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Just wondering if there will be topics related to dating Korean Girls. Instead of guys.
I’m not Korean, but am currently dating a Korean girl. I love the interaction with this Korean girl therefore would like to understand more Korean cultures from a “female” perspective.. thank you for the help Nunna.
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Honestly, not really. Even though we both firmly believe that men and women are far more similar than people give them credit, we have focused this blog on answering questions about relationships with Korean guys.
Since I’m the female, and non-Korean, and he is male and Korean, it is something we have experience with; and we also feel it gives our reader a better idea of what to expect, than if we mixed it all up.
However, you are more than welcome to ask a specific question here in the comments, and we will try to help.
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Hi,i just want to ask something..well ive meet a korean guy last year then we started to hang out together when he doesnt have a work or if he has a free time..on the 2nd day that we’ve met he told me that he likes me and if i want to stay with him then i answered him a smile..this korean guy is studying english in the morning then working in the afternoon,we talk everyday but not often just to say dont skip your meals,take care and etc..he also live here in the philippines but lil bit far from my location..thats why we talk to each other via kakao talk or text message everyday. My questions are:
1. When he said that i want to stay with you,what does it mean? Is it he wants me to stay with him coz he likes me or he wants to stay with me coz i made him happy or make him smile every time that were together..
2. What will i do?coz honestly saying i like this korean guy..although he already know that i like him also..and he never forget to send message everyday and he also apologize if sometimes his really busy in his work and he told me to believe and trust him..even though the situation is like that still theres alot of questions that pop up in my mind..huhuhu!
3. Is it possible that one day he will say or told that he loves me?coz every time that weve met and spent time together he always told me that he likes me..is it possible that he will love a filipina girl like me?although our location is lil bit far from each other..Thats it..thank you for helping me..god bless kamsahamnida!
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Hello,
1. Isn’t that the same thing? If someone makes you smile and feel happy how can you dislike them?
2. You should do whatever you want (just don’t hurt him ;) )
3. Yes, of course it is possible.
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Hello, I would like to explain my story with a Korean guy.
I’m Spanish and I’m studying in Japan, in my school I met a Korean guy.
He was the first to make the first move to talk to me, ever since we started dating always together with other friends.
Our relationship became closer and spend much time together, their eyes are very tender, invited me to lunch several times, we have gone shopping together, he make me jokes, invited me to his house to study, we have go to drink, and even one day we drunk together he let me sleep in his house.
Nothing happened between us, we have not held hands or kissed, but we have a very close and special relationship.
Often he call me just to know where I am or what I do and I feel that I am something special for him.One day call me very drunk at 5AM.But he has a girlfriend, from the first day I met him , he said me he have a girlfriend.She is a korean girl , and she is in Korea, and have been together for eight months.
He doesn’t like to talk much about her, when I ask always aboute his girl , he tell me “i dont miss her alote”, or “I’m good here”. he wants to live in Japan for ever but she is in Korea, but he doesn’t seem concerned about the distance, he don’t express love for her.When I want speak to him aboute his girlfriend, if the relationship are good, if he miss her, he don’t like speack aboute with me, only say “I’m good”.
But via facebook every day she writes to him “i love you” “i miss you” “you are all for me” “200 days together” and also he sometimes says nice things to her. Also he always has a picture of her in the KakaoTalk and a love nick in chat.One day I proposed my love to him, and he said “you are girl to me, my bestfriend, but I have a girlfriend now”
I don’t understand his heart, his feelings. If he has a girlfriend not well the relationship he have with me, call me often, dating, be together all the time , his jokes, his looks to me,this very very very clothes relationship we have now.
His girlfriend would be angry if she know it, right?
I don’t understand that relationship , what want he with me, I like him alote , Im’m in love, but I can’t forget it because he didn’t let me forget him, calls, messages, smiles.
Now he know he like me..but he continues to want to be with me always.But have girlfriend, this relationship is bad if you have a girl wait for you in Korea
I need your advice!I’m very sadSorry for my horrible english
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It is difficult to know what he privately thinks, and if his words match his thoughts. But his words were pretty clear, you are his best friend, she is his girlfriend.
I don’t know how much what he is saying about his feelings for his girlfriend is true and how much he feels uncomfortable talking about his girlfriend to another girl. I’m sorry you are in this difficult situation, it must be very difficult. Sadly, there is nothing in Korean culture that would explain his behavior.
We both wish you good luck.
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Hi,
Happy (belated) new year to you both! :)
I actually did a search in google wondering if there were any Muslim Korean men… and your post was the only real post that came up in regards to that.
I don’t believe the men from my background are unattractive, so that is not a reason why i am finding interest in men from other cultures ( i actually see people as people..), however, I have always been drawn to the far east and Korea is one of the countries my heart yearns to go to and I find myself attracted to the culture, people and country and I suppose I would like to find out what a relationship with a person from that culture would be like, but being a Muslim, I can’t have a fling or a temporary relationship..alas, I wish there was a Muslim Korean man to communicate with and see how it would go.
I have searched online and researched, sounds silly? but I think i’m just hopeful but a rather shy person, so I doubt I will find ‘the Korean” guy to find out if we are compatible and go from there…but I feel like I was just born in the wrong part of the world lol…but perhaps that’s just because I’ve fallen in love with a culture and part of world and I want to touch every part of it and embrace it.
Not much of a question? I don’t know, are there any Muslim Korean men out there! Why, oh why are you so hard to find. lol.
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Hello Hopeful,
Happy New Year to you too, from both of us.
I was never searching for a Korean guy. Actually, I was not searching for any guy. And yet I found my love in Korea. You never know what will happen; your love life might take an unexpected turn too.
