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My Korean boyfriend was born and raised in South Korea and I was born and raised in Europe. As I tried to prepare for the difficult journey ahead – with almost 6,000 miles (around 10 000 km) of distance between our countries and expecting culture clashes, misunderstandings and language barriers – I turned to guidance online by people who had already gone through what still lay ahead for me. To my great surprise, information was either scarce or worryingly negative. Still, we didn’t even consider giving up and meeting each other in person became the most important thing in our lives.And then…

I met my Korean boyfriend

dating Korean guys love South Korean manThat night everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. My carefully perfected plan was ruined. After taking 6 hours to get there it turned out the place where I wanted to get the food had been closed for a year, the bus didn’t show up, I spent all the money on a cab fare and, on the day when it was crucial I look my best, I looked exhausted and defeated.

This late at night the airport was in semi-darkness and looked deserted. The time seemed to have both slowed down and sped up. I wanted it to pass, and yet, I wasn’t ready. Slowly, a few people gathered. Among them I saw a few black-haired heads. Asians! That was a good sign.

Finally, the gates opened and people started pouring out. And then… I saw him! I had no trouble recognizing him. After all, I haven’t done much else than stare at his photos for the last few months. He was weaving among people, and every few seconds, I would lose sight of him. He grabbed his suitcase and headed… straight towards me!

Yesterday we were thousands of kilometers apart. Now we were so close we could have touched each other. Could have, had it not been for a huge glass pane dividing the arrivals from people ready to greet them. I motioned towards the doors. Before I knew what had happened I was awkwardly hugging him. I had played this hug in my head hundreds of times. Somehow in my mind I always did it much more gracefully. But then again in my mind he didn’t have that huge backpack on.

Dazed, we both made it out, murmuring, trying to make a conversation, our hearts pounding. In the meantime the missing bus magically appeared and we settled in the seats next to each other.

For the first time I looked at him. Really looked at him. It was my boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend who I was seeing in person for the first time in my life. My eyes slid from his face along his arms. Muscular arms. Down to his hands resting in his lap. There was that watch, the silver watch I would recognize in an instant because it was on every photo of him I have seen. And his hands were just as manly and beautiful as in the photos.

“Is this what you want?”

I looked up to see him smiling at me. My eyes went down again to his hand but this time it wasn’t resting in his lap. It was outstreched, palm-upward, ready for me to hold it. Big smile settled in on my face as our hands wrapped around each other.

Actually, nothing had gone wrong that night.

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We’ve been through a lot, both together and now apart, but not for a moment did either of us regret it.

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346 thoughts on “About Loving Korean

  1. Well I met a Korean guy that I like but guess what I am a Nigerian and I think that it won’t work out although I have not said anything to him I feel like I have been rejected please can I get some advice.

  2. hi everyone …I m from India .I have a question how can I date a Korean guy online..is there any dating if it so can u suggest me

  3. I found this korean guy January 2015 in clash of clans then exchanging kakao and after that little chichat and feels nothing just like normal then stop. But after a few months he message me and say “HI” but I didnt recognize him because our convo was deleted and his profile was different and we continue to chatting then voice message to video call. And know I know that I like him and he says that he like me too and I didnt know if he is serious or just playing around with me because this is just my first time and he is too. Then he said to me this past few days that he’s going to deactivate all of his account to study for 3 years in civil exam and he wants me to wait , any suggestion ? Should I continue this because Im really confuse right now

  4. hi……is liking or loving korean people is very complicated situation??just wanna know…..because im just curios:)please someone pay attention……kamsahamnida!

    (waiting)

    • Kindda complicated because both of you had a different culture and language but its up to you if you really love him/her you should accept everything about him/her.

    • Hi ! Konichiwa !. Hello ! iam a filipina i just want to say ,On my own opinion loving someone that is really far from you is complicated , specially a man that is different with you like his nationality . It really seems to be complicated but as long as you and him having a good friendship or relationship it is nice .
      But have your limitations!.💗😐😅 I hope I help even just a little!.👍 Salamat !. Arigatou

    • You have to be patient especially when there is a language barrier. They use their words differently. For example my boyfriend sponsored me to go to Korea. One question on the form was how are you related. He answered my lover. I changed it of course and he protested. Why you do not love me? Because of misunderstanding you may become too quick to judge. Good luck though.

