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Hi :)
I have some questions to ask for you two love-birds, I’m no racist all right! Okay, do Koreans mostly bully Filipinos? Because my best friend told me that one of the high schools kicked a soccer ball to his stomach, he didn’t even say sorry! No hates! But please answer this question, I don’t wanna hate Koreans :(
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Don’t hate Koreans. You can’t group 53 million people under one personality trait. People are different, all around the world. And it is WRONG to use prejudices to describe any nation, gender or race.
In Korea there are all sorts of people. Some are heroes who risk their lives to save others, some are scumbags who are rotting in jail. Just like in every country, right?
And some Koreans are racist, nationalists or bullies. Just like in every country. Even other Koreans themselves are target of high school bullies.
Only thing you can do in life is try your best to avoid the rotten people and surround yourself with kind and generous ones. This is not always possible, but the older you get, you will see you have less and less patience for the scumbag types.
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Hi! I just want to know if how korean guys/boyfriend can really handled a relationship most of it”Long distance Relationship”..heres my story:
Im 21 year old girl and im a filipina, my korean boyfriend is 22 and actually he lived in L.A but he stayed at the seoul korea with his family because he and his sister was studying at korea.. My boyfriend is studying at Yonsei University, a college student, major in music.. My boyfriend and I met first in Skout.com we started chatting last march 2013, we became friends actually and became a real closed friends.. One day WE decided to transfer our conversation in Kakaotalk App. So that we can comunicate easily, and he dont want some other people csn disturbed us while were comunicating.. He is a Jelousy person he confessed to me… And he have a 3 ex, but he saud to me that all of his ex are bitches.. LOL.. Coz his cheated.. Then i comfort with him because of what happened to him.. Im giving some advices, and he did also gving some advices to me, im also sharing my past to him.. Then its cool coz we really understand each other.. And then one time he confessed with me that he fall in loved with me, then i was shock coz unexpected, he asked with me if we can be together even if its a long distance telationship. Then i said yes to him.. We’ve been together 2nd week of july 2013.. He was so sweet, were still communicating from time to time.. Moring till evening.. He always saying to me, he cant wait to marry me, he always lloking forward to our future, he says he loved me so much, he missess me alot… BUT we dont do skype!!! Im the one who wants to comunicate on skyp’e, because i want yo see him of course. But he always says sooon next time, or on my birthday this august 30.. Even if we didnt do skype he always sending his picture to me with his family, himself and his video singing while playing a piano, he have a wonderful voice. And were the same actually :)
One day he got a job, eorkingstudent, every single day i felt he changed.. Our comunication was affected, in morning 5 min only our comunicstion, in evening 30 min. Unlike the old times.. I understand that both of us are working now… If im on the break im leaving him my message sometimes he did also but sometimes Not.. Some times he is a Talkshit, he cant keep his promises,, the last friday night, i was opened with him my probkems reg. on our telationship. I asked him if he still can handled withthis or not, ciz every single day his changed, i explained to him what fid he do… Then i asked him uf he still want to continue he said “its up to u” lols! Whatta shit answer i felt he dont care.. Then he also opened that we need some space and not talking in 3 days, fine i undestand but next saturday morning, i opened my kakaotalk and he is not on my list now, he blocked me! I thought space? Why he did blocked ne? I guess if he wants to break up maybe he told me imediately right? He left me … Im a hang right now.. He left me easily… This is the last day of our space .. Monday .. If he didnt message me tomorow. And if he still blocked me at kakao, do u think he only lied to me? I should forget him now?
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Of course it’s impossible to answer if Korean guys can handle long distance relationship or not, because some can, some cannot.
My boyfriend is one of those who can. We’ve been in relationship for 3 years, two of those long distance, and right now we haven’t seen each other for more than 6 months.
But he blocked you! I really think that sent a clear message of what he wants. Sorry.
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he is back.. and now we do calls, he call me always, he send some videos like he is playing piano, singing … but when i was request if he can video his self right now. even if its only a second. he said he cant.. i dont know whats the real reason..he only said the he is not ready.. but he said to that he already told to his mom about us.. and his mom wants to meet me soon.. but how come? if i’ve seen the face of his mom and sister. but i thinks its an old picture.. hmmm
you know i feel doubting.. because if i ask him we do face time or skype, he keeping me reject. :'( i guess there no something with that, unless if he only do lies, the picture he sent to me and the videos.. :(
he said he really loves me.. how come? if he dont want to see his girlfreind cam to cam.. :( im so confused honestly….although he always calling me at night, but im not satisfied we’ve been together for 2 months but we didnt seen each other ONCE. is still a normal? :( i guess not..
