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Loving Korean | Boyfriend in Korea 
HELLO everyone~
i am moroccan
so i met a korean guy online 1 month now, and we talk everyday we share music, pictures of activities that we do everyday or food or places, and he is 26 i am 18, one day he mentioned marriage in Morocco, he told me that he want to get marriage before he turn to 30 and he hope i will be in korea, i have never met him and i really really care about him like a lot even this short duration and i like him, he called me baby one time i have some quations and i want answers please :3
-how can i tell that i like him ? and it is normal to tell him that?
-is this age difference normal ?
-do you think that he thinking of marrigae with me ?
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THANK YOU :3
i think you should be careful before getting serious! You never met him before, and talking about marriage already is kind of strange. If I were you I should ask my parents about it~
I’ll try answer all your questions if I can (and as clearly as I can):
– Yes you can confess (고백 – confession, 고백하다 – to confess), I think a cute way to confess is by writing song lyrics… or maybe that’s just me, a simple one is “The Confession Song” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAv7MxPUclc) and a long one is SEENROOT’s 오빠야 (Sweet Heart).
– In my opinion, the age difference is normal… My parents’ age difference is 11 years… so, don’t fret.
– I do think he’s thinking about marrying you… but the thought of marriage at an early stage like that.. All I’m going to say is don’t rush into it.
*Also… a little note: You must be able to communicate in Korean well. Well enough to settle down with the Korean man you are talking about.
And thank you for posting this, this gives me more hope for interracial marriages and relationships! ^^
I think falling for someones person vs body and sexual nature is tough. And I think love can be found in so many places and if you found it with a Korean man online and love him then go for it. As long as you have seen his face and know he is who he says then go for it.
hi! i meet this korea guy when im in tourist in Jeju, hes 56 and widow and she hav 1 daughter, and im 36, last November 2016 in laundry,he is a supervisor, cause i hav financial problem, i do some part time job there, in a few weeks i call him ajussie but within 2 months i call him oppa, sometimes yeobo, i fall in love with him, and i fell he loves me too, we start dating, and to cut the story short i came back in Philippines, and the worst is im pregnant! before i go home my country, he know that im pregnant and he advise me to abort the baby, but my answer is NO way!
but i still love him, even do he dont like that im pregnant, i keep thinking him, theres a lot of night that i slept with my tears, i chat him in kakao talk, even one reply nothing! can u please give some advise to forget him😥
Hi,
I’m a 21 year old Filipina and I met this Korean guy, well, I never been to Korea but I was in love with Korean culture, I’m doing a lot of research and trying to learn everything about it, suddenly while I’m browsing, I saw an app to meet Korean people, out of curiosity, I installed it with the purpose of knowledge exchange and at least to have a Korean friend. I will not mention the app anymore. While browsing, I accidentally pushed the Hi button to a guy, too late I know he was notified already, I checked on his profile and he is good looking so that’s fine, I ignored it because I know he won’t even respond on that, when suddenly he sent me a message and he introduced himself so I’m a bit shocked, to make the story short, we exchange conversations turns out that he is also looking for someone to talk to to learn English. Were both not comfortable of using the app so we decided to continue the conversation using LINE. Conversation went well because he is at least can understand and communicate in english. I don’t know but it feels like we’ve known each other for so long though we’ve just met. Simple conversations turns out to be different, We are already exchanging sweet words, He was very sweet and he makes me feel those butterflies in my stomach. He was older than me and was on his 30s but I don’t even care because I also prefer to date older guys than the younger ones or within my age because they’re so immature. Days passed that I think I’ve already liked him, a lot though I know it won’t work because we don’t even see each other. After couple days we don’t have any communication at all, I was curious why, then after a week or 2 weeks maybe, He sent me a message saying he was busy and there are a lot of things he needs to get done. I understand because I know how Koreans are into when it comes to work ethics. I responded and we exchange conversations again and after couple of days to weeks I haven’t heard anything from him again. It’s just sad that you are in love with the person whom you can’t even see in person and he already affected your everyday life that there will be no days that I was not thinking about him hoping that someday, I will hear back from him again. I just want to know if how will you know if he’s still into you or not, I don’t have any idea how because maybe they’re different from an average Filipino guys. I’m still waiting for him and because I know that this not just only infatuation but I was hit by this guy already that I’m planning to go to Korea just to see him.
