Kimchi Man and Oegukeen are no more. We broke up.

I know many people are going to ask “What happened!?”

Nothing happened, really. Which I guess was the problem. Both of us got very ill, at different times and from different illnesses, but with the same results: our lives were put on hold.

And in such situation, separated for a year, half-way across the world, those things we shared in common began to fade, and those parts of our personalities that were incompatible became more apparent by the day.

We never fought much, I think we both respected each other too much for that. Maybe even loved too much at some point.

It was more of a quiet death of love.

Abandoned.

Despite that, I still believe he is a good man.

And more importantly for the readers of this blog, I still believe in everything I wrote here. Being different nationalities is no obstacle for love.  There was not a single thing about him being Korean that had anything to do with our breakup.

I assure you, what happened between us, you’ve never seen in no Korean movie nor drama.

People are unique.

If you are wondering what will happen with this blog, I honestly don’t know.

We certainly won’t be answering no more questions about relationships. I am alright with that, since all the common concerns with dating Koreans were answered anyway, and you can easily find them among the posts.

He was, after all, the Korean and I was a fleeting passenger, getting just a glimpse of the culture. Even though now, when I look back at the beginning and compare, I can see the enormous amount that I have learned and realize there is no going back: I will always have a piece of Korea in my heart. Because of him.

Good bye Kimchi Man,

Oegukeen

43 responses to “It is over”

  1. Mia Aiecha Avatar

    Oegukeen, I’m sorry to hear about it.. I wish you and Kimchi man will recover from illness. Yes I understand, its hurt especially when been together for a long time even if long distance relationship because I’ve experience this too. Be strong!! Break up with one Korean doesn’t mean you cannot get a new Korean (if you still prefer them) :) I did! hehe and I hope this time it’s work, but still we don’t know what future hold. All we can do is do our best and pray.Thank you for sharing Korea information and culture.
    Please Take care. ^^ All the best to both of you.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      You are right, it hurts even thought we have been long distance for a while now, because my mind always wanders back to the time when we had lived together.

      Thank you for all your kind wishes.

  2. Natalie Avatar
    Natalie

    I’m sorry to hear about it.. I really hope that everything will improve in the future!! I don’t know u personally but I’m sure that u are very strong and optimistic person. And I really admire both of u and ur experience. Thank you a lot. U made so many people much happier including me!! And thank u for sharing everything with us, I really want to support u as much as I can! Strongly believe in u and wish u all the best~ Hope to hear from u one day if it’s possible. Please take care!!

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Thank you for everything you’ve said, it means a lot to me.

      I’m glad we had this experience as well, even if it hurts a bit too much right now.

      It was my pleasure to share, and to read all the comments, so thank you as well.

  3. Cindy Zimmer Avatar

    I’m very sorry to hear that. I wish you a full recovery, both from your illness and from your heartbreak. Breaking up is never easy but adding an illness into the mix must be difficult. I’ve always enjoyed your posts and feel like I’ve gotten to know you a little from them. All the best in the future, you’re in my thoughts.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Thank you. You are right, the illness adds a layer of hopelessness to everything. But your wishes mean a lot to me.

      I’m really glad I got to meet you through our blogs. I hope we will keep in touch.

  4. Kaycey Avatar
    Kaycey

    I am sorry to hear. This feels weird. I only started to look at this blog to find how to send mail to my friend in Korea but I read every post and fell in love with your relationship. I only wish the best for both your futures and health. Thank you for your insight and help. All the best

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      I’m glad to hear that.

      I loved our relationship too. I’m sure once my heart heals, I will look back at it with nothing but fond memories.

      All the best to you too.

  5. Drew. Avatar
    Drew.

    “Touch Everything Lightly” = don’t lean too heavily on things, thoughts, ideas.. lest they fall and take you with it. Not to be too cynical however. Look for kindness and sincerity, but ALWAYS check it. Say, “Trust But Verify”. and, there is always someone out there that is kind and can and will love you..even if it only Buddha.. whom we all trust and keep our faith to.. Faith- whichever one you choose…Faith IN Faith itself..is a step even further in Faith which gives us the Trust we need and seek, from any deity of our own choosing. Love Drew.

  6. Sam Avatar
    Sam

    omg I’m really sorry to know that.
    I’m in a ldr with a korean guy, today i was looking in google about it and i found ur website. It made me feel more strong, I wanted to ask u to help me, but now I can’t believe what I just read …
    Hope things will get better.
    Take care ♥

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Do feel strong! LDR and cultural differences are no obstacle for when two people love each other and are a good match

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