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So, I have a Korean friend… He’s a nice one, humble, and really love to talk with anyone. I am a South-East Asian and I guess Korean would never wants to be friend with me. But this guy (call him MR) really kind and always ask me when will I come to Korea. Then I have the opportunity to go there…and we both finally met! It’s really a short time, and he was so busy that he couldn’t accompany me somewhere else but I was really happy to met him! :)
Then lately, he’s so kind to me, he doing some aegyo and always take care of me. He helps me correct my task (since I’m majoring in Korean Language in university), he always ask me if I had eaten or not, and he’s really kind lately which makes me happy but sad at the same time. We can’t see each other and we just talk with Kakao, and I just always think that he’s far away and he won’t ask me to be his girlfriend no matter what… And our religion is different, And our culture….. Ijust have so many thoughts of him which makes me so sad :'((((((( I want to have him for sure but I don’t know if he feel the same way too…
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Hi! Just wondering A korean guy gave me a set of utensil (2 set in a box actually…) which he brought it from Korea when he went back home to visit. Is there any meaning behind guys giving utensils??? Or is it just a souvenirs??? I still don’t get the idea behind this, and I didn’t clarify with him too. After all, It seems to took him a month plus before he decided to give it to me…….
Thanks!!!
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My mom went to Korea and brought back utensils. My 2cents, it’s probably a souvenir but it really depends , what is on his mind when he’s giving you, maybe he’s thinking about you? or too shy to give as soon as he arrive in yr country
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If you dont mind, can u tell me roughly how much does this kind of gift set cost? Well I am not sure too since we work in the same workplace, so I dk what’s holding him back from giving for a long time. I wished I know what he’s thinking. Anyway, thanks!!
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Hello, guys! Just call me Kissa, from philippines, 22 years old and I have a Korean Boyfriend, He is 29 years old and that’s his korean age. He is my 3rd boyfriend now. Actually, we met in the office wherein I teach English to Korean students, he is my manager, everybody likes him, they love him and he’s like a korean actor wherein they want to take a photo of him. I had a crush on him the first time we met, that was June 2013. He’s very interesting and very mysterious. We don’t talk a lot in the office since I am very shy. I always get jealous every time he gave compliments to my office workers. Moving on…I file a 2months leave since i noticed that I fell in love with him very hard. i easily get jealous and I am craving for his attention and I wanted to move on and stopped that feeling because I also have a 2 years relationship with my boyfriend at that time who is a filipino.. It’s the 2nd week of my leave and we kept on texting (korean manager), I text him first and and say my Hi and hello etc.. and we met and he confessed that he likes me.. I was so happy like I can’t believe it. All my office workers like him and they had a crush on him and now he told me he likes me. At that night, he kissed me and he said I’m his Girlfriend now and he’s also now my boyfriend. so I broke up with my filipino boyfriend because I want to grab the chance to have a relationship with him. I do love him so much.
Now, we’re on the 2nd week, my problem is that, for the 2 weeks we had relationship, he told me that most of his ex’s they broke up because his ex’s wanted to be with him everyday which he doesn’t really like. He told me that I can text him but he cannot reply immediately because of work, and I understand. But as what I have read earlier in the post, Korean guys like texting and calling their girlfriends if they’re really into her. And now he’s not really texting me that much does it mean he’s not really serious having this relationship? He doesn’t want that I will worry too much on him as well, he said he needs privacy and socialization with friends. so for me, what’s the use having this relationship if he needs privacy and socializing? I can’t understand him what he wants. And if I dont text him, I will not receive text from him too. and If i won’t tell him that i’ll go to his place he won’t tell me to come over. It’s like, I need to take the lead, i need to initiate things all the time, but I dont want that to happen because I’m a girl.
Can you help me understand him? I love him and I want this to work out. I will really appreciate your help and response. Thank you..
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That’s a sad story. -_____- I feel you.
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Girl, I think your doubts are speaking itself..that’s your intuition or inner voice telling you that this guy is not that into you as you would like him to be.
Regardless of nationality, when a guy wants to him be with a woman he wants to be available for her.
