[Q&A] Does Korean guy from my school want to be more than friends?

Anonymous asked:

I met this Korean guy in my school and he’s few years younger than me. I like him already before we started seeing each other. But unfortunately I was the one who first asked him to eat lunch with me. Now we still seeing each other though not that often, but what worries me is that I don’t have any idea about our status.

I already told him that I like him but he just told me that we are friends. That made a bigger confusion on my part because he didn’t said that he doesn’t like me or confirm that we are “only just” friends.

Since I’m not a Korean I feel that there is no chance for him to like me but my friends keep on telling me that there’s a possibility that he also like me since he is always willing to see/meet me. But I still have this doubt that he is just being friendly and he doesn’t have any special feelings towards me. I don’t have any idea if he also think that we are having a date or he just consider it as a simple hang out with a friend.

Do you think he is just being friendly? And I don’t know also how to ask him regarding the things that bothers me about our status. How will I confront him? When he go out with me does that mean something?

How nice that this Korean guy wants to be your friend. Unfortunately, it seems to us that when a guy says you are friends, he does mean just friends. You can look at his age for a clue. It doesn’t matter that a guy is a few years younger than you, but it does matter how old he is. Older guys are usually clearer about what they really feel as well as how to express it.

You mentioned you think there is no chance for him to like you since you are not Korean. If it is your impression that Korean guys only date Korean girls, then you should look around this site and you will see it is full of non-Korean women who are in a relationship with Korean men. Myself included. If it is your impression that he personally is only interested in Korean girls then he might not be the best boyfriend material for you.

Even though it is understandable that you want to get rid of uncertainty, patience may be the best strategy here. I am all for being direct, but you already told him openly how you feel and it didn’t resolve your confusion, so if you tried to be blunt again there is a good chance it would have the same outcome. Give it a bit more time, either for him to resolve his feelings or for you to figure him out.

– Oegukeen

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Hi
I meet a Korean guy this year.
I start liking him but he doesn’t know anything. He is in my high school. Idk if we have the same age or he is a year older than me. Every time I’m trying to talk to him he is trying to avoid me or feel nervous while we’re talking and he take time to answer me. We always bumped into each other but when he see me, sometimes he change direction. Two times I was going home and I took the same the direction that he always take to going home I know he was taking that direction so I always wait him if he will change direction after he saw me he directly change direction ( but I didn’t make it obvious that I was waiting for him ). When I’m with his friends and his friends trying to call him to approach them he pretend to not heard them and run away. When we bumped into each other we sometimes make quick eye contact. These recent days I try to avoid him so when we see each other I pretend to not see him and return back to look at him when he past, my friends told me that he always look at me back when I’m turn and smile.
Every time I saw him I start acting like a crazy person same for him ( it’s what my friends told me ). This Korean guy is very shy so one day he ask to one of my friends questions like: what is my name, Am I korean if no how do I know how to speak Korean, my age, my nationality, my birthday,where am I born and why I’m in France.
I just want to know if he likes me?
What should I do to have a serious conversation with him because we never had serious conversation?
Why is he avoiding me?
What should I do to approach him with we’re both shy?

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Sofia says:

March 21, 2018 at 6:08 pm

Hi
I meet a Korean guy this year.
I start liking him but he doesn’t know anything. He is in my high school. Idk if we have the same age or he is a year older than me. Every time I’m trying to talk to him he is trying to avoid me or feel nervous while we’re talking and he take time to answer me. We always bumped into each other but when he see me, sometimes he change direction. Two times I was going home and I took the same the direction that he always take to going home I know he was taking that direction so I always wait him if he will change direction after he saw me he directly change direction ( but I didn’t make it obvious that I was waiting for him ). When I’m with his friends and his friends trying to call him to approach them he pretend to not heard them and run away. When we bumped into each other we sometimes make quick eye contact. These recent days I try to avoid him so when we see each other I pretend to not see him and return back to look at him when he past, my friends told me that he always look at me back when I’m turn and smile.
Every time I saw him I start acting like a crazy person same for him ( it’s what my friends told me ). This Korean guy is very shy so one day he ask to one of my friends questions like: what is my name, Am I korean if no how do I know how to speak Korean, my age, my nationality, my birthday,where am I born and why I’m in France.
I just want to know if he likes me?
What should I do to have a serious conversation with him because we never had serious conversation?
Why is he avoiding me?
What should I do to approach him with we’re both shy?