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Dear Oegukeen and Kimchi Man,
I have been admiring your little work here for quite a long time. I enjoy reading the questions and shouts for help that people give to you two. And I have to say that you deal with them pretty well. I never had the courage to talk about my problems to people I don’t know, but I feel like this is the last thing that could help me.
I live in a very white pride country. You will not see many other races walking around here. And guess what? My family is one of the people who have the biggest white pride ever. I feel a little bit like an outcast even in my own family, since I have the biggest respect for any race and love it like my own, but I get criticized for it and I am always left to be not understood. But I guess some people have the same problem at times. Sometimes I get made fun because of my skin color, but naturally I am in an all white family and my skin is quite yellowish, but some people tend not to understand why is it like that, it’s not because of my race, no I am white myself or so I believe I am. My skin has a yellowish tone because of the health problems I have, and some people tend to make fun of me, because they think I am Asian, but my skin color is not the issue right now.
Ironically enough, I have a big passion for Korean culture. When I was little at school in first grade I found a book full of pictures about Asian culture and habits, and I can tell you that book probably started my love for such amazing cultures especially for Korean ones. I get teased for it a lot, something a lot of teenagers have gone through too, and from what I’ve read on this site is that Oegukeen, you had problems with it too and I admire how you kept your head up high for what you like and admire and it really gives me inspiration to keep on going. I’ve read about your story how you met Kimchi Man, and I find it very interesting and in a way funny. And I started to think maybe trying to connect with other cultures online would give me a chance to actually meet that someone special for me, of course that’s just every young teenagers dream, so it should not be taken very seriously, but I did anyway. So I visited your recommended site http://www.interpals.net, but the problem is I am very shy when it comes to facing somebody and I had very hard time on that site, I tried to connect with a lot of people not only Asian ones but people from other cultures too and I seem to have failed. I kept trying now for like five months, I guess that doesn’t seem much but I still have failed and I ended up with no connection whatsoever, I guess that is partly my fault because I can’t actually connect with people because I cannot get over my shyness and sociopath problem. I even tried to connect with my favorite type of Asians and those are obviously Koreans (so obvious) and once again I have failed and it ended only in a “Hi” and a “Bye”, which is the most embarrassing thing I’ve probably done. But I am still young I am heading over to be seventeen soon, so I have a whole life ahead of me to meet that one person, but I am afraid if I don’t start searching and suck it in and ask for help I will never get there where I want to be.
So, I am sucking it in right now and trying to get over the shyness that has got the best of me and asking for your help to maybe give me some tips on how could I possibly meet someone Korean or if that doesn’t work out try to connect with another Asian culture when I’m so shy and afraid to be judged and brought down? I really want to prove to my family that other races aren’t so bad and that my love for Korea is very big and that their culture and music is not that bad as they think, that it cannot give me that bad influence and that it is alright to bring home another person of a different race and even have a relationship with him.
I am sorry, this probably was a very dry and a very hard thing to read for you, and I apologize with all of my heart. I usually don’t talk a lot, but this time I am trying to take a stand and ask for help. I am thanking you in advance whet-ever you will help me or not, I will appreciate every single second that you wasted on reading this and taking the time to either tell me that you can help or not, thank you, thank you so much.
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Hi, welcome and thank you for your question. We will try to write a post about it shortly, but in the meantime I would advise you not to lose hope.
It’s difficult to find someone you get alone well, offline and online. When I first went on Interpals it took months before I met Kimchi Man and he was the first person there that I could truly chat with.
Before I met Kimchi Man I talked to people from any country. Afterwards, when I realized our relationship is serious, I thought it might be nice to find more Korean people to be friends with. I found that language barrier was a big issue with most of them. They were simply to shy to chat in English beyond the basics. So don’t take it personally.
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Is it possible to meet “bigbang” boyband if I go there? Or its just an IMPOSSIBLE DREAM.?
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Kimchi Man found this for you http://www.ygfamily.com/artist/Concert2.asp?LANGDIV=K&ATYPE=2&ARTIDX=3
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Hi! I am a Filipina and I wanted to move there after I finished my studies here. Can you give me some advice how to have a decent work there? Im taking up Bachelor of Arts in Communication Arts here and will graduate on March next year, Im planning to study and work there in Korea. Is it a good idea? :( I desperately want to go there,,, I think K-pop music, drama really influenced me a lot. REALLY. I want there <3. REALLY. :( T_T
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I’m sorry, I don’t know anything about getting a job in Korea since I am not in the phase of looking for one yet. However, one person had good advice so check out the comments of this post https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/02/18/qa-is-my-dream-of-going-to-south-korea-going-to-turn-into-a-nightmare/.
Also, there are many people online who already got a job in Korea so they are going to be much more helpful than I am.
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Since you want to study you can continue your education in Korea after you get Bachelor degree. Companies visit universities and look for interns and they also have many informations.
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This is mostly just out of curiosity and NOT based on my own opinions, but is it true about people saying that Korean males don’t date outside of their own nationality(for a ‘racist’ reason)???
I mean no disrespect, but from all the things I’ve heard, it doesn’t seem as though a girl like me would ever stand a chance. Not only am I NOT Korean, but I am a mixture of nearly every nationality except Asian. I am a little on the thick side, lots of curves, thick/straight hair,full lips, brown eyes, tawny complexion, D-cup, and too much ass. Even to ME it sounds like too much of a contrast to work and people have told me as much before.
However, as a hopeless romantic, I feel that every person is different and so are their views on what beauty is or isn’t, So I have that tiny shred of hope that some day I’ll meet a Korean man and after a very sarcastic but light-hearted conversation, he will say,” Hey, you’re cute.” And who knows, maybe it will happen. Maybe it wont. All I would like to know, is if that is a false hope or if I am on the right track.
Any thoughts?
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I have good news for you: It is not romantic to think that every person is different; it is a scientific fact. :)
Kimchi Man and I are different nationalities and from different continents. Many non-Korean women who had a question on this blog are in a relationship with Korean men.
So as you can see, it happens.
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how can i find a korean handsome boyfriend ?!!
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Try the Olympics maybe? ^^
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Greetings!
I recently celebrated my one year anniversary with my boyfriend. Although I’m extremely happy to be with him, there is something that is upsetting me just a bit. We have been dating for one year and yet all his friends and family think he is still single. As for myself, my family and friends know about him and have met him when they visited Korea.
I have had mixed thoughts about him not revealing me based on his answers. My boyfriend says that he doesn’t want to expose us because it’s a relationship between us only (to him its a private matter). Also, he says that it isn’t really normal to introduce a girl to his parents.
It just bothers me when he tells me his friends are trying to set him up on dates. I told him that if you actually told your friends that you are in a relationship, they wouldn’t do those things. It also bothers me… well… I feel envious… when I read about non-Korean girls being introduced to their boyfriends family and friends. Why won’t my boyfriend do this?
I know he loves me but maybe he is ashamed of me? I mean I sometimes feel that because he has never told anyone that he is in a relationship.
I don’t know how to handle this situation, and would really appreciate your advice.
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We got a similar question from one of your readers https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/04/05/qa-korean-boyfriend-wont-tell-his-parents-about-our-relationship-what-to-do/. But in her case, he introduced her to his friends, just not his parents.
I must say that my boyfriend had no hesitations in introducing me to his parents and friends.
I really don’t know why your boyfriend won’t do it. But since you have been in a relationship for more than a year I think you two are close enough to talk openly about this.
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Loving Korean 
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