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  1. HELLO everyone~
    i am moroccan
    so i met a korean guy online 1 month now, and we talk everyday we share music, pictures of activities that we do everyday or food or places, and he is 26 i am 18, one day he mentioned marriage in Morocco, he told me that he want to get marriage before he turn to 30 and he hope i will be in korea, i have never met him and i really really care about him like a lot even this short duration and i like him, he called me baby one time i have some quations and i want answers please :3
    -how can i tell that i like him ? and it is normal to tell him that?
    -is this age difference normal ?
    -do you think that he thinking of marrigae with me ?
    ~
    THANK YOU :3

    • i think you should be careful before getting serious! You never met him before, and talking about marriage already is kind of strange. If I were you I should ask my parents about it~

    • I’ll try answer all your questions if I can (and as clearly as I can):

      – Yes you can confess (고백 – confession, 고백하다 – to confess), I think a cute way to confess is by writing song lyrics… or maybe that’s just me, a simple one is “The Confession Song” (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RAv7MxPUclc) and a long one is SEENROOT’s 오빠야 (Sweet Heart).
      – In my opinion, the age difference is normal… My parents’ age difference is 11 years… so, don’t fret.
      – I do think he’s thinking about marrying you… but the thought of marriage at an early stage like that.. All I’m going to say is don’t rush into it.

      *Also… a little note: You must be able to communicate in Korean well. Well enough to settle down with the Korean man you are talking about.
      And thank you for posting this, this gives me more hope for interracial marriages and relationships! ^^

  2. hi! i meet this korea guy when im in tourist in Jeju, hes 56 and widow and she hav 1 daughter, and im 36, last November 2016 in laundry,he is a supervisor, cause i hav financial problem, i do some part time job there, in a few weeks i call him ajussie but within 2 months i call him oppa, sometimes yeobo, i fall in love with him, and i fell he loves me too, we start dating, and to cut the story short i came back in Philippines, and the worst is im pregnant! before i go home my country, he know that im pregnant and he advise me to abort the baby, but my answer is NO way!
    but i still love him, even do he dont like that im pregnant, i keep thinking him, theres a lot of night that i slept with my tears, i chat him in kakao talk, even one reply nothing! can u please give some advise to forget him😥

  3. Hi,

    I’m a 21 year old Filipina and I met this Korean guy, well, I never been to Korea but I was in love with Korean culture, I’m doing a lot of research and trying to learn everything about it, suddenly while I’m browsing, I saw an app to meet Korean people, out of curiosity, I installed it with the purpose of knowledge exchange and at least to have a Korean friend. I will not mention the app anymore. While browsing, I accidentally pushed the Hi button to a guy, too late I know he was notified already, I checked on his profile and he is good looking so that’s fine, I ignored it because I know he won’t even respond on that, when suddenly he sent me a message and he introduced himself so I’m a bit shocked, to make the story short, we exchange conversations turns out that he is also looking for someone to talk to to learn English. Were both not comfortable of using the app so we decided to continue the conversation using LINE. Conversation went well because he is at least can understand and communicate in english. I don’t know but it feels like we’ve known each other for so long though we’ve just met. Simple conversations turns out to be different, We are already exchanging sweet words, He was very sweet and he makes me feel those butterflies in my stomach. He was older than me and was on his 30s but I don’t even care because I also prefer to date older guys than the younger ones or within my age because they’re so immature. Days passed that I think I’ve already liked him, a lot though I know it won’t work because we don’t even see each other. After couple days we don’t have any communication at all, I was curious why, then after a week or 2 weeks maybe, He sent me a message saying he was busy and there are a lot of things he needs to get done. I understand because I know how Koreans are into when it comes to work ethics. I responded and we exchange conversations again and after couple of days to weeks I haven’t heard anything from him again. It’s just sad that you are in love with the person whom you can’t even see in person and he already affected your everyday life that there will be no days that I was not thinking about him hoping that someday, I will hear back from him again. I just want to know if how will you know if he’s still into you or not, I don’t have any idea how because maybe they’re different from an average Filipino guys. I’m still waiting for him and because I know that this not just only infatuation but I was hit by this guy already that I’m planning to go to Korea just to see him.

