Loving Korean

58 responses to “[Q&A] How does South Korean guy court girls?”

1. 

   Wyen

   December 1, 2014

   I’m Malaysian Chinese girl and I known a korean guy thru couch surfing and we met at the cafe last April. Basically we just chatting like normal and one thing I dun really like is that he really smoked a lot, like one time in very half hour. But still we still keep in touch thru kakao talk.
   And then last month I went to Korea and spent 2nights at his place. He treated me very well and I found out that he bought a bed mattress warmer recently because I found the box it was bought 1week before I came as I mentioned before I scared of cold lol. He slept on the floor and I slept on the bed which made me felt guilty :( then in the car when he fetched me to the city, we talked a lot. He mentioned many korean girls he met none of them qualified to be his wife. So I asked him which nationality he prefers, he said maybe Malaysian, Singaporean, Vietnamese etc lol. He mentioned several times he wants to stay in foreign countries so he keep learning English and Chinese. It’s called TOEIC?
   Then this time when I met him I realized that he doesn’t smoke anymore so i asked him have u quit smoking he said yes and since when? He said “after meeting you”. He started smoking at age 11 is it easy for him to stop smoking just because I advised him to? What does that means? Are all korean guys treat the girls or he just being a good host? Can none enlighten me?

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2. 

   kimchikimchi

   October 10, 2014

   I knew a kimchi guy since January on a penpal site and we met for a day during my trip to Seoul in July. Well, just act like normal friends and actually I do have some feeling towards him, and I have sent him a postcard and after a month sent another letter which contained our photos taken during my trip. He was so thankful and asked me to give him my address, cuz he wanna send me a letter too. (well, not reaching main point.. hahaha sorry).
   Due to some reasons, I need to study abroad to UK and need to stay for a year to complete my final year. He knew about that, and he told me that he cancelled the plan that he wanted to visit to Japan and save money to visit me in the UK, I asked him to visit me when I am back to country, so that it will cost cheaper and UK is really expensive (for both of us). But seemed like he insist and he asked me to search somewhere to let him to stay. And he planned to stay for 3 months in the UK. He even took some airport officer tests and hope that to stay in my country after he has passed the test and got the job in my country.
   After I came to UK, the frequency that I phoned or talk on phone is more than the times I talk with my parents (surprisingly…hahaha). I cant sure how he feel about me, and he will just kept praising me that I am cute smart etc etc, and he told me that he has no gf for almost 2 years. Yesterday he indirectly hint me that he was sad cause most of his friends are having a girlfriend. And the conversation was quite awkward as I don’t know what response should I give, was wondering should I confess. After that, I can’t bear with it, and confess to him that I like him more than friends.
   Well, he said he felt the same and that’s the reason he wanna pay me a visit in the uk. After that he called me and we chat… after some sweet talk, he said he misses me. Then conversation ended.

   Well, today he seemed cold to me. I am not sure what happened, is he worrying something or what? Because of the time zone, his part time job and sometimes language barrier (he is not good in English), our phone conversation is a bit slow, but of course I enjoy talk to him. I am not sure whether is the right time to ask all these questions because I scared will ruin everything. Hmm…

   Ah, actually I am not sure the point of writing this, but I am quite afraid to lose him. =/

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3. 

   Anonymous

   July 29, 2014

   I have one quick question that I hope I could get an answer….
   I had known this Korean guy for over a year through my best friend; however, we didn’t talk to each other until three months ago. A year ago, my best friend told me that I shouldn’t look forward to do anything with him because he was on and off with his girlfriend at that time (even though all I said to my best friend was that he was cute). I didn’t know what to say so I let it go, just another silly crush feeling. Six months ago, we started chatting occasionally. I invited him to some of my events but he couldn’t show up; however, he always explained why he couldn’t come. I let it go because I thought it was just a friend thing.
   After our final exam at the university we studied together, he started texting me out of the blue so we had been talking since then. We talked almost every single day, mostly about school, summer activities and so on. We decided to go to the movie once and that was only two of us. Honestly, it was awkward because we didn’t really talk much.
   He told me once that he didn’t like cupcakes; however, when I gave him my sweet goodie, he always ate it despite the fact that the didn’t really like sweet things.
   Anyway, I and my friends went out to karaoke several times and every single time I asked him to hang out, he always showed up. It was the last minute to be honest. There were some instances that I asked him to come to chill with me at some cafe places, and he always came. He drove all the way from his house to hang out with me for few mins. Anyway, my point is that he will make some time to see me if I ask and if I am alone. His explanation was always that he came to visit me or me and my friends because he missed us all. I was a bit disappointed because I was hoping he said he missed me or something but I guess I expected too much.
   I am always the one who initiate first. I texted him first, I asked him to hang out, I was always the one who waited for his text and be so happy about it.
   My question is that:
   Should I say something to him? Should I let him know about my feelings or just wait for him to make the move?
   The thing is that he once told me that he would not say anything to the girl he likes simply because he afraid of the rejection (who wouldn’t be).
   What should I do?
   Thank you for reading

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4. 

