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I’m a caucasian woman living in Canada. This really nice Korean guy is interested in me and asked to go for coffee with me. I turned coffee down and instead I said it would be better for us to get to know each other more in large group settings. Since then, we’ve seen each other at a number of social events and seem to hit it off. I’d like to go for coffee with him now and get to know him better.
So my questions are these:
1) If I ask him whether he wants to go for that coffee, will I be seen as incredibly forward? If yes, then what should I do instead to let him know I’m now interested?
2) I don’t know if I want to jump into an exclusive relationship right away. I wouldn’t mind continuing to get to know him and going on a few dates, while possibly going on dates with other guys as well. Is this acceptable in Korean culture or taboo?-
1) As far as the being forward goes, I told Kimchi Man while we were still chatting online: “I’m in love with you”, and it worked out just fine for us. Compared to that asking someone out for a coffee is nothing. :) Besides, don’t most people enjoy someone showing interest in them?
2) Forget about Korean culture, it’s all about what you and this guy agree upon. But you’ll have to talk to him about it. Kimchi Man and I both believe that dating comes after falling in love, and neither of us would accept the other person seeing other people as well. But my Kimchi Man is not every Korean guy, so yours might be relieved to hear you don’t want anything serious right away.
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Thank you for your reply! We talked and we went for coffee. He is an artist and has offered to give me art lessons. We will be having coffee again this weekend and doing some art together. We have also talked about some of the differences between dating in Canada and in Korea. I think we are on the same page. But we will likely talk about it more when we are together this weekend. Thank you for your help! And thank Kimchi Man :)
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You are welcome! :) We are both glad it’s going so well.
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Hi you two love birds ^^ I’m curious about something. I live vegan, I guess you know what that means, so I was curious how Korean guys see all this. I’m always imagining that Koreans (man or women) wouldn’t want to be with a vegetarian or vegan person, since they/we don’t prepare meals with animal parts and Korean BBQ is such a bonding thing and so on. So, do you think that such a relationship is even possible?
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Well, I personally believe that one’s diet preference is not important in the relationship even though we Korean males really love BBQ and other meat stuffs. Also, there already are lots of vegetarian people (both males and females) who are in relationship in South Korea. There are various vegetarian dishes in Korea because Korean diet culture originates from agricultural vegetarian diet. So, I believe they can live without eating meat.
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Thank you anon for your reply ^^ So you think the diet preference is not important? hmmm, I am not sure what to think actually, I guess I will know once I’ll come in this situation.
Anyway, I’ve actually discovered a site from a vegan Korean couple with vegan Korean dishes and I love the food.
But what do you mean with “…they can live without meat”? Do you mean the guy would actually turn vegetarian or vegan? I’m really curious.
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Hello, we think we’ll write a longer answer about this and publish an article about it as soon as possible. Thank you for your patience :)
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Really? Woah, that would be hilarious, thank you very much (⌒∇⌒)
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Here it is Do Korean guys date vegetarian and vegan girls. Hopefully you get the answer you wanted :)
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Hi! It’s good to be back :-) Hahaha. Actually, I need your help about something very important. I had my story posted here before…going straight to the point…the korean guy I like so much left me a video message before he left. But he spoke in Korean language and I really wanted to know what he has said. Do you think you could help me translate it?
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I hope Kimchi-man can also help me decipher the message. ^_^
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Sorry that you’re waiting for your response. Kimchi Man is very ill and I don’t know Korean well enough to help you. If I would have to guess, I’m pretty certain he would be happy to help you, but I just can’t ask him right now :( You can send the video to our e-mail address lovingkorean@yahoo.com or leave a link here, and I’ll ask him as soon as he feels at least a bit better. Thank you for understanding and patience.
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Oh, sorry to hear that. I hope that he’ll get better soon. You must be very worried. I’m praying for good health for the both of you. I’ll be converting the video into MP3 format then send it to your email now. Thank you very much.
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I made the translation best I could into subtitles and e-mail it to you.
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my husband wants me to process papers,,to go korea with our 5 months old son..but i process it slowly he wanted me to process it quickly..and sudennly he stop calling me i cannot call him never message me anywhere that connect us i am very worry what should i do? i love my husband…..
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I’m so sorry but I really don’t know what we could possibly do to help in your situation.
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thank you for your opinion, i greatly appreciate it
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Hello.
So, I am American and I live in Louisiana. In August last year (2012) there was a foreign student who was assigned to my class. I didn’t think much of it at first because I was tired, but when he walked in and he said: Hello, my name is Jang.
I woke right up! He was smiling sweetly. And he was so attractive. He was wearing glasses. And I don’t know I just kinda thought to myself: I have to be his friend!I knew he was asian, but I didn’t know what race until he told the class he was korean. And I’ve always loved Korea since I was 12. So I was even more excited to meet him!
He sat all the way across the room so I couldn’t really talk to him easily, so I waited until break and he had a few of the boys in my class being friendly to him, so I ran up to him and literally said: annyeonghaseyo! jang – oppa! (He is older than me)
And everyone just looked at me like I was crazy and he just smiled and said: annyeonghaseyo, dongsaeng.
And then after that we became best friends!
We still call each other oppa and dongsaeng to this day. He teaches me korean language and we even made kimchi together once <3
But lately he's been acting odd. He buys me things even when I tell him that he doesn't have to, and he hugs me and he tells me I'm beautiful. He's usually not a shy guy, but sometimes when he's around me I catch him blushing and he gets shy every now and then. When people tease me, even though I don't think much about their hateful comment and just brush it off, he gets really protective of me. And it makes me genuinely happy that he cares so much about me.
I know this kinda sounds like a drama, but it's true.
So, I've been liking him from the day I layed eyes on him. Does he like me? I can't tell. I have asked my friends and they said that maybe because he's Korean he shows affection differently. But, I don't know. So please, please help me.
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Hello :)
His behavior is not odd, it is a usual behavior of courting someone.
You don’t need to worry, Koreans are humans, and your brain is wired to recognize human courtship instinctively. I think you can relax, it’s not like drama at all, just sounds like a common story between two teenagers. We’ve all been though it :)
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Thank you! :D This helped me a lot! I don’t think that guys HAVE to make the first move, but i was hesitating to make the move because i didn’t know if he liked me or not. But now I’m confident that it will work out. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! :D ^^
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I’m so glad it was helpful :)
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