Your Story

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  1. Hi. I’m almost eighteen, and I never had a boyfriend. I have liked Korean guys because they have fun personalities and I want to know how to get a boy’s attention without appearing desperate.

  2. Here’s my story: I met my first boyfriend about a few months ago. We met at a car accident, I was the victim and he had scratched my car. I wasn’t really pissed off, just agitated because it was my first day of class, and there I was losing track of time. He stand before me asking if I was alright and asked if he could pay for damages. His english was a bit off, I thought he was a foreginer. I simply replied with a pumped up attitude, and told him I was fine and no need to pay for anything. He looked stunned underneath his sunglasses, I immediately joked that I don’t need money but a humble smile. I literally said that. He smiled and chuckled at mumbled underneath his breath something I couldn’t understand. It sounded Asian. The next thing I knew I remember I was going to be late. I turned on the engine and went straight to the campus. I ran inside the building I was assigned to. My luck soar, that day my professor wasn’t there today. I quickly walked over to an empty row and felt exhausted. I suddenly felt this presence and I slowly looked up and this guy was staring at me, I was taken back by his good looks. He smiled at me and asked if he could sit next to me, I nodded. He said, “Thank-you”, he was a foreigner as well. We sat there together during the lecture, I couldn’t relax. I felt him sneaking glances at me. I asked myself if I was weird looking. I was comfortable with my appearance, I didn’t looked too average. I was reminded by my old friends I was pretty, but I didn’t felt like it. After the lecture he followed me to the library. I thought that he must be intrested in books, I had stupid thoughts that he felt a thing for me. So I tried to loose him by hiding near a bookshelf. I noticed him looking for something- possibly a book perhaps. I felt at ease and suck up the courage to walk past him. As I ignored him, he grabs my wrist. I looked at him with my confused expression. He said, “That accident was a pretty lucky day for both of us.” I remembered what happened and immediately said, I was really okay. He intrupted me and asked for my name. I didn’t want to answer because I never liked my name, but I gave it to him. He repeated my name then he gave me his name. His name was hard to pronounce, he told me to call him Jacob. He asked if I could become his first American friend. I laughed and told him I will be his first Mexican-American friend. He seemed excited he wasn’t the only one who was from a different country. I don’t really considered myself as a Mexican because my skin color is pale and tan. We hit it off hanging out on campus, then making more friends with all types of people. He once asked if we could just hang out together, but I didn’t know it was a date. We headed outside the campus, to the movie theaters cause I love movies. He looked nervousness the whole time, after the amazing time I had. He surprised me with a hug, I laughed and hugged him back. We slowly parted from each other, slowly his lips pressed onto mine. I was surprised by him and his sudden affection. I should have realized it was a date. I flushed from embarrassment and awkwardly told him it was my first kiss. I know it sounds like a joke, but I wanted to save it before marriage. Funny huh. He told me he was very happy he was my first. On that day forward we continued our mutal relationship. My like for him is awkward and comfortable, because he made me feel important. Even now.

  3. Hi. I’m a bisexual with a long term gf now. And then i fell in love with a korean guy. Here are the info:

    1. He said he only likes korean girls. But when i told him i like him he said “whether you’re korean or not, you already have a gf”
    2. He once suggested that if i like someone else, i should break up with my gf whether my crush (himself) likes me or not.
    3. I said “please take my heart ❤️” he didnt say “no”.
    4. We talk a lot maybe more than normal friends.
    5. He always, always replies to my text messages.
    6. He is concerned with my well being. He doesnt like me to skip meals, etc.
    7. He gave a cute stufftoy as a souvenir when he went on an out of country trip.

    Idk if i should stop liking him. Idk if he likes me or if he only likes the attention. Idk if he doesnt like me because i have a gf. I am falling in love. Deeper. Everyday.

    • Korean guys are very kind, even if they are heterosexual, sometimes to other races, he might have thought you wanted to be his friend.

  4. Hello >< and hope we can make it together , cuz he is the most amazing and lovely oppa in this world ♡ i love him so much kk

  5. Hi. Recently I’m currently in a relationship. So far so good….. But he suddenly asked me to meet his parents. I intentionally tried to avoid his question, but I couldn’t say no. His parents were currently visiting Los Angeles to celebrate their eldest son’s birthday. I had a major meltdown. I thought his parents would disapprove our relationship. What would they think? Or will they freak!! The days were outnumbered and I to accompany Jacob. I made sure to wear something comfortable. I remembered my Korean language perfectly. On that day, they were surprised to meet me. They were awfully kind and were very considerate, and glad I knew their language. I also met Jacob’s younger brother David. He was a few years younger than I am, probably seventeen. He was very cautious around me. I could understand their parents are loaded, I would feel cautious as well. I had the time of my life, until Jacob’s mother asked about my hand in marriage! Jacob was so adorable when he blushed. I chuckled and told her, he had never asked. She looked disappointed, she told me she wanted me as her daughter-in law. I felt honored. Maybe I might get married to Jacob. If he’s ever ready.

    • Hi its been awhile and I’m reporting that I have been studying aboard from Korea, Seoul; along with my (korean) boyfriend Jacob. Ha i still call him that. So my second semester has been excellent I’ve been currently studying and made new friends. I’ve been staying with my boyfriend’s family. At first I was extremely tired from my air flight, but i managed. I got to know Jacob’s relatives, celebations, and his house! David is slowly content that I’m not some god digger. Staying at my boyfriend’s house is very akward cause I’m still not used to it. Although I do love staying there, even Jacob does too. Its very diffcult to have time to ourselves, what with avoiding the flirting. The best part was that I got engaged! Meet Mrs. Kim Ruby. Kim is Jacob’s surname. It happened when the Lunar celebartion, (korean holiday) where all woman cook a feast (including me!). Everyone enjoyed my jokes and personality. Then, he propsed in a daring way, it was so embarasing in front of his whole family. I accepted immediately, and his family chanted that I kiss him. I did! My engagement ring was not a ruby, but a birthstone. So considerate. I am so in love. We decided to hold a small wedding at LA, then a huge ceremony after graduation. The akward part is that his parents insisted to have the both of us in my bedroom (guest room) right now I can’t sleep, and he is. I question myself if i was going to live with my in laws still.