  5. I think Korean men are really complicated :(. Here’s my story
    I met him on a pen pals site. He was going to visit my city so he sent me a message to ask me about my city. So, I recommended him a few interesting places in my city. We talked for about 2 or 3 days. He asked me if it was ok to meet me but I was kinda scared so I refused to meet him. When he came back to Korea, he sent me a message to tell me about his trip. And everything went on it’s way.We talked about everything: interests, hobbies, daily life… We talked for about a month. Then, he told me that he had a felling for me and he asked me if I liked him or not. Honestly, I also had a feeling for him but I didn’t have enough courage to say it. But after hearing that, I sent him a message to tell my true feeling. I told him I also felt the same way.. So I asked him what we should do. He said he would message me later. After 2 days, I sent him a message, I said everything I thought… He read but didn’t reply back and after a day, he blocked me.. I keep thinking, I don’t know why he acted like this. At least, he should send me a reply….

  6. Alright so… I have a question and I would REALLY need someone to answer me fast, please!

    Alright so here it goes…
    So I met a korean guy on MEEFF (an app to make foreign friends) and I started talking to him because he wrote on his description that he was going to Canada in two years and he wanted to make Canadian friends. We started talking and for about three or four days, we were talking twice a day so he eventually asked me if we could add each other on facebook. I never added a stranger on facebook before, but for some reason, I trusted him, so I said yes and so we started talking on facebook.

    One day, I was talking to him and he finally told me that he wanted me to be his girlfriend. I told him we should get to know each other better before getting in a relationship. Anyway, that’s not really the problem here… The thing is that he tells me wayyy too many things about himself and it makes it really awkward. One day, I saw that he had many latino friends on facebook so I asked him if he talked to them, but he told me he didn’t because they were really pervert. I asked him what he meant and he said: “they always talk about sex. I like it but i’m shy”.

    It was really awkward because I thought it was a little bit to much information… But I just changed subject because I didn’t want to make it too awkward for him because I knew that sex was a taboo topic in korea.
    One morning, when he woke up, he texted me and so I asked him if he slept well. He said he slept really well because he had a great dream, so I asked him what was his dream and he said he couldn’t explain, but it was “his love story”. Again, that was just too much information, because obviously the first thing I thought was that this dream must have been the kind of dream that is…you know……

    Today, he asked me if he could ask a weird question, so I said yes. But he asked me if I ever watched porn. I said I never did and I asked him if HE did. He said yes…So I explained him that porn was just filmed prostitution and that women were being abused by men and so he told me he would not watch it again. He said “I promise”.

    I don’t know what to think about him… I have known him for almost a month now and he is really sweet but, he just tells me information sometimes that I just really don’t want to know. I already facetimed him and stuff so I am really sure that it’s not a catfish, but still, I just don’t know what to think about him. HELP!

    • How old is he ? If he’s just 15-19 don’t bother he’s just playing around and be thankful that he said everything to you that means he was serious on you just go with the flow and you must know the limitation but its up to you this was just my opinion

    • its not about age, I have talked with arround 10 korean guys and its always the same. 9 out of 10 want sexting. Yes they can be super sweet and seem to care about you, but not interesting in a relationship. You know him for a month and asked you to be her girlfriend sorry but can´t think anithing good…

    • Yeah, don’t even bother, those guys act sweet but just wait for the perfect moment to slip that topic, it depends on how you answer tho, I think yours were smart, so he can’t mislead him, but I suggest not meeting him. I texted a guy for like 4 months, and even then he asked for sexting out of nowhere ’cause he was TIRED, as he said, of acting nice. So yeah, always be careful with those pushy guys. They even make you feel bad about yourself if you don’t send them photos and so.

  7. Hi !.iam miki !. A filipina .. I was in teenage and you know I really want a Korean boyfriend and I really prepared to have it on future
    I would like to work in Korea as an English teacher in future and meet a Korean guy and your story rally inspire me !.
    I hope I can find my true love too like yours. Your love story is really cute and I really like it !. I hope … You and your Korean guy
    Have a good life together and a healthy life and family.

    Kimberly Tapar Salvatierra

    ~Miki Sukohara ..

  8. Hi, an asian girl currently with a korean bf.. my first bf ever. I met him thru online dating app and then two weeks later he went to meet me! i was just so shocked that it was actually happening! As i read your story, I could feel the same. Tho he lives four hours by plane from me which im relieved of, I found my true love and i didnt think it would be a korean guy at all :o Im just happy that we are together not for the culture but to get to know each other.

