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433 responses to “Ask us 2012 Archives”
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what are some romantic gestures women can do that korean men will love? can kimchiman cite some examples please? thanks!!!
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Korean men are just like any other men in the world. And it all comes down to personal preference and what a particular guy likes.
You know what he is like so you know the best what he might like. Don’t worry that he is Korean and about cultural differences.Since it used to be that Korean man always has to pay on a date he might feel appreciated if woman offers to pay sometimes. But that also depends on each particular couple.
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Thanks, Kimchi Man! I also have another question. Based on your experiences, are there significant differences between Christian men there in Korea and non-Christian men?
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Not significant. Some are very enthusiastic, some don’t really express their faith.
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Hi! Okay I need you to be brutally honest with me (via email). I’ve loved this Korean guy since I was in fourth year high school (I’m in my second year in college now). I know that I love him because we hold the same beliefs and he is very passionate about them, he inspires me to become a better person, he is really sensitive and kind towards me and I know that in my heart of hearts that I want to follow him even to the ends of the earth. I’ve almost given up on him since there was a temporary lull in our communication but when he found me on facebook, I just lost my wits and I knew that I would never fall for another one ever again. I can’t and don’t want to confess to him yet because we both have studies as our priorities and we both have big dreams. I’d gladly give up mine for him but I don’t want to be the one to hinder him from reaching his. We’ve talked about so many things on facebook that I just wonder if I sound a bit too obvious and desperate. I will post here all that we’ve talked about. Please, please, please be honest with me and erase his and my last name so as to keep even a little bit of privacy. Thank you so much and God bless to you and your beau :)
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You forgot to give me your e-mail address so I will answer here.
We read your conversation and erased it to keep your privacy. It seems that both care about each other. No one seems desperate :)
Keep up the good work.
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Thanks so much!!! I love reading your blog. God bless you and kimchi man with many many more years together!!! <3
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I’m also very interested in this question ^^
Can we make up α person? Let’s say he’s moderately strict about his culture, but he is interested in interracial relationships (elite relationship?? Aahhh! Hahaha).
What would the do’s and don’ts be when appearing with him at functions, in the subway, etc?-
The previous question was about becoming a guy’s friend. I think that’s a different situation then going around with a friend who you hope will become a boyfriend.
I would really like to help, but maybe I am misunderstanding what I am being asked. Doesn’t the way you behave in public depend more on which country you are in, than which person you are with?
For example, public displays of affection are fine in Europe, but looked down upon in Korea. So Kimchi Man and I hold hands, hug and kiss when we are in Europe, but we certainly won’t be doing that in Korea.
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What are the do’s and the don’ts to befriend a Korean guy?
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That’s a very general question. It really depends on the particular guy, what he is like, and what he likes.
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I’m American white, half spanish girl. I became penpals with a Korean guy online. He’s really nice, although often we don’t get to message back and forth since we are both busy and on opposites sides of the world. Within the first few days of chatting though, he has shown interest in me.
I don’t know whether I should respond to his affection or not. I do like talking to him and I get excited whenever I get a message from him, but he is slightly older than me by 8 years.
His English isn’t so great, but often his answers or responses are short.
Is there a way to get him to say more? He has told me he isn’t very talkative, but I am, when I want to know someone. Sometimes I often feel that I am a bother to him because I ask so many questions. Although he always responds.Thanks :)
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Oh I forgot to add, we’ve been chatting for over 2 months now.
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You said his English is not that great – maybe he is not saying much becuase he is afraid he wont say something right and offend you – the way American woman and men interact is different then Korean men and woman from what I understand. There is more formality in the beginning of a friendship/relationship and Americans are not usually that way, so he might think he will offend you or something like that. Have you tried learning some Korean – this is cheating but even using a good translator might help. I am not saying you need to go out and become fluent but learn some basics. Good luck.
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Unless you are underage, I think the age difference doesn’t matter at all.
You can’t really force someone to talk more. It is possible it is just due to his English – it is difficult speaking a foreign language. If you are not sure whether you want to respond to his affection or not, give both of you more time to figure it out.
