[Q&A] Do Korean men like black women?

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oegukeen

January 22, 2013

Anonymous asked:

Are Korean Men attracted to African American Women?

First of all, as much as it is becoming a cliché, I think we can all agree each Korean man is unique and has unique taste in dating partners.

Also, what does it even mean to be attracted to African American women? Does it mean being attracted to EVERY African American woman? Does it mean being attracted to African American women MORE than women of other races? Or does it mean even being CAPABLE of being attracted to an African American woman? And what about black women who are not American?

Korean men black women I know some may not be satisfied with my seeming lack of answer. They will move back to searching with Google. Those pessimistic will stop when they reach an answer that claims Korean men are racist and say: “Aha, I knew it!” Those desperate for hope will find a success story and be content with knowing it can happen to them too.

You can search for the answer all you want, but the only truth is that there is no answer. And by that I don’t mean I don’t know the answer, I mean there really is none.

But I have a question for you now: Are tall European women attracted to shorter Asian men?

If Kimchi Man asked himself that, he would probably be discouraged and he wouldn’t waste his time with me.

Another question: Are men attracted to women who have larger feet than them?

Once again, if I let that stop me, I wouldn’t have experienced the magic of love.

Love can happen between any two people, and it has happened between Korean men and African American women; even though I’m sure there are some racist people in Korea who wouldn’t date a person of another race (in my experience there are too many racist people in every country).

As for the race issue, it also matters how you meet the guy. Kimchi Man and I first connected on an intellectual level: we discussed for a long time our opinions about taxation systems, education, military service, and shared our love for games and TV shows. Experiencing someone in such a way makes it much more likely to be able to look beyond the surface than if you pick a guy up in a bar or on the street.

I think there is nothing wrong with choosing a man because he is Korean, but if you go around looking for a dating prospect based on who he was born to be, instead of who he grew up to be, you can’t blame anyone but yourself if you end up only meeting men who do the same.

-Oegukeen

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51 responses to “[Q&A] Do Korean men like black women?”

Kimdivvy_berrie

March 21, 2013

I want to know:
I’ve seen answers for Europeans,African Americans,and others.what about if you’re pure black?would a Korean date a pure black?your answers are really helpful indeed,oegukeen.muchos love!

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1. oegukeen
  
  March 27, 2013
  
  I’m not sure what you mean by pure black, but anyway, answer is always the same: Of course there are people in South Korea who would date someone of a certain race.
  
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2. Kozmotis
  
  August 29, 2014
  
  Um….”pure black”? There is no such thing, love. We are all one and the same with diverse personalities. It shouldn’t matter your ethnic, but how attractive you, as a person in likeness, are.
  
  This is a personal example but long ago, there was this boy in my bio class. I didn’t know him and didn’t make an effort to talk to him. Well anyway, we were paired together with one other person for a group project. That’s when I started to interact with him. I grew fond of him and liked to bully him with slay comments because I liked his reaction. He took no offense because he knew I was only kidding with him. Apparently, he developed a crush on me but I didn’t know until his friend told him. When asked why, he said it was the way I acted personality wise. It was that of a playful child and how I’m always smiling and being silly.
  
  Point is he wasn’t looking at my skin or appearance but my personality.
  
  To ask such a question would be showing your self-consciousness. Your origin shouldn’t matter.
  
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  1. Anonymous
    
    September 5, 2014
    
    Thank you for this. Don’t mind me. was going to use the term”African descent”. thanks again.
    
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realandtruecoco

February 8, 2013

Hi. I was wondering…How can I explain to my Korean BF to not be so affectionate in public without hurting his feelings? I recently started seeing this Korean guy, and he’s very sweet and such. The only problem is hes VERY affectionate in PUBLIC. Not like holding hands, but kissing my cheek, cuddling me, kissing me, etc. I personally would rather show affection in private, and in my backround its considered rude to show affection like that. (Cause no one would really like to see a couple acting like that next to them or in the same room…) What I mean is its uncomfortable to be talking to friends and having him constantly hug me and kiss me out of the blue infront of everyone. I appreciate the affection, but it gets uncomfortable with everyone staring at you. He’s sensitive and I want to find a way to tell him without hurting his feelings. Help? Thank you!!

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1. oegukeen
  
  February 9, 2013
  
  I find your problem quite unusual as public displays of affection are a big no-no in Korea. Is he really Korean?
  
  I myself don’t know how to criticize someone without hurting their feelings. I guess all you can do is attempt to explain to him that it has nothing to do with him personally but that it’s just your preference not to do it where other people can see.
  
  I also think you should concentrate on how it makes you feel, not how you think it makes people around you feel. You don’t really know how other people feel, and it makes it sound like you think what he is doing is wrong. It’s not wrong, just different that what you’ve been taught is polite.
  
  On the other hand, if he is interrupting you with kisses while you are talking to your friends, that is just inconsiderate, and not a personal preference.
  
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  1. Elle
    
    July 7, 2013
    
    I think it is slowly changing because the younger generation is “rebelling” against that. There were enough couples displaying affection for me to notice, although not the majority of couples. Thats probably why he does this so naturally. The younger generation is less rigid. That said, I love your advice.
    
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seoulinme

February 6, 2013

우와! that was seriously the perfect answer :)

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1. oegukeen
  
  February 9, 2013
  
  Thank you, you put a big smile on my face :)
  
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2. Kimdivvy_berrie
  
  March 21, 2013
  
  Hi.need Korean friends.can you help?be really glad with your help.thanks!
  
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  1. oegukeen
    
    March 27, 2013
    
    You might find our posts How to meet Koreans and Can I make friends in Korea useful.
    
    Reply
  2. Michael
    
    July 25, 2017
    
    Hi there,
    New friend my name is
    Michael and I am a korean-american and it looks like you want a korean-american.
    Michael
    
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chrissantosra

January 25, 2013

Very well said. ^^

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1. oegukeen
  
  January 26, 2013
  
  Thank you!
  
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Nic

January 25, 2013

Completely agree with what you said about being pessimistic or optimistic. It’s easy for some people to just make big general statements like “Korean guys only like girls like this.” But of course every guy has different tastes and people often change their tastes depending on who they meet, they aren’t set in stone.

I know a Korean guy who has an African American girlfriend. In reality it really comes down to the individual’s personality.

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1. oegukeen
  
  January 26, 2013
  
  You said that nicely. Do you think meeting more than just a few Koreans makes people more or less inclined to make generalized statements like that?
  
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hana1220

January 23, 2013

I totally agree!

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1. oegukeen
  
  January 25, 2013
  
  I’m glad!
  
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2. Anonymous
  
  July 7, 2013
  
  i am korean men.love black women
  
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  1. Snoopygirl01
    
    December 14, 2013
    
    I am glad to know there is at least one Korean man who loves black woman.
    
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    1. Anonymous
      
      May 17, 2016
      
      As she said, it’s not important. The imporant thing is his/her personality ot can we be connected with or I feel calm and fun when I’m being around the person .
      
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