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433 responses to “Ask us 2012 Archives”
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i’m european woman and i’m looking for a korean guy. ( i have fourthy years ). Give me a little help and tell how i can find one. if you know something about dating sites…or something like this what can help me to ….” go in korea” )
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I’m sorry I never used dating site so I have no idea. And I met Kimchi Man by accident, I didn’t look for Korean guys so I don’t really know how to do it.
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thank you for your answer.
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I have to take everything one day at a time with my Korean guy but things are really beginning to go in the direction I was hoping and praying for. I was just blunt about things and I think that was the key! We live about an hour and a half from one another, but we are now making plans to see each other at the end of this month! Yay! I’m VERY excited and thanks so much for this blog! I’ve found that perseverance is also really important, but it’s worth it I believe!
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Thank you. Good for you!
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ok i am from middle east i have white skin and all my friends say you look korean and you look asian and also my cousins so…the one thing that let me not looking asian my hair my hair is big and super curly and it always falls so is there any tips for having asian hair and do asians have silky hair or they striaght it thanx
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Some have curly, some wavy, some straight.
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So, here is the thing. I’m an American girl- I’m logical and rational- and I’ve never had an issue attracting a real life person, and yet here I am falling for a korean penpal I’ve never met. I feel utterly ridiculous, because how can you like someone you’ve never met? How can you miss someone you’ve never known? Anyway, we’ve been talking back and forth constantly everyday for a little over 2 months now, and I’m just super confused. I am going to Korea in the near future, and we have made plans to meet, I just need some advice. The first time you met Kimchi Man what were your thoughts? And right before meeting him, did you ever think twice about it? It being completely insane? Did you consider not telling him how you felt until after you met? I assume he likes me as we talk day and night, but I seriously half want to never talk to him again and be free of it, and the other half can’t imagine not having him there. I think the stamina just exist because we’ve never met, but I feel like since we know everything about each other there will be nothing to say in person. Ahhh I don’t know. Please just a few comforting words D”’:
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Your situation sounds really similar to ours. We will make a post about it as soon as possible. Thank you for your patience.
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You can find your answer here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/08/26/qa-is-it-crazy-falling-in-love-with-a-korean-guy-online/.
We hope it comforts you. :)
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So I want to get into a interracial relationship mostly likely it will be long distant since I have some interest in a korean guy I met, what do I need to know in terms of what I should be prepared for if we do end up forming a relationship? Would I offend him if I asked him out? I’m not sure of my chances in the long run since I am Mexican and such and it’s quite rare, meaning I haven’t seen too many hispanic/asian relationships. They don’t seem very common, I do look pretty white though compared to everyone else in my family and some of my white friends. I guess I just want to know how to hit it off since I ended up meeting him because I’m an artist and I really love the Asian culutre art wise, and from there I became curious with everything else. I asked him questions and stuff. I am labled weird for my interests and such. Along with the retort that I only like asian guys, I like to joke about it but that’s not it I’m just into their culture. I will admit that 2 years ago is when I got into the culture and then late last year I found kpop. I am into other asian countries too since I’ve had friends from Japan, China, and Vietnam. So yes I am into anime,manga, and such but I love viewing the animation and illustration aspect I sit there amazed as to how they do these things. I went from looking at these countries historically to looking and avidly following some of the new things that have sprung up. So I wonder is this good or bad and what can I do to hit it off in the end?
Sorry for the ramble ^_^;-
Hi, thank you for your question. While you wait for response you might find something useful here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/qa-do-i-have-yellow-fever/
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You can find answer to your question here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/07/31/qa-is-there-hope-for-hispanic-asian-relationship/
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Hi there!
I have α lot of questions (yep, cutting right to the chase hehe). I hope you won’t find it weird that I’m so open to telling you all of this, but I’m really eager for some advise.
Okay, I might say that I want to teach English in South Korea after about 4/5 years. I’ve been wanting to teach English in almost all Asian countries, but decided on South Korea at last. Haha I suppose this interest started when I was 12 (interested in martial arts and it just fired up from there to languages and beyond).
Okay, with that said, most of my friends are guys and I have no problem conversing with them or even being dorky with them (by that, I mean mock fighting, making random sounds or whatever to make them laugh). I haven’t had α girl friend since 2010, and I suppose that is α problem (I have no one to talk to when it comes to dating guys). I have been in α 2 year relationship, but broke up with him because he didn’t hold my interest. By that, I mean I need someone who can keep up with me and not be afraid to be who he truly is, nor to mold to my liking. (Why I added this is just to squeeze in here that I’m not unable to date at all, if you know what I mean).
Anyway, since I’m not really planning to return from South Korea, I thought I might as well marry someone there too (have absolutely no problem with this haha). I told my mom and my conservative dad and they both said whatever makes me happy, they will accept.
Here’s the thing, though. I’m afraid I might suffer from yellow fever and it’s bothering me. Or maybe I regard asians (those that work at places where I usually go) as celestial beings and am often very shy when it comes to approaching them (if my mom didn’t tell the lady working at α chinese clothing store that I was teaching myself Mandarin, Japanese, and now Korean, I probably would never have talked to her at all besides the usual for business).
This makes me wonder if I would actually be able to converse with them in Korea. Fear of rejection, maybe? I don’t know.
I also like to make α study of things. Like when my mom promised me α kitten, I bought books on the history of cats, grooming, etc. I know people aren’t something you can own, but is this curiosity or the yellow fever coming through? I really don’t want to be seen as trying to be α Korean, or an Asian for that matter, but I really love everything about the cultures (okay, most cultures) and styles. Even though I’m curious about all that, I know I’ll always be α foreigner to them even after I gain citizenship.Another thing, that is quite flattering actually, is that I’ve been mistaken to work at the beforementioned clothing store α lot of times. Some customers would ask me how much does the items cost or if I can fetch them another size. Then I tell them, “Sorry, but I don’t work here.” The most recent case (two ladies with a toddler) laughed it off, saying that I looked Asian.
That brings me to another question. Asian guys that are willing do date foreigners – are they more likely to date α blonde (favouring the difference) rather than α short, dark-eyed brunette?These silly little things seem to gnaw at me.
Also, how do you stop being shy around people who you think are more significant than yourself?
I think that’s it. Sorry if it’s off topic α bit, and thank you so much for reading. I hope I haven’t bored you. C:
Thank you for keeping this blog, it is by far my favourite (you guys seem really warm-hearted when replying and for taking the time to put up with worried persons).-
Sorry that you waited so long for the answer, Kimchi Man and I had a bad luck of both having health issues at the same time. We hope our answer makes up for it. :) https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/07/19/qa-do-i-have-yellow-fever/ Thank you for being so patient.
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