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Hi !
First of all I must say that I really enjoy to read this blog :D You had a really good idea and I think it will be helpful for many people.
Now I will ask for an advice ;) Generally people are wondering if the person like them or not , but in my case I’m wondering if I like him or not . Maybe you are telling yourself that if I’m still wondering it’s certainly because I’m not. But it’s kinda difficult to say because I have a really strange mind ;)In fact I’m from Europe and I met a Korean boy with a penpal website. I’m 20 and he is 24 years old. Now we are sending message everyday since two years and he is a reallyyyy important person to me. It’s like an habit and sometimes when he doesn’t send me messages in the day I feel sad and a little angry x) Right now he doesn’t live in korea, it’s 3 years since he is living in an other country. So sometimes he is feeling really lonely. It’s makes me sad that he is like that because he is a really nice person and have a really kind heart and I want him to meet many good persons and I want him to be happy :)
Last year he asked me about my past relationships and began to speak about interracial couples and many other things.At the end one day he told me that he really likes me and send many hearts! Haha x) But at this moment I wasn’t really feeling the same and I didn’t want to hurt him but I still said that I prefer to stay friends. After we don’t really talked about it but he said that he will be happy if I could go to korea or to his country where he is staying. And two weeks ago I send the first picture about myself ( yes I know I’m really tooooooooooooo shy and even more than I know him now) and he said that I was really pretty and asks me why I don’t have boyfriend and to don’t have one. So I asked why he said that and he told me that he is still waiting for me. So I said that he should find a good girl and he told me that he already find it and it’s me. At this time I was really confused ( and I’m still confused), I don’t really know about my own feelings. For sure I’m taking care of him and I really like him but I don’t know if t’s in a friendway or more.
Yesterday he asked one more picture about myself and he asked me why I always don’t want to show pictures about myself. I felt really sorry ( because he send many of him)and told him that I don’t know why but I’m really too shy and even more that I know him. I’m still afraid that he will dislike me x) And he told me that’s because” I like him too.much”. So I told him that “yes I like him and he is a really important person to me because we are friend since a long time”. And he answered me “ we are just friend yet”. After that I couldn’t sleep that night and since this moment I ask myself too many questions like “ how can he be sure to likes me ? we don’t even see each other in real life?”
So what can I do ? I’m too confused :s Do you think I like him more than in a friendway ?Sorry for my bad English and for this long text !
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hi.
i met him when i went to korea. in airport specifically. he sat in front of me and that was the first time we talked. at that time, we were just talking without introducing our names. he and his female friend are going to to my country as an exchange students.
when we arrived in my country, they faced a big problem. and i helped them out. so, at that time i know his and his female friend’s name. and i gave my number to his female friend.
a day after, his female friend told me that he asked for my number and she gave it to him. so, soon after that, he gave me msg. we start with whatsapp and kakao talk. he will start messaging me first for every single day.
we hang out just 3rd times. we hang out with all of our friends. 6 persons. when he asked to go out, automatically i will bring my friends and i asked him to bring his friends. i thought it was okay with him till he like pissed off in his message which i didnt notice it at all. till when i told my friend bout his message and my friend said that i was kinda slow because he just wanted to be with me.
but still, i brought my friends together whenever we went out cause i always felt that he might get bored every time he’s with me. he wrote in his message that he didn’t mind the place we go as long as we’re together. but i told him that i couldn’t bear with those lines cause it’s too cheesy for me.
when we with our friends, we will do like usual and none of his friends know that we contact like almost everyday. so, in our friends’ eyes it will look like we’re not so close. we just talk and laugh together with our friends. but i noticed whenever i’m being alone, he will come and be with me at that time.
i remembered… when we’re in cinema. he wait till everyone chose their seat and he saw a chair beside me was empty he sat beside me. and when the cinema is dark, he tried to take our pic. just 2 of us. but, turn out the pic is soo dark. couldnt see our pic. hahaha. so, i told him… its dark. and he just nodded and continue focus on movie we’re about to see.
after we saw movie, there’s a time when everyone was busy with their own thing. and he was standing in front of me and took out his phone and snap our pic together. it’s fast. no one noticed it.
