about a month. Then, he told me that he had a felling for me and he asked me if I liked him or not. Honestly, I also had a feeling for him but I didn’t have enough courage to say it. But after hearing that, I sent him a message to tell my true feeling. I told him I also felt the same way.. So I asked him what we should do. He said he would message me later. After 2 days, I sent him a message, I said everything I thought… He read but didn’t reply back and after a day, he blocked me.. I keep thinking, I don’t know why he acted like this. At least, he should send me a reply….

  10. Alright so… I have a question and I would REALLY need someone to answer me fast, please!

    Alright so here it goes…
    So I met a korean guy on MEEFF (an app to make foreign friends) and I started talking to him because he wrote on his description that he was going to Canada in two years and he wanted to make Canadian friends. We started talking and for about three or four days, we were talking twice a day so he eventually asked me if we could add each other on facebook. I never added a stranger on facebook before, but for some reason, I trusted him, so I said yes and so we started talking on facebook.

    One day, I was talking to him and he finally told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I told him we should get to know each other better before getting in a relationship. Anyway, that’s not really the problem here… The thing is that he tells me wayyy too many things about himself and it makes it really awkward. One day, I saw that he had many latino friends on facebook so I asked him if he talked to them, but he told me he didn’t because they were really pervert. I asked him what he meant and he said: “they always talk about sex. I like it but i’m shy”.

    It was really awkward because I thought it was a little bit to much information… But I just changed subject because I didn’t want to make it too awkward for him because I knew that sex was a taboo topic in korea.
    One morning, when he woke up, he texted me and so I asked him if he slept well. He said he slept really well because he had a great dream, so I asked him what was his dream and he said he couldn’t explain, but it was “his love story”. Again, that was just too much information, because obviously the first thing I thought was that this dream must have been the kind of dream that is…you know……

    Today, he asked me if he could ask a weird question, so I said yes. But he asked me if I ever watched porn. I said I never did and I asked him if HE did. He said yes…So I explained him that porn was just filmed prostitution and that women were being abused by men and so he told me he would not watch it again. He said “I promise”.

    I don’t know what to think about him… I have known him for almost a month now and he is really sweet but, he just tells me information sometimes that I just really don’t want to know. I already facetimed him and stuff so I am really sure that it’s not a catfish, but still, I just don’t know what to think about him. HELP!

    • How old is he ? If he’s just 15-19 don’t bother he’s just playing around and be thankful that he said everything to you that means he was serious on you just go with the flow and you must know the limitation but its up to you this was just my opinion

    • its not about age, I have talked with arround 10 korean guys and its always the same. 9 out of 10 want sexting. Yes they can be super sweet and seem to care about you, but not interesting in a relationship. You know him for a month and asked you to be her girlfriend sorry but can´t think anithing good…

    • Yeah, don’t even bother, those guys act sweet but just wait for the perfect moment to slip that topic, it depends on how you answer tho, I think yours were smart, so he can’t mislead him, but I suggest not meeting him. I texted a guy for like 4 months, and even then he asked for sexting out of nowhere ’cause he was TIRED, as he said, of acting nice. So yeah, always be careful with those pushy guys. They even make you feel bad about yourself if you don’t send them photos and so.

  11. Hi !.iam miki !. A filipina .. I was in teenage and you know I really want a Korean boyfriend and I really prepared to have it on future
    I would like to work in Korea as an English teacher in future and meet a Korean guy and your story rally inspire me !.
    I hope I can find my true love too like yours. Your love story is really cute and I really like it !. I hope … You and your Korean guy
    Have a good life together and a healthy life and family.

    Kimberly Tapar Salvatierra

    ~Miki Sukohara ..

  12. Hi, an asian girl currently with a korean bf.. my first bf ever. I met him thru online dating app and then two weeks later he went to meet me! i was just so shocked that it was actually happening! As i read your story, I could feel the same. Tho he lives four hours by plane from me which im relieved of, I found my true love and i didnt think it would be a korean guy at all :o Im just happy that we are together not for the culture but to get to know each other.

