Loving Korean

[Q&A] Do Korean men think western women are easy?

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oegukeen

April 27, 2012

Anonymous asked:

I am an American living in South Korea as a teacher. I have been talking to a male Korean friend online, strictly language exchange and sharing cultural differences, etc. although there is a Korean guy in which I am interested. My friend, however, said that Korean men think Western women are all easy and that they have sexual fantasies about us and that I should be super careful if Korean men approach me because they will expect certain things from me and they can be dangerous.

I don’t just believe every aspect of this as the total truth about the danger and the fantasies, and am not someone to overgeneralize! …But regarding the idea of us being easy I am wondering if you have any advice/opinion on how widespread this idea is, I don’t want to generalize, but I wish I could have some idea as to whether or not this really is the majority of thinking around here? It makes me so sad, I am not easy! Thanks for your time.

We can only tell you about our personal experience.

My experience is only with Kimchi Man, and it’s simple: If he thought I was easy at any point in our acquaintanceship he would not consider a long term relationship with me. So I truly believe him when he says he never thought white women are easy.

Now, his experience is much more extensive, since his friends are Korean men, his coworkers are Korean men, his university buddies are Korean men, and he was locked up in very cramped space for two years with lots and lots of Korean men during military service. He says most of the men he knew didn’t have that kind of opinion. But he assures you if you did come across such a Korean men, he wouldn’t hide his attitude about white women from you and would very soon and openly let you know what he expects.

Actually, it’s not the guy you are interested in that worries me, but your friend. Why would he tell you such a thing and make you feel bad and unwelcome? Does he have some hidden motives? It just seems a strange thing to tell to a friend.

One cautious tip about cultural difference, though. Korean women wear extra short skirts and shorts, but are very adamant about covering their cleavage.

You should wear whatever makes you happy, and no one should judge you for it, not even in Korea. However, since you say it makes you sad, in the beginning you might avoid open shirts.

I assure you when you meet the right guy he will make you feel relaxed and comfortable no matter what you wear and you will forget you ever worried about impression you leave on Koreans. I say this from personal experience. And I’m from Europe, we’re all half-naked here in the summer. ^^

As far as danger goes, Korean men are no more or less dangerous than other men in the world. Use the same caution you did around strangers in America.

– Oegukeen

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30 responses to “[Q&A] Do Korean men think western women are easy?”

Elizsbeth

February 15, 2014

How do Korean men perceive African American women? I’d actually only want a platonic relationship with men from Korea. I don’t believe that I would have the desire to fit into their expectations of a woman for I am a feminist. Would the men and women be eager or hesitant to befriend one of African descent if they were to study abroad?

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1. oegukeen
  
  February 15, 2014
  
  It seems rather unfair that you are calling them out on being prejudiced towards women, while at the same time you have in advance decided what their opinion about women would be, just from knowing their nationality. That’s a prejudice as well.
  
  We wrote a post that should help answer your question about Korean men and black women. The summary answer would be: It really depends on the guy. Some have positive, some negative, and some neutral attitudes towards African-American women.
  
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J

March 12, 2013

I and my fds never think and talk about Western and Asian women easy. As you know, it depends on people and their background. Korean men are the same with other countries men. I would say, take your time when getting to know someone!! Every person may not be feeling in the same way.

Btw I am a Korean man.

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1. oegukeen
  
  March 16, 2013
  
  Exactly. Smart people are not going to stereotype, whether it is Korean men thinking about women, or foreign women thinking about Korean men.
  
  As you say, give the other person some time to get to know them.
  
  And if I might add, it’s 21st century: a woman has a right to be “easy”; she’s not hurting anyone with her behavior, so it’s none of our business :)
  
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  1. J
    
    April 23, 2013
    
    U r right :) she’s not gonna be hurting anyone, I hope, this sort of stereotype will be disappear in Korea, and I think, it is kinda progress that they(Korean) will change their mind as time passes :D. Frederick Douglass says, “If there is no struggle, there is no progress”.
    
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    1. oegukeen
      
      April 23, 2013
      
      Yeah, sadly this stereotype exists to some degree in every country. I hope it changes sooner rather than later.
      
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Z. haznedaroglu

October 21, 2012

And, may be you will want him more than he wants you. Just live your lives guys !!!

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Z. haznedaroglu

October 21, 2012

Hi, I don’t understand what all conversation is about. All over the world people are not the same and when you date with someone you will see it. I don’t undeerstand why people from USA are so paranoiac . Just date with him and see what kind of men he is. That is all. Nothing is complicated.

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1. oegukeen
  
  October 21, 2012
  
  People tend to forget that no matter which country or culture we come from we are all unique individuals with different opinions and experiences.
  
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