that was my last time hanging out together with him. cause i need to go to other country cause i’m studying there. i’ll be back after a year. he came to airport and send me off. he tried to have our personal time but it couldnt be happening, of course, cause all of our friends in the airport too.
after my last wave and about to walk into the gate, he called out my name. then he gave me a gift. i said thank you and i entered the gate. all of my friends were waving and calling my name. just him stood there and did nothing except looking at me with… i dont know.. sad eyes, maybe?
until now, he still contact me like we’re in our country. and he even called me. and i think like we both like in an awkward moment. my friend said that he likes me. but, i dont think so because i always think that maybe it’s how korean guy treats woman.
so, my questions are..
– is he showing that he likes me?
– does our friendship can last long even after he back to his country?
– or is it normal that korean guy cannot last with long-d relationship? -
hi! you see i have a problem, i have a Korean guy as a partner in my advance class in our university. he’s 21 and i’am 19. i kinda like him since the first time we’ve met but the problem is i don’t know how to maintain a conversation with him. were pretty civil with each other, an occasional how are you?good morning and that’s it! after that its a dead air it became awkward to both of us.
what topic should i open so that he will become interested in our conversation? i know he loves animals and i often includes this in our talk but we always run out of topics. maybe because we don.t fall in the same group. he is more on the out going/ badboy type and i’am more on the good girl type
i really like him and i want to know more about him and vice versa. i wish we can develop our relationship a step closer before he go back in south korea in 3 weeks so that i would tell that i have no regrets when my 3 weeks is up^^
thank you in advance! i really appreciate it :)
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Wow, I really have no idea which topics to talk about. I just talk about what’s interesting to me but that would be useless to you ^^
Honestly, there are no prescribed topics for using with Korean people :)
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Hi!^^
I have a question
Are korean guys attracted to filipino girls?? Hehe I was just wondering because I’m filipino and I’m short , I have cute chubby cheeks , I have big eyes , alittle lighter than tan colour , small plump lips xD
I don’t know if koreans don’t like filipinos-
Hello!
Actually, we wrote a post about his question: Will a Korean guy be attracted to me so you can read all the details there.
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Hi im i indonesian girl and im 20 years old, and i have a relationship with a korean guy and he is 25 yo in indonesian age. I heard that you had a relationship with a korean guy, how is it? Is it going well? Thank you :)
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Hello,
Yes, we’ve been in a relationship for over 3 years now. It’s going great :)
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I’ve been visiting your blog recently And i really find it helpful ^_^ Plus Your Love story with KimchiMan really inspires me And makes me get more hopes..
Well… I’ve been using http://www.interpals.net/ For over a Year I Guess… I spoke to some Koreans there but… Whenever our conversation ends (Like Bye And Good night etc…) In the next day i really want to Talk to them again and send them a message… but then.. I Become shy and ask myself “what if they don’t want to talk to me again… what if i’m bothering them…what if they find me annoying” And that’s how We lose Contact every time :( It may sound silly of me…. But that’s always how i feel…
So… Do Koreans find it bothersome when someone (they just knew) Contacts them ,maybe , A lot? Like Everyday or Every while…?
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Actually I am interested in hearing a Korean guy’s perspective on this too! I found a guy I like a lot. He always responds to my text messages immediately but he so far has never initiated contact. I’ve read that I should let the guy take the lead in a relationship, but what if he never takes the lead yet still seems friendly and glad to hear from you when you do?
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My boyfriend is very shy and never intiatied contact.
I was the one who contacted him, I was the one who expressed love first, and I was the one who asked him to be my boyfriend. He later told me he was so happy to find a woman who was direct, open and not complicated.
Not all Korean guys are like this of course, but it is a good lesson not to listen to stereotypes. Woman doesn’t have to let the guy lead the relationship is she and he don’t like that.
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I know how you feel. I am a very energetic person when it comes to communicating with people and I do overwhelm them sometimes (often?). But the thing is, you are looking for a few people who will be fine exactly with the way you are, and in the process you just have to accept that you will come across many people who might not be too thrilled with some aspect of your personality.
There are all different kinds of Korean, some may find it bothersome, some will be very excited to come across someone so friendly.
Good luck!
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