Loving Korean

One of our readers is wondering do Korean guys only like Korean girls, and do they, after dating other women, always go back to them. Here is the question and our answer:

Anonymous asked:

Hi! I am an Asian-American high-schooler, and I’m a bit confused right now with a crush and a relationship. I had a Korean boyfriend of two years and was mistreated by him because I lied a small white lie and he took it to heart. He would be cold to me and be most bi-polar around me. One day, he’ll be who he was (charming, open and friendly) and the next he’ll be really harsh. We broke up two days ago but are still going through some complications. Well, I stopped hanging out with him last week and met an absolutely amazing Korean guy through a close friend, who came from Korea 4 years ago. After talking to him for a while, I started to feel attracted, but his friend tells me he prefers Korean girls. The third time we were around each other, I was talking to a friend and when I looked over, he looked up and we caught eye contact for several seconds, and a smile came onto his face halfway through, which got me curious. My close friend says he MAY be interested but that he is still a Korean and all. The Korean guy in question did tell me that most Korean males tend to go back to Korean females in the end, which broke my hope a little.

I do have hope that he may become more interested in me, but I feel so awkward around him! On Facebook, we talk for hours but when we see each other, it’s awkward. We talk about so many things, and he told me that I wasn’t like other girls and am very thoughtful and kind. He prefers Korean girls but says that they are very dramatic and expecting of their boyfriends a few moments later. I feel like I’m beginning to be attracted to him and I don’t understand how I fell so fast. He seems too ideal, smart, cute and extremely shy;. He knows my situation with my ex (who I loved dearly) and thinks, like everyone else does, that it isn’t a good relationship to be in. Unlike my ex, he doesn’t mind that I love Korean culture and even teaches me Korean at lunch breaks. He comforts me and makes sincere comments when we have more serious discussions, such as demanding girlfriends and how I think it’s very ridiculous how many Korean girls demand expensive gifts. He’s the polar opposite of my ex and seems like such an awesome guy. I can’t stop thinking about him, and I don’t understand at all. Do you think that even if he prefers Korean girls, he will still be able to see me in a different light?

He told me he likes his best girl-friend, but she isn’t interested, so that gave me a little hope. I invited him to a movie tomorrow, and somehow, I feel like he’s disinterested at one moment and interested the next. My mom is driving a few of us, and when I offered him a ride since he didn’t have one, he quickly refused. ._. I don’t understand at all. He’s so sweet with me and I’m positive that he’s a very nice, sincere guy. Do you think he might have a small push of feeling at me?

(Editing note: We cut out the chat between Anonymous and her Korean guy for brevity. If you are interested, you can find it in ASK US 2012 archived comments.)

Korean guy is still a guy and if he can be attracted to a Korean woman he can be attracted to any woman. On the other hand, I can not think of any nation that gets in a relationship more with other nationalities than its own. It is understandable, since people within same nation share language, culture and are simply around each other more.

That does not mean that people don’t date and marry outside their nationality. Some are more open to it, some not at all. Which category your guy falls into you will have to find out on your own, it’s not enough to know he is Korean.

Since I am in a serious relationship with a Korean man and he did not end up with a Korean woman, how could I possibly say that Korean men don’t date foreign women seriously? Of course I think it is possible for him to see you, as you put it: in a different light, and which I take means: as a possible relationship material.

Since he spends so much time letting you know of the faults of your other dating prospects (your ex-boyfriend) and you are doing your best to let him know of the faults of his other dating prospects (Korean girls) I would say you both seem quite eager on getting the other one to see you in that light.

– Oegukeen

Readers, what are your experiences? Do Korean guys always end up back with Korean girls?

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