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Hi
My names Elisa and I have a quick question. My “boyfriend” is a 28 year old Korean and I am a 20 year old Hispanic. We met online and became really close. He was really into Hispanics even though I was his first non Korean girlfriend and he was my first non Hispanic boyfriend. After talking for some weeks he decided that he wanted to come to California so we can met since he lives in Indiana. We had an amazing time and continued to see each other until he had to go back since he’s studying at the moment. We missed each other like crazy until we had our first misunderstanding and I, without a head up flew to Indiana so we can talk since he wouldn’t answer my calls. He loved it and after he picked me up at the airport he finally said “I Love You”! it was the amazing!! and so we decided that I was going to stay for the next 2 months. Subconsciously I wife up, in cooking for him cleaning the apartment when he was at Class and so on. I finally had to leave and once I got back to Cali, it wasn’t longer than 2 months than we yet had another misunderstanding. After being together for 7 months he surprisingly decided to break up with me saying that he doesn’t want to hold me back because I’m still young. He told me he wanted to finish school first and that if I still wanted to talk to him to call him in a year -__-… Its been 4 months since the “break up” and I haven’t heard anything from him.. I have told him I was very understanding with his school work, and have even told him that school comes first so I can wait…
So here’s my question.
-Do you think he still thinks or misses me??
-And do you think his feeling will change in the next 8 months? -Does his age and culture have to do with his pride of a “Man” since he’s the first child in his family??I’m gonna wait for him regardless but I just need some hope. Thank you and sorry for my long comment ^^ Please! any feed back will be much appreciated! Thank you once again!
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Sorry, Oegukeen is busy, she will reply tomorrow.
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I’m sorry but there is really no way for me to know what this man is thinking!
Of course his feelings can change. However, it does sounds like he broke up with you, and usually people try to say things to make the blow softer. Things they might not mean.
I’m not sure what you mean by “pride of a Man” in regards to your relationship. Kimchi Man is the oldest male child and I never noticed any such thing in him. But your man might be different.
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Hi
just a question:
Does korean men or their families expect something from the mans wife even if she is a foreigner or not? Like helping with the old in the family or something. Gratefull for answers!-
That really depends on the particular family. Some will, some won’t.
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Hi, I have recently met a korean guy 2 years younger than me during my korea trip. During the trip we did not talk much as Im the guest of the tour group and he is the photographer though we do chat when we have the chance. When we are about to return back to my own country I told him to keep in touch. Although I admit i not not expect him to. but to my surprise, straight next day he give me a message asking whether have I reach my country well & that is when we started talking. Its been 3 weeks since Im back and he still contact me although not everyday. He will remember what I say about me feeling good when seeing pretty scenery. From then he will send me pretty scenery when he see one.
Is he just being polite or is he interested in me? My friend told me he would not bother to even message me if he is not interested. Is this true?
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That seems more than being polite. It is nowhere written in Korean manners that photographers needs to do that for memebers of tour groups ^^
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So means there may be a high chance that he is interested in me? how can I let him know I am interested in him too?
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It is the best to show him in the same way you would show a man from your own country.
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HI, Im here again, we have been alot closer. We message everyday even when he is working,he will message me.He will let me know what he is doing, where he is & he will ask me what Im doing or where I am too . He will sometimes capture picture & sent to me to let me know what is he doing Once he ask me what am I doing so I tell him I am missing him & he reply me too. Is this a sure sign that he likes me? I have not tell him how I feel. I am afraid to ask him too. Should I??? will it be too fast as its only one month plus since I know him.
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There is no such thing as a sure sign a person likes you. Life is filled with uncertainty and it’s just the way it is.
From the little info you gave me, it does seem he likes you. But you know much more about him and what he texts you, so you know better than I do. Trust your instinct.
It seems like you don’t want to take a risk. But that decision has to be yours. If you ask him, you might get what you want, but you also might get hurt. If you don’t ask him you won’t get hurt but you might miss something wonderful.
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Hi!
