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539 responses to “Ask us”
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Hi. I want to ask about the attitudes of Korean when they are missing someone, be it a girl or boy. Do they really miss someone? They had been to our country for 4 weeks.
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Are you seriously asking us if Koreans are capable of feeling human emotions? ^^
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ㅋㅋㅋㅋ. ^^
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Hi, I personally meet liked the idea of treating korean men like they are all exactly the same but I must admit that your page is much more considerate and helpful. I know that after reading my message most of you will say that what I am doing is wrong and that there is no chance for the relationship in hoping for but please at least try to understand. Soo.. I’m 17 and even though I did date before this is the firs time when I feel really attached to someone..I know I love him.. The only problem is that he is 27 years old. This fact is killing me because I don’t know how enough about korean culture to know what are people views in dating with such a big age difference. I know that you probably think that I’m young stupid and what I feel is not love but I believe that age is not that important. Believe or not my dad was 21 years older than my mum when they started dating ( but i heatd he was very good looking) and my older brother was born when my mum was 21..,my parents never got married but they were together in love until my dad died. So..please don’t tell me I should forget..I just want to know if in korean culture it is a big trouble to date someone 10 years older? And thank you in advance! …also if it would be possible if you answer my question could you delete it after about 2 or 3 days because I really don’t want him to accidentally find out that I was considering our break up if our relationship will bring him only trouble. And since my story is very specific I just don’t want to make him feel unsafe about anything if he realises I asked it. Love you for ever if you answer because he doesn’t want to talk about this.
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Koreans don’t care much about such age difference. I had a boyfriend who was 9.5 years older than me and it was never an issue.
HOWEVER, you are underage and also at a very vulnerable age. If you haven’t already, please tell your parents about this relationship. If this guy is decent, then he will be very patient with you, until you get a bit older.
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Hi, thank you for your kind answer, you don’t know how happy I feel right now!! And also for your advice.. As I said my dad died when I was little and my mum was against our relationship until she actually met him and realised that he is more childish than I am.. This is totally safe relationship but anyway thank you so much, your reply really made me feel lass concerned about our future! :)
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I was 18 when I started dating a guy who was 9,5 years older. And one of the reasons we broke it off was because he wasn’t mature enough for me. True story :)
I really think you have nothing to worry about regarding Korean culture. This might explain a bit more
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I met a really great guy through korean cupid and we are talking daily on the phone. The thing is I am really clueless about international calls and its costing me a fortune but I’m too embarassed to tell him. Any advice? I am in uk. We text on kakao but he doesn’t have skype, just his mobile phone.
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Please read our post how to text and call to Korea for free.
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May i ask where are you come from… i know it’s europe… UK?
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I don’t want our readers to think being from a different European country will influence their experience with Koreans. But I am very flattered you think I could be from the UK. My English is not that good :D
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well…then what part of europe? please tell me :)
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Hello! Let me share my story to you and i hope you could give me some advice here.
I’m from Philippines, 20 years of age. Just last year october I meet this korean guy (30yrs old) in my gig at the hotel wherein he also check in. I am a singer in that hotel, btw. As days past by he and his friend become our regular guest in that hotel. Then we know each other and get close as time pass by. Until we decided to get into relationship. He meet my close friends as well as he go to our house and meet my family. In that way, i am more fall inlove with him because i know that he was sincere in me. Then we made promises to each other that we will marry someday (btw he’s a bachelor)and be happy for the rest of our lives. Last year december he go back to korea since his work here is done, btw he is an engineer. But he promise me that he will come again on february this year. When he was in korea i told him to create fb since he had none. Then he truly create facebook and that is our easy way of communicating. After that we always keep on updating each other, saying exchange of saranghaeyo, etc. But one day just this last two days he stop replying to my private msg in fb. I am very confuse of what is going on. I try to call him but no answer at all. I continue sending him PM in fb yet no reply. All i know his last reply to me is he is sick and need to rest. And that’s it. No reply at all. I am very hurt, confuse, worried, and a lot more negative feelings right now. Did he still love me?
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Moreover, Why can’t he just reply to my private messages in fb.? Why can’t he just reply to me that he is okay and nothing to worry? Why can’t he just answer the phone when i call him to kakao talk? Huhuhuhuhu.. I am very confuse right now. I do.not know what to do.. I am worry because it been 3days already no communication.. ㅠ ㅠ i am afraid what happened to him or what will happen to us. Truly, i miss him very very very much. In fact, i am really waiting and preparing for him to come back here in Philippines. I.just really love him very much. Advice me on this situation pleaaasssee?? Huhuhu..
Very much thanks!!! More power . Kamsahamnida!