  9. I met this Korean guy from interpals like a year ago. At first we texted a lot, I was curious about him because he recently moved to my city for work, I have korean friends so I wanted to know if he was doing ok adapting to my city. Anyway, I always text him first, but when I stopped we didn’t talk for like a month. Then one day I text him about me getting a job and he was so happy and we started texting again. He never asked for anything R Rated so I was happy and relax when we arranged a meeting, I trusted him. We went for a coffee and for a movie. Everything was nice, until, 10 mins into the movie, he tried to touch me, first my arm, then hold my hand, at some point he even tried to give me a back massage… yeah.. HAHAHA it was the FIRST TIME we saw eachother!.. and he only did that because it was dark.. it freaked me out, so I told him to stop. Then he stop for a while but then he was trying to kiss me.. so weird and awkward.. I firmly told him I wasn’t that kind of girl, so he stopped completely. I was so freaked out that once the movie was over I left, he took me to my car even tho I didn’t want him to follow me.. I told him I had to be somewhere else when he asked me to have dinner with him. I left. And text him later on “You shouldn’t treat a girl like that on the first date.” And he said “oh, ok”. And we never texted again. I was kinda dissapointed.. because we were connecting just fine, but still I wouldn’t kiss or sleep with a guy on the first date.

  10. Hello. I’m Korean guy, and I’m 24 years old. I can speak english a little. but i have a reading skill by english. (It’s more than speak)
    i read any article. but korean guy is not same character. So you should ask directly to him.
    what do you like it? etc.

  11. I have been in a long distance relationship with a guy from Korea for 6 months. In July I am meeting him in Korea (after my exams) – I am 17 he is 18. We have always been close and he was always sweet and kind. However, in December, he found out that before I spoke to him I had short online relationships. It lasted like 2 weeks. He was extremely mad and even tried to break up with me. I said that its in the past and that I never speak to them, I only speak to him. He really means the world to me. Since that day he has always been distant and just stares at me when we Skype. He is almost like a rollercoaster, some days he is really really happy and exactly like the guy in the beginning. But other days he ignores my texts, doesn’t send hearts or kisses just ‘:)’. And I am the only person that seems to be invested in meeting him in Korea, for example, I booked a hotel for the first 3 nights and he asked about if he was booked as well, I said I didn’t have enough money for him because I paid for my flight which was expensive. I am currently saving money for Korea with a Saturday job and doing my last exams. He got kind of mad and distant because I didn’t book for him. I hear that Korean guys are people who take control and they are the ones that organise things and take the initiative to text and call. But my boyfriend is the opposite. He doesn’t plan and I have to text him all the time to make conversation. I also am someone who forgets a lot of things but I never forget important details like his birthday, when he wants me to call etc. But he always questions me about if I remember what I had written in a letter a month ago and I said I couldn’t remember. He said ‘it doesn’t matter, forget it’ and went to sleep. I bought him gifts for his birthday and he asked if I wanted anything from him, I asked for a letter in return but he hasn’t sent me anything. We wear couple bracelets but he takes his off most of the time. I don’t believe he is cheating. He is not that type of person, I would think he would break up with me first. But it just feels like I’m the one putting in all the effort and never gets recognition. I had written a list of pros and cons but the pros outweigh the cons. Its only recent he has started to behave like this. Please help me, I am so lost.

    • He is currently ignoring me. I have no idea why but he hasn’t replied to my texts in a day and he has done this before and not texted me for 6 days.

      • Hi I am a Koran guy. What a pity… dont get me wrong… I have to tell you straightly the point is he like you no more… those are common attitude of men who dont love sb at all… Just forget him and heal your broken heart… my friend… hope you read my reply.

  12. Hi everyone!! I’m a girl 19 years, slender, I do really love S.Korea dearly n’ I hope one day I’ll be there but can I get in touch with Korean people please help me I want to make foreign friends especial Koreans i know few words in Korea but I don’t know to write in hangul. but if they’re Korean people who get to read my message n’ want us be friends I can appreciate #welcome, thank u

