Kimchi Man and Oegukeen are no more. We broke up.

I know many people are going to ask “What happened!?”

Nothing happened, really. Which I guess was the problem. Both of us got very ill, at different times and from different illnesses, but with the same results: our lives were put on hold.

And in such situation, separated for a year, half-way across the world, those things we shared in common began to fade, and those parts of our personalities that were incompatible became more apparent by the day.

We never fought much, I think we both respected each other too much for that. Maybe even loved too much at some point.

It was more of a quiet death of love.

Abandoned.

Despite that, I still believe he is a good man.

And more importantly for the readers of this blog, I still believe in everything I wrote here. Being different nationalities is no obstacle for love.  There was not a single thing about him being Korean that had anything to do with our breakup.

I assure you, what happened between us, you’ve never seen in no Korean movie nor drama.

People are unique.

If you are wondering what will happen with this blog, I honestly don’t know.

We certainly won’t be answering no more questions about relationships. I am alright with that, since all the common concerns with dating Koreans were answered anyway, and you can easily find them among the posts.

He was, after all, the Korean and I was a fleeting passenger, getting just a glimpse of the culture. Even though now, when I look back at the beginning and compare, I can see the enormous amount that I have learned and realize there is no going back: I will always have a piece of Korea in my heart. Because of him.

Good bye Kimchi Man,

Oegukeen

43 responses to “It is over”

  1. Kari Avatar
    Kari

    This feels weird. I also broke up some days ago with my korean boyfriend in similar circumstances. So my support for both of you and i hope you two get your health back and get better emotionally too.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Oh, I’m really sorry. I can honestly say I know how you feel…..

      Thank you for your kind wishes.

  2. Pearchoco Avatar

    Oh dear Oegukeen…. you brought tears to my eyes… But you always react with maturity.
    I think everything in life happens for a reason, even unpleasant things. You loved and discovered korean culture.
    I’m very sad….
    Take care of your health, and i send you good vibes!

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      It is difficult being mature when what is happening is so emotional, so I am grateful that you see me that way.

      As much as it is difficult for me to see that right now, I am sure this experience has enriched me. Both by letting me feel such an intense love, and from opening my eyes to a whole new culture.

  3. Carrie K Avatar

    I’m so sorry it didn’t work out! But thank you both for all your insightful posts. Even though I wasn’t dating a Korean, I was living in Korea and your posts answered a lot of questions for me. Good luck, and thank you!

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Thank you. Your words mean a lot to me now. I am happy that we met through our blogs.

  4. hana1220 Avatar

    Reading the 1st line of this posts,I quickly stop and had to catch my breath. I just had a feeling what will be the next sentences. I’m a stranger to you but not in a moment I thought you will have this kind of post.Now I completely read this post and I’m affected by it. I’ll pray that you’ll find inner peace with you and your boyfriend’s decision. And I’ll pray that you will regain your health as well as his health.You both surely love each other that it’s better to end the relationship without ending up hating each other. Breaking up doesn’t mean it’s over. If you truly love each other, in the future you will still end up with each others arm.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      I never thought this would happen either. He had captured my heart in a way no other man had been able to.

      I wish for his health back, as well as mine, but I doubt that would change the status between us. Still, only the future can tell.

  5. Nic Avatar

    I’m really sorry to hear that. I really sympathise, I’ve had relationships break down mostly because of my own illness and it adds such a frustrating and sad element to the heartbreak. I really really wish your health improves and allows you to live the life you want to live.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Thank you. I think you can understand better than anyone how helpless it feels. But it was just a part of the problem. I’m not sure if that makes it better or worse.

  6. Kimingrancouva Avatar
    Kimingrancouva

    Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. Take care if yourself

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      I agree. Still hurts though. Despite it being mutual decision, all the what-ifs and could-have-beens….

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