   Anonymous

   June 16, 2014

   I know this korean guy online. We chatted everyday for about a week and we finally met. On our 1st date, he was attentive and we behave closely. On the 2nd date, he tried to hold my hands and said he like me. On the 3rd date, we express liking for each other, held hands and even kissed. But the very next day after the 3rd date, he didn’t really reply to my messages and called me at night. He said he didn’t think about me after we went home and at work the next day. He does not want to hurt my feeling and so to remain as friends. For the next few days I tried to text him but his reply was very hostile. After more than a week later, i text him to ask how he is. I was expecting some hostile replies but we chatted for half a day. At one point, he even asked if i want to go travel with him. My reply was “why me?” He said “don’t know.” He ended the chat with “talk tomorrow. good night.” So the next day, i text him but he is back to his hostile mode again. I am seriously confused. I want to let go as much as i want to hold on. I thought he felt sincere during our first few dates. But after that he said he needed a time to think. And I am still struggling with what to do with this guy.. Any advice?

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5. 

   Anonymous

   September 30, 2013

   Hi there! Do you remember me? By the way I wrote here 5 months ago. I was the one who talked about a guy whom I was waiting on. I did what you told me to send him some messages once in a while. I really had a lot of mixed feelings about what I did. I felt happy and hurt at the same time. All this time, I knew he was reading all my messages even before I wrote to you. Last August, he reactivated all of his accounts but still has an inactive profile status on his kakao. I just started to send him a kakao message last Chuseok days and I was happy that he read all the messages I sent him. Even when I had just sent it, it was immediately read. But as the days went buy, my last message was not read yet. What confused me the most was that he unfriended me on Facebook. I didn’t send him anything there though. After that, I bravely sent him a private message to let him know that I was removed and so. I said that I was feeling painful, etc. I knew he also read my message immediately because of the “seen” feature. Even when I was typing all my messages, the seen feature kept on appearing. After I said I’m sorry and I will stop, I got blocked. I don’t know what to think, I don’t want to rely on virtual messages because I used to feel that warmth and kind treatment he gave me. I don’t want to think that he is mad either. But if I try to think positively, will it matter? Will I lose? Will I wait for him? I know that taking the university test especially “retaking” it gives him so much pressure. But I’m also afraid that maybe he decided to actually get rid of me. Before, he told me that he he was stressful enough without me and that I should not bother him. He said that I always hurt him with the things I said and that I always thought about things by myself and not consider his. Those words were so hurtful but still we got over that, made peace to each other and continued talking. Please help me. I want to forget him but not really. I don’t want to give up. :(

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   1. 

      oegukeen

      November 1, 2013

      He blocked you on all the social networks… it’s really obvious what you should think. You can’t give up because there’s nothing to give up on.

      Just concentrate on someone else who will share the way you feel.

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      1. 

         Anonymous

         November 3, 2013

         Hi, thank you. I don’t know but it’s just I think that I know the kind of person he is. I can feel him and everything that we’ve promised to each other before. This is not the first time he was being mean. He is really honest and mean and he is not that type who just doesn’t confront me for anything. He usually wouldn’t want to talk to me and he could do that for a long time. But in the end, I had understood the kind of guy he was. I’m going to give it my one last shot. I’m going to call him. I want to see how this would really end and to prove that this kind of relationship can really work. I don’t know. Just… please wish me luck. :)

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         1. 

            oegukeen

            November 3, 2013

            Just don’t forget that it’s possible for a person to be honest without being mean

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            1. 

               Anonymous

               November 4, 2013

               Yes. Thank you. I still want believe in him. It’s not being stupid or something. But having been connected with each other for almost 3 years was really something for the two of us. We talked about almost everything and even our future plans. Maybe it’s not about how long you met each other. Or, maybe he changed. But I don’t really care now. I think it’s the feeling that matters and to know when you’re eventually letting it all go. Holding on to good memories is really hard, but you don’t give up on the person you love. :) I’ll update you on what will happen. I’ve already thought of the worst scenario. I think the most important here or in any kind of relationship is that you are strong and you learn after all. ::)))

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   suzy

   September 1, 2013

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