  6. I started texting with this korean through an app called SKOUT. I joined it because my roommate made me get one and he joined it because of a bad break up with his girlfriend. Just when i was about to give up on the app he messaged me and i replied and we hit it off very well we would talk about EVERYTHING and it turns out he was an international student here in the US but i met him after he went back to his country to serve for the military (he still had not started his duty but was in the process) we began texting as friends, then talking on the phone, then eventually skype. After 1 month or so of talking as friends i got drunk and told him i liked him (i know so embarassing) and at first he hesitated because he knew he’d eventually leave to the military). Eventually, we became a couple…at first he was cold because he was still into his ex but after 2 months he was so sweet and nice and caring, it was just perfect. He told me he loved me and i feel the same and we were more serious about everything but after 3 months he had to go to the military (on july 6) and he told me he didnt want me to put my life on hold for him but after 2 years are up he hopes neither of us change so we can pick up where we left off…and he will contact me in 5 weeks after his basic training i believe but im so heartbroken….if he contacts me im afraid things wont be the same, im afraid he’ll change…what should i tell him??? :(

  7. i am an Indian and i like Korean literature, culture and Korean drama. i found this site very interesting. but i have a doubt, i found in internet that Korean men spend more money on beautification, is it true?

    • “South Korean men are increasingly turning to BB cream foundation and anti-aging products to achieve K-Pop perfection, spending $900 million a year on cosmetics, according to research firm Euromonitor.

      South Korea is by far the largest in a growing global market for men’s cosmetics, accounting for nearly a quarter of sales in the skin care market.” according to abcnews

  8. Hi; everyone im frome Morrcco for me i never had boyfriend but i really like Korean boyz cuz they respect woman and give her all the love that she want and make her feel like princes

  9. Hi!
    I’ve been contemplating for several weeks now if I have to write here or not. But just to ease my mind, here it goes. ^^
    It’s been over 2 months since me and this korean guy started chatting over kakao and a language exchange app. Well, basically, we chat to do language exchange, I teach him english, he teaches me korean. Now, me, being a first timer in such things, I tend to chat with him like what normal people do (ask for name, what are his hobbies, interests, etc). He does the same as well. We chat almost everyday, telling each other what we’re doing at the moment, what are our plans for the day… when we were talking about travel, he mentioned that he’ll be going here in our country to study english for 2 months and after that he will go to Australia and live there for 2 yrs. To make the story short, I am very fond of him to the point that I’m always looking out for his messages everyday (maybe because I’m used to?).. and I’m starting to have this feeling that I think I like him. I’m kinda checking him out too, if he’s interested on me or what. I remember, he said to me before that he’s like to meet me once he gets here. When he said that 1st time, I just blatanly said that yeah ‘let’s hang out once you’re here’. And then he said it again 2nd time but my reply now was a bit sincere and said I want to meet him too. In order for us to meet one needs to ride a plane. The reason is, the school he enrolled us is too far from my either he goes to me or I go to him. Then he said that I should go to him and he’ll pay for the plane ticket. Since I’m not that type of person who takes advatage of such acts (coz of being shy too), I said that I can manage the plane ticket and we’ll discuss it one he gets here. Now, he’s here already and still the communication is strong. He asks me for motivation coz he’s feeling nervous and all. And me, I feel so excited for him so I just give him motivating words everyday to boost his courage. We haven’t talked about if we’ll be able to hang out. I’m waiting for him to start it up but I’m thinking if he’s also waiting for me to open up the idea again. You see, we’ve shared our interests and we have same interests in movies, foods, etc. We even mentioned to each other our relationship status which both are single.. and teased each other in a most subtle way (I can’t explain it but it seems both me and him are being too careful). I just don’t want to push myself too much coz it’s not very usual of me. But, I kept on thinking that, if I like this guy, maybe I should start opening up myself a bit more of what I used to and be a little aggressive. But then, I just remind myself to just be myself which I’m doing. And also, I really can’t guess what he’s thinking of me. Is he interested or what. We actually even exchange photos so we both know what we look like..even family photos, friends… I’m totally fine with being friends and’s just that there will always be that feeling of wanting to know how someone thinks of you, right. There was even a time when I wanted to say I miss him in a casual way because he was travelling and didn’t get to send messages that much. But I restrained myself.. anyway, not sure if I’m still making sense coz it’s 3am already.. but hopefully you get the jist of it. TIA ^^

  10. There is this one guy that I fell in love. I have known him since two years ago. But I never really felt this way. I only know him as a friend and not even that close. But everything changed after I found out that I love him. I didn’t really know at first but these days, when I see him, my heart fluttered so fast. My face turned really red. I am trying my hardest to hide it. ~~ Also, he’s a player. Before, I never really cared whether he hugs me, put his hand around me or hold my hands. And he does that to almost every other girls. But now, I get really jealous and mad. “Why would he do that to others? When he has me?” then I laugh at myself. I mean he don’t even like me, at the very least, he don’t even know that I like him.I gave him hints. But he never gets them. I don’t want to tell him my feelings either. I don’t want to be called cheap. I don’t want to become the laugh stock among him and his friends. And he might have someone that he likes, too. After having this one-sided crush for too long, I really want to forget him. I mean there are some guys who’s willing date me. But why this guy?! I tried to forget him but every time I see his smile, I fell in love again. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  11. Hi community, can someone of you educate me on Korean culture of sex. Do they do one night stands, shall I sleep with them on the first date, is it normal that they post picture of a bar interior and the opposite sex comments things I cant comprehend or translate w Google Translator? How can I grasp that they have serious intentions?

