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As a British girl myself I just think that you should get every feeling you have out in the open. Then at least you’ll know the truth and if she really doesn’t love you, you’ll be able to move on. Right now, having hope of reconciliation or wonder of how she really feels is keeping you from making the best decision so I suggest contacting her If you can and asking her straight ‘what’s going on, how do you feel about me seriously, do you feel the same way yes/no, do you just want to be friends, what is your decision?’ if she can’t give you a straight and final answer then I don’t think you should hang onto anything anymore. It’s so hard to let go of someone you really love I know, but if they aren’t giving back the same level of attention and love then they’re only keeping you from finding someone who is willing to return your feelings properly. x
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Hello! I’m a Korean guy dating a British girl.
I’m happy to know this site and feel thankful about great advice to read.
But as you can see, there not many story from Korean man.
Here is my story. kind of long and serious. :(I had been dating with her for 5 months
I saw her smile in music live show, it was the best goddamn fine smile
I have ever seen in my entire life in this world.
So I talked to her.
She seemed like really kind, nice, well-educated, and smart person.
I was so interested in her, I wanted to meet her again.
Then luckily i could meet her next day for dinner.
We walked the street holding hands to find something to eat.
I was so happy to be like that but dinner was so so because she got sick from
hungover of soju+beer+makkori from the day we met.
Anyways, before we go back home at the subway gate.
I hugged her and tried to kiss her on her chicks, but suddenly she kissed on my lips little bit with cute smile. Then we went back each other’s home.I found some possibility to be dating with her from the kiss.
So, I sent some messages like “want to hang out” before weekends again.
But she said she wants to be friends not for a dating
I said no problem no pressure, she said she needs to be more sensible because it was just 4 weeks in Korea from arrival. I understood and tried to understand that feeling.Then we had some dinner, drink, and amazing talk. We really had a fun,
Next day, accidentally we went double dates with other couple.
We had really great time and did dating for 2 weeks more.
Then suddenly, she wanted to stop and have time to herself
even though we had really fun.
I was so nervous and sad but enduredAfter a week, she wanted to meet me again. So, we started dating again
She was even more kind than before making me foods, introducing me her friends she met in Korea, going festivals. She seemed really likes me.
I told her I love her(I know it was too soon to say but I felt strongly)
So I asked her what are we? then she said we are together
She said she really really likes me but not boyfriend.
I felt kind of crapWe had dating 3 weeks more,
then she suddenly wanted to cancel our trip to Seoul.
I became crazy because she was acting like my girlfriend but she said not.
Also She apologized her behavior acting like my girlfriend.
I had no idea what to do.After that, we didn’t meet each other some time, and we meet some time,
but we even more like each other time went by.
(Actually, I have loved her)We had many arguments about that problems,
She became really lovely to me and sometimes she didn’t give a damn about me.
because of her not understandable behavior + my stress from work, I became crazy and wanted to obsess her making her suffocating (Not real suffocating)
and giving her pressure.When we didn’t meet for 3 weeks
after she said she wants to be just friends after my crazy behavior.
I decided to move Seoul to find myself and to find my inspiration for my life.
(Now I live in South because of my job, she is too)
And met her to say good bye.
She cried because she thought it’s because of her.
I told her it’s because of company
(but actually it was because of her. Just I didn’t want her to feel any guilty feeling)
She wanted to meet me more before I leave the city l live now.So we had really really really awesome time together again it was the best,
She couldn’t stop hug me and kiss me when she met me.
It was so lovely.I was really wondering what is this
Maybe she changed her mind?
So I asked her what’s in her mind because I never changed my love for her
The answer was “I also never changed my mind, I never loved you. eventually, I will leave Korea and stay in England.”I asked her again, why is that? what happened before?
Then she said she was really hurt by ex-boyfriend. after him, she doesn’t want a boyfriend. But she never gave me any chance even though I can give her everything all I have with all my heart.I felt so sick of her answers. So I said “I don’t want to have my birthday with you and Chusok trip as well because I am nothing for you. this is meaningless.”
We didn’t have any solution for that. later she was crying
She just really really likes me and want dating with me just like this.
And she explained about her behavior at that time.
When she wants to have space from me, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t like me. she never met other guy in Korea when she is dating with me or we are just friends.
I said ok, let’s have the time we planned.Then, she made my best birthday ever, and had awesome summer holidays together. and then one week later she wants to have space again after made me the happiest time. I really really missed her but she didn’t even call or message me also stopped to skype usually when she came back from work or outside
saying “Home! Skype?” So, I complained about it, even though she wants to have space from me, I couldn’t handle it or couldn’t do anything when I really miss her.
But she is now in “I don’t give a damn” mode.We planned to go camping this weekends. but I’m worried about that she is becoming that mode again after making me extremely happy.
