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Hi, I would like to say your posts are really helpful especially since I just unexpectedly fell for a Korean guy myself ^^
I met a Korean guy online, I am 24 years old and he is, 34 years old and he recently visited my country to meet me and my parents for the first time. During his short visit (only 4 days) we became a couple. ^^
But after we became a couple, he said something like could I please “accept” him.
He said that in Korean culture, “accepting” a person and being a couple means giving your heart and body completely to that person, and it’s like saying, “I love you and so I want to give you myself.”… is this true?
..I found him to be so “fast” and I was scared, since I come from a culture that is very very conservative/reserved when it comes to romantic relationships (we strongly believe in saving oneself/reserving oneself for marriage).
But he understood me and said that he respects our culture and I am happy about that.
He is now back in Korea, and plans on visiting again, but I am afraid that he will try to make me “accept” him the next time we meet…
I’ve been trying to find out anything about this “acceptance” thing, and I haven’t found anything about it..I am starting to think that maybe he lied to me…
…I am really confused and “scared”…is there really such a thing as this kind of “acceptance” for us to become an official couple???
sorry for the long post, I just really really need your help on this…thanks ^^
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hi i would like to get actor daniel henneys and rain bi home address..could u pls find it n post..becoz since im residing in outer country..its really very hard to find their address.
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I’m sorry, we don’t have their address. Maybe you can find a fan site for them and see if they have some info on where to send fan mail?
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… My friend, however, said that Korean men think Western women are all easy and that they have sexual fantasies about us and that I should be super careful if Korean men approach me because they will expect certain things from me and they can be dangerous. …
You can read full comment as well as our answer in our post Do Korean men think western women are easy?
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I didn`t know that!!!! I heard that they like european/american females because they are beautiful not that they have sexual fantasies . lol
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Hello,
Welcome and thank you for your question. It is an interesting topic how Korean men see western women.
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Hi,
I’m a Filipino, and i fell in love with this korean guy, we go to the same university but we’re not classmates. I’m 18 and he’s 23. I first saw him last November when me and my friends are standing in front of an internet cafe near our school, as i saw him i told my friends that he’s handsome (well he’s not facing us, just saw his side frame) and it’s like he heard it because he looked at me and i’m like so shy and my friends told me that my face turned red, we’re not near each other that time so i supposed that he really has a good ear. Haha!! when he looked at me i realized that he’s not handsome at all and i told my friends and they just laughed about it. Up until now i still think that it’s so funny :D
After that, we always pass by each other almost every day in school and i always remember the first time i saw him and i smiled or laugh a little whenever i see him. i don’t know why but my heart beats so fast whenever i see him :). I realized that he’s cute and he has a good posture and he’s also physically fit, i also learned that he is single, he already finished his military service and that his friend (also a korean guy) is my former classmate in one of our subjects a year ago. I added him as a friend on facebook and he quickly accepted my friend request. i found his facebook profile because of his friend (the korean guy which is my former classmate).
At first i’m shy to chat with him on facebook because i’m afraid that he will not reply, but my friends dared me to do it and they also told me to give my cellphone number to him, i really gulped a LOT of courage to chat with him and i’m so happy that he replied. I told him that i always see him in school, and he asked me why i don’t say hello or hi to him, i told him that he looks so serious. He said that he’s bored and tired in school, and i ask him why, he told me it’s because he doesn’t have a girlfriend. I’m like (0_0)……Haha!! After that i gave him my number if he needs help or anything and i told him that i will definitely say hello to him the next day and he said that he will be looking forward to it but i didn’t saw him the next day.
I told my friends about it and they’re so happy for me, but whenever i see him in school i can’t say hello to him because my friends always shouts my name and i’m shy or embarrassed and i asked them why they’re doing it and they said that they shout my name when he’s around for him to remember that i’m the one he chatted with. He’s always with his friend and his friend is always saying hello to me and my friends because he knows that we’re his former classmates, i respond to his friends’ hello but i cant say hello to him because i’m so shy and i really can’t look him in the eye. i forgot to say that he always look so serious, it’s like he’s unapproachable and not friendly but i saw him thrice laughing with his Filipino classmates. ^^-
I put a smiley and hello to him on his chatbox on facebook the next day after we chatted, he’s online then and he didn’t reply, i did the same thing the next day but i still didn’t get any reply from him, we never chatted after that, i didn’t receive any text message from him not once.