  12. hi. there is a korean exchange student on our university.. actually i’am fan of korea..from it’s culture language..and just anything in korea..i really want to go in korea someday..

    so…their english tutor was in the same department as mine..(but we are not friend) i stalk to her account so that i can know what the names of the different exchange student..i sent them all friend request..but only one respond.

    then the story begin.. i first say hi..and he chatted back..i ask him if he is enjoying his stay in our country..then we continuously to chat.. everyday..almost every first i was the one who open topic on conversation..but about one week pass..he is the one who opened is more like getting to know each other because he ask about my personal information..but as for me..i’am afraid to tell what my background is because i know this will be just a short period friendship..i know when he will be back in korea we will never be in touch again..that is what i assume..

    so i gave him false information about myself..

    he will just stay in our country about two months..then we still continue chatting..we almost spent time holding almost stop chatting around 2 am even i have class at 7 am.. that become our daily routine for almost 1 and a half month..

    in that time he confess already to me even we didn’t meet in person already..the time for him to go back to korea is getting near..

    one time he ask us to meet..but still.. i’am afraid..i am afraid because i know i’am a liar.. i know all about him..but he know false information about me..i’am guity..really guilt..

    i can’t meet him..i can’t face him..

    .there is a time that heavy rain comes..i don’t have umbrella that time..i left it..he insisted to give me an umbrella..but i don’t agree because i don’t want to face him..i can’t even i want i just go without umbrella..that makes him angry..

    that night.. i received a text from him..he really frustrate about my action..he believe it is look like i’am avoiding him too much..

    you first i didn’t take it seriously..but as the time goes by.. i know i have this something i felt for him..but i shouldn’t because i know he will leave me..soon

    but our heart speak louder than our mouth..i can’t control my feeling anymore..i know i like i decide to meet him 2 days before he leave..but still he doesn’t know the truth on me..

    the time with him personally is. different from the time we chat.. i really feel special around him..that makes me fall to him more. we enjoy company of each other.

    it hurt that i know he will leave me soon.. but i should take the risk..i like him..we like each we decided to make it to the next special friend only..but how we care to each other is like a couple..

    the day of him going back to korea..i said all things to him..all the lie..all secret..i know he deserve to know.. so i tell..

    now he back in korea..

    but i don’t like long distance i don’t know if we really felt the same as before..we always talk too.. but not like before..

    he don’t any opportunity to back here i think that is the reason why he change little bit to little bit..

    that is why i hate LDR..i know something will change..and that is what i’am afraid of.

    • I think most of the people don’ like that the person they love lied to them. I just hope that he is just replying to your messages out of convenience.

      Koreans usually don’t like LDR because they usually want to be with the girl they love. “Out of sight,out of mind” is one of a very famous saying in Korea. That’s why LDR doesn’t usually work for them. But there are still guys who are ready to take a risk.^^

  13. Hi, I’m really feeling confused slash happy at the same time right now and I’d like to share it!
    So I met this Korean guy last week, he’s just 1 year older than me which is 23.
    He’s actually kinda cute I think, I enjoy being with him. We met at an event, the event was held for 5 days in a row.
    This guy, I can feel that he is interested in me because he often look at me and he acts funnily when he is around me. Since I was kinda interested as well, I jokingly ask if he is popular in school because he is handsome. And he replied saying I’m pretty.
    And I was really surprised because during our last day he even asked me out for dinner. Which I wasn’t able to.
    Anyways, that night he immediately text me “I’ll miss you.” which makes my heart flutter.
    And the next day he told me I’m cute.
    Now, my question is, how does Korean guys flirt? Is this part of their culture to be so fast and saying things directly without hesitation? When they flirt, they always act so sweet, is that it?
    I’m just curious. Oh and how are we supposed to respond as girls?
    Do they like girls who jokes back or shy or…? I don’t want to scare him off or anything.
    I would be really happy if you answer my question :) thanks a lot!

  14. Hi so I met this Korean guy on Tinder. I swiped when I was in Korea, we exchanged Line info and we tried to meet but never got to because my schedule of touring was really tight. So after I went back to my country, he would still chat me. He was really sweet and he would send me videos of him doing cute things. He would sing when I asked him to. But he’s studying in the US and went back to the US on January 1. Before he left, I sent him a video message greeting him a happy new year, to have a safe flight and take care of himself.

    I waited for his plane to land and even tracked his flight online. He then messaged me that he was already unpacking and he’s back in the US. After he went back to the US, his messages became scarce and would reply like an hour or two late. It was really frustrating, and he told me that we didn’t have any issues when we are in similar timezones and that we will get used to this set-up soon.

    I really think he’s doing that mildang thing. Because sometimes I don’t initiate a conversation and when he finally sends me a message and I reply, he replies like really late. We were really okay when he was in Korea. I understand he might be busy with school but I also have work and I am doing my best. I opened it up to him and he said that I should try to understand him.

    Is this even worth it?

  15. I met a Korean guy and I’m wondering what does he feel about me. So here’s my story. It’s kinda long tho.
    I met him at a hotel where I am working. He’s 28 and I’m 21 years old.
    I was attracted to him when I first saw him.I didn’t hesitate to ask a picture with him. When we were taking pictures i noticed him sweat and he seemed anxious. After that, I thanked him and he went back to his room.After a few mins, he went down to the lobby and asked my age. After 2 days, he asked me if i could go out on a date with him. (I can speak a little korean. Just the basic conversational phrases). When we had our date, it was a little awkward but the longer we chat, we got comfortable with each other. he’s so talkative and asked so many questions like is someone courting me and so so. he’s such a gentleman! 😍 After our date, we exchanged katalk ID’s. (I have kakaotalk for kpop idol updates. Lol) He added me on facebook and followed me on instagram. After that every night he sends me goodnight messages, cute emoticons and flooded me with his pictures. Haha i don’t know if he’s just drunk or what. He asks me if i already ate, or offer me drinks.
    On the day that he will check-out, he stayed at the lobby while waiting for his agency to pick him up. Almost 4 hours i guess. He’s just standing in front of me and kept saying goodbye. I think he wanted to say something but he just couldn’t express it. Kept on holding my hand. He promised me that he’ll keep in touch with me. 1st month was good.
    He’s sending messages everyday. But on the 3rd month, he seemed to be busy and just contact me twice a week just asking if i ate, where am i, what am i doing. I asked him if there’s someone he likes and he told me “none”. I asked him if am i just a younger sister to him and he answered me “아직은 그렇다는거야”. I don’t know what exactly does he mean. If he only see’s me as a younger sister, what’s the meaning of his gestures way back then? I already told him I like him. But he always change the topic or ask me if i’m sure.. And by the way, after our date he told me he likes me. I don’t know what happend. Change of heart maybe? Lol.

