Having Korean boyfriend has given me a much better insight into Korean culture and customs. I know how to tell Korean age, I know why Korean chopsticks are made of metal, I know there is no such thing as “Sea of Japan”, I know how to address Koreans of different age, I know to handle everything with both hands…
What I don’t know is how to read Korean men’s minds (a pity). I am a bit closer to it with Kimchi Man, but not much.
All the Korean men I have met have been very different and diverse. So has their attitude towards relationships. Some are going to tell you they love you even before they know the color of your eyes, others will not be vocal about their feelings even when they are ready to die for you.
For everyone who is wondering what is the secret to understanding a Korean man’s heart: There is none.
You don’t need to worry that they are sending some secret Korean signal which you are not picking up. Culture has a hard time influencing something as personal and fundamental as love.
That being said, I completely understand what it is like falling in love and having no idea if object of your adoration feels the same way. I was there. We all want to know for sure if we are happily in love or rushing towards heartbreak. That’s why I am going to do my best to help the two women who asked the questions bellow. I just want to make sure everyone understands I would be no more or less qualified to answer those questions even if I had never met a Korean guy in my life.
And if you know a Korean guy, a Korean guy you like, and you don’t know, if this Korean guy you like, likes you back – forget that he’s Korean.
That might just be the thing you need to truly see what he is trying to tell you.
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I am in love with a Korean guy, we go to the same university and we met when we took the same class about a year ago. I am 19 and he is 21.
I always feel and act very shy, when I am around a person I really like. When there is no him, I am very funny, communicative and totally normal.
I am not Korean (still Asian), and I don’t speak Korean.
The problem is that…He is not a shy one at all, at least he seems to be so. Sometimes when we meet at some university events, we talk, and he seems to like me as a girl, but we never text/chat after that. I mean, we talk only when we see each other. That’s why talking to him is a very rare occasion, because we meet rarely.
The first time I saw him this year after a long period of time, was another university event, he sent an invitation to me on Facebook, which I don’t think was something special or anything, but I decided to go there still. On the day when he sent the invitation, our eyes met at a cafe, when I was walking past him, but I was with my girl friend and he was with a girl friend as well, so I thought: ”Alright, I haven’t seen you for ages, why say Hi then, you probably don’t even remember me”. He didn’t wave hi to me either. So yeah, then BOOM I got that invitation, and I decided to go. Cause I thought that accidental meeting had something to do with the invitation.
When I just got there, he came up first saying ”Ooh, it’s been a long time” and hugged me, which was a bit weird, because we are not that close friends at all, till that time, we probably had a talk for a couple of times, not more. I mean, I’m not that kind of friend of his, who he could miss. We were never close at all. But I think at the moment when he hugged me, I clearly understood that I liked him a lot. I knew I liked him before, but I thought it was not serious.
I met him the second time about a couple days ago at a university event as well. There were very few people there, but he took the time to come up to me and talk and I tried to act as normal and funny as I could, but I was burning inside and shaking and all that… in the end he said that he’d like to attend an event of mine (I’m the president of a student group) so I promised to send him an invitation.
Everything seems to be okay, but I don’t understand, why he is so passive, if he likes me. Does it mean, that he doesn’t like me as a girl, but just being friendly? He never sends me messages or anything like that… I am hesitating to message him, cause I’m afraid I would never get a reply…and I think that a guy must make the first moves. And if he doesn’t, then it means he’s not interested, in my opinion. I would understand, if he was a shy one, but… as i said before he’s not. He’s very friendly and communication is not a problem for him.
And the second problem is that I don’t know for sure if he has a girlfriend or not. However, the Facebook status says Single otherwise, the last thing I would want to do is ruin a relationship…
Also, I thought about the problem, that I am not Korean, and I thought about the possibility, that he is not interested in me as a girl, because I’m not Korean.
Also, I think it’s worth mentioning that he’s kind of Americanized Korean. He has been living in the USA for about 5 years I believe. But he almost always hangs out with Korean friends.
I don’t think that the guy has to make the first move. Why would he? Maybe he is shy when it comes to asking girls out, maybe he is passive, maybe he sees you only as a friend, maybe he already has a girlfriend… You could go all day long guessing “maybes” if you don’t do something about it.
Even if he sees you just as a friend, making the first move might make him see you in a different light.
It’s never easy being rejected but Facebook and text messaging have certainly made it a lot easier than it used to be. You don’t need to pour your heart out to him, just ask him: “Do you want to go out for a coffee/movie/walk”. If he says yes, there is a very good chance he likes you as a girl :)
I have no idea if he has a girlfriend or if he is a national chauvinist. Since he is human, both are possible. Koreans I know have no problem dating someone who is not Korean, and in my case not even Asian. Many questions we got on this site are from Asian non-Korean women who are dating a Korean man, so obviously not all Koreans have a problem with it.