and he introduced himself so I’m a bit shocked, to make the story short, we exchange conversations turns out that he is also looking for someone to talk to to learn English. Were both not comfortable of using the app so we decided to continue the conversation using LINE. Conversation went well because he is at least can understand and communicate in english. I don’t know but it feels like we’ve known each other for so long though we’ve just met. Simple conversations turns out to be different, We are already exchanging sweet words, He was very sweet and he makes me feel those butterflies in my stomach. He was older than me and was on his 30s but I don’t even care because I also prefer to date older guys than the younger ones or within my age because they’re so immature. Days passed that I think I’ve already liked him, a lot though I know it won’t work because we don’t even see each other. After couple days we don’t have any communication at all, I was curious why, then after a week or 2 weeks maybe, He sent me a message saying he was busy and there are a lot of things he needs to get done. I understand because I know how Koreans are into when it comes to work ethics. I responded and we exchange conversations again and after couple of days to weeks I haven’t heard anything from him again. It’s just sad that you are in love with the person whom you can’t even see in person and he already affected your everyday life that there will be no days that I was not thinking about him hoping that someday, I will hear back from him again. I just want to know if how will you know if he’s still into you or not, I don’t have any idea how because maybe they’re different from an average Filipino guys. I’m still waiting for him and because I know that this not just only infatuation but I was hit by this guy already that I’m planning to go to Korea just to see him.
hi i”m amina from algeria , i have 24 years old , i have a korean friend how i met in a meeting APK , we used to talk everyday , he is an open minded , talkative , we share everything we did in our day , i’m muslim and he is non i wear scarf but this thing wasn’t a problem since we respect everyone’s culture, we never met before we just share photos , i start liking him , i”m scared to get separate if i told him , i don’t want to lose him ,
try to chat him of what he things about muslim girls and muslims culture
You don’t need to worry about that because most of the Korean guys are so sweet and if the guy your liking is a very nice open-minded person then it shouldn’t bother him because I’ve been through that too, but now I’ve been dating my bf for almost 5 years now.
Hello!
So, I’ve been talking with this Korean guy via Kakao Talk almost for 7 months now. I am 21 and he is 23. We text every day and I mean every day. He’s a very kind man and he’s always checking on me. He asks if I had dinner, if I had a good day, if I slept enough, etc. We also have a lot in common and sometimes the best part of day is talking to him. He’s always there for me when my day has been awful, telling me that he’s on my side and making me laugh. We’ve exchanged photos of our days and the things we are doing. He’s always really respectful and never asks anything weird of me. We’ve never heard each others voices because he is worried about his English which, I find super cute. I’m hesitant to say that I have feelings for him because A) I don’t know how he feels and B) He lives in Korea and I’m in the United States. I am taking a month long trip to Seoul in Feb. and we will meet for the first time then. We’ve counting down the days together. I plan on going to grad school in Korea so, I believe that if there is something it could work.
If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it!
Thanks!!
-Kayla
UPDATE: He does like me lol He confessed to me :)
Hello Everyone!
I am a 42 year old american woman who met a Korean man on a language exchange website in August 2015. He is a doctor who is ten years younger than me. Wonderful man and we have talked,texted and emailed each other everyday for almost three years now. He has always expressed an interest in practicing medicine in America but it has increased in the last few months. We met physically for the first time in May when I traveled to Korea. He stayed with me and we traveled Seoul and the surrounding areas. It was an amazing and beautiful trip that culminated in our first kiss. Very exciting time for someone who hasn’t dated in 20 years. I am a single mother of a 20 year old daughter! Shortly after my return home he traveled from Seoul to stay with me and my family. It must have been so overwhelming for him to be around so many people. He insisted on paying for my trip to New York with him before he left. A few months later he came back for a second time to experience Halloween and other American cultural things. Since our first physical meeting he has showered me with many expensive gifts. I tell him that his friendship is enough and I do not need expensive gifts. He works hard for his money so he should keep it for himself. He always says you deserve it and keeps doing it. I appreciate it so much but I am not used to being spoiled like this. The down side here is he doesn’t like to talk about anything personal so no relationship talk or confessions ever. He only says he rejects blind dates often because he wants to study and come to America. Can these be considered gifts of affections beyond the physical affections he expresses when we are together or are they just kind gestures of friendship that are customary because of my age or cultural differences? I am so confused that my ability to confess my feelings are hindered out of fear of rejection. I would appreciate any thoughts or kind words of encouragement!
you need to study the culture. This behaviour only happens with the person they want to be with romantically.
Thank you so much. I am learning and preparing for my second trip to Korea in November. He has been to America three times since May of 2017. I am slowly learning so any suggestions would be appreciated!