    • “아직은 그렇다는거야” means “I still see you that way”. And I think he’s just confuse because as far as I know (I have korean friends and a boyfriend), koreans(not all) doesn’t really want to be in a long distance relationship. We all know it’s hard to be in an LDR so maybe that’s the reason. thaaaaat is just what I think. I might be wrong but dont give up! :) you don’t know maybe later he will just confess to you. just go with the flow. :)

      • Thanks for getting my hopes up! :) But maybe i’ll just not expect too much. He always tell me to go to Korea or ask me when am i going to Korea. Does he want to see me? or he’s just promoting his country? Hahaha!

        • Hahaha LOL it means that he really wants to see you :) He won’t be asking you for a couple of times if he just wants to promote his country. :3 My love also always asks me to go and stay in Korea so that he won’t be having a hard time with LDR. Korean men hates it, and they usually think that they won’t be able to handle this kind of relationship. But, don’t worry because they also know now to take risks. ^^ Just have faith with him. <3

  16. Hi! I’m an Online ESL Tutor to Koreans in the Philippines, and that’s where I met the guy love.;) He was my student for a couple of months before he told me that he might fall in love with me. I didn’t tell him that I also like him immediately even though I actually like him. I’m afraid to get hurt, and another thing is that he is a Korean. I’m afraid that language barrier and culture difference would be a problem between the two of us. But, I wasn’t able to stop my feelings grow for him, so after few weeks I also told him my feelings.

    But, we decided not to be an official couple because of his parents. His parents doesn’t want him to have a relationship with a non-Korean girl. It was actually the biggest problem in our relationship, and it is still testing our love for each other. We both decided that I’ll just agree to be his girlfriend when the situation with his parents gets better. It was actually painful for me but I love him that’s why I am ready to face this problem. His parents actually knows that I am his teacher but they told him that I am just his teacher. His mom even told him that he will get kicked out of their house once they know that I am his girlfriend. I also saw him cry because of this struggle, and it actually broke my heart. We both don’t know the time that we’ll be an official couple but we’re ready to wait for it. :)

    He also came here in our country to have a vacation last month. I was actually nervous that time because he came here by himself. But, seeing him personally made me so happy. He made me feel so special and loved during his stay here in our country. Those days were one of the best days of my life.<3

    He also asked me to stay in Korea permanently.I wanted to but I don't know if I'll be able to find a good job in Korea.I've read some blogs and articles saying that it's quite hard for Filipinos to get a job in Korea. I want to be with him but I also need to think of how can I survive by myself in his country. I hope that the job market of Korea will be good for me.

    So far, we are happily enjoying our relationship. We're not a couple officially but we act like one. I'm also planning to visit Korea this year to know more about him and his country. We both hope that we'll be spending the future together. Wish us luck! <3

  17. One boring night of november in my boarding house, I didn’t have anyone to talk to and it was making me crazy! So I decided to search for a chatting app and I found this “Say Hi Chatting” where you can search for those who are near from your place. I saw this cutie korean guy and decided to send a message. I know how to speak korean but I’m still not fluent. I messaged him some simple korean sentences (“안녕하세요~ 저랑 친구구할래요” That’s what I said and it means “Hi~ Can we be friends?) then after some hours? or minutes? (I cant really remember haha) I got a reply from him asking why I know how to speak in korean and that was the beginning of our story. I didnt intend to be his girlfriend I really just wanted to be his friend. Nothing more, nothing less. We didnt exchange kakaotalk IDs quickly. we first wanted to know each other before we give some contact infos. So when he finally asked my kakaotalk ID, I willingly gave it to him because that time, he already had my trust. I have 2 accounts in kakaotalk but I only use one and the IDs are quite similar cause I just added a letter for my active account. after I gave to him, he never messaged me again nor in kakaotalk and I thought “what’s wrong? did I do something wrong?” but it didnt bother me that much because we were nooot still that super close and I’m already used to those who just disappear without any words. But one day, he message me again in say hi chatting telling me that I never replied to his message in kakaotalk and of course I said I never received his message in kakao. he tried to show me and screencap his messages and I saw that the one he messaged was not my active account. So I gave my ID again clearly and after that, we always chat chat and chat. we updated each other. he was still new to my country that time and he was planning to enroll to a university in the city where he stays. though we were only 3~4 hours away from each other, it took us 4 months before we finally decided to meet and it was on March 2015. But before that, on before christmas 2014, I confessed to him saying that I liked him but I was still not sure if I like him to be my boyfriend because I never had one and I was afraid to fall in love again because of something happened on my past. He asked me if I like him as a man or I just like him as my oppa. I was not sure, I said. And he said he like me too but I shrugged it off and said “eiii you just like me as your dongsaeng right?”. He just said “secret” and he said he will tell it to me at the right time and it’s not really good to confess through chat. It made me smile and blush actually haha and the christmas day came, I just made a doodle for him greeting him “merry christmas” then a not-so-long-message. he got really thankful and said he cant help it anymore so he confessed to me and ask to be his girlfriend. I decided to reject it first and I told him that on the day I will meet him personally, that will be the day that I will be his girlfriend. He agreed and send some sweet messages . After that day, he became so sweet and caring! He always say cheesy lines haha And I cant help but blush ♡ and on March 2015, I met him in a mall (I was with my cousin that time). We didnt plan it so we were just together for about an hour and 30 minutes. I was the one who arrived first. We couldnt even message each other properly because he still didnt have a phone number. he just used his account in kakaotalk and it was really hard to connect to internet that time. I just decided to wait for him at the entrance of the mall. Then after some minutes of waiting, I saw a cute korean guy passing me. And I just stood on my place. I couldnt move and it was like the time just stopped and the only one that I could see was him, looking for me. I ran as fast as I could to catch up on him. he kept on looking for him and he wassss realllyyyy cute that time. and when he saw me, he just smiled to me and placed his hand on my head and then he suddenly said “you’re so pretty.” I really blushed at that time. he quickly hold my right hand then my cousin gave me time to be with him. we just had dinner then I went home because it was already late. he took me and my cousin to the terminal and didnt leave until me and my cousin leave. He even cried that night when we were already saying our good byes then he hugged me. he was really sweet and that really makes him cute. And now, there’s only 10 days before our 10th month of dating. he’s still sweet and caring. my family already met him and I already met his uncle. his mom ,whos’s in korea, and I even chat on kakaotalk sometimes. We also even talk about our future plans. Where we should have our wedding, how we should name our future babies. like that.haha I hope he will be my first and last boyfriend♡ Sorry my story is toooo long. I just want to share my story to you guys♡ to those who are in a relationship now, be strong and I hope you guys will be forever in love to each other♡