I´m a 16 year old girl from europe that is going to study abroad for 1 or 2 years at the age of 18 either in Japan or Korea. And “probably as expected” I love asian guys ( no matter country or culture ). My dream is to live and work in either Japan or Korea and have boyfriend there. But when I thought about it, I came to think of that I have no experience in the dating culture there! And it made me insecure. Because I don’t want to act in a weird way when talking to them. And the majority of all info I´ve got says that many youngers are not interested in relationships with foreigners, and if they are, it would probably only last for a short time. (Though I have heard of people that have happy relationships, but it still isn´t the majority). I don´t wanna sound like I´m saying that they´re from another planet or something, but from what I know they have another dating culture there. So it would be nice with some advice about the dating culture and (If someone knows) if they would date a white girl. Because if I´m gonna study there for a long time it would be sad to not be able to have a relationship. Because after the studying-time I will pretty much be grown up to live where ever I want. So I could stay there if it would come to it. I don´t think it will be hard to make friends, but the dating… I´m not sure. Right now I´m speaking a lttle japanese ( Not fluent, but pretty good ) So in Japan the language will not be a big problem but if I choose Korea I will have to learn that language as well. I have around 2 years to practice the language and if I´m choosing Korea I will also take lessons learning the language when studying there. And hopefully, if I´ve not learned hangul til then, the one I meet can either speak Swedish, English, norweigan, Spanish or Japanese. I really do hope that they can speak on of these languages if trouble comes up. At the time I´m around 5.2 ft ( 160cm) tall and have light brown/red hair color with light-blue eyes
So what I want to know is:
1. Their dating culture.
2. What do they think about white girls (I know that every guy has his own ways of seeing things, but I´m curious)
3. Is it the guys that asks for a date there or can the girls do it too?
4. Does age matter? (In dating)
5. Would I feel tall, short or normal sized there?
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Hello, I’m a none-Korean girl (I can’t tell anybody my specific country, sorry) and I met this SUPER shy Korean guy, who I mistaken 1 year older than me. He can’t speak English because he came here last summer break.
Before I talked to him, I dreamt about him. But I can’t understand why. It’s just because I’m sort of an emo. I rarely talk to complete strangers.
After a few days, I noticed he keeps staring at me when I’m not looking, but he instantly looked away when I set eyes on him. A few months had passed, one day, I was walking up the stairs at school, he was chatting with his best friend. I didn’t took notice. But when I looked back, his friend was looking at me like ‘You’re that special girl’ look.
So, these are the thing I’m asking:
1. Why was he double super shy around me.
2. Why in that day his friend wasn’t in his poker face mode when I walk up.
3.And why does sometimes he does stupid things when I’m around.-
1. You should ask him.
2. You should ask his friend.
3. You should ask him, but rather use the word ‘silly’ instead of ‘stupid’ so he doesn’t get offended. -
But here are the problems:
1.I told you he can’t understand nor speak English.
2.His friend doesn’t know me.
3.I’m not gutsy enough (alright I’ll use silly).-
1. You said “Before I talked to him, I dreamt about him.” That sounds like you talked to him at some point. Anyway, neither you nor I can talk to him, so there’s not much chance you are going to find out.
2. Strangers are just friends you haven’t met yet.
3. Too bad.
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Hello M.
Don’t worry, no one at that age has experience with dating culture anywhere. ^^
1. Neither I nor Kimchi Man were ever part of Korean “dating culture”, if such thing even exists. In my opinion, it depends much more of what type of people are involved than where they are from. We are both sort of “nerds” so we never really go to clubs and such. In that aspect, mine and his dating culture is the same, and we live on opposite sides of the world.
2. As you said, every guy has his own ways, and there is really not much to be added there. Kimchi Man doesn’t care that I’m white. He doesn’t see it neither as a plus nor minus. His friends also treat me normally.
3. I encouraged Kimchi Man to start talking on Skype, I told him that I love him first, and I asked him to be my boyfriend first.
4. https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/05/06/qa-do-korean-men-like-older-women/
5. Everyone is normal sized. ^^ In 2011 18-year-old Korean women were on average 1.61 m.
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Thanks for the information! :) I´m glad I found this blog. It´s really helpful. :)
I really do hope I will enjoy my time in Korea. Thanks a lot!!!-
We are glad you found our blog as well. Good luck.
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A lot of the things that I’ve read say that Asian men would possibly consider daitng african american women if the were Gabrielle Union pretty.Well , I suppose this question is mainly for the asian men out there to answer but, what if there was an average black woman and and average or even below average(in your personal opinion) asian woman? Would you then be more drawn to the asian woman(assuming she is of your specific nationality) because of that? Or the black woman, for being slightly more of your preference? This was a lot more long winded than I intended, sorry.
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Asian men is a really broad category of human beings so I can’t possibly have one answer that would encompass all of them. There are Asian men who are specifically drawn to black women, there are those who are racist and would never consider dating them, and yet those who don’t care about the skin color but other things matter a lot more to them.
If I would have to guess the number of Asian men in each category, I would say the last category is probably the broadest. But it’s nothing more than a guess.
However, I assume what you are really asking me is, is there hope that an Asian man might be attracted to you or fall in love with you, and without any doubt the answer is yes.
Can I know how you get to know Korean guys ?
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If you want to meet them online, here is how https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/01/18/how-to-meet-south-koreans/
If you are talking about offline, then it depends a lot on where you live.
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