안녕하세요!
I will share my bitter sweet love story with this guy ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
Our love story idk if it will make you cry or not but it all happened so fast but don’t judge, you know the feeling of when you meet someone you just felt like you know each other for ages now ? It happened between us, We built a strong connection in this short span of time we opend up to each other and share the same values. He’s persistent even though I don’t like him really at first and doubted him a lot since its crazy he confessed so early and I said if he just playing with me, if he’s drunk ㅋㅋㅋㅋ And if he’s just faking acount I thought all about it. I asked him to not flirt with me like any other guys that just wants something and just playing. Chatting girls. He said he is serious and not like them (other korean guys) that is flirting. He said he’s serious and angry ㅋㅋㅋㅋ He wants to see my picture that’s why I doubted him really. I said to send his picture first then he send a lot of his pictures. Then I thought what if he’s using someone’s picture ? I thought all of it if he’s really true and serious. I said why you confessed so early he said that I’m his ideal type and he really likes me. I thought a lot of it and doubted him. I just said I want to be just friends. Then he said sorry to me that he confessed so fast but he said to me he’s not drunk and don’t regret confessing to me. He’s embarrassed because he confessed to me so fast. He said he will come at me slowly and just be friends if that’s what I want. Then we become just friends and got to know each other a lot. I’m surprised we share same opinions and value. I started to fall for him when I knew this person is real to me. No guy courting a girl will say that he’s done sex before and will risk losing the girl right ? He told me all of it and said I am not the man you thought I were, now you will hate me. I said no, I actually appreciated him more since what if we get together ever and I didn’t know about that right ? He says that he wants me to love him back but he don’t force it. I ask him several times, how on earth is he possible he likes me I really didn’t believe him. We really got along and get to know each other when were still just friends. In one time I realized he’s a real person with me. I also opend up to him too. I warned him all of my masty personalities and make him hate me but nah he’s too persistent. I sent my picture with out filter without all the glamour. I said I am ugly he said that I am not. We return each other’s selca. By the way I may look korean or japanese but I am of asian descent so here goes, I said to him why he fall in love with me. I made him know truelly and fully about me that I want him to hate me but he just falls in love with me. Well I don’t want him to fall for me just because I am his ideal. He learnt all of my truw nature he still likes me. I also learnt about this person he really is true person we become bestfriends. We open up a lot and comfortable opening up any topics we felt comfortable in each other and I staryed falling for him. In his sincerity that’s why I fall in love with this guy. He proved that he’s serious even asking me until late at night and I said to him to sleep but he said if Do i really want him to sleep in his strangth of wanting to talk to me. He made a lot of effort to just prove himself to me. He always sends me his day and updates also his current selcas and I also update him. When he’s become quiet I confessed that I liked him. He said he’s flying because I said that I am starting to like him. Since our feelings were mutual I already answered him and we became couple. We video call always before he go to his teaching, he’s teakwondo teacher for children and were only 1 yr apart. We also during the night until we sleep ㅋㅋㅋㅋ Now we became couple were really happy and just enjoy each others company. I became more overprotective when I became his gf and doubts him more, I doubted him because of him not having kakaotalk why he only has line and wechat. All koreans use kakaotalk. Well we become negative of our relationship because we hurt each other in a way of he thinks I don’t trust him while he’s opened his heart to me a lot all of his truth. We also have many barriers. We thought that were better off as friends, our break up story is painful we both agreed since He will go to korean army military service this April until December 2019. I said I’ll trust him amd wait for him but he said I can’t because he don’t want me to get hurt in the end and for him not to get hurt too. We are both scared what our relationship might go in the future in we might hurt each other in the future so we just broke up and just stayed as bestfriends. We are both crying but were both helpless he don’t want to hurt me amd I also don’t want to hurt him. We just ordinary close friends to this day we still contact and he will still contact me in his vacation in the army. Well we just said if were stillmeant to be in the future we’ll just see. He said that I am a good person amd I deserve a good man. Then I realized this person really loves me. The END ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ Btw we met in HelloTalk so it means we don’t have any intention of dating there we both use the app to study foreign language. He’s 20 years old I am 19. I want to tell the story more when became couple but its so cheesy haha so yea then look what happened in the end ㅋㅋㅋㅋ I am from PH. Well were just friends until this day. We will be boyfriend girlfriend this valentines day ㅋㅋㅋㅋ We just joke and kiddimg around these days since we are good as bestfriends that being lovers without assurance that we may both end up hurting each other. He still become my friend even though I cannot became his girl he wants me to be by his side and get closer even just friends ㅠㅠ
Hi,I’m from India.