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I’m sorry you are in this difficult situation and I understand why you want to find out what happened. It would drive me crazy if the same thing happened to me, so I also understand your concerns. But you know there is no way for me to know what happened to this one Korean man, just because my boyfriend is also Korean.
If you are asking me is this some thing Korean men are taught to do: Act sick to escape a girl they don’t want to date anymore; of course they are not. Maybe he is seriously sick, maybe he is inconsiderate, or maybe he’s planning to break up with you. I’m sorry, but I really can’t know.
I hope your situation resolves quickly and everything turns out well. Good luck Mae.
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Thanks for the advice..
Anyways, until now no reply and no answering of my calls . I am really having a hard time in this situation..Should i keep waiting and continue contacting him? Or should i better stop communicating? :'( i am really suffering.. Huhu.. Please help. T.T
One more thing.. If you are in my situation, what will you do?
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Another thing, am I too insane or stupid in keeping my contact to him? even if he did not have any replies to me at all?
What puzzles me is we do not have any arguments before he stop communicating with me.. So why he should do stop? I did not do something wrong to him? and what I really know about his attitude is that he is really a serious guy and in fact he is a professional.. So i have this feeling he will not betray me but i know its possible though.. I don’t know what to do.. I am really getting crazy.. >.<
Seriously, I love this guy sincerely yet sometimes it makes me think of giving him up though it is really very very difficult for me to do because I already promise to myself that he will be the man that I will spend the rest of my life..
I am really in love to him but I'm afraid that someday I will be tired of this and let go of him.. but on the other hand if i let go of him but he will back again to me, maybe i will suffer for the rest of my life.. Huhuhu.. T__T help!!!! :'(what is the best thing to do??? T_____T (crying)
Sorry for so many questions.. Thanks for the patience..
Waiting for your advice.. T_T
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I need some advice.
I met this korean guy online not to long ago, like 15 days ago. I messaged him first and from then on we’ve been messaging each other back and forth. A day or two after our first encounter he called me “honey”. And I was like waaah~ *mouth hanging open* D:
So now he calls me “honey”. I find it pretty cheesey but I don’t mind:). He constantly asks me to skype with him and I want to but I lost my webcam. He always says he wants to see me and that he thinks I’m cute. Recently, around two days ago, I think he asked me to be his girlfriend? We were messaging each other and he asked me how many boyfriends have I ever had. I told him that I never dated before so I have zero boyfriends. Then he said that he wants to be my first boyfriend. Being the idiot that I am, I wasn’t sure about what he was trying to say. So I asked my best friend what does he mean by wanting to be my first boyfriend? And she told me that he’s probably trying to ask me. When I finally digested what he was trying to say, on the inside I was freaking out! But I played it cool because I was surrounded by my friends. Then I asked him was he really asking me out? And he said yes…really! I kind of turned him down. I said that I would like to say yes, but he’s so far away. He said he also worries about the distance. Then he told me that he’ll wait for me. And I was like uuuuh~ D: and I told him that if he ever finds someone he likes (that’s not me) then just go for it because we’ll never know what will happen in the future. Then he said he doesn’t want to think about that and he’ll wait for me but he’s scared that I will have a boyfriend. Soooo~ I’m kind of confused right now @_@. I asked my friends about what should I do? One of then told me that I should go for it, because you’ll never know what will happen in the future. Then I asked my best friend if she would think I’m crazy if I said yes. She wouldn’t think I’m crazy. She said that she’s just worried that he’ll get a girlfriend in korea. She told me if I like him then I should just go for it. But the thing is I’m not sure that I like him. I’m not allowing myself to completely fall for him because I am unsure and we’ve only known each other for 15 days. Also because he lives in korea. And if I did say yes, that would make my first relationship ever! A long distance relationship! I am also unsure if he actually likes me and is sincere about asking me to be his girlfriend because he hasn’t actually told me that he likes me. This is all new to me and I do not know what to do! And BTW I’m 16 and he’s also 16. Which makes me worry even more. And this one time I dreamt that we met each other and he was an old man! He still looked like himself just the old man version. So I really hope you can give me some advice. (:-
Hello,
I don’t believe you are not allowing yourself to completely fall for him. I think you didn’t fall for him because, after chatting with a guy for 15 days, there’s not much to fall for. I understand you are 16 and all of this feels crazy, but just take it easy. Don’t take it so seriously. It’s silly to worry a guy on the other side of the world who you are not even sure you have feelings for might get a girlfriend some day.
I started my first long distance relationship when I was 18, it lasted for a long time, and I never found another boyfriend closer. It depends more on his personality and his feelings for you than how old he is and how far away.
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Loving Korean 
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