I remember before, my friend and i saw him outside the school and we followed him he bought a cigarette and i pretend to buy something and i looked at him and he’s looking at me, i’m so shy that i looked away and pretend to look something on my wallet, after that my friend told me that he smiled when i looked away.
My friends urged me to say hello to him before the semester ends but i’m afraid that he will not respond because i didn’t even get a reply from him on facebook, but whenever my friends and i passed by him they told me that he’s looking at me and they think that he already know me eventhough i pretend not to know him when he’s with his friend.
The last day of the semester is our finals exam and my friends and i are reviewing in the student center and he and his friend passed by us, as usual his friend waved at us i didn’t get the chance to see him because my table is facing the other side, well i saw his back. haha!! after a few minutes they passed by us again and my friend who is facing me told me ‘he’s approaching you’ but then my other friend screamed well maybe of excitement because my crush is approaching me.
But then he didn’t approach me, he just freezed there after my other friend screamed at the top of her lungs and he just like backed out and walked away with his friend. I don’t know if he’s shocked or what. He’s in South Korea right now for vacation, he’ll be returning here in the Philippines maybe this May or June, i always looked at his facebook profile and he always posted there that he needs a girlfriend, but i don’t have the courage to chat with him anymore because i’m afraid that he will not reply again.
Do you think he’s not interested in me? or it’s because he thinks i’m too young for him? or is he just waiting for me to approach him? OMG i really don’t know what to think :(
I forgot to say that i’m a year ahead of him in school and i’ll be graduating next year, i still want to see him after that. :(
I’m so sorry if i wrote toooooo long. haha!! Anyways i really need your help, i don’t know what to do :( I’m hoping to get a reply from you soon ^^- Thanks!! :D
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We have answered your question, you can find it here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/04/25/qa-does-my-korean-university-mate-share-my-feelings/
Good luck and have a nice day :)
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Hi Oegukeen and Kimchi Man. Thanks for asking around for stories/suggestions about my current situation. I’m glad there are many ladies out there who are strong and steadfast in their mixed relationships. Lucky for me, Oppa is loyal and faithful, and his closest friends and brother do know about me. I do feel accepted by him and those he cares about, but I’m just afraid of the future. As you both know, there are many obsticles in our way, ie. Oppa’s work visa, my family’s view on our relationship, our job instabilities, etc. I’m afraid of losing my bestfriend-slash-boyfriend-slash-big brother-slash lover, and I don’t think marriage (if even possible) will help us grow in the direction it has been going.
Oppa has helped me to love and appreciate myself, to forgive others, to place all my troubles in a prayer that can be lifted away from my shoulders, to believe in myself and dream big, and especially to love someone for his/her heart not appearance. He is my angel, and for once I don’t want to say goodbye to such a great relationship. As we continue our job searchs for the upcoming school year, I don’t know where we’ll end up. All I know is that Oppa has been offered an interview for the Los Angelos School District in California–and we live in Minnesota. As much as I want to keep him with me, I at least want him to gain the interview experience, and then we’ll see what next steps come along…. All I want now is a few prayers that Oppa and I will remain together, with viery little distance and tears in between, if possible. Thanks.
-writer1986
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We are always glad to help and we hope you can go trough this and end up getting what you want.
Your Oppa sounds amazing and he is a great support and a loyal partner to you. If he really is as you describe him you don’t need to worry about him not telling his parents yet.
Don’t be discouraged by bleak future. The good thing about the future is that you don’t know what it will be like.
Kimchi Man and I also face what seems like an insurmountable obstacle to us being together. In our future we will have to spend a lot of time on the different sides of the world and we face A LOT of uncertainty. But none of us knows what is really going to happen so why give up on these great loves we found?
Keep in touch :)
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Why koreans dont seem to like when you say sorry?
My korean friend gets defensive when I say sorry and never says sorry himself?Trys to make things right when we had a falling out and never said sorry and when I did or would before the falling out, would say dont say sorry, I dont want you to say sorry anymore.Then I notice he never says sorry himself but will say he is wrong etc…-
Thank you for your question. I will let Kimchi Man answer this one :)
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