  18. Hmm.. Hi I just want to ask you guys what you think about my friendship with a Korean guy I like. I entered a penpal site because I’m interested in foreigners..I don’t care if I fall in love with someone or not, but I’m certain I like talking to someone different from me. We exchange kakaotalk and have been chatting everyday. We usually reply with a gap of one or two hours but its consistent. We exchanged pictures. He is 28 years old and I’m 22. We’ve been exchanging messages for almost 7months now. He’s been to my country few months ago and said he really likes it here and admire people here. He asked if I can to to korea. He said he likes the way I think so he likes talking to me. Both of us are focused on our career and still single. When I said, I’m not yet planning to visit Korea..he said he could be visiting my country before I’m ready to visit his. There weren’t any sign of flirting among our messages. We have quite same way of thinking and very formal to each other. We never talked on phone and never seen each other thru webcam.. I have complicated issues in my life and it’s not easy for me opening up for a relationship so eventhough I like him, I am not willing to say it and risk our platonic relationship. I am very comfortable with the way things are. What do you think about his side? Is there a chance he’s expecting something from me? I’m afraid of losing a very good and kind online friend just becoz of thinking we like each other despite not yet meeting in person. How about our age gap? I would really love to be super close with him like a bestfriend and older brother..but in my heart I just want to meet him in person just to see if there’s chance of a romantic relationship between us …that iwe could like each other

  19. Hello.. I’m 22 years old Chinese-Indonesian woman. Last year I met this one boy online. We started to talked and he told me that he liked me. He is younger than me by almost 4 years.
    After some time, we decided to date, everything is good at first.
    But things’ starting to become weird for me.
    He doesn’t want to interact with me at all on social media, facebook, instagram, he has it, but doesn’t even want to be friends with me or to follow me. He said that he doesn’t use it again, but I know that he still uses it.
    Another problem is, he lived with his father. And my boyfriend doesn’t pick up my call whenever his father around. I guess he is not ready to tell his father. Then he doesn’t pick up my calls when he is with his friends and now, he rarely pick up my calls, and he never call me first.
    Now he doesn’t express his feeling for me that often. I asked for a breakup because arguments that we had, but he always refuse it, saying that we need some time to think.
    I don’t know, I can’t feel his love for me anymore. He doesn’t even say ‘I love you’ anymore. What should I do? Is he hiding our relationship? Or does he think our relationship is just some kind of game? Or he doesn’t serious with me in the first place. Please help me. I don’t know what to do, and I don’t want to hurt his feelings. Thank you.

  20. Hello.
    I’m 22 years old. I’m a moslem girl. I think, this is the right place to share my story.

    7 years ago, i joined a language exchange site. I was taking korean and french class, so i thought this site was good to improve my korean and french skill. The site is very good that you can search korean native who is interested in your language, so you can talk, send letter or just teach language and culture to each other.

    One day,
    I met korean guy on that site. He is smart and kind. I was so young, i thought i liked him. First, because he looks cute. He wears glasses that makes him even cute. He is so handsome, very tall, joining breakdance and some sports too. He is so much that charming korean guy like the movie or drama. He has got sixpacks too!
    I used to think, wasn’t it cool if i had korean friend? Or even dated one?

    We started to have conversation everyday, and send a letter every weeks, even a package. We had chat until dawn. (I got insomnia so i usually cant sleep at night, he was always there to accompany me no matter difference time we got. I live in indonesia and he is in seoul)
    We were too shy to have a video call/webcam. So we just sent a recording file to each other to hear our voice. And after that, we began sending video. I also sent him a recording, i sang and played guitar, even composed one for him. He was so happy.. He said that he played my song over and over again. He showed it off to his friends too and he said that his friends were jealous because he was so lucky. I was so happy too to hear that. I thought i liked him even more now.

    After some years being close friend
    I realized that.. He was more than that
    it was not the appearance that finally touch my heart, it is simply because .. It’s him.
    My feeling keeps growing. And i start to love him.

    After he joined the army for 2 years.. We started to lose contact. I missed him so much. I waited for his letter but… He didnt send me. It broke my heart but i kept waiting.
    ….it took so long.
    I didn’t hear any news from him and i started to give up. Maybe i should just move on and forget him. Maybe it was just silly – cyber – love. That stupid first love story.
    Suddenly, i got a letter. It was from him. I replied it soon. 5 pages letter. I decided to tell him my feeling. I told everything and how i wanted to be with him even if it seemed impossible for us. But again. I got no reply.
    A month, two months, three months..
    I lost him.

    February, 2016.
    All of sudden someone gave a comment on one of my old photo in instagram.
    I had ever uploaded the korean guy letter on my instagram, the caption was “finally” ( after the long waiting and finally he sent me letter) and someone commented on that photo. “I got a ticket to jakarta!” (actually i lived in yogyakarta then moved to jakarta due to work. Surprisingly he knew that i have moved) I was completely totally surprised. Because, it’s him.
    He have bought ticket, booked a room, and planned everything. He arrived in jakarta on feb 14th. He then asked for my line id. I gave him and we started to chat. It was just simply chat before. Until i told him that i should go to Makassar, south sulawesi for business, unfortunately it was exactly on feb 14th. He looked calm so i thought it was fine. Morever, i didnt want to see him. After this long and suddenly he appears? Really?
    But guess what,
    Feb 13th, he sent me picture. He was in jakarta already. He bought another ticket. He came here with just few indonesian money, no room, and no plans. And all his plan ruined.
    I said ‘pabo’, but he replied ‘bogoshipda’..’neomu.. Bogoshipda’.

