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My English is so bad and I don’t know how to speak korean but I still want to have a korean friend even a korean boyfriend because korean men are so polite and good look. i love tall man because tall man seems very protective. Is tall man interested in a short girl like me? keke. I am an Asian but not a flawless Asian like korean not dark as well. So what’s the best and fast way to find a korean friend online ? thank you :)
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How height you are doesn’t matter. Just get yourself to join Korean community.
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Hey there! I just want to tell you a bit about my story with my Korean guy. About a year and a half ago, I unexpectedly met a seemingly nice Korean guy through Taekwondo. Now of course this happens to many people, but one thing I noticed off the bat was the HUGE smile that came across his face when our eyes met the first time, and that didn’t happen between him and anyone else that night. Soon after our first meeting each other, we became Facebook friends. From then, it was at times non-stop back and forth chatting. We soon became close friends, but when we would see one another, our face to face conversations could get quite awkward. I remember one time how strange it was when he gave me a high five and held my hand for a few seconds and just looked me in the eye and smiled. I guess that led me to think that there could be something, but I wasn’t sure because it’s not so common between people in America. Now we kept close contact and I shared feelings which I was never really blunt about, but after that we somewhat drifted apart. At first it bothered me, and then I just went my own way. I talked to other guys and just tried to avoid him. After a while, I tried to get him to meet up with me, but it didn’t work out. Now let’s fast forward to the present. It’s been eight months since we last got to see each other, and we’re going to see each other in a week. This may seem strange, but I had a dream about him, and it just seemed that I needed to re-establish our friendship. This time I’m not letting go, and I pray that he doesn’t either. I have prayed and cried for this to happen, and I believe that it’s about to all work out. I say all this to ask you this question. How am I to approach him and let him know I want to be more than just friends?
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“Hello. Wanna go out for a cup of coffee?”
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I have read quite a bit online about how to tell if a Korean guy likes you, and while they have all been informative, I haven’t found anything quite like my situation and would love to gain some insight.
A couple years ago my husband and I travelled to Seoul and met some really great people. One in particular I have become very close to. Lets call him Jihan. (not his real name) We kept in touch through Facebook, then emails, and now chat almost daily.
Last year we went back to Seoul for a visit and spent more time with Jihan. It was then that I felt something was different between us. I couldn’t quite place it, but I felt like when he looked at me, he was looking right into my soul. When we embraced and parted for the last time, we both cried.
Since then it has been very intense, at least to me. Our conversations have become quite personal and sometimes emotional. I have supported Jihan in any way I can through some very tough times for him. Through chat he has told me he loves me, though it seemed very casual and when I asked him about it he was quite nonchalant, saying he thought of me as his sister. I told him that I loved him too and thought of him as my brother, while explaining that my love for him cannot be defined and so brother is the closest I can say. All of this has culminated in Jihan actually coming to my country to visit and stay in our house for some time.
During his stay he has done some things that has peaked my curiosity. I want to state right now that no matter Jihan’s feelings, nothing will change my marriage status. In fact my husband is aware of everything, including my admitted attraction to Jihan. I’m not sure if Jihan senses this.
Some of the things he’s done include giving me shoulder and neck massages without warning, lots of physical contact, like sitting or walking very close to me so that our arms are always touching, and even kissing me on the top of my head. He will be so attentive and kind one minute, then distant and almost shy or scared the next. He’s been giving me some aegyo as well, but if I happen to put my arm around him or pat him on the shoulder he tenses up.
There’s more but I think those were the things that really made me wonder the most. I guess my question is this: are these normal behaviors between a Korean brother and sister or is there perhaps more to it?
I don’t have any brothers so I don’t know what kind of relationship is normal. And yes, if I was not already married to a wonderful man I would definitely explore this to the fullest. But I’m not, and I’m content to love and be loved by Jihan in whatever way works best for us without crossing any boundaries. This is something we discussed before his visit.
So, any thoughts on his behavior? Is this normal? Acceptable? Or do we need to have another talk?
Thank you for your time in reading this. I really appreciate it.
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You two are not brother and sister. I agree that two nonrelated people can feel like sibling, in fact, our feelings have nothing to do with shared DNA. They have to do with our upbringing. Basically, two people that are brought up as siblings grow up to not feel attraction to each other.