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Hello~! Well I’m 16, Chinese/Viet born in America & a junior in highschool. Recently my korean guy friend who I haven’t seen/talked to in like months texted me and invited me to hang out with him. He’s like 3 mo. younger than me, a sophomore in highshool. So I was a little hesitant in hanging out with him since I haven’t seen him in so long. But in the end I went an met up with him.
He took me to dinner & offered to pay for me even though I have money. He even held the door open for me saying “ladies first~” aha.. Then I catch him staring at me several times and smilin like an idiot & when I look up at him & ask him “what?” He goes “nothing” but continues to smile. But like when we were in the restaurant he kept commenting on how I’ve changed soo much since the last time he saw me. But like in a good way.
So while we were eating dinner he comments on how he noticed we were wearing the same North Face Jacket. He also comments on how small my bites are. Then asks me if I’m only eating this away b/c of him (LOL. Yes.) but the. He goes “I like girls who eat a lot though so don’t worry about it.” Then a girl from his school found him at the restaurant we were eating at and w gets up and hugs her. And then he introduces me to her and she just kind of looks at me.. I felt awkward. But he didn’t like flirt with her or anything. Then when we left the restaurant he didn’t even say bye to her. Like I walked in front first, to leave and saw her. And he just sped up to match my pace.
There were 3 occasions where he tried holding my hand that night. It was cold outside so he goes “My hands are soo warm~!” Then he takes my hand and comments on how cold they are after dinner. Then in my car, while we were waiting and just sitting in there, he takes me hand again and goes “are your hands still cold?” And like warms them up for me aha…
Err then he serenaded part of a Big Bang song for me b/c he knows I like kpop and Korean related things aha. He also says he thinks it’s cool that someone non-Korean likes Korean-related things & is trying to speak Korean.
Oo speaking of learning korean, as I was driving he’d say some things in Korean and ask me if I knew what it meant. I knew what they meant of course. So he’s like what does ‘pogo shi puh?’ mean in Korean & I go ‘I miss you’ then after a few of those. He hesitates, his voice gets quiet & he’s like “do you know what saranghae means?’ && I could definitely see his one coming but I sort of nonchalantly replied before looking at home and said “I love you” haha..
Err, then there was this time during that night where he suggested we go visit my friends an say hi~ && I told him it wouldn’t be a good idea because they’re all hanging out with their boyfriends. && he goes “all of them?” And I’m like “yeah…” Then he asks me if I have one & I told him no and it got all quiet and awkward for a few minutes.
Oo. We both go to different highshool a but like live in the same city and stuff (like literally five minutes away from each other.) He comments on how he had wanted to go to my school’s winter formal. Then I told him I don’t think I’m going this year and he goes “Why? I’ll go with you.” o ___ o but then before I could answer that he asks about my formal last year. He asks “who did you go with last year?” Then quickly rephrases and goes “did you go with your friends?” And i told him “I almost went with this one guy but he had a futsol tournament that day.” And he’s like “ah, a soccer player. I use to play soccer.”
Ah, sometime during our “hangout” his friends call and ask him to hang out. Then he tells them he has to call them back. I asked him if he has to go and he’s all “Nah, I want to hang out with you.” And then I told him “you can go hang out with your friends if you want to.” And he says, ” but I don’t want to leave you.” And I’m like “I don’t want to keep you from your friends, we can always hang out some other time~” he got all quiet for a few minutes before finally agreeing.
Then we waited outside his house for 20 minutes and sat in my car. Why? B/c he didn’t want to go inside and wanted to talk to me. He randomly commented on how pretty I was which I think is a lie. So I’m like “don’t lie to me~” and he’s like you’re really pretty though. While we were sitting in there he asks me if I’m tired & I’m like a little. And he’s like “let’s sleep.” Jokingly I think. So I close my eyes and then he flicks my face. Haha WTF? o __ o then he says something about how it stings a lot when you flick a certain place and tries it on me and it actually hurts. ; – ; but like then he apologizes and says I can flick him back, but instead I like pushed his face away haha. I also told him to teach me some Korean and he goes “okay, I’ll be your tutor!” Lol. And he teaches me how to say, ” I want to go to the bathroom.” I forgot how to say it once so he jokes about what a bad student I am. XD but teaches it to me again. I forgot how to say bathroom but I remember how to say ‘ I want to go.’ I spoke random things in Korean a lot last night and he comments on how I sound like a native Korean speaker and asks how I know so much. And I told him simply, “the Internet.” And he just laughs.
My parents called to check on me a few ones and I spoke in my native language which is Cantonese and after I was done he comments “that’s soo cool. You spud so fluent. Did you move to the U.S..?” And I told him no, I was born here. i And speak my native language a lot at home. His native Korean sounds really attractive. idk if thats weird but i loke it a lot. His mom or something called him while we were “hanging out” so yeh. Also before the night ended he kept telling me to text him because I never do anymore. (I don’t b/c I had always initiated cnvos back then.) anyways, i honestly told him how I text like a guy. Meaning I don’t really like texting haha. But then I told him e was an exception and that I’d text him. And he smiled and perked up a bit and reminded to text him before he went home.
Err, I’m probably missing a few things from that night. But I think I’ve covered most of the important parts. I couldn’t help but wonder if he does these things when he “hangs out” with othe girls or if it’s just with me. I honestly don’t know. But none of my guy friends act this way around me soo, I’m very confused. I don’t think this guy thinks of me as “just a friend.” But the again I could be gettin my hopes up.
That’s my question (sort of)
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We read your comment carefully, but as you said yourself, there’s not really a question there. :)
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Haha hmm. i guess so huh?
So was he just being nice or could there be something there? > – <
Thank you for reading it ^^
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You’re welcome.
I think there could be something there. :)
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Are Korean Men attracted to African American Women?
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