And why wouldn’t you want to ruin his relationship? You are 19, and 21! It’s not like he is married with children and you are tearing apart a family. If you asking him out is enough to ruin his relationship then that relationship deserves to be ruined. I was in a relationship when I met Kimchi Man and I am much happier now. On the other hand, no matter who come to my doorstep now, no one can take me away from Kimchi Man.
You should know that if I didn’t make the first move, Kimchi Man would never dare do it himself (maybe not never but my guess is it would take him 10 years or so ^^). And he was very interested in me. If you keep thinking a girl shouldn’t make the first move, another one will come along who thinks differently and snatch this guy right under your nose.
I’m half Chinese half Filipino girl but my family and I moved to Phil for good when I was still young.. I am now 22 years old, and I met this Korean guy last year almost 9 months ago.. well, I just really feel so alone about this so I hope you can help me out.. here’s my story..
9 months ago July 2011 to be exact I applied in a Korean school in our city, I was accepted and first week in school I had only 2 students and one of the two was the guy I fell in love with. At that time I was 21 and he’s 25 I think. At first I dont really feel anything for him, just the teacher-student relationship. I also noticed he was this shy type of guy, first 2 weeks with him he barely talked. But after about 4 weeks we just got close and I dunno how it happened. But after that he started teasing me everytime we see each other in the hallway, he’s calling me vampire and i’m calling him werewolf. A lot of teasing and all. And then one time during class he asked me who I like then I told him I like Lee Seung Gi [korean actor] then he repeated that question again and I answered him same answer I gave him before then after than he start acting like his heart is in pain [physically] at first I dunno what does that action means but my friend told me he might be hurt that it wasnt him that I like and so he started acting that in a joke way so it wont be obvious.. then he also asked if I do have a boyfriend that time and I said no and he told me that I must get a boyfriend, and I also mentioned to him that I have a curfew around 7pm and he told me that my boyfriend might want to be with me more than my curfew time.. what does that mean??
and sometimes he’ll notice what I’m wearing like last time when I was wearing a coat and I just passed by him he really asked me isnt your coat thick? dont u feel hot? and one time when I had a new student and he’s kinda good looking and almost same age with me, he started asking questions like, So are you happy that the good looking new student is in your class?… who’s better me or him? – those kind of questions and I dunno why he’s asking me like that..
and one of my friend in that school was also his tutor.. so whenever he’ll have class with that friend of mine he would usually asked her to call me and let me go inside their room while they’re having class and it happened many times, i was just there listening to their conversation and whenever I decided to move out the room he would usually stop me and say Vampire where are you going? just stay here.
or sometimes when we meet each other in the hallway he would blocked my way and wont let me pass and he’d tell me Touch me first before I let you pass.. and you know this kind of actions he’s showing me made me fell for him I think.. fell harder that I dont even know how to get out of this situation..
and during his birthday I gave him a not Happy Birthday Werewolf! and he took a picture of it and upload it in his fb..
he also challenged me one time to play snake and ladder with him and he told me if he wins I wont give him assignments for 1 week and if i win he wont complain even if I give him assignments everyday.. its the first time that I have ever played that game and it was with him, so I treasure it a lot (:
what do you think his actions mean?? does it mean something? does he like me?
ah, a day after his birthday he informed all his tutors that he will be absent for the whole day because last night he got drunk and hangover the next morning.. so I was expecting that he’ll also be absent in my class but I was surprised when he entered my room that day.. so I asked him Why are u here? I thought you’d be absent the whole day and he said I was thinking that if I wont come here you’ll be alone here. I was so touched when he told me that but ofcourse I act as if its nothing… and then 1 week after that he was removed in my class and so I started to feel like I was left hanging, a lot of questions are running into my head.. my friends were telling me that he must be afraid that he’d fall for me and so on…
what I did was I tried to talk to him again, initiate the conversation first but I can feel this change like it’s not the way it was back before.. we dont talk that much anymore unlike before when he was still in my class.. we passed by each other in the hallway without even saying hi.. I asked him he doesnt talked to me anymore, he said He was shy. I tried everything to gain back the friendship we once had the closeness we once had… but I think I falied or maybe I didnt try harder? I was asking myself What should I do? but later on I just stopped trying to talk to him just trying to accept that maybe it wasnt meant to be.. September that year we stopped talking, offcially. February this year he went back to korea without talking to me. He had my number. This march a friend of mine who is also his friend told me that he has a kakaotalk so why not try to add him. So I added him and again I have to initiate the talking.. we talked and he told me he misses me but overjoyed about his message i wasnt able to reply to him right away and then he sent me a message again saying he was just kidding with the ‘haha’ … what does that mean???! I hate him but still I believe he meant it when he told me he misses me.. what do u think? Now, I decided to just stop talking to him stop initiating just to talk to him cause its always me who texts first maybe he really doesnt care at all so why would I waste my time with him…
please help me what to do is my decision right?