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I met this guy from the beginning of the year, we both had the same class from my last semester in college. He has been studying abroad in U.S for 3 years. I lived in US for almost 6 years,I’m Viet and he’s South Korean, though he’s not kind of fluent in English but we have no prob in communication. He confessed to me that he liked me and would like to be my bf and I agreed, we’ve been dating for 5 months. However, we hardly meet in summer and he’s just too busy with his job to make money. I understand that he’s living alone and has to work to pay for everything. Being an international student is really tough. As a result, we haven’t met for a month now, from my guess that he’s been working 7 days/ week before school starts. After he gets home it’s already morning so it’s possible there’s no time for him to call or text me. Even I tried to reach him but there wasn’t any reply or message, and I’m getting tired of it. I am not type of clingy but impatient, if he didn’t contact me then I would stop bothering already. and now I feel like I start losing interested in him. We won’t meet in school anymore because I already transferred to other school for the upcoming semester. He’s a nice and sweet guy, but sometimes I feel that he has BIG ego and pride, he never tells his parents about me yet and I haven’t told my parents either, it’s a bothersome for us that they will interfere with our relationship, I will tell them later if I still date him after a year but right now is not the right time. There was a time he said that he never wants to get married nor having children. He wants to be successful and has a decent job first, and he wants to live US, never come back to Korea. Idk why he shows too much disappointment about his country, even my country is not that better but I still decide to go back with my family once I graduate. What will happen with us then? Do you think I need to keep this relationship or just move on? I’m 21 and he’s 26, he’s been served in military for 2 years in Korea before studying abroad. I like him but now my mind is changing.
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Like you said yourself, you like him now but your mind is changing. If this way of being in a relationship is acceptable to you, you will keep liking him. If it is not then one day you will just get tired of it and leave him. You don’t have to make difficult decisions now when you still have some feelings left for him.
I can understand how you feel because we’re in a similar situation. I’m in Europe, my boyfriend is in Korea, he is very busy and also ill. So he is either studying, working, or lying somewhere in great pain. I don’t get to talk to him nearly as much as I want.
But, for me personally, I don’t see a point in having a relationship where you can’t even exchange a few texts a day. No one is that busy.
His opinion about Korea should really have no influence on your relationship but only you two can decide if your love is important enough to find the middle ground (pun intended) where you can live together.
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Hey, I’m brazilian but my family is from Portugal and some from Greece, so sadly I’m really white, and for a reason I have this thing for Korean guys. I haven’t any idea where this come from, I just know that I just like Korean boys, and this is something who happened to me since I’m really young! When I was about 6 years old have 2 korean brothers in my class and a korean family moved on to my building some years ago, but only now this thing happened to me, and also here in Brazil we have a lot of korean/japanese and also chinese guys, but they’re really closed, and only have relationship with others koreans. So, I have 5 questions, is true that korean guys only have relationship with korean girls? and for them who are non-korean like them are ugly or with the beauty below to them? What made korean guys think a non-korean is beauty? and for least, what koreans thinks about us non-koreans? Do you think a korean guy can date a Brazilian girl? Sorry for made this too long, and thank you
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Yes, it’s true that Korean guys only have relationship with Korean girls. That’s why the writers of this blog, a European woman and a Korean guy are in a relationship… no, wait… something’s wrong there.
Yes, all non-Koreans are ugly to Koreans because Koreans have special vision. My Korean boyfriend thinks I’m particularly ugly specimen.
I’m just teasing you, no hard feelings ^^
Anyway, you obviously worry a lot and that’s normal when matters of heart are involved but honestly you need to relax. Korean guys are humans.
Since I fell in love with a Korean guy of course that Korean guys in general have a special place in my heart, but please don’t put them on such high pedestal. There are amazing Korean guys out there, but there are also evil ones.
Get to know one, and then decide if he’s worth it or not. And if he makes you feel like you’re not special because you’re not Korean, then I can tell you right now that he’s not worth it.
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Hi! I’ve been following this site for a couple of weeks now. And I find it very helpful to women like me who has a lot of questions about koreans. Finally I have the courage to ask about my situation with a korean guy.
I met this guy 6 months ago in my class. At first, I really don’t like him but 2months later we got the chance to be close friends. We hang out frequently but with a group of friends. Just recently, he keeps telling me things that are not usual and he’s sweet when we are outside the academy. Even my colleagues noticed about it.
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…continuation…
Actually this guy is way older than me. He is on his late 30’s already but he looks younger than his age. That’s why i find him unpredictable sometimes.
One time, when i made a lie about quitting the english academy he suddenly changed his mood, he was very sad and asked all my friends if its true. And then he told me that he wants to say something important. So after that incident he found out the truth and I asked him again about that “important thing” that he wants to tell me but he just said “its nothing”what could it be? is there any meaning about his gesture? What should I do? He will go back to korea at the end of this month. T_T there are a lot of questions in my head. I’m starting to fall for him because he is really different from all korean men that I met. I am his english tutor and he keeps saying also that he respects his teachers because that is a part with their culture.
I hope you’ll help me answer my questions.
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Here it is. He wanted to tell you that… How would I know!? :)
Sadly, I haven’t developed ability to read Korean men’s minds.
But it seems like you both like each other so just try to relax and enjoy. With time you will see if it can develop into something more.
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H, your ex acts hot and cold. You deserve someone more stable than her. I know it’s hard to believe now but there are plenty of potential partners out there for you. I think you should cancel any trips with her and don’t be friends because that will stop you from moving on. If she wants to be your girlfriend (and only your gf) great, but if not, you need space from her. It’s natural to be sad. These things just take time to get over.
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I second this advice. It really seems pointless to keep chasing after her.
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I really really appreciate your advices to all of you. i said lets finish and canceled trip. it seems like she enjoyed trip with her friends while i’m still in the hell of missing her. And even staying with a male friend in her room before and after the trip. (kind of shock to me) She seems like a robot or heartless person. I don’t know why I really fell in love with her even though she was not for me. i have to kill her in my heart. sigh.. it is not easy.
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I know it’s hard but this happens all the time, to koreans and non koreans. Someone else will come along that will be into you. Just let yourself heal from this.
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