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433 responses to “Ask us 2012 Archives”
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Simple (: just as non-Asian girls, like us, are interested in Korean/Asian guys. Everyone has their preferences. (:
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how can a korean guy be intrested in a non-asian girl ? :l
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wow , and how can a non-asian girl be interested in a korean boy ? :|
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We are all members of the same species, so we are naturally attracted to each other :)
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Of course , I was just sardonical :)
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Our reply was meant for the first comment. Sorry we nestled it awkwardly.
It was obvious you were making a point :)
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Hi I just found your blog and thought that maybe you could help me. I’ve been searching for anyone that could at least give me a few words of advice.
I’ve been dating my Korean boyfriend for almost 6 months now. I’m from the states so it is long distance. We’ve known each other for almost two years now and just started dating.
We met on this website and immediately we became best friends (day one). It was around the time he was finishing up high school so we never got the chance to talk. But when we did talk he would compliment me saying I was pretty and that he liked my smile. I thought he was pretty sweet and thought nothing more of it.. Then months went by and I wondered if he liked me.. Then I started to like him.
I never thought of telling him until earlier this year.. i didn’t know if he would like me.Well it turned out he did. Took him awhile to actually ask me lol but he eventually did.
My dilemma is that we barely talk because of a few things that have occurred. The only way that we communicate is either through the website we met or messaging. So we’ve never talked vocally or with webcam.. I feel like that is a problem.. I want to be able to communicate with him like that but we never really have that chance to talk about it..
It is really sad that I haven’t been able to talk to him in 2 months… That is too long and it makes me think negatively about our relationship.. Everyday I wonder how he thought or thinks about it. If I should really be in this..
I like him a lot. But I barely know enough about him just because we never have a chance to talk.. I can’t do anything and I feel like it is my fault everything is ending up like this :(
I don’t know when the next time I’ll be able to talk to him..
I want things to work out with him. What can I do?
~Info about him and I~
He is 19 and I am 17
(Young I know)
I’m still in high school (senior)
and he is in college (he took a break because of an issue)-
Ah, that’s a nice age to fall in love.
I understand that you might not want to share more details than you already did, but I really don’t know how to help you using what you told me.
If I understood correctly, you two can’t talk for some reason, there is nothing you can do about that, and you are wondering if you should break it off?
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Well I don’t want to break it off because I feel that it wouldn’t be fair to him..
We just have really bad luck. Every time we think we have time to talk something happens.
There is a lot that I’m not saying but I’m trying to word it so it’ll make since..
I’m just worried that are relationship isn’t and won’t be “normal”..
Are long distance relationships like this?-
There isn’t such a thing as a normal relationship. If you are frustrated and not satisfied does it really matter if all other people have such relationships and are content with them? I think not.
For us it is also difficult to find time to talk. We do manage to text every day at least few times, and talk on the most of days.
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I danced/met a Korean guy at a club in Shanghai, both of us were students. On the first day of texting he already asked me to grab a drink the next night. But I told him I couldn’t because of finals and I also mentioned how it was my last week in Shanghai. He said to study hard and didn’t text me for those couple of days because he said he knew I had finals. After my finals ended he contacted me and we met up again to go clubbing. He and I both brought a friend. After we went clubbing, we were all going to eat and I asked where he wanted to eat. He looked at the friend he brought along. They said something in Korean and then told me why not his apartment? I hesitated again but said sure. So the four of us went to his apartment and he paid for takeout. He talked about his family like his siblings. We talked for a bit until around 6 am then my friend and I said we should go. His friend stood up and said he could take my friend home so that me and the Korean guy could have some time together. His friend said something like “you should stay because there isn’t much time left (until I leave Shanghai, I’m guessing that’s what he meant). My friend was not going to leave me alone with this guy I hardly know so she resisted/got angry when his friend tried to grab her arm and pull her towards the door. When I tried to follow them out the door his friend almost closed the door on me ( I mean not forcefully but…). The Korean guy I liked told his friend to let us go. The next day he texted asking if just him and I could meet that night… I said I couldn’t because I was going out with friends. I said he could join us but he said again that he wanted just the two of us to meet and I didn’t answer him… I ended up running into him at the same club because he said he was watching over his friend who easily gets drunk/into fights. We sat down and he brought up why my friend wouldn’t let me stay or why I didn’t stay and I said I didn’t want to have sex (cuz that’s where it seemed like it was going when his friend tried to close the door on me). He had a shocked look on his face and said he didn’t want to either! and even repeated he didn’t several times in Korean (but this whole time we’ve been communicating in Chinese. I just happen to know what “no/that’s not true” is in Korean.) I found that hard to believe because of what happened the night before… but he even gave an example and said he’s not that kind of guy. I told him lots of guys do those one night stands and he said “But I’m Korean” and I said “but you’re still a guy.” He seemed frustrated, then patted my head and we just went back to dancing afterwards but after that night he stopped texting me to meet up. I texted him and he would respond really late or only after I texted him again. The night before I left I texted him asking to stay in touch, but he didn’t respond… Did I hurt his pride by thinking he was that kind of guy? Did I misjudge him? I know I probably jumped to assumptions but just the way his friend acted made it seem like that was what the Korean guy wanted all along. Did I think wrong? I’m just wondering if there’s some type of cultural misunderstanding here maybe? I mean we just met, what else could he have wanted us to do if I had stayed in his apartment with just him?
