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[Q&A] Do Korean men like black women?

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[Q&A] Do Korean men like black women?

Anonymous asked:

Are Korean Men attracted to African American Women?

First of all, as much as it is becoming a cliché, I think we can all agree each Korean man is unique and has unique taste in dating partners.

Also, what does it even mean to be attracted to African American women? Does it mean being attracted to EVERY African American woman? Does it mean being attracted to African American women MORE than women of other races? Or does it mean even being CAPABLE of being attracted to an African American woman? And what about black women who are not American?

Korean men black womenI know some may not be satisfied with my seeming lack of answer. They will move back to searching with Google. Those pessimistic will stop when they reach an answer that claims Korean men are racist and say: “Aha, I knew it!” Those desperate for hope will find a success story and be content with knowing it can happen to them too.

You can search for the answer all you want, but the only truth is that there is no answer. And by that I don’t mean I don’t know the answer, I mean there really is none.

But I have a question for you now: Are tall European women attracted to shorter Asian men?

If Kimchi Man asked himself that, he would probably be discouraged and he wouldn’t waste his time with me.

Another question: Are men attracted to women who have larger feet than them?

Once again, if I let that stop me, I wouldn’t have experienced the magic of love.

Love can happen between any two people, and it has happened between Korean men and African American women; even though I’m sure there are some racist people in Korea who wouldn’t date a person of another race (in my experience there are too many racist people in every country).

As for the race issue, it also matters how you meet the guy. Kimchi Man and I first connected on an intellectual level: we discussed for a long time our opinions about taxation systems, education, military service, and shared our love for games and TV shows. Experiencing someone in such a way makes it much more likely to be able to look beyond the surface than if you pick a guy up in a bar or on the street.

I think there is nothing wrong with choosing a man because he is Korean, but if you go around looking for a dating prospect based on who he was born to be, instead of who he grew up to be, you can’t blame anyone but yourself if you end up only meeting men who do the same.

-Oegukeen

 

 

 

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51 responses to “[Q&A] Do Korean men like black women?”

  1. Avatar
    Anonymous

    If you have lived in Korea you will know that almost 90% of Koreans think alike and are conformists. Given that, you can be sure that the general opinion on black women will be the opinion that 90% of men will have. The general opinion is not favorable at all, like seriously, black women are probably considered the least attractive women in the world from an Asian perspective.

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    1. oegukeen Avatar
      oegukeen

      I would be really curious to find out which scientific method you used to get that 90% figure

      Reply
  2. Avatar
    Anonymous

    Oh yeah! I made all first move taking your hand n rubbing it,also staring n smiling up a storm @ handsome!:-) :-) :-) .i love you and i thank jesus for you always,mary

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  3. Elle Avatar
    Elle

    Thats the best answer Ive ever read on this subject. There has been no less than 3 korean guys who have shown me affection when I was in Seoul, and Im not even a “cover girl”. I find korean guys from Korea to be more open minded than koreans from western countries, partly because they are curious about the unknown, they just have no idea how to approach us. They are stressing just as much as we do. Also keep in mind, korean men must deal with the “not as masculine as other men” stereotype even in Asia (although less extreme than in the West). Im stating this because they also tend to think foreign women dont like them. So many are discouraged, hence approaching us less. They are afraid of rejection from foreign women. Keep that in mind.You may have to have to tell them you find them attractive.

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    1. oegukeen Avatar
      oegukeen

      Wow! Thank you, that’s a big compliment.

      Yeah, in my case I made all the first moves because my boyfriend is very timid and shy. I don’t regret it for a second :)

      Reply
  4. fangirldc Avatar
    fangirldc

    I am African American and recently met a sweet Korean guy while on vacation in Seoul; and although I am back in the states, we still keep in touch. In my experience, Koreans in America only date white and or Asian women and the Koreans in Korea are “open” to all races as they see them more as “foreigners” as opposed to Black/White American, Viet, etc. (Not all, some will just stick to Koreans only). A lot of Korean men are attracted to black women, but like any other man, may be just out to sample your foreign goodies so watch out for those. ^^ Our bodies are more say, “voluptuous” than the average Korean girl so many Korean men are interested in knowing you sexually. Lot’s of stories out on the internet about it (foreign girl in general). To counter that though, just don’t give them “any.” If he is the least bit interested otherwise, he will court you properly (I experienced this personally).