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Hello, I am thinking of going to South Korea sometime in the next year. I have been fascinated by Korean culture, both popular culture and historically speaking. I am thinking about going as a teacher- I currently live in the U.S. (Texas to be exact) and have had a few friends tell me about the openings to go over there to teach for I believe it is a year with the organization I have been talking with. i am married but have been separated for a few years and my divorce will be final soon. I will be handling that before I go. My question is really in regard to my kids. I just turned 30 years old and i have a 13 year old daughter and a 7 year old daughter. Both of my daughters are in love with the little bit of Korean culture we can get our hands on here- If I go I will be taking my children with me. Do you think it would be a good idea or a bad idea to bring them with me. I want them to experience other cultures and ways of life like i did as a child. I come from a multicultural family with strong ties to the military ( I am Puerto Rican and German; my oldest is Puerto Rican ans German like myself and youngest is Puerto Rican, German, and Haitian – her father my soon to be ex-husband is Haitian and also affiliated with the military). The education system in U.S. kinda sucks right now, unless you have the deep pockets to afford private school. I am hoping I might be able to offer my kids a better education abroad. My 13 year old has already started to win scholarships to Universities for science and technology and My younger child is just as bright. I want to give them all the opportunities I can to not only rise up but to rise above. So in your honest opinion would it be a good idea to take them and give them the exposure or should it wait until they older? After South Korea I am thinking of going to Australia and if I go, they will be going too. ^_^ . I would ask about men, but i think I have pretty much given up on that, lol. Who wants a woman with two kids anyway….. ^_^… Thank you in advance for your time and for answering my weird question.
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Wow, you are really an inspiring person, “sincere”. I have been living here as an English teacher in Korea for almost a year. Do you know much about the Korean education system? Would they be in a school for foreign young people? The education system is very different here and I think both American and Korean education systems have big flaws. I think it would be really hard, personally, to be a single mother in a foreign country, especially one so different from Western culture..just as far as childcare goes and a support system.. unless they have programs to support foreigners with children. Perhaps in Seoul being near the military? It is so hard to live in a country that doesn’t speak English! I can’t imagine being a child here, they will be relying only on you for everything they need, moreso even than at home. I feel this with culture shock could be so draining for you! I would try an English speaking country (AUS) until they are a little older unless there is a school where they can interact with other English speakers and you can find good childcare/support.
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I completely understand where you are coming from. I would not take my kids somewhere where they would not be able to communicate; both of them speak Spanish, Haitian, French, some German. My oldest started teaching herself Japanese because she loves the Japanese anime’s and manga so much. She started teaching my youngest because my youngest is tired of reading subtitles. There are several reasons I am waiting to go for a year, if I decide to go. One, I need to finish my Master’s degree, and two, to give my children and myself sometime to learn Korean – at least the basics, the rest will come with time, practice and experience. I know most Americans (and their children) only speak English (if you even want to call it English, lol). Even though I was poor growing up I have have always tried to educate myself and the same goes my kids, I do not have much but that doesn’t mean we have to remain ignorant and settle for whats in front of us. I know kids in other countries learn English very early on. I know some educators are trying to change the fact that American children are way behind the curve when it comes knowing other languages; in California they are starting to teach Chinese to kids starting in the first grade, but that hasn’t caught on with the rest of the country yet. Spanish was taught to my kids in school starting in the first grade but that was at a DoD school and at home (German is spoken by my mother’s family a lot and by her and I speak both Spanish and German with both of them- French and Haitian is something new to due to my husbands (soon to be ex) background and they picked it up easier then I did). I wouldn’t be going unprepared, it would be torture for them and in my personal opinion I think it would be disrespectful to move to a country to work and learn and not know the language at least a little. Are foreigner’s welcome (as far as kids go) or is bullying an issue? And thanks for all the info I really appreciate it.
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Hello Sincere,
Thank you for visiting our blog and asking us a question. Unfortunately, I know nothing about having children in Korea, and Kimchi Man knows very little. He THINKS there are schools in English, but knows nothing about them.
I know that Kimchi Man had really hard time in high-school. He had to be there from 07:00 until 22:00, and only went home to sleep. Plus teachers were allowed to beat the pupils and some took it too far. However, since he finished school the law has been made that forbids corporal punishment. On the other hand, foreign students are probably subject to much more relaxed set of standards. Here is a video of two exchage students in Korea from the U.S. They seem to be having fun. :) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OC3dfKtOdGw
Of course I can’t promise you there won’t be any bullying, but in general kids will probably just be curious and friendly.
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