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Hello,
I love your blog! I have been reading it for a while now, and finally decided I would like to ask you a question. I don’t know if you can help me, but it couldn’t hurt to ask! Okay, here goes. I met a Korean man on a pen pal site a few months ago, and we talk via skype a couple times a week. We have video chatted before, but we mostly just chat. We talk about our day, our interests, aspirations, etc. He is 6 years older than me, but doesn’t make me feel immature or inferior. He is always very sweet and kind to me. To be honest, I have developed quite the crush on him! I don’t know if he feels the same way at all, but even if he doesn’t I want to continue to be friends. However, I would like to talk more with him. I am wondering if it would be a good or a bad idea to mention to him that I would like to talk more. I was thinking maybe I could ask him if we could talk on kakao or something? But, I am afraid that he would just say yes to be nice and I might be bugging him, or think that I am crazy to ask. It seems that he likes talking to me now and makes an effort to talk to me when we are both online, but I can’t be sure. And, also I suppose I have another question. Do you think I should tell him I have a crush on him soon, wait longer, or just never mention it?
Thank you in advance, I appreciate your time and wisdom!-
Hello,
Thank you! We are so happy you like what we do here :D
You should ask him to talk more. :) It is a compliment to tell him you wish to talk more and if it’s not convenient for him, as a grown man, he should be able to find a way to evade it without being rude.
I really have no idea when you should tell him. I was bursting to tell Kimchi Man so I didn’t wait long and it worked out great for both of us, but you know every couple is different.
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Thank you for your advice! I will try and work up the courage to ask him :)
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How can i say in korean “i need you in my life”? >~<
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제 삶에 당신이 필요합니다.(formal) I need you in my life
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jalgeneysutseyyo. i want to know wht does this mean in english.
thank u-
잘 지내셨어요? means How have you been? / Have you been well?
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Dear Loving Korean,
I’ve been studying in Korea for a while and I’ve had a pen pal for almost seven months. He is getting out of the army this week and we are finally going to meet in person. I was wondering if it would be an ok idea to get him a small gift, to congratulate him on finishing his service and to commemorate our first meeting. Since he likes drawing and painting I was thinking of getting a set of drawing pens (also a nod to the fact we have been pen pals, I make bad puns haha). I think it would be fine, but a second opinion from someone more experienced is always welcome.
Cheers,
Kat-
Sorry, it seems like it’s too late for us to answer this question, but we hope you went through with it cause it’s a great idea.
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Hello! So, I’ve always loved the Asian culture, especially Korean. One of my best friends is Korean (girl) and I have a lot of girl Korean friends, but whenever I talk to Korean guys they seem intimidated and quiet around me, but I just want to get to know them better. I have 2 Korean guy friends; all the girls like me and say I’m so gorgeous and nice, and I find Korean guys attractive but I don’t think they are interested in me. It kind of makes me sad :( I’m Half Iraqi, and half Scottish/German, so my skin isn’t as fair as Asian girls, and I have long brown hair, and hazel eyes. I have a small physique, and am really friendly. I just wonder what could be the reason as to why they may be uninterested in me? Are Korean boys shy? I just love their culture and find a lot of them to be attractive.
Thank you! :)-
Is that you in your display picture? You are beautiful indeed ^^ 예쁜이다
Well, i’m not korean, but i’m asian. Personally, i think they’re shy, but they have their pride, kkkkkkk, but my opinion could be as a result of too many kdramas, ^^ lol
anyway… you could make an initiated action condition that make them more comfy to make an approach on you, make them feel as if they’re making the first move, but actually they’re not, cause the truth is you have provided the ‘tools’ for that action. Hope you get it, :D it’s easier if you have mutual hobbies or activities. But first you need to know how they really feel about you, find some informations from your girl korean friends.
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Hello,
There is no definition of what Korean guys like in a girl. Nor is there a definition if Korean guys are shy or not. Some are, some are not. I agree that shy people may seem uninterested but in my experience they do their best to send out signals, they just tend to be more subtle.
So, worry less how you genetically look and concentrate more on being in tune with what they are thinking and feeling.
I hope it helps and you are very welcome.
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You’re gorgeous. It could be you are too gorgeous to be their girl friend.
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hello…i’m malaysian girl and muslim.i want to know how a korean men marry a malaysian and muslim girl in korea?do they have to fill a form or getting marriage at the Malaysian embassy? can you explain how Islamic marriages performed in seoul?
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We wrote Can I find Korean Muslim to marry? but I don’t know anyone who married Muslim. Sorry
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