    I couldnt say anything.
    I picked him up immediately to help him booked a hotel, and had dinner because, he hadn’t eaten anything yet since he suddenly bought ticket to jakarta.
    So.. It was our first time meeting.

    It was awkward yet .. we both laughed when we met.
    It was like flashback. We were so young when we first talked, when i first liked him, loved him, we were just an high school girl and boy who loved to chat all day long, and fell asleep in the class because (actually him) couldn’t get enough sleep :)
    Now look at us.
    I took him to the hotel then, and we had lunch together. I was so happy and took him to taste indonesian food. That was exactly like the good old days. He suddenly hold my hand when we walked. Surrounded his arms on me too.
    The next day, we had plan to go to national monumen and museums. I picked him up but suddenly it was raining. So, we ended up eating hot traditional food in his room. Waiting for the rain to stop. Until he suddenly hugged my back so tight, and he said that he loved me. That he had been waiting for this moment. I cried. Then we kissed.
    It felt like all my dreams came true. I used to imagined him a lot now he is here, standing in front of me. He gave me a gift. A thing he used to send me in a package. But i keep losing it because im forgetful and clumsy. But now, there is a name on that gift. My name. He crafted it.

    We shared all the feeling we never said that day. I now knew that he never received my letter. He couldnt reach me too because i moved. And he did sent me letter too. And there were lot of things happened i didnt know. That.. His heart broke so many times too because he thought he lost me. That he missed me. That he regret he never told me how much he loved me. That his heart broke when he finally found me.
    All the feeling i have then, everything comes back.
    He asked me to stay, asked to follow my heart and just to be with him.
    But it is too late. Way too late.
    I’m going to be married by someone else next year.

    I’m in makassar already. And he is in airport in jakarta. And my heart is like, crumbling into pieces. I’m trying to fix it back like i used to do. But it is more difficult than i thought.

    I lost him. Again

    • Delta, your story is so moving. I think it is not a good idea to get married to someone whom you do not love. If you have such strong feelings for the korean than maybe you need time to think about what you really want and who you really want to be with. The last thing you want is to be married and unhappy…its not fair for you or your future husband

    • I read your story and couldn’t stop crying. It is so heartbreaking!!!! Almost a year passed by i hope you do feel better.

  21. Hi, i just want to know how can you tell if a korean guy likes you? Cause there is a korean guy that i really like, actually i don’t just like him, i am sure to myself that i LOVE him already, since the first time that i saw him in his store, he owns a kage here in korea, my work place is kind a near in his store, i’m a filipina and currently working as a factory worker here in korea, and i’ve never had a boyfriend ever in my entire life, and i’m already 31 years old. This is the first time that i felt something like this, a strong feeling of affection towards a man. There are times that i can’t sleep, feels frustrated cause of the man i love, because i don’t know if he also likes me or he is just being friendly. He knows how to speak in english. I’m not beautiful and i’m also not sexy, that’s why it’s even frustrate me thinking that a korean guy like him will never like a unattracted fat girl like me.whenever i went to his store and i don’t talk to him or start a conversation with him he just look at me for a second then get back to his work again. But if i ask something or start a conversation with him he always smiles at me and talk to me like he is happy,.. I’m so confused and frustrated.. I don’t want to assume anything, cause it will only hurt me knowing that it is so impossible for him to like or love me back..

  22. Here’s my Korean man love story:
    It was an unusual beginning. First time I met him, I was hardly interested in him. Not even try to befriend him. He was the new guy at work. I just got married in church. So obviously, I’m not interested in other men. Though my marriage was in crumbles before it began, I’d like to share this precious time I had with him to everyone because I wanted them to open their eyes about interracial relationships. We weren’t officially a couple but I cannot say we were just friends either because the connection I felt for him was unreal. After my first heartbreak, I never thought I would feel love again. My reasons for marriage were wrong but I was prepared to live with it. Until I met him.
    It was a week in and I still haven’t talked to him. I was just focused on my work. Until one day on a weekend working overtime, he asked for my help. And I was surprised because I typically ignore him. I taught him a few things and later on during the week, he told me I was smart. Which was an odd thing to say to a girl, imo. Something about him made my walls go down. So I started being nicer to him, invite him with the rest of my co-workers to go for a walk. But we would end up falling behind and talk with each other. I loved Koreanovelas but that was it. As a Filipino who had Korean neighbors that are snobbish, I had a bad taste of “foreign” encounters so I told myself I would never be in a relationship with a non-Filipino. But BOY I ate my words. He made me laugh, angry, and sad at the same time. Everyday during meetings we would doodle and tease each other like were still kids (were in our 30s). We would have long talks at the parking lot about anything – work, his life before this, my life before him, and his Korean girlfriend. It was all so innocent.
    I dont know when it happened or how but I started falling in love with him. We would have lunches together, like I do with my other co-workers, but somehow it felt intimate for me. We would talk on the phone after work. There was a question I asked him before and I don’t know why I brought it up because we just started to get to know each other, I asked him “What do you think of interracial marriage?”. He paused and answered, it’s tough because of the language barrier and cultural difference. I was shocked at how similar my opinion was about it. I said “yes, I understand” and that’s why I’ve never tried it. Now weeks later (after we got close), I asked him “what do you think our relationship would’ve been like?”. And he said “it will be hard but it doesn’t mean it’s impossible.” By then, I had made up my mind to end whatever it is that we had because I realized this is wrong. It wasn’t innocent anymore and I couldn’t pretend that it was a simple crush on a new guy. I decided to leave that job so I wouldn’t see him again.

    He told me he liked me. That he didn’t really miss his gf but she was his first real relationship and she’s Korean. He said he didn’t really love her and that he would’ve dated me. We both never saw each other as a possibility but somehow something changed. It was hard when I said I had to stop seeing him. He said this feels like were breaking up. I said I know. He’s not very showy and he doesnt smile a lot but everytime we see each other, his eyes would lit up and I’d see that wonderful smile of his. So when he grabbed to hold my hand, I was surprised. When he hugged me and looked down on me, I felt warm and secure. When he said he likes me too (I said it first just to get it out of my system, I didn’t really expected anything in return), I felt I was ON TOP OF THE WORLD. I never knew a feeling like this existed or meet the man of my dreams (yes I suddenly remembered a dream when k was a kid of this guy I dont know). I realized he looked just like him.

