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Hello <3
I was wondering why there's a korean guy in my class keeps calling me fat and telling me "you are pretty only when you close your eyes". (I'm actually arnd 39-40kilos haha) And I just knew him like 2 weeks ago. He kept teasing me all the time. He also told me a lot of facts that he knows abt me started from last year (I only know the existence of this guy like 2 week ago only, he seems like he has been checking on me all the time :X) he even treated me dinner today and he even gave me his jacket when the weather turns chilly today. He just like to tease me all the time.
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Hello :)
Cause he’s got a bad sense of humor? ;)
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do you think he likes me?
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I think so.. good luck!
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Thanks~~ maybe i’ll continue chatting with him but if things between us won’t work, then i’ll stop~ if something happens, i’ll post again. Kkkk. Thank you!!! :) great blogs and you are really kind! I’m also so happy for you and Kimchi Man. Fighting~~ thank you so much.
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Thank you, that’s really sweet if you. We hope we’ll hear back from you with some good news :)
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Thank you so much for your answer! :) it really helped~ but i was just so confused. ㅠㅠ what would be the best? To continue or to stop? I really don’t know what to do since i was always waiting for his messages~ i just couldn’t help it. I hope you can help me. Thank you so much!!! :) i really love your site. It was really great! :)
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You are very welcome :)
We can’t know what would be the best.
If you two will end up having a great relationship then it would be the best to continue, if you will just end up disappointed then it would be best to stop.
But nobody knows what is going to happen in the future. So just do now what feels right, and you may do the wrong thing, but that’s life.
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Hi! I’m really glad i found this site. It really helped me a lot~ thank you!
I’m really confused and don’t know what to feel. I met this korean guy because he’s a friend of my cousin. We chatted for a while but that didn’t last. After a few weeks, his brother messaged me. We became friends but he told me that he can’t really speak english well. He stopped chatting with me. A few months passed and i caught him online. i sent him a message and he replied after that we chat almost everyday though he is having a hard time replying in english. Sometimes i would chat with him in korean language and he always says that my korean skill is really good. We’ve been chatting using kakaotalk~ a few days ago, i’m starting to feel confused. He told me that he really likes me because i was friendly then he repeated it, saying “i really like you, —“. I don’t know what to say since i think it is because of me, being friendly only. After that, it was 2 am there and still he was chatting with me, i was scared that time since i watched a horror film and i told him about it. He sent me a photo of him, smiling. He told me to just look at him smiling to lessen the fear i’m feeling. He also told me not to worry since i’m talking with him. He asked me to sent him a photo and i did. Then he told me i was beautiful and that i should feel confident. He often says i’m cute too. I didn’t took it that way but then on my birthday he sang to me and the next day, he sent me a drawing of his. A spongebob drawing with my name on the corner because he knew it was my favorite cartoon. But sometimes, he would say that he would sleep but i caught him online on facebook. And he’s sometimes, not replying to my messages. Oh, i forgot to tell that i was the one who always start the conversation. I don’t know if he is busy~~ he has a job and comes home very late but still he would find time to chat with me which i think is sweet because he is a very busy person. I think i was actually falling for him and all the little things he’s doing for me. But also, i was confused since i don’t know if i was the only one giving meaning to his actions. Please help me ㅠㅠ thank you~~ also, should i stop hoping and stop chatting with him?-
Hello,
We are glad you found us as well.
It sounds like he is flirting with you. On the other hand, I believe someone who is in love can’t keep apart from their object of adoration, so he doesn’t seem to be there yet. But you don’t have enough information to know what it will lead to.
Obviously, you came here to ask us because we know about Korean culture, and there is nothing in Korean culture that would dictate a guy never texting you first.
You’re just going to wait and see, but if you can’t take the wait, then yeah, just go ahead and stop hoping and chatting…. if that’s possible ;)
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Hey Oegukeen and Kimchi Man! I’m just wondering about your thoughts on a certain point; lots of people who are looking particularly for a Korean partner always seem to mention in questions that they’re ‘1/2 blah blah but also 1/2 Asian ethnicity’ and wonder if that would help them or not. I can’t help but feel like people are implying that being even a tad Korean or even Asian might heighten your chances of being in a relationship with a Korean. Isn’t this a little ridiculous (in the nicest way possible not trying to target or insult anyone who has done this)? Does having Korean blood in your family or being a certain percentage of Asian really even give you more of a chance than anyone else? I’d like to know your thoughts on this matter and any advice for people, thanks and I love your blog! <3
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Hello,
We think we know which comment in the thread above you are referencing :)
There are some xenophobic people in every country that believe their nation shouldn’t mix, so they prefer their children only marry and date same nationality. I seriously doubt that having one of your grandparents who is Asian or Korean would satisfy them.
I’m having a hard time imagining any type of person who would see that as an advantage, and I have an even harder time imagining such a person would even be worth dating.
But my lack of imagination hasn’t stopped me from being wrong before.
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Hello,
I am very happy I found this website, and I really hope you could help me to solve a dilemma which is ruining my life! I a Western girl who really likes Asian guys, (especially Koreans..!) but in the past year, although I have seen many around my university’s library, I have had serious problems approaching them – not to say dating them.
The situation is very awkward, and kind of ironic, since I have experienced at least two or three cases in which guys stared at me for months and months without making a single move. At the beginning I thought they might just be shy, so I tried to find excuses to talk with them, but then they would just answer to my question and make no effort to continue the conversation. What’s even worse, every time they see that I am asking them something they look like they might just die or are about to having an heart attack. Of course, such a reaction scares me off, and makes me think they might just not be interested. But then they keep of staring, and I don’t understand what they want anymore.
This stalemate kind of depresses me, especially because it seems that I cannot get over it even when I try very hard. For example, I really like a guy who lives in my dorms, and at the beginning of the year I did the fundamental mistake of looking back at him when he was staring every time he saw me in the dining hall. I thought this would have encouraged him to come and talk, but as time passed by it became more and more difficult to sit “casually” in front of him. At the end, when it became very obvious that we were both interested, I have gathered all my strength and talked to him. When I did, he looked very happy, and kind of shy – although he plays tough on the outside. However, he could not feel comfortable talking, and we never became friends because he was too nervous. When I told my Asian friends that I like Asian guys they laughed, and said that it is unusual that a pretty girl likes Asians, and that it is why they tend to be intimidated. The point is that I am also shy, and I don’t feel too comfortable approaching guys and insist on making conversations.. What can I do to change this situation? Should I just be more friendly and carefree from the beginning, would that work out? Thank you!
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Hello,
we are really happy you found this site as well.
Since you say you are shy as well, then it might work out better if you find an Asian guy who is not shy.
However, if there is a particular guy you like and you don’t want to give up on him then the only solution is to… well, not give up. Keep doing what you were doing until he either caves in or gives you a much clearer sign that he is not interested.
I don’t agree with your friends. If a pretty girl is not racist, then there is no reason for her not to consider Asian guys.
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Loving Korean 
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