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433 responses to “Ask us 2012 Archives”
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Hi. I met a Korean guy a few months ago and he’s such a wonderful person. I couldn’t help falling for him! We met through taekwondo and we see each other at tournaments. He takes interest in things I like, what I’m doing, and he asks how my parents are. The last time we were together and he asked about my parents, he was going to talk to them but he shied away. Is this a sign he likes me back? Please, please help me!
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It is really difficult for us to know if he likes you from so little information. You have a much better insight into how he is behaving around you. There are no special signs that Korean guys have that would be different than any other guys in the world. Maybe our answer to the question: “How to know if a Korean guy likes you?” might help https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/04/13/qa-how-to-know-if-a-korean-guy-likes-you/
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How do I tell my parents I want to be a kpop star? Please answer! I really want to pursue my dream. I’ve been training dancing and singing in secrecy for almost 2 years now and I’m serious about K-Pop. I’m willing to accept all the responsibilities that a K-pop idol has and I really want this!
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I’m sorry, we would like to help, but we really don’t know anything about that. Good luck!
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Hi! I am an online ESL teacher to Korean students. I’m based in the Philippines, and we contact students in Korea through phone. I had one male student (whom I’m having phone classes with) whom I really think is very smart and open-minded. I’m 21, and he’s 25. Usually, we just had “freetalking” topics, and I really am enjoying classes with him. At first, he was somewhat stiff, serious, and cold-hearted to talk to. He even wanted to end phone conversations hastily. But after a month, (finally!) I had the chance to talk to him about not-so-serious and funny stuffs. I guess that’s the time we started to enjoy talking to each other. We even extend our classes (normal time is 10mins) to 30 mins! We discovered that we share common interests, [what really amazed and surprised him was the fact that I don’t listen to Kpop *this was like our instant-friendship moment*], same taste of music, and (as he said) “same ideologies in life.” He has a girlfriend, but he had been sharing that there is no way that he will be sweet to his girlfriend (rude?) because it’s his girlfriend who needs to adjust. (I just proved how cold-hearted he is, although most of my Korean male students think the same too #smh). After sharing few secrets, I can say that he is very open to me. He even expressed that this was the first time he had been very comfortable talking to.. well.. apparently a stranger. Being stiff he is, I find it sweet when he said that I’m the “ideal conversationalist,” as if he had been talking to a really good friend. We’re friends on Facebook though, and had been consistently communicating there if we have no scheduled classes.
UNTIL.. [:(] Recently (on a Friday), we talked about his goals in life. It was the most “emotional/dramatic” conversation we ever had. I can say that he really opened himself much. That was a good thing for me, and our conversation had ended well.. Or so I thought. Monday came, and he was not answering my calls anymore. Usually, when he cannot answer my call, he would message me on Facebook or inform me beforehand. I was assuming at first that there had been an emergency or something; but 3 days passed, and it was either he wouldn’t pick up the call, or just rudely turn his phone off after a few rings *ouch*. After that week, I saw him enlisted to an another teacher. He also asked to change schedules, and had been answering calls from other teachers. Unlucky of him, there had been few times that he was assigned to me again, BUT HE JUST HUNG UP HIS PHONE. Basically, he was not answering calls from me. I then posted a “goodbye msg” on his Facebook, saying that “I feel sad that I’m not his teacher anymore, I wish for his success” etc.. but he never replied at all. (w/c is really weird of him. I see him online, though!) He suddenly shifted from being sweet (back) to being stiff (or much worse) again. :( I never remember saying anything that might offended him.
My question is.. Is there a chance that he felt he had opened to a “stranger” much? Or have I been just too nosy as a teacher? :( I noticed that Koreans are really protective of themselves, and don’t like opening up to people. Not that they are self-centered, it’s just like they live by the motto, “mind your own business.” So I guess they’re naturally stiff. (hehe) But at the same time, I’ve observed that you can really gain their trust if you praise and compliment them consistently! They’re also extremely sensitive. That’s why I’m just bothered if Koreans are really that protective of their personal boundaries & sensitive. I want to say sorry if this might be the case. I hope you can help! Thanks!~ ♥
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We are glad you found our site. We will try to answer your question within the next few days.
