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Hi oegukeen:) Actually, I’m one of those people who ask you some random question about koreans in Twitter:) Actually, I really wanted to have a korean boyfriend someday.. But i’m afraid koreans won’t like me maybe because they have ‘High Standards’. It feels like may koreans prefer a girl who look like ‘beauty queens’ etc.. It’s like korean really don’t like having a relationship nor a crush on people who aren’t korean. Actually, i have a korean crush on my campus.. It’s like one of my friend is close with him. She introduce me with this guy. And i’m totally amazed it’s because i fall inlove with him. It’s like love at first sight. After that we become friends (not a very close close friend) just like ordinary friends who just wave hi when they see you something like that. But after 4 or 5 months we became close. And he became kinda sweet to me? Something like that. But after that, he had a girlfriend. And that was my friend.. I became depressed and a keep my distance over them.. But after 5 months they broke up. And this korean guy is courting me. I dunno if he’s true with his feeling about me. Because as my friend said to me that he is just joking around with their relationship. And he’s been courting me for how many months and i don’t know if i’ll answer him or no. Hope you can help me TT-TT
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Well, there are plenty of examples on this site, including myself, of non-Korean women who have real relationships with Korean guys.
Don’t doubt his feelings just because he is Korean. Try to gauge if you would doubt him if he was same nationality as you. Then it will be clearer what your answer to him should be.
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But, I’m kinda afraid that i will end up like he’s relationship with my friend. I hope he won’t play around with my feelings. I don’t know, But i’ll try:) Thank you again Oegukeen:)
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I’m currently in a year and three month long relationship with my boyfriend. Met in college but he transferred to NYC for uni. He’s Korean and I’m Filipino. Our main problem is the distance. Ever since he left for uni, it’s been hard on both our parts to stay on track with our lives and our relationship. A few months back, I became the stereotypical OAG. I messaged him almost everyday. Probably leaving him 5-10 LONG messages on Kakao of how I’m sad and I miss him. He got fed up and left me a few days before our anniversary. I was devastated. When he arrived back home to visit his parents, he insisted in meeting and after a month he wanted me back and wanted another chance. So I gave him this chance. So we are happily together again. He left for uni yesterday. I wanted to ask how I can make things work since we won’t see each other til I come visit during my summer (which is about 9 months away). Do Korean guys really hate girls messaging constantly? Should I just leave him be and trust him fully? How can we keep things interesting? I have loads of questions but I think I’ll just ask these because it’s my current problem :(
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You say you messaged him almost every day. That doesn’t seem excessive. Although, I am not sure what you mean by 10 LONG messages. ^^
Either way, there is no “proper” number of messages to exchange with your boyfriend. It depends on what the couple wants, and only important thing is that each one of you feels the same way. Which, unfortunately, doesn’t seem to be the case.
It really depends on the particular Korean guy how he feels about messages. The way your guy is has everything to do with his personality, and nothing to do with him being Korean.
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Hey so I always eat at this Japanese restaurant but own by Korean, there is a new Korean girl just work there this week as a waitress. When I finish my meal she gave me a recipe and behind the recipe she wrote “Thank You *then a two hearts eye with a smile*” hmmm Does it mean she like/interest in me ? if so How can I approach a Korean girl ?
btw I’m Asian *But I am not Korean tho* :)
Thank you <3
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She seems interested. Isn’t it easier than in other situations – just go to the restaurant :)
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Hello
I hope you can help me out! Here’s my „story“….
I’ve started to write messages with a korean guy. We get along together really well. We’ve talked a lot, but I always was the first who was asking. He never asked me a thing (I don’t know. Maybe he was not interested, or maybe it’s nothing what korean people do). I’m also the last one who ends the conversation… like saying “Bye. Have a good day. ect” but he never reply (i was sad~) cuz I always thought that I was the only one who care about it. He never text me first, and he also do not tweet a lot but if I text him, he reply in the next second. So I’ve understood, that he was online (waiting for me?) but he never text me first. So I came to the point where I was kinda really sad. So I’ve told him that I’ll delete my account and I’ll leave. After that he told me not to go. He asked me to stay. I did as he wished cuz i thought it will become better from now on. But nothing has changed.
I don’t know. I did so many “first steps”. I don’t know what it was all about. But I think I was the only one who was really “following” him and I was waiting for him day by day until he makes the first step. But he never did and i think he’ll never do.Maybe you can give me an answer? What is it all about? Did I made a mistake?
I mean, he’s waiting for me but he never makes the first step.
I just want to understand him and know what to do from now on.Thank you.
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It is possible he is just shy. Unfortunately, it is also possible you are wasting your time. I think you are just going to have to decide how much effort and risk this guy is worth to you.
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thank you very much for your answer! I just want to be friends with him (as far as I can through the internet) but it’s still hard when you’re always the one who asks first. I often think that I commit him to something. i also think and understand that we’re really different. maybe tooo different! building up a friendship is a really hard thing. i don’t know. but yes, i just wanna say thank you:)) have a nice day!
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hey there ! my friend , from south korea , that had to joind the army for 2 years , left me a message saying * i love u soooooooo much . u r important person to me , i promise our friendship will last forever . * I am european , he’s my friend that i made by internet and stayed in touch for like 3 years ? [ this yr is the 3rd ] . my question is : do koreans use to say * i love you * to anybody ? or he actually meant it in the real meaning ?
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Hello!
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ohhh so he actually meant it ! i was really wondering , because it was the first time him saying this to me , esp as we are friends only on the internet . hope we’ll meet someday in this life . thanks for ur reply !
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Hey, it’s writer1986. I just thought I’d drop in & say congrats on getting more & more viewers/followers! My inbox is always stuffed with questions from your followers. Hahaha…And one last thing: My Oppa has left for Korea. He’s been gone since the beginning of August, and I miss him miserably. But thankfully technology, like email & phones, keeps us close. Still it’s not the same… I would love some words of encouragement & advice when you two find the time. Thanks!
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Thank you! It’s really lively around here. It’s such a delight. :)
Kimchi Man left for Korea in June so I am a miserable mess most of the time as well. You are right, without technology it would be impossible. But I also wish we could chat and talk all day long.
I wish I had some good advice, but we just use apps like Kakaotalk or My People to send messages or photos and Skype to talk. I especially like receiving photos from him. it makes me feel closer to him when he snaps a photo and I can see what life is like for him. Those are the sweetest moments during my day. Maybe you can also send a care package? Technology is good but it is also special when you can hold in your hands something he has held in his recently.
When is your boyfriend coming back?
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