  13. Forgetting him

    2 years ago I met this korean guy at school. I was 1st year in college, on the first day of school, I saw him on the hallway. I was really into kpop and kdrama so I got excited to see a korean in my school. I hoped and wished that he’d be in my class but much to my disappointment we have different course he’s a Marketing student and I’m a tourism student. But fortunately, he’s classmates with my high school friend. I asked my friend if he could get his number for me. My friend knows how obsessed I was with koreans so he helped me get his number. I didn’t contact him right away, I had to worked up my guts thanks to my courage finally kicked me and my friend, we started to text each other every day. I was really happy. I always see him in school, bump him on hallways but he doesn’t know what I look like so one day he asked if we could meet. I said yes we can. Wr met in the hallway for the first time I was really shy I didn’t know what to say so we just smile at each other that day but i was still happy. I started to get comfortable talking to him through text until he sent me a request on fb and we just chatted everyday until our first hangout with my friends. He was really nice he’s so my style. Until the second time we were okay well I thought we were okay, I thought things will work for us. But I was wrong It’s just me I just assumed. One fine day, I was riding my jeep going home I saw him holding hands with a girl they were crossing the street, I was really hurt because he told me he doesn’t have friends here because he just transferred here from cebu and either a girlfriend. I was really hurt I felt my heart broke my chest tight . i dont know why but I cried to sleep that night. He didnt know i saw him with the girl that day but i continued to chat with him and i didnt asked him about it either. For how many mmonths i still chat him we would see on the hallways and he would say hi to me but I always see him with that girl. I was really hurt I think I was jealous they were classmates but they seem rather close. I think they had a special relationship and I dont want it I start feeling sad and my heart would always feel like it shattered to million pieces when i saw him with her and I dont like it I dont like the feeling so I started to ignore him. He would chat me everyday and and sometimes even call me and talk to me at school but I already feel uncomfortable to talk to him knowing he’s talking with this girl. he eventually stopped talking to me too and started ignoring me. We didn’t hangout and talk for almost 6months last 2015 buut last October he suddenly messaged me on fb. I was really shocked cuz he rarely chat me first. I tried so hard to ignore his messages as I already moved on well, thats what I thought. I told myself that I’m okay talking to him now that I already accepted that we’re only just friends so I replied. We started chatting again everyday… Until he asked me out on some kind of date?? Yea smthng like that. He said he wanted to spend more time with me and create memories before he goes back to korea after his graduation. So to cut the story short, I agreed. it might be the last time I can be with him I need to be selfish just once you know. While we were having lunch he asked me why I started ignoring him and why I dont reply to his messages anymore. I wanted to tell him about the girl he’s always with but I cant bring myself to ask so I just said ‘nothing’ he tried asking multiple times as if he knows already that it’s because of ‘the girl’. Actually I wasnt sure if she is his girlfriend i just assumed because they were really close. Nevertheless I enjoyed the whole day. He’s really protective and gentleman maybe that’s why I fell for him but then he said this when we were driving back “You remind me of my ex gf but you’re like my little sister'” and it slapped right in the face. From friendzone to little-sisterzone real quick We re 5yrs apart btw. now, we still chat but i started ignoring him again. He’s graduating on May :((Turned out that he really did date that girl she is also18 but they just broke up last month now he is dating this new girl i think they were same age I really thought that he loved that girl but it turned out that he waa a playboy. I doubted why hes so nice to so many girls he was alwys around so many girls but still I like him even now I stll like him so much even tho i met this korean guy last month rightafterthe girl and him broke up. I wanted to give it a go so i started to chat this new korean guy so i can move on. He was so different from him everyday when we chat i start to compare them thw were really ddifferent. SW(new kr guy) said he likes me but wants to keep it a secret i dont know korean guys are really complicated i dont think i can handle to be in a serious relationship with one Im really fragile I cant handle a pain and heart break really well I get depressed easily :( i want to forget the playboy and I want to like the new boy but he’s way too reserved hes complicated If he likes me why would he want to keep it a secret if he loves me like he said why dont he show it. Is he embarassed of me because im not korean? Whats holding him back? If only he try and prove it i will forget the playboy and fall in love with him but everyday i see their difference……… :( What’s holding me back?

    • It is probably because u feel some kind of regret for never telling the first Korean guy your feelings and it just got stuck there. You probably should either forget him totally because it is really not good to compare people to each other
      (I have been guilty myself) you will be focusing on finding someone just like him and and that is very bad for the person and for yourself(unfair)because you will like the guy for resembling your past love (that is really toxic)…or you could start contacting that guy and tell him everything you felt so you finally get it out of you and move on.

      ((((This is only an opinion don’t take it too seriously.not responsible for consequences)))

        • Omg same here girl! We’ve been dating for more than 3 months now and I’m lucky and happy that he visited me here in the Philippines. Best 4 days of my life. Hope you stay strong together ❤❤❤

      • There is an app called Doongle, its not strictly a dating app,many people who already have partmers use it for various purposes, I have been usong ot for 3 years now and had great experoence!

    • omg its like looking in a mirror…are u my other me in another city? xD what i wanted to say is that i had the same situation and it hurts so badly, i just cant get over him and everytimes i meet a new guy i also started to compare them :(

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