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Thank you so much for your patience. We hope the answer is helpful. https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/06/07/qa-did-i-cross-some-korean-cultural-boundaries/
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Hi, I feel so sad and a bit weird lately…the korean guy whom I online with him everyday using cam and mic, lately, he just couldn’t use the mic and cam with me often because his brother is sharing the bedroom with him…so it is a bit uncomfortable and he is shy to talk with me infront of them. He did told his family about me. Last few days, I had sent 2 pictures of myself to him..because he said wanna show it to his brother..the next morning he showed to his brother, and his brother told him that I am not pretty just because I didn’t tied up my hair, is this logic? Lately, I just couldn’t talk much with him…he just online few minutes, he just log in to skype and say hello and goodnight to me. Just now, he online in skype using his smartphone, he said good night to me as it is 10.34pm…he told me that he is sleepy and tomorrow he need to wake up early for work…I am thinking could it be because his brother said I am not pretty enough then he slowly avoid talking to me anymore? Then, I was thinking what he said, when he said he wish that I am can be his girlfriend and he wants to see me as soon as possible, then he did ask me before, if one day he really want to marry me, what will I do? He said he know I like him and he like me too…there is a feeling there, but….I don’t know how to explain..he told me that he is old and we are far from each other…he said we should meet each other one day….if he really like me, why I didn’t see he is doing anything to show me any clues? is it because he is shy and he dare not to? sigh! I’m gonna be crazy….why I will have such feeling? When he didn’t online, I feel that I am missing him..he did told me before he didn’t online always but he online just for me… I don’t know what is in my mind now….
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After talking to him for just few weeks it is really difficult to tell, and you shouldn’t take things that are said too seriously.
Like I said above, you can’t know if he is a person who can be trusted, not because you met him online but because you haven’t known him long enough.
We wish we could help you more but it doesn’t seem that his behaviour has anything to do with the fact that he is Korean.
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I’ve always wondered if there’s any chance I could meet a Korean guy online? Not like date or anything, no, gosh no. I would really want to have a foreign friend that’s from another continent, a continent as amazing as Asia. I have been into Korean clothing, culture and especially music for quite awhile now, like three years or even four and I would really like to get to know a Korean person more. Actually, I guess it wouldn’t matter if it would be a girl or a guy, right? I guess you’re wondering why I’m a bit off when I said “not dating”, uhm, I have a..sort of family that is..sort of racist towards Asians, practically most of my friends too…So I would say I ride “solo”, though, I have a Romanian friend who’s into Koreans just as much! But yeah..she’s also an online friend… Heh, I’m solo, huh..? I mean…I get a bit harshly judged on what I find attractive, like my real life friends are into European or American guys…and when I say I find Asian guys cuter, they give me that “what the hell” look. Though, I don’t mind, I’m different, right? Better than being plain. But yeah, back to my question if I could somehow be friends with a Korean, if I could, I really wonder where I could meet someone who’s willing to chat with a European like myself! ^_^
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Hi and welcome. I’m sorry to hear that people that surround you are so… “unpleasant” towards Asians.
Actually, we wrote a very detailed post about how to meet South Koreans so we are sure you will find your answer there: https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/01/18/how-to-meet-south-koreans/
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Hmm…let me start off by saying I am American and he’s South Korean… In Korea I am 30 and he’s 31. About three months ago, I met this guy while out with my friends, I found him really funny. We exchanged numbers and would talk often. In the beginning he would call me often and respond quickly to messages. I even went on a trip with him. It was two of his friends and two of mine. It was a bit of a disaster because some personality clashes but I admired his effort. After a while it stopped, his job started to become really demanding and then it started to become me making the effort to talk and him either not having the time then, or just too tired. He would always end up calling after he finished work or maybe a day or so after and would apologize frequently. But I ended up getting frustrated and decided to move on and attempt to date other people. About a month or two of not contacting him, he calls me randomly on a Saturday night, to tell me again he was sorry, that he quit his job, that he would like to connect with me and asked me out to dinner. So I decided to go on the date with him. And compared to the other guys that I have went on a date with, I definitely like him the most. I was the most comfortable with him, there wasn’t any awkwardness at all…maybe the first five minutes, but after that it was perfect. So after that date I told him it was fun and asked when can we meet again. His response was after he found employment. So now….. I find myself back at the beginning with him. And it’s troubling me. Because I know how much I like him so i don’t want to do the same thing i did before. I don’t know if t’s my culture talking, but I feel like an idiot for just waiting around. So, I wanted to ask you guys, judging by our story am I wasting my time waiting or would i be wasting someone else’s time by trying to get involved with other people knowing that when he calls, I’ll go running by his side.
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Welcome and thank you for posting your question. We will answer as soon as we can.
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Thank you. Trust me, I will anticipating your answer. : )
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You can find the answer to your question here https://lovingkorean.wordpress.com/2012/06/01/qa-im-stuck-waiting-around-for-a-korean-guy-help/.
Thank you for your patience.
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