It is over

Kimchi Man and Oegukeen are no more. We broke up.

I know many people are going to ask “What happened!?”

Nothing happened, really. Which I guess was the problem. Both of us got very ill, at different times and from different illnesses, but with the same results: our lives were put on hold.

And in such situation, separated for a year, half-way across the world, those things we shared in common began to fade, and those parts of our personalities that were incompatible became more apparent by the day.

We never fought much, I think we both respected each other too much for that. Maybe even loved too much at some point.

It was more of a quiet death of love.


Despite that, I still believe he is a good man.

And more importantly for the readers of this blog, I still believe in everything I wrote here. Being different nationalities is no obstacle for love.  There was not a single thing about him being Korean that had anything to do with our breakup.

I assure you, what happened between us, you’ve never seen in no Korean movie nor drama.

People are unique.

If you are wondering what will happen with this blog, I honestly don’t know.

We certainly won’t be answering no more questions about relationships. I am alright with that, since all the common concerns with dating Koreans were answered anyway, and you can easily find them among the posts.

He was, after all, the Korean and I was a fleeting passenger, getting just a glimpse of the culture. Even though now, when I look back at the beginning and compare, I can see the enormous amount that I have learned and realize there is no going back: I will always have a piece of Korea in my heart. Because of him.

Good bye Kimchi Man,


43 thoughts on “It is over

  1. I am sorry to hear about this. You helped me a lot when I was dating with a girl. Your answer helped people and improved their quality of life not only around Korea but also all around the world. I really appreciate what have you done in this blog as one of Korean guys. I really hope you will be healed and happy again.

  2. I am so sorry to hear about this, I have always looked to your blog for emotional support in inter-racial/ long distance relationship and admire your maturity in handling it. I am going through a break-up with a Korean guy myself right now and I must say I am finding it difficult to take it well since the hurt is still raw and those sweet memories still fresh.

    Just want to wish you all the best and do take care!

  3. I’m sorry :( I shouldn’t have written anything, (the story) I guess, that time will do its work, and all I can say is that love can always be found again, good luck

  4. I’m sorry this happened to you guys, I remember finding your blog when I just started dating my (Korean) boyfriend and I needed advice. So browsing the Internet I found your blog and I enjoyed reading it so much. Just like you I didn’t know much of Korean culture before I met my boyfriend. Your blog is so helpful. I hope both of you heal in your heart and body.

  5. I found your blog just today and I can just say I admire you for your honest way of writing, for your maturity. You two broke up but your words are comforting. I hope you can have the best from your life, and be happy.

  6. This news really surprised me, but I believe that you have no regrets whatsoever. I have also been very busy,so it’s just now that I saw this post. I pray for your happiness and the right love to come at the right time. =)

    • I believe it hasn’t been easy for either of us, but we both know it was the right thing to do. It’s been almost 10 months since we broke up and we spoke the other day and I’m glad to say it was a pleasant chat.

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