  13. I met this Korean guy from interpals like a year ago. At first we texted a lot, I was curious about him because he recently moved to my city for work, I have korean friends so I wanted to know if he was doing ok adapting to my city. Anyway, I always text him first, but when I stopped we didn’t talk for like a month. Then one day I text him about me getting a job and he was so happy and we started texting again. He never asked for anything R Rated so I was happy and relax when we arranged a meeting, I trusted him. We went for a coffee and for a movie. Everything was nice, until, 10 mins into the movie, he tried to touch me, first my arm, then hold my hand, at some point he even tried to give me a back massage… yeah.. HAHAHA it was the FIRST TIME we saw eachother!.. and he only did that because it was dark.. it freaked me out, so I told him to stop. Then he stop for a while but then he was trying to kiss me.. so weird and awkward.. I firmly told him I wasn’t that kind of girl, so he stopped completely. I was so freaked out that once the movie was over I left, he took me to my car even tho I didn’t want him to follow me.. I told him I had to be somewhere else when he asked me to have dinner with him. I left. And text him later on “You shouldn’t treat a girl like that on the first date.” And he said “oh, ok”. And we never texted again. I was kinda dissapointed.. because we were connecting just fine, but still I wouldn’t kiss or sleep with a guy on the first date.

  14. Hello. I’m Korean guy, and I’m 24 years old. I can speak english a little. but i have a reading skill by english. (It’s more than speak)
    i read any article. but korean guy is not same character. So you should ask directly to him.
    what do you like it? etc.

  15. I have been in a long distance relationship with a guy from Korea for 6 months. In July I am meeting him in Korea (after my exams) – I am 17 he is 18. We have always been close and he was always sweet and kind. However, in December, he found out that before I spoke to him I had short online relationships. It lasted like 2 weeks. He was extremely mad and even tried to break up with me. I said that its in the past and that I never speak to them, I only speak to him. He really means the world to me. Since that day he has always been distant and just stares at me when we Skype. He is almost like a rollercoaster, some days he is really really happy and exactly like the guy in the beginning. But other days he ignores my texts, doesn’t send hearts or kisses just ‘:)’. And I am the only person that seems to be invested in meeting him in Korea, for example, I booked a hotel for the first 3 nights and he asked about if he was booked as well, I said I didn’t have enough money for him because I paid for my flight which was expensive. I am currently saving money for Korea with a Saturday job and doing my last exams. He got kind of mad and distant because I didn’t book for him. I hear that Korean guys are people who take control and they are the ones that organise things and take the initiative to text and call. But my boyfriend is the opposite. He doesn’t plan and I have to text him all the time to make conversation. I also am someone who forgets a lot of things but I never forget important details like his birthday, when he wants me to call etc. But he always questions me about if I remember what I had written in a letter a month ago and I said I couldn’t remember. He said ‘it doesn’t matter, forget it’ and went to sleep. I bought him gifts for his birthday and he asked if I wanted anything from him, I asked for a letter in return but he hasn’t sent me anything. We wear couple bracelets but he takes his off most of the time. I don’t believe he is cheating. He is not that type of person, I would think he would break up with me first. But it just feels like I’m the one putting in all the effort and never gets recognition. I had written a list of pros and cons but the pros outweigh the cons. Its only recent he has started to behave like this. Please help me, I am so lost.

    • He is currently ignoring me. I have no idea why but he hasn’t replied to my texts in a day and he has done this before and not texted me for 6 days.

      • Hi I am a Koran guy. What a pity… dont get me wrong… I have to tell you straightly the point is he like you no more… those are common attitude of men who dont love sb at all… Just forget him and heal your broken heart… my friend… hope you read my reply.

  16. Hi everyone!! I’m a girl 19 years, slender, I do really love S.Korea dearly n’ I hope one day I’ll be there but can I get in touch with Korean people please help me I want to make foreign friends especial Koreans i know few words in Korea but I don’t know to write in hangul. but if they’re Korean people who get to read my message n’ want us be friends I can appreciate #welcome, thank u

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