  4. and he introduced himself so I’m a bit shocked, to make the story short, we exchange conversations turns out that he is also looking for someone to talk to to learn English. Were both not comfortable of using the app so we decided to continue the conversation using LINE. Conversation went well because he is at least can understand and communicate in english. I don’t know but it feels like we’ve known each other for so long though we’ve just met. Simple conversations turns out to be different, We are already exchanging sweet words, He was very sweet and he makes me feel those butterflies in my stomach. He was older than me and was on his 30s but I don’t even care because I also prefer to date older guys than the younger ones or within my age because they’re so immature. Days passed that I think I’ve already liked him, a lot though I know it won’t work because we don’t even see each other. After couple days we don’t have any communication at all, I was curious why, then after a week or 2 weeks maybe, He sent me a message saying he was busy and there are a lot of things he needs to get done. I understand because I know how Koreans are into when it comes to work ethics. I responded and we exchange conversations again and after couple of days to weeks I haven’t heard anything from him again. It’s just sad that you are in love with the person whom you can’t even see in person and he already affected your everyday life that there will be no days that I was not thinking about him hoping that someday, I will hear back from him again. I just want to know if how will you know if he’s still into you or not, I don’t have any idea how because maybe they’re different from an average Filipino guys. I’m still waiting for him and because I know that this not just only infatuation but I was hit by this guy already that I’m planning to go to Korea just to see him.

  5. hi i”m amina from algeria , i have 24 years old , i have a korean friend how i met in a meeting APK , we used to talk everyday , he is an open minded , talkative , we share everything we did in our day , i’m muslim and he is non i wear scarf but this thing wasn’t a problem since we respect everyone’s culture, we never met before we just share photos , i start liking him , i”m scared to get separate if i told him , i don’t want to lose him ,

  6. Hello!
    So, I’ve been talking with this Korean guy via Kakao Talk almost for 7 months now. I am 21 and he is 23. We text every day and I mean every day. He’s a very kind man and he’s always checking on me. He asks if I had dinner, if I had a good day, if I slept enough, etc. We also have a lot in common and sometimes the best part of day is talking to him. He’s always there for me when my day has been awful, telling me that he’s on my side and making me laugh. We’ve exchanged photos of our days and the things we are doing. He’s always really respectful and never asks anything weird of me. We’ve never heard each others voices because he is worried about his English which, I find super cute. I’m hesitant to say that I have feelings for him because A) I don’t know how he feels and B) He lives in Korea and I’m in the United States. I am taking a month long trip to Seoul in Feb. and we will meet for the first time then. We’ve counting down the days together. I plan on going to grad school in Korea so, I believe that if there is something it could work.

    If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it!
    Thanks!!
    -Kayla

  7. Hello Everyone!
    I am a 42 year old american woman who met a Korean man on a language exchange website in August 2015. He is a doctor who is ten years younger than me. Wonderful man and we have talked,texted and emailed each other everyday for almost three years now. He has always expressed an interest in practicing medicine in America but it has increased in the last few months. We met physically for the first time in May when I traveled to Korea. He stayed with me and we traveled Seoul and the surrounding areas. It was an amazing and beautiful trip that culminated in our first kiss. Very exciting time for someone who hasn’t dated in 20 years. I am a single mother of a 20 year old daughter! Shortly after my return home he traveled from Seoul to stay with me and my family. It must have been so overwhelming for him to be around so many people. He insisted on paying for my trip to New York with him before he left. A few months later he came back for a second time to experience Halloween and other American cultural things. Since our first physical meeting he has showered me with many expensive gifts. I tell him that his friendship is enough and I do not need expensive gifts. He works hard for his money so he should keep it for himself. He always says you deserve it and keeps doing it. I appreciate it so much but I am not used to being spoiled like this. The down side here is he doesn’t like to talk about anything personal so no relationship talk or confessions ever. He only says he rejects blind dates often because he wants to study and come to America. Can these be considered gifts of affections beyond the physical affections he expresses when we are together or are they just kind gestures of friendship that are customary because of my age or cultural differences? I am so confused that my ability to confess my feelings are hindered out of fear of rejection. I would appreciate any thoughts or kind words of encouragement!