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Hello, there… yeah i think you’re right.. well here’s the continuation of my story
last october 12, we had diner with my parents, I introduced him and I am so proud of him. My family they can see how happy am I with my boyfriend. The next day which was sunday, I went to his place and we talked and suddenly we had misunderstanding. i didnt talk to him and I walked out. I didnt talk to him because I dont want to utter bad words because of disappointment (actually I am very emotional), he did the same he didnt talk it’s like we are in the same room but we didnt talk for an hour.. after 2 hours that I walked out, I texted him that i wanna spend the day with you but I didnt know what happened, I told him I wanna see you tonight but he replied that maybe next time, I need time now. so I texted him monday and tuesday but no reply.
Wednesday october 16, he told me that we will meet outside, I aked him on skype since we chatted in skype at that time, I asked him “are we okay?” “can we still fix this?” he said that “I am afraid if we could still fix this” so I told him”just tell me the truth” he said “I am saying that I will be meeting you tonight to make up, not to break up” so I am happy and felt relieved. so we met at night, we went to the coffee shop and then he opened up about what happened last sunday where he had an argument. He said
“it’s still not the right time.. actually I am officially breaking up with you…”
I was so shocked like I cant think straight. I asked him why and he said I failed to get the job in the other place so I have no choice but to go back in Korea after 2 weeks. I told him we can still continue for the last 2 weeks and not give me this break up and want me to accept right away. he said it’s going to be hopeless and he doesnt want us to have a bad emotion before he will leave. He said we are still friends and I’m still here around. we can chat on FB and Kakao etc..
so it’s been 5 days now and I am still; grieving because of what happned to us. I text him often that I want to meet him and want to have lunch and I’ll cook, he said we do it the other day, he needs to help the new manager.. But I texted him again that I am drinking right now, can you come? and he’s not replying anymore. I ask him also that if he did love me during the two weeks and he just need to be honest so I can move on and same, I didnt received any reply.
I am so hurt like I dont know what to do. he’s leaving on Nov 1st. It’s ok with me if he needs to go back to korea, I will understand, but having LDR is not enough reason to break up a relationship. I’ve been good. i did the groceries stuff once, I cook food for him, I follwed his rules just not to be so clingy.
what have I done wrong? and how can I fix myself on this? I wanna see him and talk to him but it seems he doesnt want to. he’s working Monday – Fri from 11am – 7:30 pm.
Please help me on this, and I have a question, did he ever love me?
thanks in advance..
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I almost cried reading this. I can feel you. I say you move on with your life. Don’t just stick around there waiting for him to come back to you. This is rude of me, but my guess is he’s not coming back anymore. Korean men will always go for the best people out there, and my guess is that your failure to get the job simply explained your role in his life. I’m not bitter anyway, just saying ….
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Hello, Zhaizhais, me too, every time I read my post, I can still cry. Anyway, after 11 days we met. We met last Saturday at the beach since there’s a farewell party, we used to work together but I was on leave, so my co workers invited me over (they didn’t know that we had a relationship with my manager). He was so surprised that I was there. But we didn’t talk. It seems like he’s not comfortable and can’t look at me straight. He avoided me everytime I go a little nearer to him. so I did the same.
Last Monday, we met again, we had dinner together and we talked (but we didn’t open up about the break up) .. and we had like 30 minutes walk after dinner. He send me off to the city to ride a cab. I was shocked that he hugged me and kissed me again. and I feel like, what’s this? … he kissed me twice and I am very happy. I asked him too, if he’s comfortable to go to his place the same night but he said that it’s not a good idea (I am wondering why it’s not a good idea?) He said to me also that, we had a good time and he didnt want to ruin it.
the next day which was last Tuesday, he called, he asked me if Can I go back to work this week because they need more people. I am happy that he was the one who called ask me to come over. and in the office, we’re casual, we don’t talk a lot but he goes to my cubicle and told me it’s my meal time already and I should take a break.. so moving on… I went home around 10pm.. I saw him drinking with the other Managers. around 2am he called again and he asked me why I am still awake, I said, I can’t sleep and I was reading online stories. He said that we still have work and I should go to sleep now. I asked him the same question, why is he still awake, he said he was drinking with the managers, which is the truth. I asked him, why did you call? He said “I don’t know why I called”
He never called me in the middle of the night and now he did that. what’s the meaning of this? and in the office he smiles at me but don’t talk.. His looks in the eyes are trying to tell me something but I am having a hard time to read it.
what’s happening??
