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My Korean boyfriend was born and raised in South Korea and I was born and raised in Europe. As I tried to prepare for the difficult journey ahead – with almost 6,000 miles (around 10 000 km) of distance between our countries and expecting culture clashes, misunderstandings and language barriers – I turned to guidance online by people who had already gone through what still lay ahead for me. To my great surprise, information was either scarce or worryingly negative. Still, we didn’t even consider giving up and meeting each other in person became the most important thing in our lives.And then…

I met my Korean boyfriend

dating Korean guys love South Korean manThat night everything that could have gone wrong went wrong. My carefully perfected plan was ruined. After taking 6 hours to get there it turned out the place where I wanted to get the food had been closed for a year, the bus didn’t show up, I spent all the money on a cab fare and, on the day when it was crucial I look my best, I looked exhausted and defeated.

This late at night the airport was in semi-darkness and looked deserted. The time seemed to have both slowed down and sped up. I wanted it to pass, and yet, I wasn’t ready. Slowly, a few people gathered. Among them I saw a few black-haired heads. Asians! That was a good sign.

Finally, the gates opened and people started pouring out. And then… I saw him! I had no trouble recognizing him. After all, I haven’t done much else than stare at his photos for the last few months. He was weaving among people, and every few seconds, I would lose sight of him. He grabbed his suitcase and headed… straight towards me!

Yesterday we were thousands of kilometers apart. Now we were so close we could have touched each other. Could have, had it not been for a huge glass pane dividing the arrivals from people ready to greet them. I motioned towards the doors. Before I knew what had happened I was awkwardly hugging him. I had played this hug in my head hundreds of times. Somehow in my mind I always did it much more gracefully. But then again in my mind he didn’t have that huge backpack on.

Dazed, we both made it out, murmuring, trying to make a conversation, our hearts pounding. In the meantime the missing bus magically appeared and we settled in the seats next to each other.

For the first time I looked at him. Really looked at him. It was my boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend. My Korean boyfriend who I was seeing in person for the first time in my life. My eyes slid from his face along his arms. Muscular arms. Down to his hands resting in his lap. There was that watch, the silver watch I would recognize in an instant because it was on every photo of him I have seen. And his hands were just as manly and beautiful as in the photos.

“Is this what you want?”

I looked up to see him smiling at me. My eyes went down again to his hand but this time it wasn’t resting in his lap. It was outstreched, palm-upward, ready for me to hold it. Big smile settled in on my face as our hands wrapped around each other.

Actually, nothing had gone wrong that night.

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We’ve been through a lot, both together and now apart, but not for a moment did either of us regret it.

If you have a Korean guy you like, or if you are already in a relationship with one, we are happy to have been able to share our experiences and tell you what we have learned, but we would also love to hear any tips that you might have .

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  1. Forgetting him

    2 years ago I met this korean guy at school. I was 1st year in college, on the first day of school, I saw him on the hallway. I was really into kpop and kdrama so I got excited to see a korean in my school. I hoped and wished that he’d be in my class but much to my disappointment we have different course he’s a Marketing student and I’m a tourism student. But fortunately, he’s classmates with my high school friend. I asked my friend if he could get his number for me. My friend knows how obsessed I was with koreans so he helped me get his number. I didn’t contact him right away, I had to worked up my guts thanks to my courage finally kicked me and my friend, we started to text each other every day. I was really happy. I always see him in school, bump him on hallways but he doesn’t know what I look like so one day he asked if we could meet. I said yes we can. Wr met in the hallway for the first time I was really shy I didn’t know what to say so we just smile at each other that day but i was still happy. I started to get comfortable talking to him through text until he sent me a request on fb and we just chatted everyday until our first hangout with my friends. He was really nice he’s so my style. Until the second time we were okay well I thought we were okay, I thought things will work for us. But I was wrong It’s just me I just assumed. One fine day, I was riding my jeep going home I saw him holding hands with a girl they were crossing the street, I was really hurt because he told me he doesn’t have friends here because he just transferred here from cebu and either a girlfriend. I was really hurt I felt my heart broke my chest tight . i dont know why but I cried to sleep that night. He didnt know i saw him with the girl that day but i continued to chat with him and i didnt asked him about it either. For how many mmonths i still chat him we would see on the hallways and he would say hi to me but I always see him with that girl. I was really hurt I think I was jealous they were classmates but they seem rather close. I think they had a special relationship and I dont want it I start feeling sad and my heart would always feel like it shattered to million pieces when i saw him with her and I dont like it I dont like the feeling so I started to ignore him. He would chat me everyday and and sometimes even call me and talk to me at school but I already feel uncomfortable to talk to him knowing he’s talking with this girl. he eventually stopped talking to me too and started ignoring me. We didn’t hangout and talk for almost 6months last 2015 buut last October he suddenly messaged me on fb. I was really shocked cuz he rarely chat me first. I tried so hard to ignore his messages as I already moved on well, thats what I thought. I told myself that I’m okay talking to him now that I already accepted that we’re only just friends so I replied. We started chatting again everyday… Until he asked me out on some kind of date?? Yea smthng like that. He said he wanted to spend more time with me and create memories before he goes back to korea after his graduation. So to cut the story short, I agreed. it might be the last time I can be with him I need to be selfish just once you know. While we were having lunch he asked me why I started ignoring him and why I dont reply to his messages anymore. I wanted to tell him about the girl he’s always with but I cant bring myself to ask so I just said ‘nothing’ he tried asking multiple times as if he knows already that it’s because of ‘the girl’. Actually I wasnt sure if she is his girlfriend i just assumed because they were really close. Nevertheless I enjoyed the whole day. He’s really protective and gentleman maybe that’s why I fell for him but then he said this when we were driving back “You remind me of my ex gf but you’re like my little sister'” and it slapped right in the face. From friendzone to little-sisterzone real quick We re 5yrs apart btw. now, we still chat but i started ignoring him again. He’s graduating on May :((Turned out that he really did date that girl she is also18 but they just broke up last month now he is dating this new girl i think they were same age I really thought that he loved that girl but it turned out that he waa a playboy. I doubted why hes so nice to so many girls he was alwys around so many girls but still I like him even now I stll like him so much even tho i met this korean guy last month rightafterthe girl and him broke up. I wanted to give it a go so i started to chat this new korean guy so i can move on. He was so different from him everyday when we chat i start to compare them thw were really ddifferent. SW(new kr guy) said he likes me but wants to keep it a secret i dont know korean guys are really complicated i dont think i can handle to be in a serious relationship with one Im really fragile I cant handle a pain and heart break really well I get depressed easily :( i want to forget the playboy and I want to like the new boy but he’s way too reserved hes complicated If he likes me why would he want to keep it a secret if he loves me like he said why dont he show it. Is he embarassed of me because im not korean? Whats holding him back? If only he try and prove it i will forget the playboy and fall in love with him but everyday i see their difference……… :( What’s holding me back?

