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I’m a Chinese girl in college in U.S. I’m interested in a Korean guy in my class. I guess he noticed me that we are in the same class and we had eye contact several times, but we never talked. He’s really cute to me but didn’t dress up in class. Every time he came alone and leave alone, never talked to anyone in class. I’m the same person, always alone, never talked to anyone from our class. He took notes very carefully so I assume he’s a good student. He’s neat, clean and quiet. One day before class, I went to library to do my homework, and I saw him sitting alone. I hesitated for a while and walked to him and asked “are we in the same class?” he said “yes.” I asked if he has already finished homework and if he could let me have a look at his homework. He said yes and asked my name and number. Then he sent his homework to my number. (Actually his friend sent him the solution and he sent it to me. That’s a contradiction of his good student’s image in my mind.) After I finish copying the solution, I put down my pen and I noticed him start packing his backpack. So we are almost on the same pace and walked to classroom together. Because we are very late for class, we started talking outside classroom and waited for the class ends to submit the homework. During that half hour he’s really talkative, about where he attend high school, his current classes, his future career plan after graduation, what kind of movies he like. After submitting homework, he texted me what else classes I’m taking and if we could do homework together. I thought maybe he wants to copy my homework I replied very friendly “Im doing next homework and let u know when I’m done”. We talked about homework and classes for a while and he texted “what are you doing tonite” i said i have a class in evening.” he said “some of his chinese frds go to a korean club tonite”(I mentioned that club in earlier conversation) he didn’t invite me so i replied “have a great nite”. Then he asked me out for dinner before my evening class, i said ok. Then we talked a lot during dinner. He asked me if i go back china after graduation. I said I would stay in New York and he said he will stay in new york as well. He said a lot about his future career plan and that sounds good. Anyway all he said is obvious trying to attract me, trying to make me feel he’s really good. After dinner he walked me to my classroom and finally asked me if I wanna go to his dorm to see his gifts because yesterday is his birthday. YES he invited me to go to his dorm on the first date we know each other. I said no and went to my class. And he left. After that he didn’t text me for 24 hours. I don’t know what to do. He was approaching me only for sex??? I’m good looking in chinese, but not in a korean style. All korean girls like long thin eyes but my eyes are round and big. He never dress up in class, no fashion at all. I dressed up every day in school. My friend said he’s alone maybe because he thinks he’s not same kind of person with other students, and he has his frds circle. I don’t know if its true but at least thats the reason why I’m always alone in class.
I really like him at first by his appearance, but i wanna know more about his personality, his life style and what kind of person he is before moving forward to next step. I won’t judge a person or make frds by appearance. But he invited me to his place on first day, is that mean he needs me only for sex??? he can’t treat me as GIRLFRIEND??? I really like him, want to know him, and become his girlfriend possibly. What should I do now? wait for him to take the initiatives? If he doesn’t contact me, then i should just forget him????????????????-
I forgot to mention, he’s 1 year or 2 year older than me….. and he took middle school and high school in America. I took high school here as well.
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I live with my Korean born boyfriend with my 7 year old son from a previous relationship. He and I are great and are planning on getting married and have more kids. So with him I am good. But the only member of his family I haven’t met is his mom. His stepfather and sister like my just fine. His dad even brings up marriage. :) I have hear his mom is a bit stubborn and can be difficult. Not surprising since that could describe my boyfriend. Anyway, we are supposed to have thanksgiving dinner at our house and this will be my first time meeting her. I want to make a good first impression. Any advice?
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Ok so here is my story… Hopefully someone will read it and help me!!
I met this korean guy through a language exchange website. I used to have another friend in this website but he was married and waiting for a child, he was really helping me with the language and no romantic feelings were between us of course, but he started to get really busy at work and with his new baby arrival he didnt have time anymore plus the time difference. So we lost contact.. Some time passed before I went to the website again… This time I started to have contact with another korean guy… It was so different than the other guy… I practically have a crush on him but we just start talking a week ago!! He says some sweet things, he called me (his english is not good and im not a native english speaker) and we practically chat all day! (He is living in europe at the time). Although I like korean guys I dont find him particulary handsome.. But what he says its just so nice!! He makes me feel good and I laugh all the time. He already made plans to come and visit me in my country… He says he really wants to meet me.
I talk with my friends and they say he is going to fast!! And I believe it too… But I kind of like it but at the same time worries me. Im not a teen anymore but I feel just like one and I cant think straight! Do you think he is going to fast?? Maybe his intentions arent good??
I dint want to lose something that can be really great… But Im also scared. Its the first time something like this happen to me.. Falling to soon and for an online person :s
HELP!!! PLEASE!!-
Just for extra info… He is coming to visit me in 6 months. I try to help him with english and he helps me with korean.
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I discovered this website 7 months ago, when I met my Korean crush ^^
I can say, I relate to a lot of these stories and most of my questions and things I have wondered were all covered by your wonderful readers. However, there is one thing I’m left wondering about and that is..
After confessing to the guy I like, what does it mean when he replies with…”thank you *insert my name here*”?
Here’s the background story:
We met through a mutual friend. I was learning Korean at the time and I wanted to meet someone for language exchange. I can still remember the first day we met as he was very quiet and spoke very little English. He had just been in the country for one month (Canada) and would be staying for a year. He wanted to meet someone who spoke English well and I wanted to meet a Korean. My unnie thought she should introduce us for language exchange and in her words, “possibly be more than just language exchange”. We introduced ourselves and found out we have plenty in common. He just finished his military service and is now on a year break from school. His major is Culinary and Hotel Management whilst I majored in Culinary Management. So literally, food is our common ground ^^
After meeting, we exchanged numbers and went our separate ways. At first, I wasn’t interested in him romantically but my first impression of him was, “he’s really good-looking”. So like many stories I have read on this website, I initiated the move. For a while I felt like I was the one who had to initiate messages and to plan meeting for language exchange. But as we became comfortable with each other, he began messaging me and asking to meet for lunch and just go beyond our normal meeting place.