It seems like she made her barrier and comes out when she feels lonely.
after she satisfied her emotion, she ran away to the inside of barrier controlling herself not to love me and never let me come along when I feel strongly miss her.I will move to Seoul in September. It’s gonna be harder to meet her than now because of distance. I don’t understand even though we don’t have much time, how she is so cool about it and wanna have space.
Now I feel I’m not sure about Chusok trip with herI don’t know what is gonna be left between us after Chusok.
Maybe we will be naturally apart from each other
and then, she will say she was right that it’s not gonna work.
but I don’t want to make it like she was right
I want to approve she is wrong
if I’m not going to go Chusok trip and make her sad.
It’s not from her it’s from me.But I really love her with all my heart.
Waiting her lovely message, voice, warm chest, soft lips and the best smile.
thinking about her every days, hours, seconds, and even in asleep
hoping happy futures with her all the time.
I am a person like never giving up! but I feel i’m losing slowly
because she never changes her mind and never gives me a chance to become
her goddamn best boyfriend ever.
She just doesn’t open her mind and think everything cannot be changed.
And I think she still doesn’t love me.She will be gone next March.
And I am still doing stupid things again and again being sad and missing her.
It is hope torturing.
I don’t know what to do.-
Hello,
Thank you for sharing your story. Actually, we do get messages from Korean guys but it’s always e-mail because they are too shy to write it publicly. I hope they can be more brave and speak up, everything is anonymous here anyway :)
I’m sorry you are going through this difficult situation.
I think if I moved to a foreign country I would also be a bit worried about dating a guy I’ve just met. I was lucky that Kimchi Man came to my country so I was more comfortable.
But for you, this has been going on for 5 months. I think that is too long. She should have gotten used to being in Korea right now. And no matter what worry she has, she is not being considerate of your emotions. That is cruel.
I can see you love her a lot. You should decide whatever makes you happy about Chusok. But it is just my opinion that she will not change.
If something is not clear, please ask me to explain :)
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Hello^^
I have a huge crush on my Korean classmate. I can speak basic Korean and read hangul which makes him feel more comfortable talking to me. He’s so shy whenever he talks to me but not with others. Whenever we talk to each other, his two Korean friends will look at us and give this sneaky/cheeky smile. They even tease me by calling my crush’s name to see if I’d turn and look. When I did turn and look, they quickly looked away and gave the sneaky smile. My friends say he might actually like me back but he’s too shy. I really want to get closer to him and get to know him better. I want to approach him and talk more with him but I’m also quite a shy person and scared of how his friends will react. Honestly, I don’t know how I can get closer to him without feeling awkward. What should I do? :(-
You should approach him and feel awkward. Not everyone is confident and not only confident people get in relationships. If he really is as shy as you say he will understand.
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Hi,
I am recently divorced. Both of the significant relationships I have had left me hurt and heart broken. Both of them were within my own race. I am open to dating outside of my race. I just have some questions. Are Korean guys going to be turned off by my hidden tattoo? Are Korean guys going to approach me or do I need to approach them? Are Korean guys attracted to intellect? I am a plant biology major. Thanks for the imput.-
Some are, some are not. Some are, some are not. Some are, some are not.
Haha, sorry for the idiotic answer but it’s true.
My Korean boyfriend doesn’t like tattoos but it wouldn’t be a deciding factor in a relationship. But Korean guys range from thinking it’s not appropriate for a woman to thinking it’s cool.
He would have never approach me nor Korean woman first. He’s painfully shy. But his best friend is very outgoing and picks up women easily (he’s getting married soon so that’s over with though).
I’m a math major so… :) But yeah, I’m sure there are Korean guys who want their wives stupid and obedient.
There’s 25 million men in Korea. I assure you, you can find anything there.
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Is it normal for a Korean guy to send you hearts on chat/text? Is it a common friendly gesture or is it something else? And he was teaching me korean words, and we came across the words “i love you and sorry” and when he asked me to send him a voice record of me saying “I love you and sorry” in korean, right after that, he send me a blushing emoticon. o_o I’m so confused, then again, I’m always confused and delusional.
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Korean guys are a lot more cutesy in their text messages than European guys. But it could also mean he likes you, it all depends on his personality so without knowing more about him I can’t really tell.
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Do Korean guys feel uncomfortable dating younger girls, I’m talking at least 4 years difference? And, I know this is awkward, but do they kiss like…well you know, like are they interested in doing it or making out, or are they simply to shy and innocent with foreigners?
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Most men in all countries in the world are dating women younger than them.
I’ve only kissed one Korean guy and he’s been very shy, it was his first kiss ever and he started shaking with nerves but he seemed very interested :)
Other Korean guys are not going to be like that.
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