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Hello eogukeen… i just had a feeling that your blog safe my life :).. i have many question on my head and would like to ask.. I am a chinese girl.. attracted by korean stuff.. of course cosmetics.. korean drama … culture .. etc..
by a chance i met 2 korean guys online and chat to them on kakao talk…(of course they don’t know each other) … guy 1 is a very normal guy and good looking.. talk to me very gentle.. we chat very friendly…
but guy2… although he is normal too and sometimes really quiet..he looks attractive and type very well english..he is from seoul, 32 yrs old, but sometimes by any chance.. he called me baby .. said to me “wish that i am right beside him” .. and even he actually asked me when is my holiday because he is thinking to go Hong Kong to visit me… but after that he asked me if i can let him sleep on my coach if he come to HK. We just chat online for few days and he did see my picture.. and comment glamour (but i didn’t think he really mean that)… I thought of he might be just funny and joking.. but seems not.. because he did “Hi” after wake up.. and say little naughty word like “it is no good to sleep myself” and “cuddling is sweet”..of course there is sometimes i message him he did not reply right away.. but he tells me where he is going or what he will doing without I ask him..
I do not have a clue that if he is really just joking to me.. or being serious.. because if he just joking.. he don’t have to say thinking to come to Hong Kong for visit…
before chatting to guy2. i thought korean is very close-mind people. Last time i went to korean i see some couples were dating.. but they don’t even hold hands nor kiss.. i really thought korean is very traditional… i was a little shock when i met guy2… i am afraid that i will get hurt.. and i don’t really believe that I can easily attract a guy just like that….
p.s. I am just an average looking Hong Kong girl and we only chat online… never do phone call yet… really want to know what is in korean guy’s mind..
Thank you and sorry for my bed english :)
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this post is from me.. .i just want to give you more background on this (i was on the way to somewhere, so that i didn’t have a clear mind)
Actually, i like korean stuff many years ago. I grew up in Canada and came back to Hong Kong to work 8 yrs ago. I am now 31, I actually look tall and big in compare to other chinese girls (similar case to you, wearing big shoes and big clothings.) I do upset with boys in Hong Kong, they usually meet new friends by judging their appearance, so I had a very hard time to meet up for boy friends (of course I do friends in boys and they also have positive comments on my personality, but when comes to about building a relationship, they would not consider, as I am too big in size for them, Hong Kong guys usually like petit girl). So I choose to watch korean drama for my spare time, and i found alot of things that interested me. Of course korean drama sometimes it is only drama, however it still reflect daily life in drama. I was attracted by the fashion of those girls, family lives with seniors, very respect elders, off work on time (i really want to find out if they really are off work on time, in drama, they always did alot of things after work and still not too late)… alot of think interested me to discover. So that i went to seoul earlier this year with a frd, I found Seoul is a very nice city, people always smiling on their face, give me a very positive feeling, people are polite and willing to help. Korean men are very tall and muscle (i thought that i was back to Canada, because most of HK people not too tall) This is something that attracted me to discover, after that I am willing to meet some korean friends but I do not have any clue to meet them. So my friend suggest me to use an apps call kakao and give me a link call language exchange to meet people and exchange culture. But there is not many people in my age and interested to exchange. So I tried and other website which called Korean cupid.
Of course I am the person who click “interest” on guy 2 i mentioned, and he replied me right away. The reason I choose him to make friends is because his appearance and nothing much he wrote on his profile (different from those guys write alot of good thing of himself). I was surpise he replied me without seeing my picture (because my profile just set up and didn’t post anything on). Then we start to chat a little, know that he work for financial field for 8 yrs and his hobby. discussed little about whether i have been to korea and if he came to hk before. exchange pictures.. and he told me that he is heading to USA the 2nd day, so i felt comfortable to talk to this person (of course I did judging if he was lying), and feel free to tell me the purpose to USA and found him outgoing and sunshine. He willing to tell me his daily life in USA.. sometimes I found him quiet.. sleep early .. wake up early.. and do exercise .. (he told me so.. i don’t know if he is lying though). But my feeling tell me that he is a person can be make friend with. But I was very shock that he mentioned to visit hk to meet up after we have few chat, although I am welcome it. (at first i thought he was just joking or maybe being polite that say he is thinking to travel to HK, and i did say to invite him to visit HK again in the future if he has time…) suddenly, he raised up to visit to hk again… and said if i can allow him to sleep in my place and give him my sofa is fine (he did emphasis only sofa nothing much).. but he sometimes called me “baby”… weird… and tell me “no good to sleep on his own”.. actually i pretended not understand his meaning.. I would like to know if korean man that open to say so to a girl just met? and that straight? well.. i am not angry to hear that… i don’t mind he say so.. but I am interested if Korean man that open?? because in my mind korean is traditional and close-mind? and i am thinking if he is joking me or should i just not just keep be friend with him. I am afraid i just misunderstand him..