    • It is probably because u feel some kind of regret for never telling the first Korean guy your feelings and it just got stuck there. You probably should either forget him totally because it is really not good to compare people to each other
      (I have been guilty myself) you will be focusing on finding someone just like him and and that is very bad for the person and for yourself(unfair)because you will like the guy for resembling your past love (that is really toxic)…or you could start contacting that guy and tell him everything you felt so you finally get it out of you and move on.

      ((((This is only an opinion don’t take it too seriously.not responsible for consequences)))

        • Omg same here girl! We’ve been dating for more than 3 months now and I’m lucky and happy that he visited me here in the Philippines. Best 4 days of my life. Hope you stay strong together ❤❤❤

      • There is an app called Doongle, its not strictly a dating app,many people who already have partmers use it for various purposes, I have been usong ot for 3 years now and had great experoence!

  2. Hi! I really love how your relationship turned out with your Korean Boyfriend. I can relate to your experience because I have Korean Boyfriend too and I will meet him for the first time this August when I go to Seoul for tour. We really love each other and he said he wants to propose to me. His parents know about me and my parents also know about us. I promised to myself that I will never ever love again but he changed my perspective. We really have the same qualities, same mind, before he says what he thinks I already said it and we have same favorite foods, same humor, even our horoscopes matches well. I never feel this kind of strong feeling in my life. I think he’s the one and when he asks me to marry him. I will definitely say yes. I just want to say that I really love my Korean Boyfriend. I never knew that I will get my Ideal type of guy. While I’m typing this I really want to cry badly because of happiness.

  3. It’s difficult to meet any Korean men where I live…so I’ve started using dating apps (bare with me I know they don’t work) but is there a different way I should approach this guy? I’ve messaged him but he won’t respond maybe it’s because he’s shy??

  4. I have a korean boyfriend. He is 28yrs old in korean age. So he’ s 27 years old and I am 21. 6Years Gap We.’ve known each other from a korean dating app. At first, i just thought that we could only be friends but after a few days he admitted that she likes me and he wants me to be her girlfriend.. its just a week when I accEpted his proposal. I am Very Nervous when i did it. After another days, He said that he misses me very much that he wanted to see me in personal. He said that he wants to go here in philippines this june. But if we cannot meet this june he will not going to come here. I am very excited to meet him but i am nervous and to see him . Although weve seen each other once in a video call and sent photos of ourselves im still afraid about his reaction when he meets me.
    Now, i still didnt tell him whether he can go now or. Not.

    Please help.me what should i do?

    • Meet him.. i have korean guy friends i met online and also met them in personal they are all gentleman and respects lady. Im from philippines also 😊

  5. hi evrybody am looking for a korean guys so help me plz to found any site web to chating with korean guys and thnx

  6. I have this weird dream almost everyday, that when I go to visit Korea, which is only in 2 more years 1121 days!, i’ll meet the boy of my dreams and lucky for both if us I plan on living there in the future so we might have a good chance. the only problem is I’m not very good at Korean you see. So does anyone know any apps, books or websites to help me become decently fluent?

  7. I think I like this boy in my school but idk.
    The problem is I’m planning on going to Korea next year and staying there but what will happen to us, why am I even saying us when we’re not together? lol
    It’s just that everything he does is perfect even today when I was dying! He asked me “Do you like my gloves?” and I know that sounds like a stupid reasons to make you happy, I’ve been told by my friends. But him just talking to me makes my heart jump, his smile when he heard me answer almost made me faint and his voice is like my kryptonite and his face is as soft as a pillow his hair reminds me of clouds.
    Ugh! what do I do?

    • I can easily answer your question with a yes :D there is no way you can say such nice things about someone and feel so happy over him asking if you like his freaking gloves and tell me it’s not love. you just can’t!

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