I badly need your opinion guys.. I hope you can help me out with this..
sorry I think I wrote too long, its just that if i skipped a few lines u might not be able to get my situation.. kinda a long story (:
he’s still single until now and he told me before that he once had a girlfriend 4 years ago…
hoping to get a reply from you soon ^^ thanks ~
I employed help from Kimchi Man on this one. He says guy obviously liked you before but something changed. You can’t know what changed and to obsess about it would just be wasting your time. Since he is in Korea and your interactions are just one-way, you made a good decision.
Your friends are trying to protect your feelings when they say he is just afraid he will fall in love with you. Unless there is some specific obstacle you know – like policy in your school that students and teachers can’t be in a relationship (although now that he’s not in school that argument became moot) – why would he be afraid of liking you?
Stick to your decision and don’t waste your time on this Korean guy. Maybe he will come around and contact you, but chances are very slim.
Leave your question in the comments below if you still don’t know if Korean guy likes you. :)
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I met a korean guy 3 months ago through office work. Then we started to talk to each other through chat sometimes call. He never reject to help me for anything. He is kind of bold but sometimes shy. He showed me some signal that he likes me but never said directly. So i am also confuse.Is he really likes me or just trying to behave good behaviour?? What should I do? Is he like me or not.. . I kinda likes whatever he does for me..
I met a korean guy on a language app, because after I’ve finished my degree I’d like to eventually move to korea. He texts me as soon as he wake up and even at work and when he comes home. Hell send photos and said he won’t say he loves me over text but recently he’s been more talkative. And he even sang a love song his favourite song to me when I asked to hear him speak in korean. And he always finishes messages but saying my name then saying ” I like you” …
hi i’m 13 and i saw this cute korean guy who’s also in my year, and later i found out that he was in the same class as my two other friends and also in the other german class and maths competition group. so my class and his calss went on an excursion together and we went to a museum, when we were taking the tour around, i caught him staring at me a few times, and when i saw him laughing with his friends with his adorable eye smile i immediately melt to the ground in a puddle of rainbow melted icecream. after that, i found his instagram and we followed each other but he doesnt have any posts. i messaged him introducing myself but it ended really quickly. i know that my parents wont allow me to date…what should i do??
I think that he is interested in you, and you should wait if is there any more signs of him crushing on you then you should give it a try but first you have to stay open to him and you should really build your memories first because if he really is interested in you he should have liked to spend time with you and you guys should go out sometime if it’s possible, however to be honest, i think maybe you shouldn’t really date at this age maybe next year but it’s up to you. Good Luck!
Hey! I need some advice, soo, I’m 14, I live in the States. During my school year, there are students from Korea coming to my school. I met this really cute boy he’s 15 but his grade is the same as me, like almost I’m the only girl in the entire class he would talk to besides teacher and his friends-boys of course. During P.E, it was an outdoor court it was sunny, he’s taller than me, and when I’m covering my head to avoid the sun he came by and his back faced the sun and he faced me, his hand he covers my head and he smiled in like a really cute way. We had this project whereas everyone planned to come to my house , he was there too, when we were done, everybody left but he resisted and we just had dinner and talked and it was a great night afterwards he gave me a really cute bracelet before he left. There was that one time where I told my bestfriend that if she could share the water with me, and after like around 17 minutes, that guy came back with a water bottle, he bought it for me, like i was so shy and i just couldnt say anything. At the end of today day around 3-4pm, he asked my if I wanted to eat dinner with him at 8, I was like so…like…zz…I can’t really tell, I don’t know if he really is interested in me and like if he wanted that dinner as a date…please tell me what do I do? should I ask him or whatever.
I think you should try to talk it out and ask,but try to wait after your dinner maybe he will say something. :) I hope it turn out well ♡ i would love to hear what happen to you and ypur classmate..
I have a Korean bf for 4years already and we talked it out before because he was also being nice to me. You can message me on twitter @mikicheo :)
I meet a korean many times .I think it is ridiculous to say that I’m obsessive to have a boyfriend of korean .Because i love kpop so much but not comparing on them to my idols I was amazed their personality because they are sweet and caring…well i was have experience to have temporary korean boyfriend .were just 1 month i guess and I was loving of him very much but i was annoyed…. because i realized korean texted you now but tomorrow it’s not .i understand that he is busy but saying hello or how are you is not difficult to say right ? I was speaking up a long conversation but i feel i was dumb each day waiting of him so I was blocked him and feel sorry about the pain I’ve really cause .It’s not his mistake either both of us because we do everything to save a relationship we had but I feel a love spark was totally gone .Now I’ve meet another korean guy his name was jaeyoon I think I was comfortable to talk him ,he have time compare to other guy I’ve meet even he is in military right now and we are close friend but something on my heart saying a different …..I think I was fall for him but I was confused to enter again a relationship because i was afraid that pain will return again …that i will be hopeless again and again . How did I know if a korean guy likes me also How did I know if a korean guy see me as a friend only ?