      • Thank you so much. I am learning and preparing for my second trip to Korea in November. He has been to America three times since May of 2017. I am slowly learning so any suggestions would be appreciated!

  8. 안녕하세요!
    I will share my bitter sweet love story with this guy ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
    Our love story idk if it will make you cry or not but it all happened so fast but don’t judge, you know the feeling of when you meet someone you just felt like you know each other for ages now ? It happened between us, We built a strong connection in this short span of time we opend up to each other and share the same values. He’s persistent even though I don’t like him really at first and doubted him a lot since its crazy he confessed so early and I said if he just playing with me, if he’s drunk ㅋㅋㅋㅋ And if he’s just faking acount I thought all about it. I asked him to not flirt with me like any other guys that just wants something and just playing. Chatting girls. He said he is serious and not like them (other korean guys) that is flirting. He said he’s serious and angry ㅋㅋㅋㅋ He wants to see my picture that’s why I doubted him really. I said to send his picture first then he send a lot of his pictures. Then I thought what if he’s using someone’s picture ? I thought all of it if he’s really true and serious. I said why you confessed so early he said that I’m his ideal type and he really likes me. I thought a lot of it and doubted him. I just said I want to be just friends. Then he said sorry to me that he confessed so fast but he said to me he’s not drunk and don’t regret confessing to me. He’s embarrassed because he confessed to me so fast. He said he will come at me slowly and just be friends if that’s what I want. Then we become just friends and got to know each other a lot. I’m surprised we share same opinions and value. I started to fall for him when I knew this person is real to me. No guy courting a girl will say that he’s done sex before and will risk losing the girl right ? He told me all of it and said I am not the man you thought I were, now you will hate me. I said no, I actually appreciated him more since what if we get together ever and I didn’t know about that right ? He says that he wants me to love him back but he don’t force it. I ask him several times, how on earth is he possible he likes me I really didn’t believe him. We really got along and get to know each other when were still just friends. In one time I realized he’s a real person with me. I also opend up to him too. I warned him all of my masty personalities and make him hate me but nah he’s too persistent. I sent my picture with out filter without all the glamour. I said I am ugly he said that I am not. We return each other’s selca. By the way I may look korean or japanese but I am of asian descent so here goes, I said to him why he fall in love with me. I made him know truelly and fully about me that I want him to hate me but he just falls in love with me. Well I don’t want him to fall for me just because I am his ideal. He learnt all of my truw nature he still likes me. I also learnt about this person he really is true person we become bestfriends. We open up a lot and comfortable opening up any topics we felt comfortable in each other and I staryed falling for him. In his sincerity that’s why I fall in love with this guy. He proved that he’s serious even asking me until late at night and I said to him to sleep but he said if Do i really want him to sleep in his strangth of wanting to talk to me. He made a lot of effort to just prove himself to me. He always sends me his day and updates also his current selcas and I also update him. When he’s become quiet I confessed that I liked him. He said he’s flying because I said that I am starting to like him. Since our feelings were mutual I already answered him and we became couple. We video call always before he go to his teaching, he’s teakwondo teacher for children and were only 1 yr apart. We also during the night until we sleep ㅋㅋㅋㅋ Now we became couple were really happy and just enjoy each others company. I became more overprotective when I became his gf and doubts him more, I doubted him because of him not having kakaotalk why he only has line and wechat. All koreans use kakaotalk. Well we become negative of our relationship because we hurt each other in a way of he thinks I don’t trust him while he’s opened his heart to me a lot all of his truth. We also have many barriers. We thought that were better off as friends, our break up story is painful we both agreed since He will go to korean army military service this April until December 2019. I said I’ll trust him amd wait for him but he said I can’t because he don’t want me to get hurt in the end and for him not to get hurt too. We are both scared what our relationship might go in the future in we might hurt each other in the future so we just broke up and just stayed as bestfriends. We are both crying but were both helpless he don’t want to hurt me amd I also don’t want to hurt him. We just ordinary close friends to this day we still contact and he will still contact me in his vacation in the army. Well we just said if were stillmeant to be in the future we’ll just see. He said that I am a good person amd I deserve a good man. Then I realized this person really loves me. The END ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ Btw we met in HelloTalk so it means we don’t have any intention of dating there we both use the app to study foreign language. He’s 20 years old I am 19. I want to tell the story more when became couple but its so cheesy haha so yea then look what happened in the end ㅋㅋㅋㅋ I am from PH. Well were just friends until this day. We will be boyfriend girlfriend this valentines day ㅋㅋㅋㅋ We just joke and kiddimg around these days since we are good as bestfriends that being lovers without assurance that we may both end up hurting each other. He still become my friend even though I cannot became his girl he wants me to be by his side and get closer even just friends ㅠㅠ