Sorry, very long…
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First I have to point out that dramas do not paint Korean working conditions correctly at all. People in Korea work 2193 hours a year. That is the the highest rate in the OECD. OECD average is 1 749 hours. They stay long hours at work, and afterwards they are expected to socialize with their colleagues, so they arrive home very late.
Of course, these are just statistics and there are always exceptions. But Kimchi Man sometimes slept at work because he didn’t have enough time to go home at all.
It is nice you are interested in Korean culture, I believe it has a lot to offer. Keep finding out more and you may learn if it is a good fit for you.
It’s true that it is not polite to show affection in public in Korea, but that does not mean they act the same way behind closed doors. :)
As for guy number 2, if you are not sure, give yourself more time to get to know him.
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Hello oegukeen.. I met this korean guy a month ago when I was working and we met several times after that to discuss something related with my work. But after that, he often sent me an email, and mentioned that he wanted to ask me to have dinner or lunch with him. The problem is he is an exchange student in my country and he stayed here for 6 months only and will go back to korea. He asked me to become his girlfriend in our first date but im so scared and confused that he will break up with me once he decided to come back to korea. For your information, although im working and he is a student , but he is still older than me.
What do you think about that?Thank You
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I believe that a relationship that can work while being with each other can also work long-distance. Yes, he might break up with you when he goes back to Korea, but he might also break up with you if he stays. Or you might break up with him. That’s just how relationships work.
If his feelings for you are so weak that he would give up on you at first obstacle, isn’t it better that you find out sooner rather than later? Sure, it will hurt, but you will have more time to find the right guy.
If he didn’t give you any reason to doubt him so far, try to be positive. Kimchi Man and I have been in a long distance relationship for more than two years. So it can be done :) Cheer up!
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Hello oegukeen! I have a korean friend on facebook. We’ve never meet and I started to chatting with him since a week ago. I think I like him, But I don’t know If he likes me or not haha. My friend (who also his close friend) told him that he’s my type, and he said he was so ashamed. My friend told me that he had a gf but It seems like he doesn’t have a girlfriend! I asked him “why don’t you go out with your gf?” but he switched the topic and made me more confused. He keeps talking to me and asked me “What are you doing?” everyday. He even apologized when he replied late If I sent him a message. He even chatting with me when he was attending his class! Whoa, I really don’t know what to do! Do you think I am too excessive? I think he’s interested in me but I’m not sure about that! I’m going crazy! How do I know If he likes me or not? I’m too shy to talk to him, so I always wait for him to msg me first. I need some advice. Oh and sorry for my bad english :D thankyou!
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Hello! :)
Well, I have no idea how he feels, but try to think of him as any other guy. Forget that he is Korean and that might make it easier for you to judge his actions.
Also, one week is a really really short time. Especially for just chatting online. Take it easy and give yourself and him more time.
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The people who run this site are clearly trying to help others who actually have real problems or are curious about their real relationships and cultural misunderstandings/differences. Surely they aren’t going to keep it up if they continue being flooded with asinine questions such as this one. ^
grow up a little bit. :)
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Haha, thank you for the link, it might come in handy to some ;)
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This is a super embarrassing question.
Let’s just say that you have a big thing for an idol, I know it’s bad >..<
But all I wish for most is that he was not famous so I might have a shot….Im a sorry excuse for a human being…how could this happen.
Sorry for the rant, and I dont really know what my question is but, what would you do?-
Most girls have a crush on a celebrity when they are young. There is nothing strange about that. Just enjoy the feeling of having a crush, enjoy your daydreaming, and in time, you will start feeling that way towards someone more available. :)
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I’m not sure how to really say this but I guess I’ll just go out and say it: I’m most attracted to Korean men. I have a few Korean guy friends who I think are cute who are my pen pals, but when I show some sort of interest in them I THINK they’re showing interest in me as well but when I ask them they’re always like ‘No, we’re only pen pals, sorry.’ I’m not sure if I’m going crazy or if I’m coming on too strong? Please help me, I’m not sure what I’m either doing wrong on what…?
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It is really difficult to tell if these Korean guys think you are coming on too strong. But even if you are maybe one day you can meet a guy who likes that. Not all Korean guys are the same. :)
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Thank you :)
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