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Hi
I’m a Korean guy, born and raised in Korea.
There isn’t enough to see exactly what happened here but from what I can see, the Korean guy, unlike what he told you, wanted to have so called ‘one night stand’. If he didn’t want such thing, like he said, why would his friend try to take your friend away from you leaving just two of you in the apartment? There is no way the friend does that without discussing with the Korean guy. That is first clue.Secondly, after the first failure, he told you he wanted to meet you alone. Why alone? I guess he was expecting the 2nd chance to be with you. He must have thought he lost the 1st opportunity because of your friend. Second chance didn’t work out well again.
And coincidentally you bumped into him in a club. There I think he tried to convince you that he is not that type of guy. But the behaviors he’s been showing tells me that he was after ‘one night stand’. And it is very normal for a girl/guy not to sleep with someone whom she/he just met. Once he found out that you’re not interested in sleeping with him, he just gave up. That means he has no intention of making it long term relationship. And I’m pretty sure that’s why he isn’t responding you well.
How do I know this? Well, I lived in China for 6 years and Australia 1 year. I’ve met people from everywhere and I dated a few foreign girls. It took me a while to understand the difference between Korean and foreign girls. Some Korean guys tend to think that foreign girls (normally Caucasian girls) are very much open for ‘one night stand’ thing. Maybe it applies to some but surely not all of them. It seems you are interested in him as you ask for an advice here. It is a pity that he couldn’t keep up. He doesn’t understand that approaching a girl always has many obstacles and misunderstandings. He must have thought you are not interested in him since you went out with your friends instead of meeting him. But it is absolutely normal for you to do so. He is still a stranger that you barely know.
I’m not saying he is a bad guy. This has happened due to his being inexperienced and lack of understanding over cultural difference. NOT YOUR FAULT.
To Oegukeen,
HELLO!
I’ve been stopping by here 1~2 times a week since last month. I really enjoy your blog. It is fun and very very accurate.
Merry Christmas
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Hello Kevin,
Merry Christmas to you too.It really makes me happy that you enjoy our blog. Thank you for such nice words, you made my Christmas better :)
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Hello. Kevin gave you a really nice and down-to-earth answer. We agree with everything he said.
However, it is possible he just wanted to make-out with you or spend some alone and romantic time together. He was obviously interested in your but may not have planned to go as far as sleeping together right away.
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I have some situation here. I have a Korean penpal was a very friendly person. We met through a Internet site and communicate with one another is smooth and very personal. After knowing him for some months, he begins share with me about his past relationships and he is open to marry foreigner and staying in overseas. I was surprised that he is open to me about his past when I asked and he keep saying I am very pretty and good person and will be a very good wife if i marry. Is this very rare that a Korean guy will share about his private life?
He said he really want to meet me in Korea if I ever come and keep saying he buy me food and will do whatever I want. He said he wanted to come over to my country for holiday in future. But if he have someone he like and the suitation is very complicated, even if i come to Korea, how far will we develop? Do you think I stand any chance?-
Thank you for your question. We will try to write a post about it as soon as possible. Just please be patient because we already have questions that were submitted before that we need to answer.
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Alright! Will be waiting for your post!
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I am surprised to read about when a Korean couple married, the bride family have to fork out certain amount of money to the groom and it seems like a lot.
May I know if Asians or foreigner marry a Korean guy, do they have to follow the customs as well? What if the bride’s family background are financially lower than the groom? How would the groom family be reacting about this? Can they still get married with the groom family support? :(
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We will reply soon in a form of a post. In the meantime, we think you have nothing to worry about.
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