Thank you again
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Yours is so frustrating. Probably your guy is getting confused. U know what, I think its best u get him drunk.. Just the two of you. And let him spill the beans. That worked on my guy. I guess we have similar situation. :)
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He’s leaving tomorrow going back to Korea.. November 2.. I wanted to invite him for a drink but I dont have the courage. I wanna go to his place but maybe he will reject my offer. I don’t know what to do..
Lastnight, he was a little bit disappointed to me he texted me and told me why i told my co workers about our relationship. I was so surprised that he was mad or something. I told him that i was so down at that time and I don’t know whom to talk to..
he’s leaving tomorrow and I don’t know how to fix this..
He’s confuse? you think he did love me?
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We met and I went to his place. he’s not drunk. We had a little argument at his place but I didn’t tell bad things on him. I just kept quiet. but after 30 minutes of NO LOOKING TO EACH OTHER, he told me to come over so we can talk. I thought we are going to talk about the issue in our office. But He just hug and kiss me. He’s like a baby who’s longing for a hug. Yes, something happened during that time but I have no regrets since I love him.
did he do that because of his needs or because he still love me? I can feel there’s something in him. His hug is s tight and I can feel the passion of his kiss.
But, is that just my feelings because I am inlove with him or what??
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Something happened between you and him. Right? Are you still together until now? o.O
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Hello!! actually last October 29th everything for the both of us went well.. But then we already broke up. But we still; see each other.. last Nov 2 he went to a city here in PH and stayed there for a week and planned to go back to Korea. But, after his 1 week stay to other city, he came back here in my hometown.
We met again and it’s like wow! bUt he didn’t open up about our relationship. I want to talk to him but I am scared.I can’t understand him though. -
I can relate omg
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I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.. I WANT TO ASK HIM IF WHAT’S OUR SCOURE BUT I AM AFRAID THAT HE MIGHT REJECT ME AGAIN LIKE BEFORE WHEN HE BROKE UP WITH ME..
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“I was so shocked like I cant think straight. I asked him why and he said I failed to get the job in the other place so I have no choice but to go back in Korea after 2 weeks. “…
I just want to have a clarification here..were you the one who failed to get a job or was it him? Because if he failed to get a job at the other place and therefore has to go back to Korea in 2 weeks, it would make more sense..
Also, it seems that your guy is trying to suppress his feelings for you..because he has to follow some rules due to his circumstances..but obviously,
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Hello, there! ^^
It’s him who failed to get the job. Anyway, here’s the continuation of my story..Last Nov 2 he went to another City and stayed there for a week and he will be heading to korea after since that’s the main City for international flights… November 7 supposed to be his flight going back to Korea but there’s a typhoon here in PH so it was cancelled. It will be move by the next day. So i thought that he went home already he told me I can call him etc. I just found out that last Nov 8, he came back here in my province, he texted me and told me:
Him: Hey where are u?
me: I am at Jen’s house, where having a party (he knows Jen since she’s our co worker)
Him: I see.. What time you’ll go home?
me: around 9pm.. Can I call u before your flight?
Him: yes, you can call me..
Me: ok, I will call u later.
few minutes later
Him: Are you you on your way home now?
me: not yet, but I am going home now.
Him: you’re going home alone?
me: yes..