    I wanted to leave my husband for him. I wanted him to leave his gf for me. But I didn’t, as a Catholic and a conservative, I wanted to honor my vows. And he didn’t want to be the reason for a marriage. So we both ended it.

    It was a bittersweet goodbye. Months have already passed since I left that job when I asked to see him one last time. I gave him a parting gift and I said this will be the last I’ll ever see him. We joked and talked like nothing happened. And then he asked how my marriage was. I said I’m moving out and he was shocked. He said he thought things are better. Then I said, well I better go. We were both smiling but I can see the sadness in his eyes and I wonder if he noticed mine. It was the last time I’ll ever see him like this. He knew that and I can tell he wanted to say more but didn’t. He was always the gentleman with a kid at heart. I loved him for that.

    I’m not sure if I’ll ever meet someone who can make my heart beat like that again. But he will always be that summer I’ll remember that made me feel alive and dream again for a better life.

    I stayed with my husband for another 2yrs. to make it work. I’ve since stopped communication with him. Things haven’t worked out and I am ending my marriage before it ruins me and my husband. Ive known him all my life and never been with another guy since. My first heartbreak was with a man I knew before I met him. My 2nd one was with this Korean guy. But it wasn’t as devastating, it was just inevitable.

    I hope he’s happy and found love. I hear about him through a friend but I don’t ask about him. My heart still beats at the memory of him but only time will tell if he and I are meant to be together. I have stopped hoping and have decided to move forward. Even if it means being alone. It doesnt mean I wont be happy.

    I thanked him for coming into my life and I will never regret every moment I spent with him. My only regret is that I hurt my husband in the process. I told the Korean not to make the same mistake I did. I told him to marry someone he loves and loves him just as much.

  23. Hey guys!

    Here am I to share with you my story with my lovely korean boyfriend!

    I’m Mélanie, a 20 year-old french girl, who went last year 3 months to Seoul in order to do an internship in a company.
    As a kpop fan, you can imagine that I was really happy to be finally able to go there and meet the people and culture. And sure, I had an amazing time: I met many wonderful people who made me discover at day- and nightime Seoul!
    I was secretly hoping to find myself a korean boyfriend, but after 2 months I started to think that it won’t happen. Not because I couldn’t find a guy (I’m sure you know that in clubs, a western girl can never be 5 seconds alone), but it never felt right to me and I could feel that any of those guys wanted something serious with me, until… I met my future boyfriend.

    So here how it went:
    I was enjoying some time with two german friends (I speak fluently german) in what used to be my favorite club in Seoul. After a few hours, each one of us got separated talking to other people or dancing; so I started to search for them and was hoping that they hadn’t left without me!
    I found one of them outside talking to this gorgeous guy that I had never noticed before even though he was working at that club! But what really impressed me, was that he could speak german! A korean guy who can speak german… can you believe that? I couldn’t because most of them there don’t speak good english. And for the first time in my whole life, I was too shy to join them. Actually I can be a really outgoing person sometimes, but this time I just got intimidated. Don’t ask me why because I don’t know. So I just waited for my friend to finish and after that we went back home.

    A week later, I went back to that club because my russian friend was leaving Korea the next day, and she was so sad that she just needed to be drunk and dance all night. I wasn’t that frilled about it, but it was her last day so I just followed, like everybody else with us.
    This club had always been free for me because I’m a foreigner, but most of our friends were korean, and they wanted to know whether they had to pay and how much. So I just asked someone who was working outside. As I was talking to him, I could notice from his wide eyes open, that he was completely not understanding what I was saying. And this is when my “future boyfriend” came to us, to rescue his friend. I had forgotten about him during the week, but as soon as I saw him, I remembered him and his german skills. I wanted to test his english skills so I asked him whether my korean friends had to pay or not. And he answered me with a perfect english, I was really surprised… I love languages, I can actually speak 4, and I couldn’t believe that this handsome guy in front of me could also speak perfectly german and english. And at that moment, I didn’t care anymore about the club and I just wanted to talk to him.
    We talked all night long, exchanged our numbers, and after a couple of dates, I finally had a korean boyfriend! He is such an amazing person, always so joyfull and take so good care of me. I completely fell in love with him. We had a wonderful time together until I had to go back to France.
    I’ve always been pretty negative about LDR and I was sure of one thing is that I would never be in a LDR, and it’s really amazing how a single person can make you change your mind. I decided to try and to do my best for our relationship, moreover I was sure that it would only last 1 year because I wanted to pursue my studies there.
    So this is how my first LDR has started. Although it was hard at first to be so far from each other and not knowing whether we made the good choice and so on, we had two wonderful months together full of phone calls, skype calls, kakao messages, etc. Unfortunately, he started his military duty on September 2015 and this is when our relationship started to be more difficult. Indeed, I didn’t have any news from him for days, or even weeks because of phone and internet restrictions. But just hearing his voice 5 sec a week, or just being able to talk to him 20 min on a Saturday night at 3 am, has always made me full of joy and my fears go away. We chose to fight despite the distance, and the military restrictions. Letters have become what I cherish the most. Never have I wrote so much letters, and never did I receive so much haha (yes because he writes me a lot too).

    And everything went better on March 2015 thanks to a phone application calls Maaltalk which permits to borrow a korean number (less than 2$ per month) and be able to receive calls from my love one everyday.

    I just want to say that LDR is hard, very hard, and sometimes even harder, but I believe that when you really want something, you just need to fight for it and everything is possible.
    My LDR before Maaltalk wasn’t easy at all, actually I had a lot of negative thoughts such as ” Am I right to wait for this guy that I only hear a few minutes once or twice a week ?..” but I’ve always chased those thoughts, because it would only make it worse.
    Now I’m the happiest girl ever, and in 3 weeks I’m going to Korea again, meeting my boyfriend after 1 year being apart. Unfortunately, I won’t study there this year, but hopefully 2017 will be the one!

