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433 responses to “Ask us 2012 Archives”
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Dear waegukin and kimchi man:
I am a Muslim girl who thinks Korean men are good looking (as in people from my culture are not). As a Muslim, I can only marry a respectable Muslim guy but it seems impossible for me to find a Muslim Korean. My ultimate question: do they even exist? Can you just either raise my hopes or crush them so that I can move on from this? Thanks. :)-
You can find answer to your question here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/10/19/can-i-find-korean-muslim-to-marry/
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Thank you for your question, you can find your answer here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/10/19/can-i-find-korean-muslim-to-marry/
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I’m so happy that I found your blog!
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We are happy your found us as well!
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My son (26 year old caucasian Australian) has been in a relationship with a very beautiful (in every way) 28 year South Korean born young woman for 18 months. Her parents migrated to New Zealand from South Korea about 10 years ago and recently came to Australia to visit their daughter (who has independently happily lived, studied and worked in Australia for about 4 years). My son is a wonderful person. He is very courteous. respectful and loving and has a University degree, a steady job and owns his own apartment. He is interested in Korean culture, loves the food and has tried to learn some of the language. Him and his girl are a very cute couple it is quite plain to see that they are very much in love. We (my husband and I) are very happy in every way with their relationship. Her parents (on the other hand) after visiting Australia and meeting our son 3 times have decided they do not approve of the relationship (even though to my sons face they were friendly and seemed to accept him). They think he is too young for their daughter, not ambitious enough and incapable of looking after their daughter. They have told their daughter it would be in her best interest to forget our son and find herself a Korean guy. Both my son and his girl are very upset about this situation. Any ideas on what they can do?
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I am sorry to hear your son has found himself in this situation.
I think there is not much he can do about it. This is an issue between the Korean parents and their daughter. I hope she will not let her parents choose for her.You say your son is interested in Korean culture. Has he tried treating her parents the way a Korean man would? Handing everything with two hands, not refering to them by their name, etc. You say they have lived in New Zealand for 10 years now but obviously Korean culture is very important to them.
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I met this Korean guy who is 28 during the summer while I am 21. I am not Korean but asian and he was in my country (Singapore) for an internship. I really liked him the first time I met him and we did hang out a couple of times as a group with other co-workers. During the end of our work (3 month), I did a farewell for him since he had to go back and pursue his masters. Although both of us study in the USA , we are about 3 hours by train from each other’s city. We kept in touch while we are here , texting, fb and sometimes calling each other on the phone for an hour. The problem is, I do not know how he see me as, yesterday I received a text from him saying, he really appreciates me, admires me and by the end of the sentence, he says thank you so much my singaporean sister! Does this mean he is not interested and just sees me as a sister and nothing more?
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Hello, thank you for leaving a question.
He sounds friendly. Neither I nor Kimchi Man have any idea what it means for this guy to call woman a sister. It’s not some secret Korean code, don’t worry. I guess you will just have to wait and see. You can check out https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/01/18/how-to-meet-south-koreans/. We hope it will help.
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I am currently dating a Korean male and it is our 2 month anniversary today. I told him “I love you” through text but he never says it back but gives faces like ^^. Is this normal for him not to say it back? ><
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“I love you” in Korean language has exactly the same meaning as in English and most other languages. So anything you would conclude about a guy from your own country from that behavior goes for Korean guy as well.
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Hi Kimchi Man and Oegukeen,
I just want to say that I’ve been following your blog for a few months now and really like your posts. The both of you are really nice whilst giving very objetive, grounded advice. So thanks for the great reads:) Plus, the two of you seem to be really cute together and I wish you all the best for the many years you’ll have ahead together:)
Anyway, I decided to write in to ask something. I’ve been reading on alot of places that well, Koreans aren’t very open to chatting to strangers in random places. That the only way(s) to ever score a date with one is through “meetings” or “sogetings”. I’m not sure how true is that for the younger generation?
But anyway, I’ve been trying to get to know this guy for awhile now. Thing is, we run in the same circles but our circles don’t ever co-incide. We both play the same sport but he does it on a much professional, international level whilst I’m usually on the fringe teams and just dabbling in the event organization for this sport. I’ve seen him a couple of times and do wish to know him. However, I’m not sure how is this ever gonna happen, keeping what i said above in mind haha. 1. We don’t have common friends. I don’t even know who his friends are or which “inner circle” he runs in. 2. Koreans don’t speak to strangers (i’m aware this is a gross generalization) and 3. it seems weird for girls to initiate interactions with men (or so I’m told).
Now, in this upcoming event in a few months I’ve just found out I’d be living in the hotel right next to his accomodation in Seoul, and there are a few eating places around our area, so I’m sure we’d bump into each other. I was thinking of this as a great opportunity to strike up a conversation if I see him (though my Korean vocab is rather limited). Thing is, I’m quite hesitant and put off now after reading the “Koreans dont really speak to strangers” and another thing that might be an obstacle is that he might be with his huge group of team-mates so it might be really weird to strike up a conversation too.
I’m thinking though that since he travels to other countries cause of his profession and has to mingle quite abit with the local communities/fans there if any, that he might be more open-minded in that respect (of speaking to strangers). However I’m not sure.
So my question is really two parts. 1) the more specific one of how to approach this particular guy and… 2) the more general one of how does one approach a guy she likes/wants to interact with in Korea? I’m not sure if this would make any difference but I speak limited Korean and am Asian (mixed chinese/indian ethnicity). am not sure if this would weigh in on my interactions or anything.
I’m terribly sorry about the long long question but I would sincerely love to hear your opinions on this. Thanks so much in advance and I hope this isn’t too much trouble!
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Welcome! Thank you for your question. We are glad to get a question about Korean dating culture. We are preparing a few other posts right now, but as soon as we are done with that, we will make one for your question.
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Thank you so much! Looking forward to your posts!:)
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We answered your question. You can find it here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/10/17/qa-how-can-i-approach-a-korean-guy/
We hope it helps!
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