Him: wanna drink?
me: drink? we’re drinking here..you miss drinking with us?
him: yes.. let’s meet in Yuris
me: Yuris? ahaha, you wished.. youre going home now and youre very far away from A province.. (I’ll just name it A province, it’s very far from the City he’s staying like we need to ride a plane before we can reach that place)
him: Let’s meet in Yuris tonight. I will wait for you.
me: what? are u serious? where are you?
him: I’m in A province..
me: really? okay okay..and then we met.. we had a little talk. he said he will be staying here for a month. He cancelled his flight and decided to stay here. no one from our office knew that he’s here. for 2 weeks we’ve been seeing each other like once a week.. He keeps on traveling and traveling.. and then 3 weeks ago, I told him that I will be resigning (we used to work in the same company he’s my manager before) this December and I will transfer to B City.. he asked, why.. I told him I am not happy anymore about the job. He said, okay..
We didn’t met for 10 days.I texted him
Me: How are you?
him: I am okay
me: what made you busy lately?
him: I was applying for a job online in C City (another City, it’s a big city where you can find a lot of jobs)
me: ahh I see, and what happened?
him: i failed to get the job again.. I will be going back to korea next week Dec 6.
me: I see, you should spend your xmas and new years here.
him: it’s easy for you to say that..
me: what makes it hard? can yiou tell me?
him: I need to work for the visa, my accommodation, my tickets..
me: you know what? reasons can hold you back.. actions can keep you going. You can just stay here for another 3weeks, that’s not too much.
him: I am so tired talking to you. Thank you, I appreciate your words.
me: why do u easily get angry with me? I know you didn’t asked for my opinion.
him: Because you are a dreamer and I am a realist. We’re too different from each other.
me: yes, I know I am a dreamer and we’re very different.and he didn’t reply but he texted me after 3 hours but I fell asleep.,
it happned last last thursday… So last last Satrday I invited him over like can we meet etc but it’s always cancelled. so last last mondqay, he visited to our office, some of the staff were very happy to see him.. and after my duty we went out.
Him: You know what, I am just wasting my money.
me: why?
him: I already bought a ticket for Korea
me: and then?
him: last sunday I applied for a job in B City (B City, the same city I was planning to transfer)
me: really? and what happned?
him: i got the job and I will start on thursday
me: ahh that’s cool
him: when are you going to resign?
me: I dont know maybe 3week of december, I need to get mt 13th pay.
him: and after you will resign? what are you going to do?
me: I will just stay at home and look for another job.
him: what? I don’t believe you.
me: why?
Him: you already applied for a job in B City, right?
me: yes, but….
him: you don’t need to lie.. (what the heck? why would I lie?)
me: Yes, I applied but I am not really serious about it, i didn’t hear from them.
him: where are you in B City?
me: Info tech Building in D Street
him: oh, it’s near in my work place.. just 10 minutes away..Last Tuesday, around 3:00am, my friend called and told me that my korean man was with them and I should go there because he’s a little bit drunk and later afternoon he’ll be leaving. I said no because I am very sleepy and it’s late.. But she insisted that i should go for the sake of my Koreab Man. So i have no choice and I went there.
We went home around 4am and he said we’ll go home together and I’ll be staying to his place for a sleep. So i agreed but nothing happened. I controlled and I used my head this time. We slept together and around 8am his phone was ringing like a lot of times.. he didn’t answer..
Around 10 am he woke up and told me we need to check out because his flight will be 1:00pm.. and we’re in a hurry and I saw some of his clothes were not yet on his traveling bag so I fold those clothes. he said “No, it’s okay, I’ll do it” and it seems there’s something he wants to say.. (well here’s the conversation)Me folding his clothes
Him: No, it’s okay, I’ll do it.
Me: oh okay..(it seems he wants to say something)
Me: Do you want me to go now?
him: Yes..
Me: oh, you’ll be seeing someone..
Him” yes. Someone will send me off to the airport. don’t worry
me: okay. I’ll go now.
him” wait.. hmm Thank you..I was so upset and I went home crying because of what happend.. I texted him after few hours
Me: I know we didn’t have a good goodbye a while ago. If you and your girlfriend had already plans, you should have told me. You don’t need to hide your girfriend or acted like you’re single. I know what we had for the first few weeks when you came back was just Friends with benefits. I didn’t ask you to LOVE me again but you don’t need to make me feel stupid for the nth time. If you can’t respect me just because I am like this and because of our situation, please respect me as a person. I am not your toy. What you did was like a big slap on my face. I was so humiliated..
