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Well, this is a question open to anyone who is able to offer me some insights :))
I travelled to Korea recently for a holiday and i have arranged to meet up with this guy friend for the first time. He is my language partner from online and we knew each other for about a year and have been communicating via Kakao (a chat app) all this time.
On the day that we are supposed to meet, he has told me that he will bring another guy friend along. I thought…okay sure (although it is very awkard since i am a foregineer, first time in Korea and i don’t know anybody else) The dinner went well and he keep talking to me to make sure that i was not left out.
The 2nd time we met up, he disclosed that he has tried to ask 3 other friends if they want to come along but they were all not free. Now, this is a shocker for me … why can’t this be a casual (non romantic) 1 to 1 meeting between us without a 3rd party?Is it impossible for a man and woman to have a casual lunch/dinner?
p.s: He was a real sweetheart though! helping me to open the car door and carry my shopping bag which weight nothing and even bought gifts for my family. Even when i inisited no-no.
Who still does that!?
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Hi. I hope both of you are doing very well. I came across your blog when I googled how to say “I like you” in Korean and this may just be the beginning of my story.
I am a 21 year old student, he is 25 and currently working near my place for a couple of months. I knew him online and he initiated the conversation first since he was looking for a local friend here in my country to just hang out and keep him company. So, we talked and talked and talked, after a couple of days I realized that we had some sort of chemistry together. But at that time, I already had a boyfriend of 3 years whom I’ve known since I was in high school so I suppressed my thoughts about the Korean guy and just think of us as friends.
About 1 week later, my boyfriend broke up with me. We already had a rocky relationship from the start and the break up was more or less, mutual. It was really hard for me to handle the break up, it still is but I just continue on living. I never told the Korean guy about my personal life since our relationship is pretty much just me keeping him company online when he’s working or studying and stuff so he doesn’t know. After a while, we got closer. He asked me how to say “I like you” in my language, he’s giving me flirty hints, and he wants to meet me. He said that I’m cute and that he wants to give me kisses and hugs if we meet. I am a chubby girl with curves in the right places so I thought he would run away when he finally sees me. But he kept saying he won’t because he doesn’t care. I even gave him a photo of me so he knows what to expect, and he thinks I look hot. That gave me confidence ^^
I’m meeting him this weekend. I’m still scared but I decided to just go on with it. I brought self defense tools just in case, well, you know, for safety precautions ><But sometimes, I don't know whether he really likes me or am I just a temporary fling? I don't trust people that easily. I really wanna start over from my previous break up and just get to know this Korean guy but I also don't want to get hurt again so soon.
Please give me your advice on this. It would help take a load off my mind. Thank you so much. Have a nice day :)
—Natto
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I hate to say this, but most of them are hanging around with locals because they are simply bored… TT Well, I do hope that your guy is different and much better compared to some Koreans I had come across before.
About the self-defense tools.. He he. Unless he told you beforehand that he would love to do something with you, don’t expect more. ha ha. They know how to respect women, and that’s the best thing about them. Trust me. Hahaha. (no you dont have to ^^)
Good luck to your meet up with him! :)
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Hi thanks for your comment. Um I met him earlier today.
The first thing he said to me was “You look good today” and he smiled. He seldom smile when we skype but today he smiled all the way.He asked me a lot of questions he already knows about me, I’m guessing he’s nervous so I was pretty glad because I was a nervous wreck too. The interesting part was when we were in the elevator. Out of nowhere he suddenly kissed me! And it was nice. The kind you see in movies. I felt my heart skip a beat. We spent the whole day talking, giggling, and laughing. Plus kissing and hugging. But all of a sudden, he thinks we’re better off as friends. The reason he gave me was he has to go back to Korea in 5 months and he doesn’t want to hurt me. I keep saying that it’s okay and I’ll be fine but he won’t buy it. I really like him. He makes me laugh and blush. He is a real gentleman. But hearing those words just makes my heart ache more than it should.
When I’m ready to go home, I pulled him in and kissed him. And we stare into each other’s eyes. I know this sounds mushy but be patient with me here. He kissed me back. When he opened the door, he hesitated and kissed me again. In the elevator, he kissed me again and said that I was too cute. How can you not melt for these kinds of actssss T^T
He sent me back and before I left I kissed him on the cheek. He blushed and waved goodbye. I don’t know. I’m having a crush on him. I’m not the kind that hides her feelings and demands to be hurt. So I told him that I like him and it doesn’t matter if it’s 5 months or 5 days, I like him and this doesn’t have to be anything. We don’t have to put a label on it. I don’t expect anything from you. Let’s just spend time together. His reply was okay but through the course of the night, he’s like hesitating. No more goodnight kisses, no more sweet dreams.
I guess, I was naive huh?
But I didn’t give up. I didn’t text him that much. I kept my cool. He texts me when I didn’t text him, and he still texts me when he got home from work. I don’t know.
Help?
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hi.iam sarah when i watched korean drama i became so interisted to this culture and every thing in korea . i also dreamed to complete my education there and also complete my life in korea. iam from egypt muslim girl and in the second year of vet medicin education..after that i found my dreams impossible like everyone say…. :( i disapointed and became very sad because my dreams broken … and i don’t know if there is a chance to travel and study thee and get married to a muslim guy or not ??
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Most Koreans aren’t muslim though. They are either Christian or buddhist or no religion. So you’ll most likely either have to let go of the dream of being with a Korean, or reconcile the idea that your partner will have a different faith than you (or no faith at all, which is ok too.)
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Hi! Uh Im spanish and Ive been chating with this korean guy like…uh 5 months. I met him in a chatroom and since that day we have been talking all the time… The past 4 months we started videochating and he says a lot of compliments (and flirt) but just when we videochat cause when we chat he is like too cold Dx I like him a lot and im confused why he is like that…
Last monday I ask him if he was playing with me and he told that he was serious with me but wants to go slow but after that day he told me he loved me and would never hurt me…It is a very frustrating situation, he even tells me he wants to come and visit. When I finally told him that I like him (past wednesday) too he was so… Dx cold again…Usually he was the one who began the talks and he always sent me a message of good night and good morning. I dont know what to do:c please help me! -
I talk with a korean guy, that always talked with me everyday, and calls me. He didn’t know a lot of English. But Other day, He got out, and I told him that call me when he was back. And he didn’t. He may have understand wrong, what I said? Or he is really strange at me?
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How tall are you Kimchi Man? o.O
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