So I want to get into interracial relationship mostly likely it will be long distance since I have some interest in a Korean guy I met, what do I need to know in terms of what I should be prepared for if we do end up forming a relationship? Would I offend him if I asked him out?
I’m not sure of my chances in the long run since I am Mexican and such and it’s quite rare, meaning I haven’t seen too many Hispanic/Asian relationships. They don’t seem very common, I do look pretty white though compared to everyone else in my family and some of my white friends. I guess I just want to know how to hit it off since I ended up meeting him because I’m an artist and I really love the Asian culture art wise, and from there I became curious with everything else. I asked him questions and stuff. I am labeled weird for my interests and such. Along with the retort that I only like Asian guys, I like to joke about it but that’s not it I’m just into their culture. I will admit that 2 years ago is when I got into the culture and then late last year I found kpop.
I am into other Asian countries too since I’ve had friends from Japan, China, and Vietnam. So yes I am into anime, manga, and such but I love viewing the animation and illustration aspect I sit there amazed as to how they do these things. I went from looking at these countries historically to looking and avidly following some of the new things that have sprung up. So I wonder is this good or bad and what can I do to hit it off in the end?
Sorry for the ramble ^_^;
Hispanic/Asian relationships are rare, you are right. But in an intimate relationship between two people it is really about how well they match, not how well their cultures match. I am sure you have neighbors who you feel are from another planet. So growing up in the same environment is no guarantee of anything.
Kimchi Man bows at people and eats with chopsticks. I shake hands and eat with fork and knife. That really has no influence on our relationship, except maybe making it even more fun.
We agree on all the important aspects of life (like which movies are good and which are rubbish ;) ), and that is because of who we are, not because of what our cultures are.
You mentioned you look white compared to your family and friends. I understand that, since you like him, it is very important to you that he likes you back. I am also aware that some Korean people value light skin color. But try to rise above the need to please him. When we are in love it is instinctual to want to fit the other person’s ideal, but, trust me, you do not want to spend your life with a guy who cares about skin color.
I am not judging you, I was exactly the same. You see, I am towering above most Korean people, including Kimchi Man. I wear larger shoes. Longer pants. Bigger jackets. I am in no way little fragile female. On top of that, my arms are almost harrier than his. (I said almost!)
I don’t want to lose him, so I still worry about it sometimes. But we have been through some difficult times, always sticking together, and he has proved that shoe size is the least important thing for him.
So try, as much as you can, not to worry about your skin color and how you came to be interested in Korea, and if he really is your match everything will be sweet and smooth. If not, you are going to suffer a bit but in the end it will be better for both of you.
Oh, and I don’t see how anyone would be offended if you asked them out!