Him: 1st msg I’m so sorry Kissa. I know you’ve been always nice to me and I appreciate that..
2nd msg I’ve never thought of you as a toy or something. Things were just so complcated.
3rd You can hate me as much as you can. I just hope to see you again.Me: I’ve been nice and yet you abuse my kindness. I look so stupid.
2nd msg : Maybe things were so complicated, but lying to me that you don’t have a gf and acted like your single? If you just told me in the first place that you had a new relationship, I wouldn’t have met up with you and I would have kept my distance.Him: I don’t have a gf. Can’t explain what happened to me. I’m just sorry..
I don’t know what should I do???
Last wednesday, I didn’t go to work I was already kicked out because I was absent without filing a leave and, 2 companies called and ask me if I can go to B City for a job interview and I said Yes. and the other part of the story, my other ex, (the man I hurt and the man I left for the korean man) is going to work in B City as well. I was like, the three of us will be together again?? Should I still pursue B City? or is it already a sign that I shouldn’t go??
It’s very long.. ahaha I am so sorry
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Wow your reply is just as long as my story I posted here on Dec. 1st. haha~
I did read your story but forgot some details…so basically, you guys were never officially in a relationship?
I think throughout the course of events, he really did develop some feelings for you, but for some unfathomable reasons, he is trying to suppress them but obviously he can’t. He seems to be fighting against them and follow his logic, instead. But…it seems he can’t.Well, your story sounds like a Korean drama itself. It must be extremely tiring on you, emotionally, I can see that: it’s quite bad it impacted on your job tenure that you got “kicked” out for omitting to fill out a “leave of absence” form. Your story pains me and I feel sorry you have to go through this emotional roller-coaster.. but I don’t think you’re alone in this since I am sure he is going through the same as well. You know, there is a saying that men don’t express their feelings in contrast to women? That’s what your Korean guy sounds to me.
As for the ending of your story, I, myself, wouldn’t know what to do. Usually, in a situation in which I am unable to make a clear decision, I go with my gut feelings. Most of the time, it has never “betrayed” me.
I would like to think that there is some hope to your story. I don’t believe it to be a sad story but rather one filled with hardships before something gives, at the end. Don’t give up…fighting!~ as they say in K-drama ^^
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yeah, after I wrote my reply, I just realized that it’s very long ahaha.. You’re right, I need to work out with it to be with him again. We had relationship last September 29 and ended by october 16. it’s just two weeks.. But when he came back here in my province and spent another week, we never had relationship.. even if we hang out together, ate dinner together, but still he didn’t open up that we should continue our relationship.. His reasons before why he’s breaking up with me because he’s going back to Korea, it seems he’s eating his words now.. I want to ask him since we will be in the same City next year, I want to ask him if we’re going to pursue the relationship but I am afraid that he’ll reject me..
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Hi Kissa,
I’m a Korean Guy and I’m going to give you my humble opinion but I think you should use your “gut” on which scenario he falls into. I’ve met some Korean guys that are AMAZING and some Korean guys that are SCUM and some Korean guys that fall in between and some Korean guys that are very PRAGMATIC. I fall into the AMAZING category. :D :D :D I’m kidding ;)
HE has walled up his feelings because he is very pragmatic and he feels he needs to get everything in order before he has a serious relationship with someone. He obviously finds you attractive and addicting because he keeps wanting to see you. This is especially true true if he is attractive and can get any girl out there. If it were simply for sex or if he were a player i’m sure the other co-workers would be letting you know that they slept with him as well.
The other thing may be…..he is attracted to you, but doesn’t see the relationship as going anywhere because his job is not stable. He doesn’t want to “lead you on” because he does care about you, but also falls for his weaker instinct of needing someone to be with him and not be alone. He is being selfish by falling for his needing you physically.
Good luck and I feel for you.