  9. Hi,I’m from India.
    My story of meeting Kimchi man is through a social networking site. Now we talk through Line app due to the fact that he works as navigation officer and the strength of that app is quite weak. We’re talking for 3 months now. We talk few times every day and it’s quite casual chat. His replies are short and brief. I just wanted to be his friend but ended up falling for him. He told me that he dated previously but never been to a serious relationship. I never confessed my feelings to him and I don’t know what he feels..’cause his replies are always short…But I really wanna him to like me back but not by force ofcourse…I’m confused what should I do….

    • Maybe you should ask him out to do something, or play a fun game with him where you ask each other questions (not yes and no questions) and then you’ll be closer, flirting will also help and hopefully lead to a confession. Asking something like “do you like anyone right now?” is good for moving forward. Hope I helped!

  10. Hi!
    So I’m a Filipino currently studying in the Philippines. I’m actually in my last year of academics in college and am currently getting ready to leave for my internship. I started seeing this Korean guy that I’ve never seen before and I kind of noticed that I already saw him at a school party. After that party, I kind of started seeing him along school and every time I see him I just become shy and felt like running away. One day, I got out of my classroom and saw him by the drinking fountain, we only stared at each other even though I wanted to smile, but I couldn’t, I ended up going to the classroom again. Once the class was over, I was heading to the library when I saw him again and he smiled at me. A couple of weeks later, one of my girl friends introduced me to this other Korean guy (let’s call him A) whom I ended becoming friends with and I found out he’s friends with the Korea guy (let’s call him B haha) that I liked. He introduced me to him and so I added him on FB. I also started saying hi to him at school and at that time I also started chatting him. One night I was chatting with A and he said “hey I’m with B, you should chat him now and ask how he is and just make conversation”. So I did. At that time, B asked if I have a boyfriend, A answered that I don’t. So after that the conversation just continued, we would chat at least maybe once or twice a day.

    But here’s the thing, whenever we’re in the same room, we can’t seem to talk to each other, we did before at the library, we talked and I noticed he became nervous and I thought it was kind of cute. After that, we would just only be saying hi to each other at school. Once I asked him if he wanted to go to lunch and he said he wasn’t free because during that time it was our final exams and the projects just kept coming in so I understood that. When the semester was almost over, we kept chatting each other every night and that I don’t get. Why only every night? He always asks me how I am and what I was doing and once he sent a pic of what he was doing, studying hahaha. To be honest, I don’t really know what all of this means, does he just wants to be friends, is he just trying to get to know me better or does he wants something more than friends? Right now, I’m just a bit confused and I’m just trying to go with the flow of everything. What should I do?

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