My story of meeting Kimchi man is through a social networking site. Now we talk through Line app due to the fact that he works as navigation officer and the strength of that app is quite weak. We’re talking for 3 months now. We talk few times every day and it’s quite casual chat. His replies are short and brief. I just wanted to be his friend but ended up falling for him. He told me that he dated previously but never been to a serious relationship. I never confessed my feelings to him and I don’t know what he feels..’cause his replies are always short…But I really wanna him to like me back but not by force ofcourse…I’m confused what should I do….
Maybe you should ask him out to do something, or play a fun game with him where you ask each other questions (not yes and no questions) and then you’ll be closer, flirting will also help and hopefully lead to a confession. Asking something like “do you like anyone right now?” is good for moving forward. Hope I helped!
Hi!
So I’m a Filipino currently studying in the Philippines. I’m actually in my last year of academics in college and am currently getting ready to leave for my internship. I started seeing this Korean guy that I’ve never seen before and I kind of noticed that I already saw him at a school party. After that party, I kind of started seeing him along school and every time I see him I just become shy and felt like running away. One day, I got out of my classroom and saw him by the drinking fountain, we only stared at each other even though I wanted to smile, but I couldn’t, I ended up going to the classroom again. Once the class was over, I was heading to the library when I saw him again and he smiled at me. A couple of weeks later, one of my girl friends introduced me to this other Korean guy (let’s call him A) whom I ended becoming friends with and I found out he’s friends with the Korea guy (let’s call him B haha) that I liked. He introduced me to him and so I added him on FB. I also started saying hi to him at school and at that time I also started chatting him. One night I was chatting with A and he said “hey I’m with B, you should chat him now and ask how he is and just make conversation”. So I did. At that time, B asked if I have a boyfriend, A answered that I don’t. So after that the conversation just continued, we would chat at least maybe once or twice a day.
But here’s the thing, whenever we’re in the same room, we can’t seem to talk to each other, we did before at the library, we talked and I noticed he became nervous and I thought it was kind of cute. After that, we would just only be saying hi to each other at school. Once I asked him if he wanted to go to lunch and he said he wasn’t free because during that time it was our final exams and the projects just kept coming in so I understood that. When the semester was almost over, we kept chatting each other every night and that I don’t get. Why only every night? He always asks me how I am and what I was doing and once he sent a pic of what he was doing, studying hahaha. To be honest, I don’t really know what all of this means, does he just wants to be friends, is he just trying to get to know me better or does he wants something more than friends? Right now, I’m just a bit confused and I’m just trying to go with the flow of everything. What should I do?
I met a korean guy in korean friends apps and he gave me his kakaotalk id just to chat me more. It just happened last October 30, 2018. He said he likes me from the first time he saw my pictures he had a feeling that I’m the right match for him that’s why he gave me his kakaotalk id immediately. He talked about his past relationship in filipino woman two years ago. He said it hurts because he really loved that girl to the point that he planned to marry her. But sadly the girl already has a husband and kid. It took one year before he moved on and now trying a risk again for the second time. He likes foreign girlfriend having loving and kind personalities. From that day until now we keep talking about what we do or did everyday. Sending each other photos and he even send his childhood photo. He will text me if he’s going to his office even the time he went home. Before going to the subway he will call me and talk about what he did during that day to their office. I don’t believed in love at first sight on picture. He said he really likes my personalities above all. He booked a ticket going here in philippines. He will use his weekend off just to met me in person and spending more time with me. But he doesn’t want me to inform my family about our status. I don’t now if he is serious about having me as his girlfriend or a perfect woman for his future. Is he really serious about his feelings about me? I just can’t believe it until now that it’s possible to a guy to love someone he never see or met in person in a shortime period.
Hi, I am dating a korean right now . I was wondering if he was serious with me. Because he said he didn’t have phone. And he texted me up when he was not busy using his old laptop. I totally understand that he was so busy and don’t have time to text me up since he don’t have a phone. Sometimes I wait for up to five days until he texted me back… And he was coming to my country this october just to meet me. But I’m still curious about this guy since this guy is five years older than me. And he even said that he saw his future with me and he said he want to marry me. I told him that I am a muslim and if he want to marry me he need to convert then he reply me he told about me to his mom and he said he will do anything to be my husband….. Do you think he was serious with me?