I realized I had feelings for him when we went to the zoo. I remember he had made lunch for the both of us. He remembered how I like lemonade and how I like fried rice because those were the things he prepared for our lunch. I thought, “Wow! He’s so thoughtful.” After our trip to the zoo, on the same day, I took him to a garden overlooking Lake Ontario. Now that I think about it, I don’t remember why I took him there. I just wanted to show him that garden because it meant a lot to me. I remember how we had to walk downhill and at the bottom of that hill were some small rocks we had to walk over. That was the moment I began to fall for him when he offered to take my hand to help me over the rocks. I know, simple gesture but I was really touched by it.
In order to save time, I’ll cut this story short(er). I met his older sister and brother-in-law on a couple of occasions.To the point when I actually told his older sister that I have feelings for him. She promised me she wouldn’t tell him and that it would remain a secret between the two of us. However, I had a feeling she told him because he playful said, “I know a secret” I asked him what secret to which he refused to tell me. So I assumed that he knew about my feelings for him. In fact, I know he knew of my feelings for him because one day, he bluntly asked me, “do you love me?” I was surprised at this that I did not know what to say. I neither denied nor confirm. He dismissed my reaction with a smile. On another occasion, he asked me the same question again. The he asked, “is ‘like’ and ‘love’ the same?” to which I replied, “no, they are not”. We had a misunderstanding that day and he probably thought that the word “like” meant that I only like him as a friend.
After that, we didn’t see each other for a while until I found out that he was going to Cuba for a vacation. It was during that time of his absence that I truly missed him and could not even function properly not knowing if he is alright. I literally counted down the days until his return. On the day when he came back, he messaged me. I felt my heart race, I was so happy to hear from him again. It was then I realized I needed to tell him how I felt. I wanted for him to know how important he is to me.
After confessing my feelings to him in an awkward text. Yes, I’m sorry to admit, I confessed over a text message. I had him next to me and was about to tell him personally but I couldn’t..I wanted to..I just couldn’t. So I texted him instead. He replied with, “I don’t know what the truth is” and “I don’t know what it means”. I replied by using his Korean name and telling him I like him.
So which leads me to wonder…
What does it mean when he replies with, “Thank you” I’ve heard it in Korean dramas as well.. Is it a way of rejecting someone?
It has been a week since I told him how I felt. We have messaged and talked on the phone a couple of times. There was one time he asked me, “Te amo?” The phrase I used to tell him how I feel. And I said, “Yes!” he asked again, “Te amo? Really? Are you sure?” and I said, “YES!!” He laughed and said, “Good!” He said he wants to say something but he can’t say it in English. We met three days ago for language exchange and dinner. He didn’t say anything about it. Which leads me to wonder what he’s thinking and feeling.
He has 2 months left before he has to return to Korea. I’ll be going too, in 4 months.
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that’s so cool you are going top= korea as well. hmm I think I he likes you too..
Because with my Korean Guy, my co worker confesses her feelings, and my Korean guy said ” I am sorry i don’t feel the same way”..They’re very frank, I think.. once they like you, they will spend and give enough time to talk to you.. But if they don’t like you, they will reject you completely. Maybe he’s confuse because he’s going back to korea. Just like my guy as well, w broke up because he’s going back to Korea.. They think that LDR won’t work..
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Thank you for your reply, Kissa. Yes, I also think that he feels it might not be worth entering a relationship if he has to leave it soon. I have tried to convince him to stay and study here instead but I also know the cost and other things will become a problem. He said he wants to live in Canada but wants to return to Korea for at least a year. Only time will tell, I guess.
I am sorry to hear that your guy broke up with you. I don’t know what to say to make you feel better because I know you must be hurting right now. Like I said, time will tell. If it’s really meant to be, he’ll come back to you but that doesn’t mean you should put your life on hold waiting for someone who might or might not come back.
Just like in my situation, I’m happy we’re still friends and whether he has feelings for me or not, I’m happy he became a part of my life. I have so many happy moments with him and I realized that I wasn’t living my life to the fullest until I met him. I’ll have 2 months to enjoy being with him and even if we never blossomed into a romantic relationship, at least I have our friendship to hold on to even when he’s back in Korea.
If, and when, I do meet with him in Korea…I’ll cherish those moments, too.
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It’s very romantic. I like the way you think..anonymous..I feel the same way, too..Memories should be cherished and kept~
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What does it mean when an older korean woman calls me lil bro?
So I’ve been hanging out with a Korean American woman (29) that is slightly older than me (just turned 29). She’s very korean.
We usually hang out in small groups and we always sit next to each other. We are also the two left talking to each other at the end of the night or when the others go off walking around the club / bar. She’s shy and slightly reserved and I’ll make compliments and she will flirt with me once we both have some drinks (her head on my shoulder, spraying water on me, jokingly calling me out on random stuff, etc). However, she called me “lil bro” the other day (I’m slightly younger) and I’m not sure how to take it. I know in some Asian cultures they call each other brother / sister and some have different meanings (they like each other, they see each other just as close friends, etc). I was wondering how I should take this.
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Please can you tell me what.s the best way to find korean friends i am Moroccan girl and i talk 5 different languages ( french arabic spanish english . And a little bit korean. )
Loving Korean 
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