Kimchi Man and Oegukeen are no more. We broke up.

I know many people are going to ask “What happened!?”

Nothing happened, really. Which I guess was the problem. Both of us got very ill, at different times and from different illnesses, but with the same results: our lives were put on hold.

And in such situation, separated for a year, half-way across the world, those things we shared in common began to fade, and those parts of our personalities that were incompatible became more apparent by the day.

We never fought much, I think we both respected each other too much for that. Maybe even loved too much at some point.

It was more of a quiet death of love.

Abandoned.

Despite that, I still believe he is a good man.

And more importantly for the readers of this blog, I still believe in everything I wrote here. Being different nationalities is no obstacle for love.  There was not a single thing about him being Korean that had anything to do with our breakup.

I assure you, what happened between us, you’ve never seen in no Korean movie nor drama.

People are unique.

If you are wondering what will happen with this blog, I honestly don’t know.

We certainly won’t be answering no more questions about relationships. I am alright with that, since all the common concerns with dating Koreans were answered anyway, and you can easily find them among the posts.

He was, after all, the Korean and I was a fleeting passenger, getting just a glimpse of the culture. Even though now, when I look back at the beginning and compare, I can see the enormous amount that I have learned and realize there is no going back: I will always have a piece of Korea in my heart. Because of him.

Good bye Kimchi Man,

Oegukeen

43 responses to “It is over”

  1. Brenda Avatar
    Brenda

    I’m sorry :( I shouldn’t have written anything, (the story) I guess, that time will do its work, and all I can say is that love can always be found again, good luck

  2. siyeon Avatar
    siyeon

    I am so sorry to hear about this, I have always looked to your blog for emotional support in inter-racial/ long distance relationship and admire your maturity in handling it. I am going through a break-up with a Korean guy myself right now and I must say I am finding it difficult to take it well since the hurt is still raw and those sweet memories still fresh.

    Just want to wish you all the best and do take care!

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      I wish the same for you. It is difficult staying mature but you will be more proud for sticking with it later.

      Take care and hopefully cheer up soon.

  3. H Avatar
    H

    I am sorry to hear about this. You helped me a lot when I was dating with a girl. Your answer helped people and improved their quality of life not only around Korea but also all around the world. I really appreciate what have you done in this blog as one of Korean guys. I really hope you will be healed and happy again.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      Your comment really touched my heart, even though I feel like I don’t deserve so much praise. Thank you so much.

      I wish you all the best as well.

  4. pinket Avatar
    pinket

    I am so sorry Oegukeen. I understand how You feel coz I fell in love with a guy abroad and things were going well till we realise we couldn’t be. I cried, almost hated online and everyone around me said online relationship is fake until I came across this site and read Your posts. I am so sorry. You r a very strong person. I believe You will come over it soon. If You are meant to be, You will re-unite. If not, Allah will provide a better person for You two.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      I see that you know how it feels. Thank you for your kind wishes.

  5. Meggie Avatar
    Meggie

    Dear Oegukeen, like so many others on this list I fell in love with your relationship. I too believe people can love across cultures and countries. Please know how much your honest insights helped so many of us look at and try to examine our own ideas and stereotypes. I think you are a brave soul and I believe you will find love again, even though at this time it is painful. All good things to you and Kimchee Man.

    1. oegukeen Avatar

      I also think there was something special about our relationship even though it was not built to last. But I guess that doesn’t mean that it wasn’t worth having.

      I’m really surprised now that you (and many other people in this thread) think our posts were so useful. It really warms my heart. Thank you.

  6. Sam Avatar
    Sam

    I still feel strong, but our situation is much more different than other LDR couples, i tried to find a couple like us, but there’s none.
    I’d like to share my story with u, but u’re not in a good mood, i guess.

    1.  Avatar
      Anonymous

      Please share ur love srory please:-)

    2. oegukeen Avatar

      Of course you can share your story.

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