Im curious how things are going with you ??
so here.. Let’s just say my name is Peppa. Okay so lemme start.
Since I was in 6th grade, I started learning Korean since I was a die hard KPOP fan BEFORE. So now, I can speak korean but I’m not that fluent. I am a Filipina and I’m 17 years old now. I just met this Korean guy last last week through an online language exchange app. We’ve been messaging each other through facebook messenger for like two weeks already and there would be no day that we wont have conversation.
On my birthday last week, he sent me a very long message wishing me a happy birthday, he’s thankful because he met me, and that i am important to him. He said he wants to spend my birthday with him and at the end of the message he said “I love you” and i really dont know how I should take that, if that was an i love you as a friend or more than a friend.
He told me that I was important to him and he respects me because I’m a nice and kind person. Sometimes he would tell me he misses me and also send cute heart stickers.
We exchange messages to each other everyday but we really dont have much things to talk about. We talk everyday but we only ask each other “What are you doing?” “How are you?” or “Good Morning” then in the afternoon we would ask each other that again and also at night.
We do message each other everyday but the thing is, he replies late(mostly) like he would message me first then I would reply to him but i have to wait for his reply for 10mins or 1hour and the longest would be like 6hours.
There was one time, that day messaged me in the morning a good morning and how are you only but after that he didnt reply. i waited and waited and waited and finally he messaged me and he said he was sorry we couldnt talk properly that day he said he was sorry and that he was a jerk.
Also… He’s activity status would be like if he replies to my message, he would be online then offline again then online then off. I dont know if he’s ‘very busy because actually he’s in Australia right now and he’ll be back in Korea next week’ or is it just he’s not interested in me.
I think I already like him because whenever he replies late or not message me first, I would feeeeeeeeel veeerry sad and i would really be in a bad mood like he’s literally the one that would make my day.
sorry if my story was too long…. please help meee :(( im really confused if he’s into me or ugh…:(
thank you
I think u should stop chatting with him..never!!
I met my bf through the kkt app well I’m not kpop fan or anything. I was bored so tried to see how does it work. I joined some group chat and made so many good friends. That’s where I met my bf he is Korean .but I didn’t care nor I talked with him but he came to talk with me and at first we talked like good friends .I never wanted to be in relationship so I didn’t have that kind of feeling for him but after a few months like 5 months he said he likes me and I’m really priceless for him . I was a like what !! But I said I don’t want to be in any relationship and I don’t trust long distance relationship and other things I don’t want be hurt or break other heart but he was like I won’t break your heart I will do my best for you. I thought a lot then I accepted him . We were good we never fought . He was always kind to me . And I also tried to understand him. He used to say I’m sorry because of my work I never get time to talk but I was like that’s okay just take care of yourself . I always gave first priority to him never get angry slowly I found that I truly loves him so I was working hard for us even we are far I tried to be with him soon it just I don’t want that someone give another name to my love so I never asked anything to him whenever he asked I said that’s fine when we meet we can give anything to eachother for now just stay my side.we have been dating like 1 and half year . But I wanted to know his feeling for me just I just asked him how you feel about me just that one question changed everything . He didn’t said how he feel he just said I won’t be with someone cause they are attractive so don’t worry about that … I wanted to know that how he feels about me but he was making mess so I aksed I just want to know your feeling then he said to be Frank we can’t able to see eachother so what you think about it . At that time i felt like someone stabbed my heart into pieces … I loved him with my heart I never ever tried to chested on him . The distance never affected me I had been in patients . But when he said that I was broken from inside … I recently lost my mother and his love was there when I was sad but now I lost another … I love him but I don’t wanted to force him to be with him so I said if it’s hard for you then you can end this I’m ok so he said whenever I say I’m ok it’s give him depress thinking the can’t able to do anything for me so he need time to think again over it. I know he doesn’t want this relationship but still making me guilty so I said take your time . I respect your decision but he didn’t replied on Christmas I thought maybe no one wished him cause he is not close with anyone so I told my few friends to wish him and I also wished him next day he just replied that wish . I’m broken but I can’t show my emotional to anyone so out I’m acting like I’m ok but inside I cried everyday … I’m still confused if he gonna reply me his final ans or not …. We ended or what it makes me so confused but still I pray for him and his health. Even we met on online but my feeling for him is true and I loved him , still loves him and will love him . I just want to know if he ever loved me with heart then I’ll feel satisfies I will be sad if he didn’t but won’t say him bad … When I see his happiness I will be happy for that