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433 responses to “Ask us 2012 Archives”
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You silly girl! ;3
How is it embarrassing to be honest and open about your feelings? The only thing that’s ever embarrassing in that department is being clingy. The guy obviously wants you to like him back, so why are you so cold? If I was you, I’d send him α message saying something like: “You know what? I do miss you! Wish I didn’t have to work this holiday, but I hope you’re having α great time! (:”
Lol if you like him (which I’m sure is true, otherwise you wouldn’t be posting here), don’t play so cold! You don’t have to go all out and tell him you like him. I even tell my buddies whom I’ll NEVER date that I miss them. Or “I miss your company” if you’re really not an intimate (or whatever hehe). person.Anyhow. I hope I helped α little bit. Good luck!
PS. Thank you, Oegunkeen, yet again, for making such an interesting blog! ♡
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This is wonderful advice. And thank you for being an awesome reader.
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Hi, so I hv been awhile at interpals and tried to talk with korean over there…but some of them are like just insterested with foreigner girl as i am an asian they just pretend to reply me then after that They dnt even reply me at all aready…well I really not sure what that mean but why they choose to continue it and then ignore me?!! Felt like being tricked…it makes me no more confidence to talk with any of them alrdy… So can i know is that every korean over there just wish to have foreigner to talk with them but not asian?? And should I continue to talk with them who ignored me( actually I added them as friend but not sure should continue to talk anot…)
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How do you know they are only interested in non-Asian girls? You can’t really see who they are talking to, can you?
They are not tricking you. Online communication is just like any other – of majority of people you will make friends with only a few. Don’t take it personally, just be persistent.
I contacted hundreds of people and didn’t manage to make a single friend, except Kimchi Man.
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Hmm hope i cam hv one also…at least a true friend from there…:/ I really dk what to say to them like i talk to them then they just did that answer part some even replied me and blocked me after that…I just so headache with people mind alrdy…like even the friends around also the same…betraying and just a friend for purpose but not a truth friend…tats why actually i wish to meet some true friend at there actually…but rn idk whether it will happen anot…kinda lack of confidence to talk to anyone at there actually…i lost my mind abt wat to reply them…because at first for me korean ppl is friendly but now i am not sure is that everyone is just be the same…like ppl around the world is just the same?? Do you ever encounter sthg like this or is tat korean ppl also will do the betrayed thingy??
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It is difficult to make real friends for everyone, not just you. But if you feel that everyone offline and online is betraying you, that is a bit unusual, and you might do some soul-searching to figure out why.
Also, many people stopped replying to me on interpals, and I stopped replying to many others as well. But no one ever has blocked me. Do you give them a reason to?
A word of advice, I had a really hard time understanding what you wrote. Koreans might struggle to understand as well. It will be easier for them to read if you try to use more proper English and less abbreviations.
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Ah really?! Well so sorry about that…>< I actually used to it already…will do try to change it! Thanks anyway for your advice…actually this kinda struggling me for years but now i think is true that a real friends is hard to find…hopefully can find one!! Thanks very much for your advice and your blog did help me a lot!! Wish both of you can stay happy always!:D
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Thank you, that is very sweet of you. :)
We hope our advice will be at least a bit helpful and you find what you are looking for.
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Hi! I’m glad to visit this site again. And…I need your help again :-)
I have a Korean friend who’s leaving our country to go back to Korea. Actually, he’s my friend but I think I like him more than as a friend but I can’t tell him that. So anyway, he’s leaving in two weeks time, and I’d like to give him a present. Do you think it’s alright? (No culture conflict?) And if it’s alright, what do you think should I give him? He’s 25 or 26 years old, I guess and he’s a musician.
Oegukeen and Kimchi-man help please :-)
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Of course. Which culture would forbid giving presents? It would be a sad culture ^^
There are no gifts in Korea that have special meaning or send a special message. Just get him what you would get him if he wasn’t Korean.
You know him and we don’t, so whatever you choose is going to be a lot better than anything we can suggest.
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Last time, I asked this korean friend (guy) of mine to ride the Ferris Wheel with me. It should have been the two of us but I asked my friends to come also because I’m too nervous to be alone with him. I thought he wouldn’t come anymore ’cause he’s the only korean and he doesn’t know my friends, also the place where the Ferris wheel is located is very far from his house (I think 1 and a half hour ride?) But he still came and said that he will make an effort and come… for me. Also, last time when I was sick, the next day he suddenly gave me medicine (I don’t know if he bought that for me or he just always brings medicine with him? Haha.) He also tells me things he doesn’t want to tell his friends.
My friends said that it looks like he likes me but I doubt that ’cause he always bully/annoys me. Do you think he likes me? Maybe I don’t want to know? He’s leaving next week to go back to Korea, anyway. And I’m scared to know what I feel for him.
