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Okay, I have a question…is it common for Korean guys to like to give presents?
The very first thing my guy did after I agreed to start dating him, was pile on objects from his place. I didn’t get to leave without a toque, two scarves, a flannel shirt, a jean jacket, and one of his shirts. I think he was concerned about me being cold (it’s a bit chilly in Seoul right now, but nothing compared to Canada).
This kind of thing has never happened to me before. I don’t know if it’s considered rude to not accept things, but I feel so strange to have received essentially a bag full of clothes from a guy I’d been dating for all of 10 minutes.-
There is a notion in Korean society that it is romantic for a man to give presents to a woman, but it is really up to an individual. I have never heard of a situation like yours, but then again we are not dating the same guy, even though they are all Korean :)
Your question if it is rude not to accept presents reminds me of commonly used plot-twist where you have to marry chief’s daughter because it is very rude to refuse presents ^^ Haha. Anyway, relax, Koreans are not that different than us at all. He MAY think it is rude, but then it will be because HE thinks it’s rude, not because Koreans think it’s rude.
Both Kimchi Man and I say sometimes: “No, thank you. That’s too much.” Whether we really end up accepting it depends how much the other person insists.
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Interesting blog. Good luck on your Korean learning journey!^^
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Thank you :)
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So, there is no chance for us?
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Hi. Good day this is marish from Philippines. I just want to know, the personality of a korean guy. I met this guy in Facebook and at first, we become friends. We always chat and till the day come that we know each others cellphone number. I admit that i was fall in love to this korean guy but the thing is, i really can’t understand his TRUE feelings for me. I am the first one who tell and confessed my love for him.
Until this Sunday, He used to call me and confessed his feelings. During our phone conversation, he said how he loves me so much and likes me too. He even tell me that he always speak about me there. I felt his care and his feelings during our conversation. That night was so memorable and we even both laughed ( especially when we have hardships in understanding our language). He said he really want to meet me, have a time for each other, have a dinner and date. All those plans, are really existing that night. But he really becomes serious and so sad when he always remember that it is impossible for us to meet now. We are still in college he is 23 and i am 20. We are so far from each other. I think for both of us this relationship we have has no good future,
After that sweet night of calls and texting, the next morning i received a text from him. It is stated as:
“I was drunk last night and im sorry i dont love you.. let’s cut off our relation.. im sorry but goodbye.”
after that shocking text message from him, i asked him why but there is no reply coming from him.It was monday and it is my hobby to check my facebook if there is a notification or any message. But believe it or not, i thought he deactivated his account because i cant view him already but i found out that he blocked me. I started to cry and asked myself why? i remember those sweet words that comes from him, how kind i am, how he loves me and even that night full of love i am finding for any reasonable explanation regarding this but all i can do is to cry. I really have broken heart now since it is still fresh.
I don’t know if he wants to test my love for him or he lied to me or he just played our relationship. But i keep texting him till now and i am saying how i loved him and how important he is to me. Fortunately, he is not changing his cellphone number and i am pretty sure that he reads all of my text message. I hope you can help me with this situation i have now. Kindly response for me. I really want some help now.
I really love this korean guy and i think there is a BIG reason behind this.
-Marish<3
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Well a personality is… personal. There is no national-personality that all Korean guys share.
Whatever the reason is for what he did it was incredibly cruel. I can’t tell you what to do, but if it was me I would never text him or tell him I love him again. What kind of insane test of love would that be?
Long distance relationship is not such a big problem at all (we just published these long distance relationship advice ) but you do have a different BIG problem.
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Thank you so much. Let me first read the link that you have given.
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I just want to know your opinion, do you think, he lied to me? does he used loved me? i just want to know your opinions regarding us, do you have any idea?
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That is really hard to tell. I can understand why it feels very important to know, but it is not. You need to wait for your wounds to heal and move on.
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Hello. Am a first year university student and I really like a korean girl in one of my classes. I would say it’s love. She was really friendly at first towards me but after about a couple of weeks she became very avoiding towards me and everyone else. I know that she mainly has korean friends and is very unopen. I understand that’s within her culture but it saddens me every time I try to invite her somewhere and she gives an excuse like I was with a friend etc. I want to date her but it seems that I have no chance. I am a half british/cypriot and she is from south korea I believe from the countryside. Any information is highly appreciated.
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Why do you think it is part of Korean culture to be unopen? Kimchi Man says it is not, and I have never noticed Koreans being unopen.
She could be a bit scared since she is a young lone woman in a foreign country. But that’s not a cultural thing.
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Maybe you’re right. Generelazing people by race is not really accurate but I do think that asians act and think differently in many cases. And all types of asians are different. I suppose am clueless. I try to be myself around her but I want to approach her in a way that would make us closer, so she would trust me more. I can say for sure from talking to her that approaching her like a western girl won’t go too well. I don’t have a lot of dating experience in general but I really want her to give me a shot. As for being scared, I think that’s true, I’ve seen that myself and she did mention a lot that she likes it better in Korea. It is totally understandable. That’s why it’d be nice if I knew what I was doing in order to please her. We had little contact now that we’re on holiday(text messaging) but I hope things get more intimate between us cuz I know that Koreans usually date and marry within their own ethnicity and being with a foreighner is usually looked upon negatively especially when it comes to parents approving. Thing is, am really interested in asian culture (mainly japanese) and I do plan to teach in Japan in the future but honestly I wouldn’t mind ending up in Korea. Am willing to respect and accept her wishes I don’t want to be troublesome to her and change her ways.
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You say Korean usually marry Koreans. Isn’t it also true that Americans usually marry Americans, Germans marry Germans, Swedes marry Swedes,… ? Can you think of one country where people marry more to people from another country? I think not.
It seems that you have a lot of predefined notions of what Asians are supposed to be like. I disagree with most of them.
You can look trough answers we have given so far. A lot of what you are worried about has been addressed already. We did write about Korean men, but if someone asked us about women our answers would be the same.
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I think you’re right. Am thinking too much maybe. Thanks for your information and sorry if I said anything weird or wrong.
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You didn’t say anything weird. We are here to help, not to judge :)
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My Korean boyfriend sent me his army tags which he kept after completing the mandatory 2 years. It seems to have a lot of meaning, even though he lives far away, him being in Korea and me being in Australia (long story).
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That is so romantic. Without a doubt, dog tags are the most precious gift my boyfriend gave me.
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Thanks and I ended up making him confess why he gave it to me, for my own satisfaction (I’m a bit evil).
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Haha. Poor guy ;)
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