But that’s not what happened in your case. You even openly admit your attraction to Jihan, so I think that should clearly answer your question if you two are behaving like brother and sister.
You didn’t mention if you have children or not. For me that’s the biggest game changer.
If you do have children I think you should pull yourself away from Jihan and forget about him.
If you don’t have children, then feel free to have fun and don’t worry if others think it’s normal and acceptable.
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how can you get the chance to meet Korean guy? i mean dating? i would like to have an experience with guy from Korean but i don’t know how. i’m just love korean culture and maybe experience it. can you give me some advice so i can have a korean boyfriend like you? gommawoyo :)
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We met online. Maybe you can try too?
This is the story how we meet and how to meet Korean.
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Hi ^^ I started study Korean .. please can you write me some webs where is korean free ? thank you ^^
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talktomeinkorean.com is a pretty good one ^^ good luck with studying ^^
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We wrote
How to learn Korean
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How to learn Hangul. Maybe it helps.Ms. Marina is right, talktomeinkorean is very good.
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Hi! I found this blog today and I find absolutely awesome that you answer all the questions, so thank you! :)
I’m a 17 y/o spanish girl and a few days ago I met this korean guy on an online site.
He is 28, and I know what you are thinking, what a grown up man for a little kid like me;). But to be honest, I look like I’m 25 so he is fine with it.
He may not be your ideal handsome type of guy.. but I think his smile is amazing and genuine, and he’s really funny, always making me laugh.
He’s been living in Australia I dont know for how long, but probably not much cos he still has problems with his english.
I can tell that he says what’s on his mind most of the time, but just the second time we talked (through Skype) he started saying he liked me, and he asked me if I liked him as well. I said yes because actually, I really do. But in the same conversation he said he loved me. What the heck?? We just talked 2 times!! maybe the meaning of the word “love” is different for him or something.. I dont know.
Then he asked me what I thought about him. And I answered with this super girly response saying I really liked his smile and I found him cute when he was thinking (everything’s true).
Then I asked him the same question, and the love flew out through the window when he said that my eyes were big, my nose was high and my forehead was wide, and that was what he likes on a girl.So here’s the question: he is just playing right? because I cant believe him when he said he loved me the second time we talked.. and I literally told him ” I dont believe you” but he kept saying it was true. And also he said that I probably love him too because he could see it in my eyes or something.. ok, I may have dreamy eyes with him but still…
And im worried about that super cold answer he gave me about my looks.. should I think he is superficial?
im kind of stressed because I really like him.. and if he happens to be just playing with me, and stops talking to me someday because he’s tired of me, I would feel really depressed.If someone could help me I’d be really grateful. Thanks a lot :)
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Hello, i’m also Korea guy in Sydney, i would love to meet Spanish girls as well but it’s very difficult as not many here in Sydney.
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Seriously?
Gosh. Hispanic and Spanish girls like many different types of guys. I, for example (S. American descent), LOVE Oriental guys, preferably Korean. I’m young, so of course you can say its a bit shallow, but i do. ^^
Is there none in Australia? IDK- maybe you should look more?
Don’t take my advice though… I don’t know much. Good luck! (:
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Thank you! Sometimes life gets in the way, but we are really determined to answer every question we get :)
Usually I have no problem with big age difference in couples (maybe because my parents have it and I also had it in previous relationship), but you are underage and he seems suspiciously pushy (I love you for Koreans is same as for Westerners).
Please take your time, and be very careful. And don’t get depressed! You are young and having fun. If he’s just a player there will be plenty of guys you will meet later who will not be.
It can be a good experience, just take care of yourself and don’t do anything you might regret.
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Thank you so much for your answer! :)
we’ve been talking for a month already and things are going pretty well. We’ve gotten to a point where we can be honest with eachother so I asked him why he said he loved me the second time we talked, and he said he really wanted to keep in touch with me so he thought of saying that. I already told him it wasn’t a good idea. :P
Since we are reaaally far from each other none of us is thinking about getting pretty serious about this, so we are just enjoying the moment. :)Again, thanks for answering. Just wanted to let you know how things are.
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Thank you, we are always interested to hear the updates :) Good luck with everything
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