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Hi…
I’m half chinese half filipino girl but my family and I moved in phil for good when I was still young.. I am now 22 years old, and I met this korean guy last year almost 9 months ago.. well, I just really feel so alone about this so I hope you can help me out.. here’s my story..
9 months ago July 2011 to be exact I applied in a Korean school in our city, I was accepted and first week in school I had only 2 students and one of the two was the guy I fell in love with. At that time I was 21 and he’s 25 I think. At first I dont really feel anything for him, just the teacher-student relationship. I also noticed he was this shy type of guy, first 2 weeks with him he barely talked. But after about 4 weeks we just got close and I dunno how it happened. But after that he started teasing me everytime we see each other in the hallway, he’s calling me vampire and i’m calling him werewolf. A lot of teasing and all. And then one time during class he asked me who I like then I told him I like Lee Seung Gi [korean actor] then he repeated that question again and I answered him same answer I gave him before then after than he start acting like his heart is in pain [physically] at first I dunno what does that action means but my friend told me he might be hurt that it wasnt him that I like and so he started acting that in a joke way so it wont be obvious.. then he also asked if I do have a boyfriend that time and I said no and he told me that I must get a boyfriend, and I also mentioned to him that I have a curfew around 7pm and he told me that my boyfriend might want to be with me more than my curfew time.. what does that mean??
and sometimes he’ll notice what I’m wearing like last time when I was wearing a coat and I just passed by him he really asked me isnt your coat thick? dont u feel hot? and one time when I had a new student and he’s kinda good looking and almost same age with me, he started asking questions like, So are you happy that the good looking new student is in your class?… who’s better me or him? – those kind of questions and I dunno why he’s asking me like that..
and one of my friend in that school was also his tutor.. so whenever he’ll have class with that friend of mine he would usually asked her to call me and let me go inside their room while they’re having class and it happened many times, i was just there listening to their conversation and whenever I decided to move out the room he would usually stop me and say Vampire where are you going? just stay here.
or sometimes when we meet each other in the hallway he would blocked my way and wont let me pass and he’d tell me Touch me first before I let you pass.. and you know this kind of actions he’s showing me made me fell for him I think.. fell harder that I dont even know how to get out of this situation..
and during his birthday I gave him a not Happy Birthday Werewolf! and he took a picture of it and upload it in his fb..
he also challenged me one time to play snake and ladder with him and he told me if he wins I wont give him assignments for 1 week and if i win he wont complain even if I give him assignments everyday.. its the first time that I have ever played that game and it was with him, so I treasure it a lot (:
what do you think his actions mean?? does it mean something? does he like me?
ah, a day after his birthday he informed all his tutors that he will be absent for the whole day because last night he got drunk and hangover the next morning.. so I was expecting that he’ll also be absent in my class but I was surprised when he entered my room that day.. so I asked him Why are u here? I thought you’d be absent the whole day and he said I was thinking that if I wont come here you’ll be alone here. I was so touched when he told me that but ofcourse I act as if its nothing… and then 1 week after that he was removed in my class and so I started to feel like I was left hanging, a lot of questions are running into my head.. my friends were telling me that he must be afraid that he’d fall for me and so on…
what I did was I tried to talk to him again, initiate the conversation first but I can feel this change like it’s not the way it was back before.. we dont talk that much anymore unlike before when he was still in my class.. we passed by each other in the hallway without even saying hi.. I asked him he doesnt talked to me anymore, he said He was shy. I tried everything to gain back the friendship we once had the closeness we once had… but I think I falied or maybe I didnt try harder? I was asking myself What should I do? but later on I just stopped trying to talk to him just trying to accept that maybe it wasnt meant to be.. September that year we stopped talking, offcially. February this year he went back to korea without talking to me. He had my number. This march a friend of mine who is also his friend told me that he has a kakaotalk so why not try to add him. So I added him and again I have to initiate the talking.. we talked and he told me he misses me but overjoyed about his message i wasnt able to reply to him right away and then he sent me a message again saying he was just kidding with the ‘haha’ … what does that mean???! I hate him but still I believe he meant it when he told me he misses me.. what do u think? Now, I decided to just stop talking to him stop initiating just to talk to him cause its always me who texts first maybe he really doesnt care at all so why would I waste my time with him…
please help me what to do :( is my decision right?
I badly need your opinion guys.. I hope you can help me out with this..
sorry I think I wrote too long, its just that if i skipped a few lines u might not be able to get my situation.. kinda a long story (:
he’s still single until now and he told me before that he once had a girlfriend 4 years ago…
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Hello,
I am in love with a korean guy, we go to the same university and we met, when we took the same class about a year ago. I am 19 and he is 21.
I always feel and act very shy, when I am around a person I really like. When there is no him, I am very funny, communicative and totally normal.
I am not korean (still asian), and I dont speak korean.
The problem is that…He is not a shy one at all, at least he seems to be so. Sometimes when we meet at some university events, we talk, and he seems to like me as a girl, but we never text/chat after that. I mean, we talk only when we see each other. that’s why talking to him is a very rare occasion, because we meet rarely.