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Also when I said that he must help girls (my friends) with heavy luggage as a sign of courtesy and being a gentleman. After a while he really did, although he said that in Korea it’s not a custom. Then there’s this one time when I was a bit tired walking, he insisted on carrying my bag (it’s not heavy at all) and held my arm to help me walk.
So what do you think?
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Every Korean guy shows it in a different way, so there is no way for me to be sure, but it does seem like he cares about you.
If he does like you and you decide to enter a relationship, it will have to be long-distance for a while, though. Are you sure you are ready for that? We are going to publish a blog post about it tomorrow so maybe it will help you decide. :)
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Oh I will. I’m not leaving at all. And thank you. I will definitely keep you guys up to date. Again, thank you!!! <3
Hello! I just started reading your blog, and I really hope you can help me. I am a light skinned girl (caramel like skin tone), mixed with German and African American, and I was just recently introduced to Korean culture and Kpop and I must say I love Korean culture and the music. I also am really interested in this Korean celebrity that is really popular in Kpop. And I’ve seen a select few videos of him speaking a sentence or two in English, but he’s a quite fluent Korean speaker. I tried to research if a girl like me, who is light skinned mixed with what I am, has any chance of ever attracting a Korean guy. From what I’ve gathered, relationships between a girl like me and a Korean guy is highly unlikely. How can I attract a Korean guy without changing myself?? I really like this guy, and unfortunately I do not speak a lick of Korean but I am trying my best to learn it. Right now, all I can speak is German and English. And I’m not going to lie, it’s been pretty difficult to learn Korean. Do I have ANY chance of gaining ANY interest of a Korean guy at all? I really like this guy, and I won’t give up trying to find some way of connecting with him. I follow his group’s twitter, and I would like to say something to him, but I can’t understand what him and his group members are saying nor can I write in Korean. Great goodness this is long. To end this, I just want to know if I have even a slim chance of gaining his interest with the disadvantages I have, including my ethnicity of being mulatto. Please help me. Thank you for your time! :)
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well im mixed myself ! latin and white, i have tan skin as well and my boyfriend is korean ! so it actually depends on the man! :)
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I suppose so.. Now I have to figure out how to connect with him, considering I don’t know any Korean. :/
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you have to learn korean !! cause its a way to caught his attention ! i know its very hard !! if you have an iphone or an android there is this app called genie talk that translates texts for you ! actually there are many other apps and books !! :) hope this helps
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That’s what I thought. I’m actually trying to learn Korean. From using Google translate to asking random people if they can teach me the language. I am striving to learn the language. And actually, you did really help me. I feel a little bit more confident, and not like a chicken with it’s head cut off not knowing what to do. Thank you soo much. I really do appreciate it. And I am about to download this Genie Talk app. THANK YOU SO MUCH!
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Thanks for helping out M.
The story with your boyfriend sounds really interesting, so if you want, you can share it here https://lovingkorean.com/your-story/ :)
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Of course there is a chance a Korean guy might like you both despite and because of your skin tone.
Starting a relationship with a celebrity seems like much less likely outcome.
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Ok. I was really skeptical about any Korean guy liking me because of all the research I did, and it all pretty much concluded that a relationship like I want was highly unlikely.
And this I do know. It’s saddening… :( And although I do know that it’s hard to have a relationship with a celebrity, let alone meet the guy, I still think I would benefit from learning Korean and the culture.
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There is normal people who don’t care about skin color everywhere.
Of course it is great to learn a new language and culture! Don’t give up. :)
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I understand now. And trust me, I won’t give up. I’m going to learn Korean. It’s such a fun sounding language. :D And thank you so much for the help. I really do appreciate your time. I enjoy your blog so much. You are too real.
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Haha, thank you :) We hope you are going to stick around for a long time.
And good luck with learning Korean! You sound like determined person. Let us know how it goes.
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hello !! i recently met online this awesome korean guy, it hasnt been that long but i already know i have feelings for him.
im going to korea next year and i cant wait to meet him, the only problem is im afraid of our cultural differences, i read horrible things about interacial relationships with korean men im really worried that it wont work, he made it clear he likes me he even said he would like a relationship with me im just really unsure about cultural differences and all the horrible things i have read online, please help !!!
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I believe cultural differences have been blown out of proportions by many. Whether you eat with chopsticks or fork, bow or shake hands, has little importance for romantic relationship.
Thoughts about marriage, children, life philosophy, religion, gender equality, etc. are what counts. And that is only very lightly influenced by culture. Otherwise we would all be mindless clones and not this unique array of diverse individuals.
Actually, we are working on an article that might help you. In about a week, we will link it here so you can read it.
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