    Cheer up to all of you!!

  24. Hi! I’m married to a lovely Korean guy for a few yeras now and we have a beautiful daughter. Overall I love life in Korea but these days I’m feeling a bit lonely and hoping to link up with some other similiar couples. Do you have any tips on how I could do this? I don’t live in Seoul or a bit city so meeting people is a bit difficult. I found this website while searching google for people married in Korea. Thanks in advance. ^^

  25. Hi Hi! for starters I am a white female from PA, and my boyfriend isnt korea korean, he is korean american, he came to the US when he was 1 and currently lives in NYC, so we have a bit more in common~

    We met online on a korean live streaming website. We broadcasted for a good year or so on the same platform together, and met up in person a few times just as friends, but I always thought he was a cutie X3

    This past January he invited me up for a birthday party, so I went! And after afew sojus and some noribang I got the courage to tell him I liked him (I was super unsmooth >< Every day is a learning experience, witch is fun! but its work :P

    I also have been dreading the moment when he is ready to introduce me to his family, makes me wonder if our relationship is worth sticking around for, but for now I'm just enjoying being together with him and getting to know him a bit more day by day <3

    Wish me luck!

  26. Hello everybody ! I want to tell you my little story about my ”good friend” ( he is a korean). I met him aprox. 3 years ago and we still keeping touch. One years ago i told him my feelings. All day I was on pressure, very nervous ,and very scared about his reply. It took me 2 hours to thinking about my decision and i said what i am waiting for? What do i have to lose?. After all i wrote him. 3 minutes after, he seen the message. And his only answer was a lovely emoticon who give a wink and this message ,, we have to set time for meet” I tried to not cry, because i was a little disappointed and very shameful and i tried to answer him very carefully to don’t show him my broken heart, I couldn’t tell him that i’m not going to come to Korea soon. The distance between countries is very long. about 7750 km TT. I though my relation with him is over forever. But in my surprise…after my confesion we could be more freely in conversation. We also flirt sometime… Like always he tell me what he doing , where he is, his wishes…about his workplace..and that he thinking about me.,he tell me that i am beautiful, he care about me. to don’t hang out with guys, to not drink very much, to be carefull night ..But….I am very confused very very. ‘What supposed to be all this??? I don’t understand… he accepted my feelings or just rejected them in a nicely mood and he want to still keep touch just to conversation to don’t be bored. And one thing. Sometime he tell me to come faster in korea to go shopping with him, to watch movie with him. to visit place with him, to go gym with him, and etc.

  27. Hey so i met this korean guy online a while ago..
    we were talking in several subjects and exchanging thoughts and stories etc.. we always had voice calls and even video calls very often… he was so kind ..
    one day I told him I was going to my korean male friend’s house who lives in my country so he told me that he was jealous.. I told him you don’t have to be so he told me “but I love you” .. I was extremly shocked and did’nt answer him .. and we kept talking. . by the days he repeated it by “I really love you.. honestly.. ” I mean.. he was not that kind of a player guy .. i don”t know honestly .. but i didn’t want to be harsh so I told him i like you too .. and then in the next calls he talked about marriage etc.. I really don’t know what to believe ..
    by the way he is going to the army really soon…
    Is he being serious or just playing and having fun..
    I have other korean friends but we are just friends. ..
    hep me xD

    • Girl if he’s telling you not to hang out with other guys, he’s worry about your daily routine and wellbeing, he’s definitely interested in you, try to casually ask him if you can call him oppa, and wait for his answer ,if his answer is a positive one then you know for sure he’s interested in you

    • Korean guys fall in love easy. Trust me on this…dont be serious just have fun. He is going to army and that is almost 2 years of hell for him…relationships dont last. He cant use a phone in the army and only communicate by emaill or facebook chat. I was with an army guy for 9 months. We chatted everyday because i could aaafford to call him between 6 and 9pm. Do not waste 2 years of your life to comit to him unless serious. My ex got depressed from army and broke up with me because he didnt want me waiting.

  28. hi, I was really hoping you will help me, so I met this guy at his work. the first time I met him I was like oh he is cute, he is Korean. long story short, one day I went back to get food and this time he finally talks to me, he asked me where i am from I told him and then I asked him and he told me to guess so I was like are you Korean? and he was like yeah I am. so he asked me for my number i gave it to me, then he text me that same night and asked me if we could go for a date, so we did he was so sweet he spoil me heaps, then he drop me home and message him and rang him i was worried about him a lot, then he sent me a message saying that he is sorry but he won’t be able to have time for me, due to his parents are pressuring him to get a proper job and he doesn’t work well under pressure. any advice you could give me for i am currently confuse, we still talk and all and he always worry for me a lot and he is starting to act the same way he does, for i feel like i might be falling for him

    • The best policy is honesty, why don’t try tell him how you feel? This could be a good a time as any before you compromise your feelings any farther, you need to know where you two stand. Usually when the parents get involved, they either use them as an excuse or they really have a saying in his life, so you need to open up this conversation more sooner than later before you get hurt, who knows ? It may be the best thing you can do for yourself

  29. Hello! I need your advice. I meet this korean guy online, then he ask me to contact him on KK, we’ve been chatting almost 7months. And i think i like him, but i don’t know his feelings, im so clueless about him. He always call me chingu, one time i call him oppa!!! Then his response is “ah.~~~you call me oppa~~~” and then he send me always his pics. He ask me to go to korea, i said yes but soon, he ask me to promise. And one time he said to me “i wish you were here” i was so confused to him, so i was gonna try to confess to him but im afraid that he will turn off to me, i chatted him “saranghae” and “i miss you” but no reaction!!! 😥 I really like him. What im gonna do? By the way his 9-10 years older than me i think?

  30. I need advice, so the guy I was seeing me and him had a complicated story, and we had to stop seeing each other then he later then said ‘I hope you find a better man’ to be honest it made me really sad and I was just wondering if I should message him happy Christmas for part of me feel like he didn’t really mean it. The first time me and him went on a date I saw the way he was looking at me I knew he liked me but can he just fall out of love for me so quickly?

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