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Hello
I met a Korean guy online who is six years younger than me. Do you think that most korean men are mindful of older asian woman? I’m always the one initiating text msgs and he had been very friendly and open to me. But maybe he is just being nice. Do you think he would scared off if I said something like I miss you?
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We just wrote about Korean men with older women https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/05/06/qa-do-korean-men-like-older-women/. Maybe you will find something helpful there.
As far as if he will be scared off or not, there is only one way to find out :)
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Hello :)
I’m going to study hangul in south korea for approximately 1 year. I’m an asian girl who studied overseas for quite a while so im used to the north-american culture.
Now,, i’m really into kpop, i wont lie about it. And that’s probably my main reason of planning to study hangul in korea as soon as i finish my education here.But i noticed that all korean women seems flawless. In terms of appearance, i feel that all of them are attractive (they just looks..perfect and it’s killing me). So i’m kind of concern that it will be hard for me to get a korean male as a friend later because of that. It might seems ridiculous but i do know a few korean male here and they dont show any interest with other girls except korean (i do noticed that many girls are showing their interest with them but they dont react to it).
So, i know that many non-asian girls have this question of whether asian male like non-asian girls or not but in my case, did they have interest with asian (but not korean) girls? — i actually feel that non-asian girls have higher chance than me, as asian girl but from different countries, to get korean male as a friend or even boyfriend. — i know that basically it all comes to personality and racial background should not matter at all, BUT it will not be right to say that people don’t take this thing into consideration.
I know that my question might be your typical question and i’m sorry for asking such question. It’s just that i’m afraid that i’ll be all alone in korea and the learning experience wont be as fun as what i’m experiencing here and i’m beating myself for it. Or the worst part is, i ended up getting more foreigner friends(non-korean), my english stays the same (or even better), i still cant speak korean language at all and i’m wasting 1 year of education and money.
Thank you and i appreciate you guys reading (and hopefully) answer my question :)
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Hi there :)
What birthday present should I give my Korean close friend for his 18th birthday? We’re not going out but we’re quite close. I’ve read so many responses on Korean birthday gift ideas and people mostly suggest a handmade gift.. But I’m kinda running out of time, his birthday is coming up in 4 days and I haven’t got paid for this week yet. So my budget is quite low but I don’t wanna give him something very low budget too. But I also wanna give him something a bit pricey to show how much he means to me but I don’t wanna look too much in front of our school mates because apparently we’re not going out (although I somehow expect we will be soon, yeah I’ve got feelings for him).
Pleasssseeeee help me. I’m so running out of ideas.. Thank you so much there :)
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I will answer your question in short here because by the time we publish a post about it, his birthday will already have passed.
Kimchi Man says there is no special gift for 18th birthday. However, 21st of May is a day to celebrate people who just became grownups and a gifts for that are a rose, a kiss and perfume.
Here is a gift giving guide http://seoulistic.com/korean-culture/korean-culture-says-buy-these-gifts/ but 18th birthday is not mentioned.
Don’t worry about the fact that he is Korean and just get him something you think he might personally like. If he is from Korea then give him something that is specific about your country to remind him of the time he spent there.
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Hi Anon. A gift from the heart is never low budget. And I’m sure your friend will cherish anything you give him. My suggestions are to grab anything you have in your house or work, and create something–so yes, a handmade gift may be the way to go. You could make him a card and bake him cookies! This is my boyfriend’s favorite gift because he prefers things that I made from the heart (and reading my notes to him) and food :P So give that a try if you like. Hope this helps!
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I met a Korean man online about two months ago. We wrote a few times using email and before long we had exchanged phone numbers and were writing from the time we woke up until the time we fell asleep. Soon after, we meet in person and became good friends although we both brought people with us to the first meeting so we had little chance to talk about anything personal.
The next time we met was alone and ended up talking for 7 hours! After that, he started calling multiples times a day for quick 5 minute chats to check on me and texting in between. When we are out, he takes tons of photos of us together and candid shots of me when I am not looking. He also gets very protective, carries everything, insists on paying and walks/sits very close so we are always touch in some way. I have all his passwords and usernames that he volunteered (as an American, I know married couples that don’t know that about each other!). He says I am too cute when I mess up my Korean sayings and grins like crazy when I call him obba. He makes sure when we are with friends I stay by him and pay more attention to him than anyone else… He even is going to introduce me to his family, though I have not mentioned it. The fact I am home minded and know my way around a household like a pro is something he constantly mentions as “so cool” and says I am the perfect feminine woman.
To me, this all seems like signs he likes me but he hasn’t said anything about a relationship. Am I suppose to just assume? He mentions that it is very hard for him to express his feelings and that it takes time before he can say anything aloud… Also, could he be a little anxious about the age difference? He is 6 years my senior though he says we are on the perfect maturity level… One last question, any advice on how to behave toward Korean man that might be different than American? I always let him take the lead and just try to follow but at the same time provide enough challenge he doesn’t get bored.
Sorry for the book… I know I am such a bore but I appreciate you taking the time to read it.
Lizzy B.
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Hello Lizzy B.,
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First of all I wanted to thank you for the great site and the time you take for answering our questions. I have a general question. Do Koreans prefer older or younger women? Until now I read several times that many would not mind to date an older, more mature woman. I’ve even encountered couples with up to 10 (+) years age difference (usually the man was older). You should know that in m country (also in my family) women with older men are quickly “stamped”. Thank you in advance!
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