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@Kang A Korean Guy
Thank you for your advice. Yes, I am also thinking maybe because he had a problem of his Job here in Philippines. But at this moment it’s been 3 days that he didn’t text me and didn’t hear anything from him. Sometimes I text him and received a reply but lately, I didn’t. He’s so moody like he likes to reply and sometimes he doesn’t. That’s why I can’t understand his behavior but still I love him.
I will be going next year to the same City where he is working right now. I don’t know if I should meet him or just avoid him. How come he’s so moody?? I don’t want to message him first, I am so tired initiating the first move, I am a girl and I shouldn’t do that. I think if he’s really interested he would just reply on my messages or just text me, right?
by the way i forgot to remove my name, I just don’t know how this thing works, poor me! I just want my name removed. Just in case, you know, in the future. :) THanks!
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I mean it sounds like he likes you in that way. Do you like him back? Perhaps you can continue meeting with him and hope he fesses up, or you can confess to him?
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I think I’m starting to like him. He’s making me feel like I’m somehow important to him. But I don’t wanna jump to a conclusion yet, coz maybe he’s just being ‘homesick’ now because he’s far away from Korea. :(
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sorry to jump on this one…but this seems really sweet :))
If there is any connection at all, i am Asian and ” I wanna tell you something, but I’m shy” usually means Something. Prompt him and encourage him to say it out !-
His attention suddenly drifted away. I don’t know why. But I guess he isn’t just the right guy yet. Thanks for your comments! :)
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Hi!
I’ve been searching Google in and out to find something that would exactly fit my situation. Like a similar situation, but nothing came up.
Or maybe, I’m not just really good at searching and SEO-izing. Anyway, I’m writing because of this Korean guy. We are not really friends at all.
We just used to be ‘officemates’. He, staying in the office because of his English class and Me, staying in the office because I’m working there
as a teacher. I’m a bit solo-type of person. I don’t usually mingle with other people. Not that I am anti-social but I just don’t like wasting time around,
especially when I’m at work. Going back, he came to the office last August, and since then, I’ve never had the chance to talk to him because I don’t
really chat with other people at work at all. Then last week, this Korean guy approached me first time and called me by my name. When I said, “Yes?”
He just smiled and said, “Oh nothing!” and scratched his head. I don’t know what he wanted from me. So I moved on. Then two days after that, he
approached me at my cubicle and and handed me a piece of stick-on note. He wrote his hi and hello and asked me if I could add him on Skype. Coz he wanna be friends with me. So that’s how we started
to become acquainted. We chat and every night, he would wish me good night and good dreams, even though he hadn’t texted me for the whole day at all.
Then, he asked me out for some beer on the weekend. Since it’s just a simple chill-out, I agree. (it’s gonna be this coming Saturday!) And yesterday, he asked me if we could dine together
tonight, because it’s his birthday on Hangeul Day, and I’m not gonna be around on that day. I said, yes too. I don’t wanna turn him down on his birthday. But he said, he’s gonna meet me somewhere outside
the building. I guess he’s making things between us as hush. Anyway, before I went home yesterday, he approached me and spoke in a very soft voice, ‘I wonder you, I don’t know why’. And then he bid me good bye.
I didn’t actually get it coz his English is not really that good. I don’t know why he wanna be friends with me. Sometimes I thought he likes me because in our chat, there were times he would say, oh **my name**. I wanna tell
you something, but I’m shy. then he wouldn’t tell me anymore. He sent me that chat message for at least twice or thrice already. Do you think he has something for me? Or he is just curious about me? Thanks~!
Hi! I’ m just in grade 8, and my Korean crush is in Grade 9. I really want to talk to him but I’m really shy although I know (a little) how to speak Korean. I have a friend/ classmate that is really close with him, she helped me to talk with that Korean but it’s just *hi, hello* and he just did it because my friend pleased him. I really want that Korean to say hi with me without being pleased by my friend. And if he will talk to me i get panic.But whenever that Korean and I (only) will see each other it’s like nothing happened. You know, I really want to talk to him but I’m really really shy.
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I want a korean boyfriend right now
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Are you asking me to give you mine? ^^
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Loving Korean 
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