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    1. oegukeen Avatar
      oegukeen

      Yeah, it is quite possible that Koreans outside of Korea feel more threatened and as such more protective of their “Koreanness”.

      I also agree with your aproach as to seeing if the guy is serious. But then again, I can see the case in which a woman only wants to sample the goods of Korean man as well ^^

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      1. fangirldc Avatar
        fangirldc

        I agree that it’s an issue of protecting their “Koreanness” if they stick to only Koreans, but if they only date white and no other race (speaking strictly of those Koreans in America) then there are likely some elements of racism there (not knocking anyone’s perceived preferences). And, I have seen instances firsthand where a Korean man was interested in a non-white/non-Asian woman and was discouraged by his Asian/white friends (usually women) from going that route (via taunting). So, peer pressure, I think more than anything in America, prevents some K men (or maybe Asian men in general) from pursuing races other than white or Asian, although not in all cases of course. And, unfortunately, many of them do not have the wherewithal to buck the system. And I admit, it can be hard. Believe it or not, I get taunted for liking Korean men by most dudes here in the US (including black, white, Hispanic and Pakistani), and it really sucks. The women just think I’m weird and “obsessed” with Korean culture because I study the language and watch K-dramas.

        Yes, I’m sure there are many women out there looking for a sample of Korean manliness, however, I am not a one stand kind of girl, and since I really liked this guy (though it was tempting), did not want him to see me as a slut or whore (although we did enjoy a kiss at noraebang, haha). Men still think that way, although they will say they don’t just to get into your pants. I’m not sure he would still be in contact with me to this day if I had slept with him, especially since we are thousands of miles apart.

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  5. Asia Avatar
    Asia

    I actually really agree with this. Lol I felt personally attacked because what you said resonated with me and I have in fact done the things you said we shouldn’t XD I’ve heard many black women say that it just depends on the guy and of course they can be attracted to black women. I think I have a limited view because my opinion has been based off of my interactions with Korean men and it seems like they only date white and Asian women in general. I don’t like to make generalized statements but that’s really all I have to work with. Thank you for sharing your insight. It really does help. I guess I need to change the way I think ^_^

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    1. oegukeen Avatar
      oegukeen

      It’s really difficult not to make generalized statements. Generalized statements are what kept us alive when we all lived on the planes of Africa. But every human culture and society on Earth has come a long way since then and we should rise up to embrace the intercultural world. Luckily, we live at the time when it’s not just about surviving any more :)

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  6. becomingnina Avatar
    becomingnina

    So well said! I am happy you didn’t give an answer, because who we fall in love with is not defined by race, although we may be attracted to a certain race or color of skin!^^ I hope every person can learn to follow their heart and find their own answer to love. It takes so much courage! Thanks for sharing such a nice post and such a nice message for black girls~
    (I love what you said about Google! ㅋㅋ So true!)

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    1. oegukeen Avatar
      oegukeen

      Thanks!

      Honestly, even after you spend just a few hours with someone it’s impossible to notice someone’s race. First time I met my boyfriend I was mesmerized by his skin, and eye shape, and his hair, but 2 days later he just looked like my boyfriend. I don’t know if I’m explaining this well, but I just guess I connect his features with him as a person, not with his race.

      That’s just one more reason why I’m 100% sure race doesn’t matter in a relationship, even if you start out with having a preference for certain look.

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      1. westerngirleasternboy Avatar
        westerngirleasternboy

        No, you explained well– explained perfectly. And, I know what you mean. When I first met my ex, after a few hours he was no longer “Korean” (even though he barely spoke English). He was just MINE– my friend, my lover, my namja. I was too busy loving him to and seeing him as he was, which was so much more than his race.

        I think it is almost a shame to only see someone for their race, because we are all so much more than that!^^

        <3

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