The first time I saw him this year after a long period of time, was another university event, he sent an invitation to me on facebook, which i dont think was something special or anything, but i decided to go there still. on the day when he sent the invitation, our eyes met at a cafe, when i was walking past him, but i was with my girl friend and he was with a girl friend as well, so i thought:”alright, i havent seen you for ages, why say Hi then, you probably dont even remember me”. he didnt wave hi to me either. So yeah, then BOOM I got that invitation, and i decided to go. cause i thought that accidental meeting had something to do with the invitation.when i just got there, he came up first saying”ooh, it’s been a long time” and hugged me, which was a bit weird, because we are not that close friends at all, til that time, we probably had a talk for a couple of times, not more. i mean, i’m not that kind of friend of his, who he could miss. we were never close at all. but i think at the moment when he hugged me, i clearly understood that i liked him a lot. i knew i liked him before, but i thought it was not serious.
i met him the second time about a couple days ago at a university event as well. there were very few people there, but he took the time to come up to me and talk and i tried to act as normal and funny as i could, but i was burning inside and shaking and all that… in the end he said that he’d like to attend an event of mine (i’m the president of a student group). so i promised to send him an invitation.
everything seems to be okay, but i dont understand, why he is so passive, if he likes me. does it mean, that he doesnt like me as a girl, but just being friendly ? he never sends me messages or anything like that… i am hesitating to message him, cause i’m afraid i would never get a reply…and i think that a guy must make the first moves. and if he doesnt, then it means he’s not interested, in my opinion. i would understand, if he was a shy one, but..as i said before he’s not. he’s very friendly and communication is not a problem for him.
and the second problem is that i dont know for sure if he has a girfriend or not. however, the facebook status says Single :) otherwise, the last thing i would want to do is ruining a relationship…
Also, i thought about the problem, that i am not korean, and i thought about the possibility, that he is not interested in me as a girl, because i’m not korean :(
anyways..please heeeeeeelp
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Thank you ! Also, I think it’s worth mentioning that he’s kind of americanized korean. he has been living in the USA for about 5 years I believe. But he almost always hangs out with korean friends
thanks once again ! I really appreciate the time you spend on answering the questions and helping others !!!-
No problem :) I wish there was someone who could answer my questions when I was falling in love. It’s not easy handling uncertainty when you have feelings for someone.
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Hi…
Im indonesian women, and my boyfriend is korean men, we met 1 year ago in web online, we had chatting online about 1 month and then we realized that we have some kind of feeling, so he decided to come to my place in indonesia, that time i thought he just wanna go travel and in same time wants to meet me. but then after 3 days we meet in person, we felt the same feeling and he ask me to be his girlfriend, so after first met, we still keep in contact even more serious and then arrange another meeting, in kinabalu malaysia, we go travel together for almost 2 weeks, and the third meet, i visited him in philipine ( he took a english study for IELTS in PH) and the last meet after 4 month he came to see me in Jakarta( indonesia)
well.. there’s lot of negative thought from all of my friend, they seems to doubt our relationship, since we are interracial, inter religion,too much barrier.
but when he visited me in my living place, i introduced him to my closest friend, and after they know him in person, they realized, he really serious with me.
well, the last meeting he already propose me, asking if i want to marry with him, that time i thought he was teasing me, so i teased him back by answering No.. but his expression looks really serious, and i found out that he was serious.
but still our family not yet involved in this relationship, me and him not yet have a courage to tell our family but this situation.
Currently he stay in australia for continue his master degree which need more then 2 years to finish it. Im not young girl anymore, i;m going 28 and he is 29/30 korean age.
I have no idea what to do with this relation, he asked me just wait for him, but he didn’t give me any clue, what till happen after i wait for him..So how should I ask to him, to make sure this relation is going to the right way,, marriage.
Thanks,
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Hey Oegukeen and Kimchi Man. It’s writer1986 once again. I just thought I’d drop by with one more delima (and maybe more to come): So my Oppa is still not comfortable with telling his parents about our relationship, and they’re still pushing him to find someone and commit (preferrabl a nice Korean girl still in their home country.) Though my guts want Oppa to make us public and known, I also respect him enough not to push him in any direction. Still, his parents call at least 2 times a week, and his dad never stops finding names and numbers for him. And all this makes me question if I’m in a one-way relationship (with me as the only pole.) I’m starting to feel I’ve put in a lot of effort into this relationship (including introducing him to my family and taking the consequences) and I get very little in return. Part of me wants him to continue his loyalty to his parents and contact a Korean girl and stick to her. And then I’ll just pretend we’ve been only friends this whole time…. With so much pressure from both sides of our family, I just don’t know what to do anymore. Slowly my fantasies of us fades away as reality and “what if’s” consume me…. Help. I don’t know who to turn to anymore.
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I’m sorry things are not going well and I hope we can help you decide what is best for you.
We replied to your question. You can find it if you click on the tab “Answers” on the top and it will appear under “Recent” on the right, for a while.
Good luck!
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Hi Oegokeen and Kimchi Man, i sincerely thank you very much for your full support and efforts sending me his photographs. Truly amazing!!! I can’t believe it!!! How did you do it and managed to dig his photos… Thank you from the bottom of my heart… more power to your network!!!
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We are so excited! We honestly didn’t think there was much chance that we can find his photos. We are so glad we could help.
Oegukeen has to admit that Kimchi Man is the one who should get the most credit, he is so good at searching :)
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